Hi,

Just about to arrange a 2nd date with a young lady! and was wanting advice from you love doctors out there!!! as to what to do/where to go on 2nd date

Any advice much appreciated! (especially the ladies of the forum!)

Zed

where did you go on your first date ? and whats your budget ?

Picnic in Botanical Gardens or somewhere nice like that, strawberrys, champagne.........you get the idea.

Matalan have some cheap (ish) picnic baskets with everything you need.

Blackpool Pleasure Beach!! It is a fantastic place to take a date. Guaranteed a laugh!

Originally posted by Lee1979
where did you go on your first date ? and whats your budget ?

went to a mates bday do, budget not much but not stingy!!

I agree with Nick, picnic is really good for a second date as can chat to eachtother in a relaxed atmos and have gorgeous food and drink! perfect :D

If your first date was surrounded by your mates (you say it was a mate's birthday) then it's obvious that it's time to be alone, just the two of you, with no intrusions from anyone else!

Depending on budget and whether you live alone or with parents, you have a number of options. A cinema and then grab a take-away eaten back at yours/your parents'; or maybe if it's a nice evening, a walk in the Botanicals, down to Ecclesall Road for a meal.

If you drive, have a run out to Derbyshire, maybe Castleton where you can walk, go for a beer or have a meal.

I'm even getting that squidgy feeling in my stomach thinking about Young Love and all the opportunities that it brings, new horizons, dreams and that brand new feeling of being in lerv...,

(Don't tell me you're 55.):o

The picnic idea sounds lovely, also the walking in the park etc.
Whatever you do - hope it goes well. xx

A run out in the car to castleton is good, or take her for a meal at old orleans followed by cinema/bowling- thats always fun and she can have a drink to help her relax (and you of course), picnic is a good idea but i think its rather OTT for a second date- do that next.

The key is to make her laugh- do that and she's yours!! :D

Good luck my friend!!

cheers for the advice so far... I was thinking of the cinema and then a drink afterwards for some personal time. I was thinking of going to the showroom, anyone reccomend a decent film?, as I know that they show foreign/arty type films which I like but not up to date with what is good

Originally posted by Ousetunes


(Don't tell me you're 55.):o

no but not a teenager!, late 20's

If memory serves there's a Gerald Scarfe exhibition on at the botanical gardens in town atm - apparently it's cheap to get in and will provide you with some good talking points.

yeh, i think i'd be a bit scared for the picnic in the park thing on a second date - it is just a bit OTT. nice meal somewhere and a few drinks is the best idea i think.

hope it all goes well !!

a scary film at cinema would be cool if u catch my drift.. like house of wax or something?

I would be interested to know of people's views on the etiquette of dating (if such there be). For example, at the end of the first date, should a guy attempt a kiss, or should he leave it at a hug or a handshake (assuming the date went well)? On the second date, what should he do? And at what point does he get invited in for coffee?

If you are on a date then a kiss is acceptable LordC. If you have got the vibes that s/he has also had a good time. Nothing too huge but a nice just ever so slightly prolongued kiss on the lips is nice. Will leave her thinking..............trust me! Handshake...NO! Coffee? Dunno...depends on who she is and who you are!

Originally posted by LordChaverly
I would be interested to know of people's views on the etiquette of dating (if such there be). For example, at the end of the first date, should a guy attempt a kiss, or should he leave it at a hug or a handshake (assuming the date went well)? On the second date, what should he do? And at what point does he get invited in for coffee?

hhmm- i always lived by these rules loosely!!

1st date- if all goes well- kiss on the cheek, if she wants more then oblige of course, don't go up for coffee on this date though.

2nd date- if your really bonding well possibly a little touch at the bottom of the back as your walking and then maybe go for a full kiss later on (depending on how the date went), if invited in for coffee then go for it :D

You say you like arty foreign films but make sure she does too. I would ask what kind of films she likes so you can pick one you both enjoy.

Picnincs are a bit tricky at the moment with the weather.

Perhaps you could also see whats on at the Lyceum its a bit more special than just going to the pics. :thumbsup:

Originally posted by dawny1

Perhaps you could also see whats on at the Lyceum its a bit more special than just going to the pics. :thumbsup:

Now THATS a good idea!!

My friend went to see the complete works of shakespere the other week and she said she didn't stop laughing!

Enter her in a wet T-shirt contest, that way you both get to have a bit of fun.

Oh come on - be romantic, and go for nick2's idea of a picnic.

The cinema though - how unoriginal! You want to get to know her, and for her to get to know you. You can hardly do this sitting in silence for a couple of hours in the pictures.

So come on, get that picnic hamper out, and stock up with some nice things from the deli counter, a bottle of wine (don't forget a cork opener though!), and head for the Derbyshire hills.
If no car - Botanical Gardens second choice.

urging towards meal out in peaks or something, maybe cinema on 3rd date if 2nd one goes well. still any info on films e.t.c???

cinemas probably not a good idea in my opinion, as you wont get to talk to eachother, as a girl i wouldnt be too keen, bit of a cop out aswell, not very imaginative, a drink.meal type thing is better, esp as the first date was with a lot of people too, just a thought though :)

infact ah.. best idea depending on what she likes, like bankers draft or something like that..? get to know er bit more den

Originally posted by nick2
Picnic in Botanical Gardens or somewhere nice like that, strawberrys, champagne.........you get the idea.

What a splendid idea Nick! :thumbsup:

Originally posted by nick2
Picnic in Botanical Gardens or somewhere nice like that, strawberrys, champagne.........you get the idea.

