As above.. If you knew somebody famous, would you do a kiss and tell? Or do you think it's sleazy and a cheap shot?

I will await responses before I tell my reason for asking :)

(Please post what you voted and why, thanks :) )

I voted for the third one. It wouldn't be with regards to my financial situation but more how the person has been with me.

If the person has done a 'kiss and tell' about me and it was negative then I would have to say my piece in repsonse.

Iif they were currently in the public eye and I thought that they might do (ie - say if they were on tv, drunk one night with lots of people watching..) then I would see what they had to say and respond accordingly.

I think you hold a very good playing hand at the moment GazB. You should bide your time and see what the other party does (if anything) before you make any 'kiss and tell' stories available for public comsumption.

If they do not discuss you or give details about yours/their private life then personally I think it should be left just like that. Private.

I voted no, not even for the money or for revenge, I happen to give myself more respect than to kiss n tell for anything.

So what if, say, you knew someone on TV that was being absolutely slated by everyone? People making up false stories etc, to make the person look bad?

If you knew a different side to that person and felt offended that people can make up such garbage, would you set the record straight?

Originally posted by GazB
So what if, say, you knew someone on TV that was being absolutely slated by everyone? People making up false stories etc, to make the person look bad?

If you knew a different side to that person and felt offended that people can make up such garbage, would you set the record straight?

Yes I would. The trouble is that whatever you say can still be manipulated, twisted and used out of context by whoever is reporting the story. You just need to be careful, that's all.

Good on yer for wanting to help a friend though. Especially if that friend were in a position where they may not be aware of what is being published about them and also not be in a position to respond themselves. :thumbsup:

No, because it would be taken out of context and used against them.

My friends are friends and what they do or say to me is private and I respect them and their privacy.
Money is not everything.

Originally posted by msbehavin
Yes I would. The trouble is that whatever you say can still be manipulated, twisted and used out of context by whoever is reporting the story. You just need to be careful, that's all.

Good on yer for wanting to help a friend though. Especially if that friend were in a position where they may not be aware of what is being published about them and also not be in a position to respond themselves. :thumbsup:

Agreed. But if said friend lets you down badly - given their current situation, you should go medieval on their ass.

Alls fair.

And at the end of the day, there is only one motive for any past stories being aired where your friend is. If you are mentioned, you are being used.

I say be patient. See how bad things get (It'll be someone else next week) but also see if you get let down.

You dont want to rush to their aid only to be shot down as someone with no right to comment the next day.

N

I found myself in this situation, where someone famous sexually harrassed me for a few weeks. Although it was pretty tempting to sell it all to the papers I thought I'd just end up looking like some sad slapper. You just know the News of the World would want to dress you up in some frilly knickers as part of the deal.. brrrrrrrrrrr..

Originally posted by GazB
So what if, say, you knew someone on TV that was being absolutely slated by everyone? People making up false stories etc, to make the person look bad?

If you knew a different side to that person and felt offended that people can make up such garbage, would you set the record straight?

I think 'kiss and tell' is always going to be just downright sleazy - totally disrespectful and undignified. There is no excuse for that - it is simply immoral. To 'invade your own privacy' like that is to show no class or self-respect.

If, on the other hand, a person feels someone they know is being misrepresented in the media, by having false stories or whatever published about them, then I guess it could be the decent thing to try to put that right. There is always the danger of the press twisting whatever you say, quoting you out of context, etc - but speaking out GENUINELY on a friend's behalf could be the right thing to do.

But - if you're going to defend a friend, make sure you ARE defending them.....

Accept NO MONEY from the media - that is selling them.

Just my thoughts.

StarSparkle

I think defending them is right but they may wish you to defend them by saying nothing.

I agree with the accepting no money they know you are being truthful to some degree. by just doing that.

I agree with what's been said on here. I think your intentions are totally admirable, but she won't see the benefit of what you're doing, and it may end up making things worse - remember, they want gossip to sell papers.


This may seem mean Gaz and I swear it's not meant that way, but do you not think she is playing the game in a way she thinks will assist her for longer? I think she's playing the part that you want to defend her against. And she's doing alright if the bookies figures are anything to go by.

Bide your time and see what happens? She may have thought this out for hours beforehand. :)

Originally posted by rosie
I think defending them is right but they may wish you to defend them by saying nothing.


That's a good point, Rosie.

It's a difficult one though - if you wait (maybe for a couple of months) to check with your friend first, then perhaps by then the moment to speak up for them has passed? The public and media have moved on?

I don't know....

StarSparkle :(

Reporters have a good habit of listening to what you say and making up something else.

Never trust them.

If I was that close to someone then I would wait to ask them if they needed me to speak to the 'papers' or if they were going to make a statement themselves..

I would never kiss and tell.. I think quite a lot of people in their lifetime, may have a little fling or friendship with someone who is in the papers for example sports players, tv contestants (..cringing at cillas blind date memories!....) or famous actors/tresses, presenters on tv..etc. I would not kiss and tell ever.. ok, it's fun to tell your friends and stuff, but I wouldn't tell the 'papers.

