I'm curious. I wondered what people's experiences have been.

I have found alot of them to be the same with sometimes the same database of people

yeah used match.com, was free for a couple of days but then you pay to use their email, video services etc. Met current parnter on it 2 years ago :D

researched one site recently to study demographics for a marketing campaign.
i may be a bit stupid but why are all females "not looking to cyber or interested in sex" but insist on placing photos that reveal most of their assets to the world.

talk about conflicting messages.

i've never used dating sites per se, but i've met a few people off the internet.. faceparty, drum n bass arena, a few other forums i read..

a few became flings, and a few became friends, but never anything you could call a (romantic) relationship..

Yes I have and intend to write a book on my experiences in the near future...:hihi:

Tried it on the basis of finding some new friends to chat to online mainly as I work from home (which is soul destroying on your tod) and did manage to meet a few pretty interesting people.

As noted above though, the conflicting signals are just unreal and the number of people who don't exist, have baggage, etc.. is pretty horrendous...

For women especially it's a nightmare to pick out someone who's genuine and not just out for a quick eat, shoot & leave routine or some kind of weirdo stalker type. I'm sure there's plenty of women on here who would quietly nod to that one..


All in all, if you want a winning recipe, look for friendships first, get to know some REAL people and then use the established route for asking for dates, etc... After all, if you can't establish a friendship or a real life meet in the intial stages, what on earth is the point? :loopy:

I do think that some of the dating sites on the web give people an excellant way to meet new people,especially if for whatever reason,they find it difficult to talk/meet someone new.

I have used a well-known,very reputable dating site in the past,and ive met some,ahem,interesting ladies on there:suspect: As was said in the post above,many have issues-SCARY issues,or have some seriously heavy baggage.Having said this,I genuinly dont think this is any different to any other walk of life,and certainly isnt confined to the users of internet dating sites,and im sure there are many genuine,honest people out there who find the internet to be a viable alternative to the club/pub scene.

Dont even get me started on Faceparty though:rolleyes:

Dont even get me started on Faceparty though:rolleyes: [/B][/QUOTE]

Nah then mouse
Leave da faceyparty outa dis
I'll ave ya

Originally posted by OwlsChick
Dont even get me started on Faceparty though:rolleyes:

Nah then mouse
Leave da faceyparty outa dis
I'll ave ya [/B][/QUOTE]

Thats how I met you!I rest my case:hihi:

Thats how I met you!I rest my case:hihi: [/B][/QUOTE]



n theirs me thinkin i met u fru work :suspect:

Originally posted by OwlsChick
n theirs me thinkin i met u fru work :suspect:


Ssshhhhhhh.....................Thats 'sposed to be a secret:nono:

Originally posted by Annoni_mouse
Ssshhhhhhh.....................Thats 'sposed to be a secret:nono:



ashamed r ya.

thats it nah

u dun it

I met my current partner on an online dating site... We have since recently moved in together and couldnt be happier :)...

I almost gave up finding new friends or even a new love... it just goes to show that when you least expect it... something good can happen... :D

Good luck to anyone trying online dating... Stick with it... it can work :wink:

Dating sites must work, so many people use them. But there is a reason why not many people would want to shout about it. If you think something is missing in life, it's most likely not a partner but a purpose. I read this at www.AllThatWomenWant.com

"Many singles are waiting for a relationship to infuse their life with passion and purpose, not realizing that having a loving partner is not a substitute for a meaningful life."

"Single or not, this is your life, your only life. This is not a dress rehearsal for your life or a waiting room for your next relationship, but your life, now. The surest way to have a happy life is not to get into a relationship, but to build a life full of meaning and satisfaction. Living your life now makes you very attractive. When you do get happy in your life, you will very likely effortlessly attract a great partner."

But that's tough isn't it? You'll have to challenge yourself quite hard to find out really deep stuff. Where would you begin? If you don't know what your interests are, try something new. If you like it, try it some more. If not try something else. Sooner or later you'll find something to be passionate about that really gives you energy, and boredom is a thing of the past. Hey presto, you're smiling and people want to know you.

