HELP

i have just had a major argument with my gf.

yesterday i swopped phone numbers wiv this girl cos we were having a chat while i was working. we were talking about her love life and some txt messages she was getting. anyway i had finished wrk so i wos ging to get my bus. she said give me ur phone no and ill txt u if i get anymore. i didnt sctually give her mine she rang my phone to check no and i saved the number. i thought therewas nothing in it and left. today i got a txt say she had no more silly messages. that was it.

so i come home today and tell gf that i got txt off her, explained and then she went mad. she says that i shouldnt have swopped numbers, how would i feel if roles were reverserd? blaa blaa. i thought it was innocent, just making friends ect.. but to gf abviously not. i love gf and told her i did, and that she dint trust me. she said she dint no to that question thenignored me and now has taken her self to bed and told me to leave her alone.

i said sorry and dint think how it would look or make her feel, but it was just on the spare of the moment. im angry with gf for not trusting me and practically saying who i can and cant b friends with.

am i a bitch or is she being possessive and jealous. i can see her point of view but i dont think its so big of a deal. i love her so much and i hate her ignoring me.

any ideas what i can do? or what do u guys think? please help me!!!

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Are you serious? You accepted another girl's phone number/ gave another girl your number, and DIDN'T expect her to go off the deepend?

You either know nowt about women, or are very daft indeed!

Good luck reattaching your ********.

You'll always be in the wrong my friend..

If you love her, and it's a tedious argument to begin with, than just do the song n' dance, say you're sorry, and be on your best behaviour until it all blows over.

;)

When did ******** become a swear word? What's all this ********, then? ********, ********, big pendulous ********.

she not like a random stranger! i have spoke to her before and so has gf. i was just wanting to make friends :(

Even worse. Now she thinks you want to dump her and have babies with this other girl.

When will men learn?

im a woman!!! so u think i'm a bitch. any positive comments or constructive ones???

I don't think you are in the wrong love. If you wanted to be unfaithful you could be and she would never know. No offence but the problems are hers. You cannot convice her that you are trustworthy if she does not trust you. People need a certain amount of freedom in a relationship and if they are going to be unfaithful there is absolutly nothing you can do about it
I hope it all comes right for you :)

Morning, I hope it is all resolved now between the two of you

I am afraid that green-eyed jealousy is something we all suffer from a bit if we are not careful.

All you can do is convince her that she comes first, that you love her, that she is all you want and all you need.

The other woman is neither here nor there really. She doesnt count, and you all three know that.

But clearly your g/f is not feeling secure or good about herself at the moment, otherwise she wouldnt have felt threatened.

Give her lots of TLC and make her feel better

Good luck

The other girl's just a friend. Can't your girlfriend accept that you have friends of both sexes?

I don't see any way that you're in the wrong here. It's your girlfriend that needs sorting out.

If women can't understand other women then what chance to men have?

Originally posted by Sidla
If women can't understand other women then what chance to men have?
It's more about people trying to understand people. It's very difficult, since the only state of mind you can be sure of is your own, and even that knowledge is questionable.

If everyone thought like me the world would be a great place! :nod:

I think if everyone on the site took themselves rather less seriously it would probably improve your lot.

Winter's Mist - wasn't calling you a bitch, wasn't calling all women bitches, was merely making a flippant, throwaway remark based on the erroneous assumption that you were a man, highlighting the fact that women are almost-mythical beasts that I can't understand.

Get a grip - if your gf acts like this then dump her and get it over with, save yourself some hassle in the long run.

Originally posted by WintersMist
any positive comments or constructive ones???

hey WM. i think your lady is being a bit silly, relationships should be based on trust and honesty and you were the one who was open about your new friend therefore showing you had nothing to hide! what did she want you to do? lie about any new people you meet?!

on the positive side, a bit of jelousy can be healthy as it shows she cares - but only you know how much is concern and flattery and how much is shear insecurity on her behalf.

its an awkward situation, swaping numbers with a friend who could be considered a 'possiblity' (eg. me being straight and swapping numbers with a single straight bloke) as people often get the wrong idea and i hate that. i've had a few male friends who think it means i'm 'fair game' when all i've wanted is friendship.

Originally posted by Gillie
I don't think you are in the wrong love. If you wanted to be unfaithful you could be and she would never know. No offence but the problems are hers. You cannot convice her that you are trustworthy if she does not trust you. People need a certain amount of freedom in a relationship and if they are going to be unfaithful there is absolutly nothing you can do about it
I hope it all comes right for you :) I fully aggree with Gillie on this one, whats wrong in making friends as long as thats your only intension then i think GF is over reacting.
I would not give in on this one, we all like friends outside of our relationship and as long as it is platonic then tell your girlfriend to lighten up and get on with life.
I am sorry it sounds harsh but you may need other friends in your life and i feel that your girlfriend wants to dominate.