It all depends on how much that person means to you and your self respect means to yourself?! IMO

I'm with Msbehavin on this poll. Depends on the situation.

If it was a longish term relationship that broke up bitterly and my famous ex ( Ooooh dreamland) were giving the media their version and I didn't quite agree with it.... I think I would be tempted to put my verison forward. But the twisting of stories in papers would concern me.

And it wouldn't be a good idea if I had skeletons in my own cupboard if it was a really famous person or one with a clever media advisor cos' it could backfire - very nasty.

I wouldn't EVER initiate talking to the papers BUT I would respond if something was initially said about ME!

Generally, tabloid papers are only interested in 'negative' 'enhanced' or 'untrue (but will sell more papers than the court action or a printed apology will cost)' articles... !!

If you have something good to say about someone they won't be interested or will twist your words to still give a negative slant...!!

If you really want to say something you maybe better off trying to secure a TV or Radio interview - at least no-one can edit your mouth...:thumbsup:

Remember newspapers are only interested in this sort of rubbish because it sells.

They are likely to have very little respect for a) you and b) the truth. Depending on how famous the other person is its pretty unlikely that you are going to be paid an amount of money that is going to set you up for life, and I would have thought you'd have very little respect for yourself afterwards (unless they treated you really badly)

Thanks for all the responses/votes, I'll take into account what you've all said.

Regards,
GazB

I know who you're on about... do da, do da! :lol:

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Originally posted by venger
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I'll keep that in mind :thumbsup:

I'd never stoop so low!

I have morals.

i couldn't/ wouldn't do such a thing to someone who was suposedly my friend.

ymmv, however. that's just me....

Also, i think my distrustful view of the media is coloured by an incident that happened when my uncle was killed in an awful bike accident, when I was young.

The paper printed the news of his death, including his name and address, before the police had even informed us of the accident.

We were away on holiday at the time, and we had to rush back to Sheffield, to deal with this thing.

We arrived home, late that night to discover that some ****** had already burgled my uncle's house, and ransacked it of everything/ anything of value. you know... just to add to the distress that we were already in. (bless them, and the most fervent hopes for their eternal rottage in that hot place...)

PT

Originally posted by Plain Talker
I'd never stoop so low!

I have morals.

i couldn't/ wouldn't do such a thing to someone who was suposedly my friend.

ymmv, however. that's just me....

Also, i think my distrustful view of the media is coloured by an incident that happened when my uncle was killed in an awful bike accident, when I was young.

The paper printed the news of his death, including his name and address, before the police had even informed us of the accident.

We were away on holiday at the time, and we had to rush back to Sheffield, to deal with this thing.

We arrived home, late that night to discover that some ****** had already burgled my uncle's house, and ransacked it of everything/ anything of value. you know... just to add to the distress that we were already in. (bless them, and the most fervent hopes for their eternal rottage in that hot place...)

PT

That's awful PT.

*off topic*

In some citites here, usually where the real estate market is very expensive, and homes are hard to find, some people and realtors will use the obituaries to find houses, apartments etc.

My grandmother lived in the same apartment on Sutter St. in San Francisco for 45 years. Within hours of her obituary being published in the papers, we were getting calls inquiring about selling the place. Upsetting, but not as bad as what happened with your uncle. That's really low.

And would I sell dirt about a celebrity? That would depend on the celebrity. I've seen all kinds of stories come out about how certain famous persons have treated underlings like cr*p.

I've also seen stories about how some stars treat their employees and those below them really well. I read somewhere that Kirk Douglas paid for the children of his maid to attend college, and bought his assistants new cars.

I also read that Elizabeth Taylor paid for expensive medical care for the son of a cameraman on one her films. She didn't want it to come out, but she had visited the child in the hospital.

:) Sierra

Originally posted by ddolly
I found myself in this situation, where someone famous sexually harrassed me for a few weeks. Although it was pretty tempting to sell it all to the papers I thought I'd just end up looking like some sad slapper. You just know the News of the World would want to dress you up in some frilly knickers as part of the deal.. brrrrrrrrrrr..

There must be literally thousands of women in your situation. Who all breathed a sigh of relief when Adam Faith finally shuffled off this mortal coil. And there'll be another wave of silent thanks when Bill Clinton does the same. Amen

I think I'd better keep quiet about that night i spent with Emma Bunton and Jennifer lopez!:hihi:

You should certainly keep quiet about the former. Unless you mean Emma Bunton who works at the chippy on the corner. She's gorgeous.

I don't think anyone needs to kiss and tell, they just need to look at their posts on here (that is of course if they are a member of the sheffield forum :P )

Go to the www.mirror.co.uk and you'll find a list of juicy one liners that Lesley1985 from the Big Brother 6 house posted on here!

Having done job I did for 12 years I think I could write a book on the indiscretions of the nearly famous (or at least I could if I could spell it).

I can think of one person in particular who is portrayed as a loving family man who I recall coming back one night with a lady who didn't appear to be his wife ......