I know as you read this you will be thinking im soft and should let her cry. But seriously i am at the end of my tether with my 14 mnth old daughter evie. She was a perfect baby went to sleep in dark room at 7 alone, slept till 2 am then fed and went back till 7am.
Then we started having very big problems with my old neighbour. Music up all night some times from 11pm -11am. Shouting and arguing going on kept my 7 and 10 yr old up all night would distrube evie to. The neighbour ended up with a noise obatement order although things settled a tad where not much better and she is in private rented house so was hard for anything to be done.

I have now moved live on a quiet road, only one set of neighbours that are in there 60-70's. Evie now has her own room and not sharing with us, for a week she did go in her own room.Although not sleeping through without screaming hysterically at some point.
Now she hates being in her own room everytime i settle her and walk out she screams. Tonight i have put her dvd player on and left some toys in cot we have had the odd cry but she settled fine. Till i turned off tv and all hell broke loos again, till i turned it back on and she settled.
I think because of all the noise from our old neighbours she is not used to sleeping unless there is noise. What can i do ? Do i just leave the tv on all night for sake of some peace or do i have to get hard. Oh i hate this its so stressful and i feel mean letting her scream. I know i seem daft but i need some me time at night, she is going through a clingy stage to at minute and cries in day when i leave room to.

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thanks am gonna go get some music cds tomorow she has a tV dvd combi in her bedroom so using that at minute. I just turn it down a tad when she has dropped off. I know she likes noise besaue in the day if i turn the music up on my tv when she is tred and having a paddy she stops when the music is on and turned up and drops off. I am so gutted and blame all the trouble with my neighbour. I had a great baby for first time ever my sons where terrible. lol. And then it all went to pot when it got bad with my old neighbour. She has a night light to in her room got her that at weekend cos thought the dark may be upsetting her. willlet you know wat happens

have you seen the night lights that start up when your child makes a noise, we used a winnie the pooh dream show, it plays music & projects a light show onto the ceiling. hope you find a solution.xx

I have ended up letting her cry herself to sleep tonight a few times. She went down at 7 and screamed for 20 minutes. She dropped off the she woke an hour after cried for 10 minutes then dropped off then woke again cried for ten minutes then she settled again. So the letting her cry thing is working i just gotta stay strong. Not even having the music or tv on worked tonight. So had to do it the hard way, but will get there eventually.

If you don't want to do the crying thing, then don't feel you have to - only saying this as you made it sound like you didn't want to do this at first. Do what ever you feel is right. I know people who let their child cry, to another who plays audio books to their child at night. Both of them do it differently but get the result they want. Main thing is for you to not be stressed over bedtimes and find what works for you and your child.

We went through a stage of having to play music so littlebonny would go to sleep. He very rarely asks for it these days though. A new room in a new house is bound to be a bit unsettling but she should soon get used to it.

I bought some Thomas Tank Engine stickers for the walls of littlebonny's room but he kept pulling them off, OH stuck them on the ceiling and he seems to quite like the fact that he can look up and see them. I know you can get stickers in quite a few different characters, b&q sell some as well as on-line shops, maybe things like this will help?

Good luck!

I can't see the problem with listening to music to fall asleep - it's soothing, where a tv is stimulating, and many adults prefer to fall asleep to music too

if you think about it, a child has come into the world with its ears being bombarded by mum's heartbeat and an assortment of other bodily gurgles in a rhythmic fashion - but that is instantly taken away at birth! Hearing in the young is so much more sensitive too, so unfamiliar sounds are disturbing - as is silence

If she's happy falling asleep to music, let her :)

(says the person who leaves the radio on for the dog when she goes out ;) )

we swear by story tapes, childrens meditation tapes, and our music in the womb cd, my 2 lads have trouble sleeping, and these have been a godsend,

haha strix, glad its not just me, our dogs are well tuned in to radio 2

I would definitly stick at the crying to sleep. Try the controlled crying method, there is a thread on here with loads of info about it. I had got to the end of my tether with Eva not sleeping and after 4 nights of controlled crying she was sleeping from 7am to 7pm. I think you should take the TV out of her room as if it's there she is going to want it on and TV is a great stimulant and not what you need at bedtime!

I always think music is great for soothing a tired baby. There are lots of Baby music cd's out there, my daughter loves the Baby Mozart CD which I think you can get in Mothercare.

Good Luck and remember these things will get better

Also if the crying wasn't working you could try that Supernanny method of sitting by her cot till she falls asleep and gradually sitting further away each night till you're outside the door. Though might be hard with 2 other children I know.

Sounds like you're doing a fab job anyway, stick with it. x

Thanks guys evie is now sleeping through and going to sleep on her own in her cot 7-7. I am so proud of her i took her bottle off her and gave her juice in her beaker. She started eating more not having the milk in the day. Anyway put her in bed the other week at 7 she cried till 8. I did try going in laying her back down and walking out room every 5 min but it made it worse because to her we was leaving her all over again. So ended up leaving her and not going in room again as she is in cot and can not climb out and has safety gate on door knew she could not hurt herself. Anyway she cried for an hour the first night had the odd winge through the night but i never went in room come the third night she went straight down without cryin and went through with no crying all night. Been bliss , she has a little night light and a black out blind. No music on either or anything she has done great and does not bother with the cup even though it is in her cot at night.We are all happy now and non tired.

Thats fantastic. It just goes to show hard work pays off! I know how hard it is to leave your baby to cry but it really is the best thing we have ever done (so far) The first couple of nights was the hardest but now she goes down at 7pm and sleeps through.

well done!