I been with this guy for three months, and he has two jobs and is very busy nowadays, we hardly get to chat now. How would i know if he is cheating on me? He always asks me if im chatting to other guys, and then i explain myself and he starts saying " oh am not bothered anyway" is he just sayin that or is he bothered really?

And another thing i want him to chase after me, and i want to be in control,keep him on his toes. Can anyone give me any ideas??

Three months isnt long is it, and you want to lay the law, take control?? You worried that he could be cheatin on you, not a good start, your worried that you dont see him/chat because he works, take it easy, and enjoy the time you do get to spend with each other, and if your worried ask!!!
i think if you have to fight for someones love, then its not worth fighting for...... be who each of you are, and if your happy things will work out, just be honest with him and ask him if your worried!!!!
Tell him what he is to you the way you feel, and if he dont run a mile, then your in luck!! falling in love is easy to do, its the falling out of love that hurts like hell.
if he likes you for being you..... then you dont have to keep him on his toes....do you?:thumbsup:

Stop shouting? and winding people up:suspect:

Originally posted by maariyah

AND ANOTHER THING I WANT HIM TO CHASE AFTER ME, AND I WANT TO BE IN CONTROL,KEEP HIM ON HIS TOES. CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ANY IDEAS??

Leave him and stay single. You sound like a psycho.

Treat him mean and keep him keen.

but we all know that doesn't work,

Treat him mean, keep him f**king someone else.

thats true but aslong as she remembers what she dont know wont hurt her then shes is onto a win win.

Do you love him and get butterflies when you see him, does your stomach churn with excitement when you hear his voice on the phone, do you laugh a lot together and really enjoy his company ? Answer yes to all these questions and he might be worth bothering with otherwise move on!

Originally posted by maariyah


And another thing i want him to chase after me, and i want to be in control,keep him on his toes. Can anyone give me any ideas??

Don't play games. It will end in tears.

Can anyone give me any ideas?? [/B]

the earth revolves around the sun!

Originally posted by maariyah
I been with this guy for three months, and he has two jobs

whats his two jobs...?

Originally posted by maariyah
He always asks me if im chatting to other guys, and then i explain myself and he starts saying " oh am not bothered anyway"



if he asks about other blokes then he is bothered.... when he says hes not bothered - he will be believe me

"Love starts with a smile... Grows with a kiss... and ends with a tear..."- Colonel

I think most blokes , if they were in a relationship with Maariyeh[?] would have at least two jobs ------three if possible----------anything to keep them out of the house.

TO NATHAN. AM NOT A PYSCHO AM JUST BEIN HONEST. NO I MY STOMACH DOESNT CHURN AND I DONT GET BUTTERFLIES BUT I LIKE TO SPEND TIME WITH HIM!

HIS TWO JOBS ARE, ONE IN A CALL CENTRE AND THE OTHER AT A NEWSAGENTS. I THINK I JUST NEED TO CHILL OUT.

Originally posted by maariyah
I been with this guy for three months, and he has two jobs and is very busy nowadays, we hardly get to chat now. How would i know if he is cheating on me? He always asks me if im chatting to other guys, and then i explain myself and he starts saying " oh am not bothered anyway" is he just sayin that or is he bothered really?

And another thing i want him to chase after me, and i want to be in control,keep him on his toes. Can anyone give me any ideas??

if he's asking you and then he's saying he's not bothered

HE IS BOTHERED.

look, I look at it this way. I could work all hours under the sun but there are more important things than money.

If I want to be with someone I will quite happily earn a lot less money to spend time with them.

end of the day what is most important, money or love?

it is an obvious answer for me.

With 2 jobs he probably does not have enough time to cheat on you. He is probably more concerned as to whether you are cheating and does not want to press the issue since you have been together only 3 months.

Three things:

1. Do you trust this guy? You never usually find out if somebody is cheating on you until it's too late, but that's the risk you run with relationships. But you have to trust your boyfriend because otherwise there really is no way forward.

2. He probably is bothered about other men, but I think that is normal. Everybody gets a little jealous, but if it gets to the point when he starts controlling you then that's when you really need to worry.

3. The really worrying thing though is that you feel you need to control him. Why do you need to keep him on his toes? :confused: As long as you ensure their is variety in your relationship, if you really are made for each other, you won't get bored.

Sounds to me like you are staying with this guy for the sake of it. If you aren't into him 100% or aren't enjoying the relationship then simply up and leave. Singledom really isn't that bad :)

If you are looking for a nice steady sensible lad, stay with him.

If you are looking for romance, thrills, adventure and to be swept off your feet find some-one else.

You sound young why not stay single for awhile, look around and see what life offers.

hazel

I have only 1 thing to say ...............Never settle for second best ...........you deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated ...............

Originally posted by cloudybay
I have only 1 thing to say ...............Never settle for for second best ...........you deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated ...............

completely agree. :thumbsup:

Ive read two threads like this recently... im doubting the whole idea or partaking in a forum meet :)

Originally posted by cloudybay
I have only 1 thing to say ...............Never settle for second best ...........you deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated ...............

the only problem with this is that what you want now won't be the same as you want in 10years time. hence divorce rates at all time high.
my advice to many of my friends including the ones on marriage number 5 (hiya F) " if you put as much effort into your current relationship as you do into trying to get another bird or fella things will probaly work out fine"

Don't play games. It will end in tears.


Even if you're not playing games - you could get accused of doing so.

Have a night on the town with your mates. Theres plenty more fish in the sea.;)