I've recently been told that I'm having a delayed miscarriage and am wondering if anyone else has been through this?

Yes , I had this 4 years ago. I then became pregnant the month after and everything was fine. She is a healthy little girl now!!

Thanks for replying. Do you mind me asking whether you had any treatment for this?

Hi,

My wife experienced it just over a year ago. Delayed miscarriage at 14 weeks. Received no other treatment than letting nature take course.

And like bonny, she came pregnant 3 to 4 months later. Feel free to ask further questions.

I was told this about a week and a half ago now and was told to go home for a week and to come in for a scan again on thursday which I did and they confirmed the pregnancy was over and gave me all my options. I chose to go home and wait for nature to take its course but I dont know how long I will possibly be waiting for. By what the hospital said, the pregnancy ended about 6 weeks ago already

What's a delayed miscarriage (if you don't mind me asking ;) )

Sorry to hear you're experiencing one. I hope it all goes right next time.

Ignore my above post - I was typing whilst you were posting.

That sounds scary

Susa,

IOt sound very similar. My wifes pregnancy stopped around 6 weeks but we didn't know until 14 weeks (8 weeks!!). I think it's fairly common but you dont normally hear about it until you've experienced it.

At the hospital, they offered her the chance for nature to take it's course, drugs to assist or assistance througg being in hospital. It isn't nice and i really sympathise with you, but things do get better (you dont forget) and we now have a little girl.

I'm glad to hear you've got a lovely little girl now. Fingers crossed I wont be waiting too much longer I hope.

Good luck and i'll cross my fingers for you. If you ever wish for my advice (not that i can give much), feel free to PM me and i'll reply or even put you in contact with my wife

thanks youwhatref

I had a miscarriage about 10 years ago.

Like you, mine was 'delayed' or as the hospital called it (which was, in my opinion pretty tactless) I'd had a 'missed abortion'.

The baby had died at 8 weeks but I didn't find out until 12 weeks when I had a small bleed. I ended up having a D&C as it didn't come away naturally and I was starting to feel ill (temp and sickness).

I was pretty devastated and went to a miscarriage support group run at Jessops. The people were wonderful and very very helpful.


If you need to talk, please feel free to PM me ok.

Hugs x

I have had 4 miscarriages the first two were delayed and I had to go into hospital for the removal.


I went on to have 4 healthy children.

It does not help how you feel though, no matter what nice things people say. You still feel devestated.

Take care

I know this is not a very happy subject, and don't want to scare anyone who is pregnant, but has anyone on here lost a child after birth and then gone on to have more children. Just need to know how it was mentally and emotionally.

yes i suffered a miscarriage about a year and four months ago.

it was quite stressful as their was a chance it could have been a ectopic pregnancy as i was in a lot of pain and other symptoms.

but now i'm ok as far as i know, i was told that i could never have children before this happened and when i found out i was pregnant it was a definate shock and due to the fact that i was sure i could never have children i was sort of pleased that the doctors were wrong.
when this happened i'm pretty sure that i will never be able to concieve naturally, but these things happen.

Originally posted by susa41981
Thanks for replying. Do you mind me asking whether you had any treatment for this?

It happened a week before I was due to get married. Not very traditional I know but we had planned our wedding previously as we already had a 1 year old.
Anyway, I have to say my treatment was pretty grim. I had suspected something was wrong and gone to hospital. They kept me in the waiting room from 9.30am to 6.30pm. I was then taken for a scan when it was discovered I had miscarried. I was devasted and angry that I had been treated like a hypocondriac so discharged myself. I then went to my doctors who gave me a very strong course of antibiotics. I had a natural reaction to them and became very sore, so had to take a diflucan tablet on the day of my wedding.

It was all a bit of a whirl. My doctor was fantastic and offered me counselling, he also took the time to explain it was natures way of dicarding something that wasn't right. To be honest I tried not to dwell on it and my wedding helped this as I was very busy. Like I mentioned the next month I was pregnant again.

I did have to keep going back to the hospital though as my hormones were not decreasing as they should.

Originally posted by tots
I know this is not a very happy subject, and don't want to scare anyone who is pregnant, but has anyone on here lost a child after birth and then gone on to have more children. Just need to know how it was mentally and emotionally.

