I read this http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1168648/Why-DO-babies-turn-brilliant-women-slummy-mummies.html
Which basically suggests that many women let themselves go after having a baby.
I intensely dislike the article and many of the responses.
How do you feel?

Sounds like it was written by some high flyer that as left it to late to start a family and is just having a good :rant:

Nope I looked like I had been dragged through a hedge backwards before I had kids too.

that reads like a woman who has a very shallow husband, who she suspects of playing away, but is trying to justify to herself why this couldn't possibly be

*shrugs*

oh my god"!! why the hell are we expected to fit into a stereo type of what a perfect morther, life, family, size, weight, shape, opinion/s, views, religion should be?

as i see it the world isnt uniformed is it? everything is diferant in its own unique way every person every item EVERYTHING.

im annoyed that just because my idea of parenting is differant from anothers or what i think a perfect size or weight is unacceptable to another i dont ram my views and ideas down peoples throats i think we should all be allowed to express our selves and live our lives and everything else how we see fit and how we feel comfy i will not change myself or my veiws because people do not like or agree with how i do things or say things or the things i belive in.


we should all learnt to just be HAPPY! and accepting of each other and respect each other.

The 'writer' (antagonist!) suggests that we should pretty much conform to her standards IMO and we're not allowed to prioritise for ourselves.
OOoohhh I'm so cross I could make good use of a pointy stick!

Some of us have more interesting things do indulge in than 'haute couture', nor do we have the money, time, inclination, social climbing requirements... I could go on. My kids are important, otherwise why bother having them.
To some of us the absorbtion of a nappy is crucial when you're sick to the back teeth of washing the bedding every single morning. APologies for checking in with the other experts (parents) whilst stepping on your immaculate Laboutins dahlling!

would that pointy stick be used to hillwalk off some of your "flabby bum (even though [you] can afford gym membership)" :hihi:

That would be an awfully nice idea compared to my ideals for that stick!

According to husband i have. :loopy: :rant:

I haven't actually. I do more exercise and spend more time on my appearance now than I did pre kids it's just that life has taken it's toll so I look rather knackered and having kids has led to me putting on weight.

And there are some things which are irreversable, apparently the ribcage expands, permanently. The abdominal area changes inside and out and quite often the skin is marked forever. But hey... we have to be mothers, snap back to prepregnancy (despite being impossible), go without sleep, not discuss the most monumental change in our lives and still look gorgeous, , be intelligent, be witty and an overall domestic goddess.

.... mmm still vexed!

I haven't read it, but I looked like this before I had kids. In fact, the only time I made an effort was when I was pregnant, for some strange reason!

I havent read the article yet, but Ive let myself go, I was about a size 12 before and i'm now a size 18, but im happy this way :) Id rather be a bit more on the weightier side than not have Charlie :)

And having just sat and read it.. and some of the comments after it..
Do these woman hate their children? :confused:

Im lost for words, for a change :hihi:

Crikey, the D***y M**l really does hate women with a passion! Women are either.

1. Too thin
2. Too fat
3. Too housewifey
4. Not housewifey enough
5. Too fashionable
6. Not fashionable enough

At the end of the day, who gives a monkeys what other women do?

If someone wants to go on a diet quickly after pregnancy that's great and their decision. And if someone wants to live off chocolate brownies and keep the curves then that's jolly lovely as well.

People fought and demonstrated so that our society could be one where women could have the right to make decisions about their bodies and their private lives, independently of government or church or anyone else.

But the way some of these tacky papers and magazines go on, one would think that any woman who chooses to lose weight/put on weight/dress fashionably/dress unfashionably/get pregnant/not get pregnant, should be scrutinised and judged. What absolute muppets! Women should just do whatever they feel comfortable with.

i think the person that said these things is depressed or/and is either regretting havin their kids cos they are not what they once was or maybe they havnt had any yet because they are scared they will get fat and all what they hink will happen will actually happen and hate the fact they might be right so are ****** off about it or they "let themselves go" after their children and their husband had an affair? so they are now blaming this on all women that would rarther sit and colour, read, draw, bake, watch a dvd, do arts and crafts, go for a walk, teach them to ride a bike, teach them to tie their shoe laces with their children maybe these women would rarther spend time doing their hair and making sure their apperance is perfect i for one dont care if my roots are showing or my hair is a little messy sometimes i dont even do the house work for a day or two cos me and the kids are having fun just doing all the above.

they are only little for a short time and only enjoy doing these things for a short time so i for one am gonna enjoy it.

also im pretty sure my kids wont remember the fact that my hair or clothes were imaculate when they get older they will however remember learning to ride a bike or painting their first finger picture or even me teaching them how to bake buns and getting coverd in cake mix and laughing untill it hurts

i think kids that are brought up in a home where it is the norm to be so vain and self concious will have serious issues with their mental health in the long term so to those parents that want to look perfect at the school gates go for it cos the problems and values you are teaching your children will take time to show themselves maybe not until they have they have there own children and i just hope for your sakes they are forgiving as it will be you that taught them its ok to think like that.

Crikey, the D***y M**l really does hate women with a passion! Women are either.

1. Too thin
2. Too fat
3. Too housewifey
4. Not housewifey enough
5. Too fashionable
6. Not fashionable enough

.

These kind of stories are just fillers, must have been a quiet news day.

Looking good hasn't been at the top of my priorities since having kids and wasn't really before, I mean I made an effort and liked clothes etc but didn't really think about how I looked a great deal compared to some women.
I had steadily put on weight since having my last one and just thought sod it, as long as I look OK with clothes on (size 14) but I realised I didn't really feel happy with myself and found myself eating stuff just because it was there and feeling a bit kind of tired etc. I decided to go on a diet and have lost over a stone and I got a haircut and thought about what I wanted to wear a bit more and do my makeup most days now the kids aren't clinging to me every moment and I have to admit I feel a lot better about myself, that I don't just have to make do with being a bit overweight, I just decided to get it off and it came off steadily. I also feel more energetic and comfortable and him indoors likes it (but never said anything about me being bigger).
I have taken this weekend off though but am already looking forward to going back to my diet because I feel so bloated!
I just think if you feel great as you are that's fine but also not to put up with not feeling happy with the way you look if part of you doesn't, you can change it!

Sorry if I sound a bit evangelical I don't mean to!

Sorry if I sound a bit evangelical I don't mean to!
:) If you're happy and you know it.. clap your hands :)
Good for you, you aren't waxing lyrical like the antagonist who makes out like everyone else is a lesser being.

I'm too busy keeping my son safe, making him feel loved, secure and happy oh and teaching him right from wrong and teaching him to count blah blah blah to have time for myself! So in a way, yes, I've let myself go a bit but it is a small price to pay for my diamond of a son! xxxx