scotsman1976
12-01-2009, 07:35
I'm after some views and opinions about my cat Rubeus.
The ex and I split last year, and when she moved out took both our cats. Rubeus and Lilly became unhappy, when they moved and both started to loose weight; so I took them back because I am still residing in the same house both of them have lived in for 3 years. It was clear they were both happy to be back, putting on the weight they had lost, being back in their usual territory and being able to play/ fight (like cats to) with the neighbours cats, who they have known for 3 years.
I began to be concerned about Rubeus a couple of months back, and my concerns have only grown. The problem is that he loves kids, in particular all the attention and fuss that they give him, and with my son now living with his mother for most of the time; Rubeus has turned to getting this attention from the neighbours kids. He at first just used to watch them play, seek their affection and fussing; this led to some of the neighbours feeding him and leaving food out for him. This was not a problem at first as he used to come home regular, and guaranteed every night he would cuddle up to me in bed. The problem now is that Rubeus has started to come home less and less, sometimes he only visits a couple of times a day for brief spells, and has started sleeping out, because one of my neighbours has even gone as far as putting out a cat bed for him, as she thought he was a stray.
I am after some advice and views, whether I need to be doing anything or not to ensure Rubeus spends more time at home. I am of the opinion, that because he is healthy, and that I see him at least daily whether it be at home or on the street that he is okay. I also know that he is eating because of no signs of weight loss, and when he does eat at home he does not over indulge in his favourite cat food, which he would most certainly do if he was being fed elsewhere. I am of the opinion that he is in good health and not at any risk; therefore, am I being cold hearted in respecting his desire to spend considerably more time with the neighbours that he does with me, or should I being doing anything above the usual fuss and attention that I give him, which he still adores?
Your views and opinions would be appreciated.
The ex and I split last year, and when she moved out took both our cats. Rubeus and Lilly became unhappy, when they moved and both started to loose weight; so I took them back because I am still residing in the same house both of them have lived in for 3 years. It was clear they were both happy to be back, putting on the weight they had lost, being back in their usual territory and being able to play/ fight (like cats to) with the neighbours cats, who they have known for 3 years.
I began to be concerned about Rubeus a couple of months back, and my concerns have only grown. The problem is that he loves kids, in particular all the attention and fuss that they give him, and with my son now living with his mother for most of the time; Rubeus has turned to getting this attention from the neighbours kids. He at first just used to watch them play, seek their affection and fussing; this led to some of the neighbours feeding him and leaving food out for him. This was not a problem at first as he used to come home regular, and guaranteed every night he would cuddle up to me in bed. The problem now is that Rubeus has started to come home less and less, sometimes he only visits a couple of times a day for brief spells, and has started sleeping out, because one of my neighbours has even gone as far as putting out a cat bed for him, as she thought he was a stray.
I am after some advice and views, whether I need to be doing anything or not to ensure Rubeus spends more time at home. I am of the opinion, that because he is healthy, and that I see him at least daily whether it be at home or on the street that he is okay. I also know that he is eating because of no signs of weight loss, and when he does eat at home he does not over indulge in his favourite cat food, which he would most certainly do if he was being fed elsewhere. I am of the opinion that he is in good health and not at any risk; therefore, am I being cold hearted in respecting his desire to spend considerably more time with the neighbours that he does with me, or should I being doing anything above the usual fuss and attention that I give him, which he still adores?
Your views and opinions would be appreciated.