My mum lost a baby before me. She did suffer post natal depression with me but she had been trying hard for a baby and had two miscarriages also. I was premature and still born and had to have an injection in my heart of adrenalin. I think this freaked my mum. She didn't see me for quite some time as I was in intensive care so I think all this sparked her post natal depression. She then went on to have a very healthy baby boy, my brother with no problems.

thanks for that bonny. will think about trying again.

Originally posted by tots
thanks for that bonny. will think about trying again.

Give it a try and don't put too much pressure on yourself. My friend couldn't conceive and went through all the IVF treatments. When she couldn't have anymore she gave up, started taking vitamins and got pregnant straight away. She had a very normal, healthy little boy!! It just goes to show, you never can tell.

Originally posted by FetishFairy

Like you, mine was 'delayed' or as the hospital called it (which was, in my opinion pretty tactless) I'd had a 'missed abortion'.

The baby had died at 8 weeks but I didn't find out until 12 weeks when I had a small bleed. I ended up having a D&C as it didn't come away naturally and I was starting to feel ill (temp and sickness).

I was pretty devastated and went to a miscarriage support group run at Jessops. The people were wonderful and very very helpful.


If you need to talk, please feel free to PM me ok.

Hugs x

FetishFairy I was exactly the same stage and that's what they said to me too - mind you this was 20 years ago now and they didn't offer miscarriage support then at all you were basically told to leave it at least 3 months before you tried again, sent home and told to get over it! Not very good care was it?

Susa41981 I have a 18 nearly 19 year old daughter and a 15 year old son now. I hope everything works out for you.

i lost twins at 6 and a half months pregnant in 1973,then i lost a girl at 16 weeks pregnant in 1975,its very hard and mentally draining,theres never a day goes by without i think of them all,i used to think if only,but that really screws you up,i had 2 more girls who are fit and well,im luckyier than most and count my blessings,i really feel for you,good luck for the future.

My sister had a delayed miscarriage just before Christmas 2003. She had gone for her 14 week scan not knowing anything was wrong, but was told that the baby had died at about 8 weeks. They gave her the same options mentioned here of going home and letting nature take it's course, taking medication to bring the miscarriage on, or having a D&C. She chose a D&C because she felt she wanted to get it over with and move on. She was obviously devastated but felt that she would have to grieve twice if she waited for a natural miscarriage.

I do hope you get through this ok. I don't know if it is of any comfort at this stage, but my sister gave birth to a healthy baby girl less than a year after her miscarriage.

Thanks everyone for all your replies. Its something I've never experienced before and was just really worried that it meant that I would never be able to have kids but reading some of the posts, I now realise its just one of them things and hopefully has no affect on future pregnancies. Thanks again

Just thought I'd add my 2p because I remember how it felt. Although it's around 8 yrs ago now.
I was only 6 weeks along (unintentional pregnancy) when I found is had had a 'missed miscarriage' and I cried for ages, more about the lack of choice. I would have gone ahead with the pregnancy but I was gutted not to have known or to choose.
I didn't actually 'lose' it until 2 months later and it had become a serious situation by then. There was no remaining evidence of a pregnancy and it became very confused in the hospital.
I worried about my fertility as it took quite some time to conceive once I was ready to really go for it. The results were nothing to do with my miscarriage and I'm now carrying twins, currently at 17.5 weeks.
There is a grief/counselling/support group especially for issues of this nature called SANDS. Someone thing you could consider if you felt you needed it.
Take care
Z

hi i had two miscarriages before i had my daughter was thinking about adoption but tryed again and got lucky was very worried for ages and when it got to first scan and she was ok i just cryed not long after got pregnant again incase i had another one but i did nt he was ok too i had a scrape both times first time was having scan and it had died second time was shopping at crystal peaks and was bleeding but now got two great kids keep trying dont give up

Hi!

I've just had my third consecutive miscarriage. Has anybody been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic at Jessops Hospital? If so, what can I expect, and are the doctors OK?

Rosie, if you read this, I got a lot of hope from your story, and the fact you had several miscarriages but went on to have 4 children. Did you have any treatment? How old were you when you miscarried (if that's not too much asking!). I am 33.

Being a natural optimist, I feel hopeful for the future, but I sometimes wonder if I am in denial!