Matalan have some cheap (ish) picnic baskets with everything you need.

oh come on mave......pass me the sick bucket..i took my missis to rotherham away for our second date..it was a brilliant match united won 1-0 follwed by a mass brawl outside the ground..she still talks about it today..21 years later.....a bit of exciment is required for the 21st century dame.....picnics and flowers? perleeeeeez:rolleyes:

Originally posted by kirky
oh come on mave......pass me the sick bucket..i took my missis to rotherham away for our second date..it was a brilliant match united won 1-0 follwed by a mass brawl outside the ground..she still talks about it today..21 years later.....a bit of exciment is required for the 21st century dames.....picnics and flowers? perleeeeeez:rolleyes:

I'll bet she remembers it! :D Nothing like a mass brawl to form a bond between people! ;)

I don't like violence in any way, shape or form, but I'll never forget the first date I went on with one bloke - we visited a student drinking establishment (read: dive) and a fight broke out round our table between a few students (nothing to do with us, I hasten to add). We carried on sitting there, trying to carry on a conversation around the bodies that were flying around. At one point a bloke landed on our table - my date picked him up, dusted him off, and then watched as he waded back in into the fray. Quite surreal!

It's one of those memories you don't forget, but I really wouldn't recommend it!

Wrong time of year, obviously, but I think Kirky's suggestion of going to a football match is a good one. (As long as you both support the same team.... :suspect: ) It's original and a bit different - should stick in her mind!

StarSparkle :)

Originally posted by kirky
oh come on mave......pass me the sick bucket

you have no couth whatsoever :)

Originally posted by LordChaverly
I would be interested to know of people's views on the etiquette of dating (if such there be). For example, at the end of the first date, should a guy attempt a kiss, or should he leave it at a hug or a handshake (assuming the date went well)? On the second date, what should he do? And at what point does he get invited in for coffee?

It all really depends on how much vodka you've managed to sneek into her lemonade.

If it's a lot I'd just go straight for hand down the knickers and texting for a cab.

Usually works.

If you want my advice (and you probably don't) under no circumstances take her to a bowling alley. It is always the kiss of death for some reason in my experience.....

Originally posted by muddycoffee
If you want my advice (and you probably don't) under no circumstances take her to a bowling alley. It is always the kiss of death for some reason in my experience.....

'Cos we get tired of winning all the time. There's no challenge.

Originally posted by dylan_61
It all really depends on how much vodka you've managed to sneek into her lemonade.

If it's a lot I'd just go straight for hand down the knickers and texting for a cab.

Usually works.

Please tell me you are single and no female has fallen for your charm?

If your love interest is a Forum regular then you might have given it the kiss of death anyway!

Originally posted by nick2
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Matalan have some cheap (ish) picnic baskets

I don't mean to nitpick about the picnic, Nick, but I cannot help feeling that a hamper from Matalan will fail to thrill and delight the lady. I don't think ZEDEX should turn up wearing 'Manties' either.

Take her to your favourite cemetery.

I've changed my mind!

It's either got to be StarSparkle's student drinking establishment......

Originally posted by StarSparkle
I'll never forget the first date I went on with one bloke - we visited a student drinking establishment (read: dive) and a fight broke out round our table between a few students (nothing to do with us, I hasten to add). We carried on sitting there, trying to carry on a conversation around the bodies that were flying around. At one point a bloke landed on our table - my date picked him up, dusted him off, and then watched as he waded back in into the fray. Quite surreal!


Or this other surreal suggestion from miniminch.......

Originally posted by miniminch
Take her to your favourite cemetery.


Or...you could combine a picnic at your favourite cemetery - guaranteed space on the grass! Go for it! :thumbsup:

Originally posted by miniminch
Take her to your favourite cemetery.

That might be a good suggestion in London (Highgate Cemetery with Karl Marx's grave to visit) or Macclesfield (Ian Curtis' resting place to visit) - but in Sheffield? Maybe not.....

StarSparkle :)

Originally posted by LordSnooty
I don't mean to nitpick about the picnic, Nick, but I cannot help feeling that a hamper from Matalan will fail to thrill and delight the lady. I don't think ZEDEX should turn up wearing 'Manties' either.

It's just a wicker basket thing with plates and knives and forkes and a wine cooler thingy, surely she wouldn't expect a dining table and chairs from Ponsfords and Wedgewood china ?

p.s. If she does, dump her, she's gonna cost you too much :)

p.p.s Although a nice little gazeebo in the grounds of your stately home, and a romantic meal for two with a French chef cooking at the table and a butler to pour the wine would be rather nice (if not a bit OTT).

p.p.p.s The nearest I ever got to the above was a disposable BBQ in Graves Park followed and a can of warm John Smiths *sigh*

Originally posted by nick2
p.p.p.s The nearest I ever got to the above was a disposable BBQ in Graves Park followed and a can of warm John Smiths *sigh*

To quote the tin man at the end of The Wizard of Oz, 'Now I know I've got a heart, because it's breaking'. I actually did manage a picnic in a lovely little field near Millthorpe a few years ago. In fact, in the same field about fifteen years earlier - when it was full of long grass - I enjoyed an unforgettable 'oral afternoon' with my first girlfriend, the lovely........the lovely, er................no, it's gone.

Actually, there was an attempt at a little 'amore dans l'apres midi' soon after the picnic; I remember removing my cricket whites in a hurry, but passion soon turned to disappointment - like a collapsed souffle - when I became distracted by insects crawling all over my 'parts'.

I think they should build an ugly new housing estate on that field. Maybe then my life could begin again....

Originally posted by samc
Please tell me you are single and no female has fallen for your charm?

How can a woman resist that kind of charm.

I've take girlfriends to operas and ballets before, so I'm not all filth

what happened with this???????