hi all my partner and i are expecting our second child, but i am scared of going to the doctors and telling them and then booking to see a midwife going for a dating scan etc because last time i went to have the dating scan i found out i lost my baby.

was wondering how long people here had left it to go see the docs?

Congrats.

But judging by your recent threads I hope everything turns out ok :(

thats an other reason why i dont really want to go to the docs yet because of the SS situation incase they tell them etc

thank you

But for yours and your babys health you should see the doc or midwife. You could end up anaemic or anything, so forget the 'maybes' and concentrate on the 'definites'.
You know SS will find out eventually so why hide it? It won't achieve anything except possibly to make them trust you less. So crack on, make your appointment and tell them once you get past 12 weeks and you know everything is going well.

Unfortunately, avoiding a scan won't prevent anything from happening and if you do lose a child it isn't helped by delaying anything. It does however mean that nature has generally done it's work and done you the best deal, even if it doesn't feel like it.
So you might as well get on with it for that reason too.

I would imagine you'll get a lot of relief if you see everything is ok though, so there is more to be gained than lost.

I would just go to the doctors hun , its safer for you and your baby, I wouldn't worry too much about the SS they would have more to say if you didn't go to the doctors as it could be classed as something else.
My advice is to honest with them and make sure you have legal representation with regards to the other issues.

The health of your child and yourself should come first, so make that appointment. The only thing it will show SS is that you are being responsible. Apart from anything else you need to hear that everything is going ok with your pregnancy as the worry will only make you feel worse.

Good luck.

hi, i had the same issue as you, i didnt want to go to dating scan as i had previously miscarried. when i saw the midwife iwas offered an earlier scan to put my mind at rest but chose to wait for my dating scan to be after 12 weeks and this then put my mind at ease.

I agree, get everythings et up and make sure that your partner and the baby get all of the medical attention (and support) they are entitled to.
good luck