"By the time I met Andreas, I didn't need a man at all" Vivian Westwood.

Bottom Line? Think you need a partner? Think again! Who wants a needy person? Think of number one. Find ways to give yourself energy and enthusiasm. If you've got something to give, you'll attract people, no problem. Then you can start to be choosy rather than needy.

I found that every time I went out, I was mainly meeting guys who were only interested in the physical aspects of what people looked like.
I posted a head shot of me on the site to limit the number of perves who would be interested in contacting me. I only had one bad reply from a guy who was married and only wanted to swing, he got short shrift from me.
I did have contact with a few guys by email but after a couple of weeks I seemed to have formed a "bond" with one particular guy. We chatted online for a couple of weeks and then progressed to phone calls and finally met up after 6 months of chatting. I found that I got to know the personality and the person without the hassle of any physical relationship complicating things.
We both had "baggage", he'd got his kids living with him and I'd got mine, but surely anyone has some form of history in their life as they get older.
I found this way worked for me as I'd become independant and was reluctant to give it up for someone who I'd been attracted to purely on a physical basis.
I'd learnt from my mistakes in my previous relationships, so I wanted to spend time learning about the people and then form an opinion of whether or not to move the relationship forward.
It's a personal choice as to whether or not to use dating sites and as in "real life" it works for some people and is a waste of time for others.

I met my fella through a dating site and we've just moved in together. We'd never have met otherwise, him being in london and me in Sheffield.

So it can certainly work and if you do it sensibly its quite good fun too!

The reason I tried it was that I had a birthday party and realised there wasn't a single male there. Best thing i ever did! It meant that we got to know each other over the net so by the time we met we knew we'd at least be friends.

Claire x

I have used a few different dating sites with varying success. As a woman I can only talk about the men on these sites, so not sure if this goes for the women that use them, but I found the users fit into one of the following categories:

- Only looking for sex
- Foreigners looking for British wives (and the passport to boot)
- People with A LOT of baggage
- Just plain weirdos
- Those genuinely looking for a relationship

I think if you are going to use these sites you need to learn how to sort the wheat from the chaff, but I've found that you can learn how to identify the genuine people fairly quickly.

Personally I feel it's as safe a way of meeting someone as just talking to some random bloke in a nightclub. You can get to know ther person first and then arrange to meet in a neutral, safe place (I always try and think of somewhere where I can see the person before they see me so that I can see they are who they say they are and can make a bolt for it if necessary!). I've met maybe half a dozen guys from dating sites over the last few years and they've all been genuine. One turned into a fairly long-term relationship.

I have found alot of them to be the same with sometimes the same database of people

have you told emma? - or at least jamie???

Nah... latest squeeze stalked me from the forum... :hihi: ;)

I have used a few different dating sites with varying success. As a woman I can only talk about the men on these sites, so not sure if this goes for the women that use them, but I found the users fit into one of the following categories:

- Only looking for sex
- Foreigners looking for British wives (and the passport to boot)
- People with A LOT of baggage
- Just plain weirdos
- Those genuinely looking for a relationship


Foreigners looking for a passport discounted (and believe me, there's enough women doing that too. I'm listed as married and still get inundated with girls from Senegal and Djibouti claiming they are madly in love with me and want to get married, ever since they saw my photo ten minutes ago...)


Those aside .... is this really any different from who you'd meet in a nightclub, or in your office, or bump into while shopping...?

It's not because they're online; it's because they are people. Meeting them via the Net is no more or less likely to bring success than meeting them anywhere else.

:thumbsup: My friend uses Faceparty - Not met the right one yet tho :(
Maybe you'll find someone on here robbie :thumbsup:

If that's what your looking for :suspect:

Nah... latest squeeze stalked me from the forum... :hihi: ;)

ohhh! tell us more, tell us more ... :cool:

Online Dating Site iv used is www.SheffieldForum.co.uk

Not met Mr Right though...

Aw Kirsty
Not be long he'll come into yer life and sweep you off your feet :D

ohhh! tell us more, tell us more ... :cool:

I can't he'd kill me... :D

Aw Kirsty
Not be long he'll come into yer life and sweep you off your feet :D

Did my post sound like i was bothered? Hahah - im not! :hihi:

I pulled someone Friday night down town- and hes NOT a forummer :hihi:

Good to hear you'v found someone Foxy!

[QUOTE=_Kirsty_;1930386]Did my post sound like i was bothered? Hahah - im not! :hihi:

I pulled someone Friday night down town- and hes NOT a forummer :hihi:

Good to hear you'v found someone Foxy!

Doesn't get much better than in the flesh ......
:thumbsup:

Online Dating Site iv used is www.SheffieldForum.co.uk

Which are you then? Lots of baggage, after a British passport, a plain weirdo, or just looking for sex? :hihi:

I can't he'd kill me... :D

But I bet you are dying to aren't ya Fox? (Hears strains of Doris Day singing 'once I had a secret love.... shout it from the highest hilltops...):hihi:

Anyway dating sites... yeah. Have to say the men I've met have ended up either friends (meeting up with one tomorrow - no chemistry but lovely bloke) forgetting to tell me important stuff (i.e. that they were hunchback!) or forgetting they are engaged (great, the fiancee ringing you at work to tell you to back off! - that one has had the audacity to contact me several times since to tell me she was mental!) Daren't tell you some of them!

Then there are the ones who've run a country mile away from me too. :hihi:

I have dated one bloke for two months off one and one for six who i class as my ex boyfriend and so if anything I'm glad it brought Dan into my life as he's one of my best friends now.

I'm still a singleton though. :|

Which are you then? Lots of baggage, after a British passport, a plain weirdo, or just looking for sex? :hihi:

No Baggage
Dont need British Passport
A Plain Weirdo... Il let you judge :hihi:
Looking for sex... Is that an offer? :hihi:

I've used online dating sites on a couple of occasions. Met some really nice people, had a few relationships. I met my sweetheart on a dating site as it happens.

Looking for sex... Is that an offer? :hihi:


Depends if you're into overweight guys twice your age or not :hihi:

Depends if you're into overweight guys twice your age or not :hihi:

Hmmm.... WELL... im into Avril Lavigne but im not gay... so i must be up for anything :hihi:

Hmmm.... WELL... im into Avril Lavigne but im not gay...

Darn .. my g/f was hoping you could join us.

.... so i must be up for anything :hihi:


Oh well, hang on then... ;) :hihi:

So it can certainly work and if you do it sensibly its quite good fun too! Claire

Approaching dating no matter which way you go about it should be fun. Going in looking for lerv too soon scares people off. You'll know when the time is right to take things further ... in the meantime play the "I'm not really that interested" game!

Personally I feel it's as safe a way of meeting someone as just talking to some random bloke in a nightclub.

I have dated one bloke for two months off one and one for six. I'm still a singleton though.

Whichever way you do it, don't be put off by one or two failures. I've heard others recommend meeting hundreds of dates before even thinking you might finding "the one".

Don't think that you can determine "chemistry" :love: before you meet, no matter how comprehensive the questions are. I've used dating sites and agencies and felt cheated. Some time later, I met my partner on a weekend away with friends. We've been together for five years now and we're still laughing and looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together. (:loopy: ???) If we'd waited until we were "matched" we'd never have met. There are things about us both that would have excluded us in a "logical" match. I'm not saying we're opposites, but it's not easy to pin down what the chemistry is that makes us laugh when others might stay straight faced. :lol:

"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird,
and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours,
we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love."
This about sums us up!!!!

Bottom line is ... meet people, lots of people, have fun, lots of fun ... when you have a big circle of friends and you're having fun, guess what? You're attractive! :banana:

Alternatively get serious about lerv :rolleyes: ... stay in and exclude everyone from your life until you find "the one" logically through an agency .... hmmmm .... :shakes: Do we ever admit to our unique character, our weirdness when using an agency? No! We try to be normal and normal isn't always that interesting ...