ello ello :)

me and some friends were discussing a concept recently of character trait recognition in others.

apparently, we strongly react to qualities in others, that we ourselves possess...

ie 'if you spot it, you got it'.

its not the first time i've come across this theory.

indeed i've noticed it a lot in recent debates on the forum, in myself and in others.....

anyone else?

sol
:)

Care to expand on this theory ?:huh:

Care to expand on this theory ?:huh:

just for you pattie....:)

one example (there are numerous)

"all he does is whinge and moan".....says someone who just whinges and moans

do you see?

I think Ive got it !:thumbsup:

Err, or have I ? :huh:

just for you pattie....:)

one example (there are numerous)

"all he does is whinge and moan".....says someone who just whinges and moans

do you see?

Go on - Make it more obvious :hihi:

I think he should give us more examples.

I dont get it.

Solomon1 is clearly an idiot.....

:D

ok.....if people get really enraged about something on tv for example......"oh that wossy he's so arrogant and pompous!"

means that they themselves are arrogant and pompous

Solomon1 is clearly an idiot.....

which i would disagree with :)

but indicates that sidbobs certainly is :D

So if I call someone a pig, I am one too???

:D

ok.....if people get really enraged about something on tv for example......"oh that wossy he's so arrogant and pompous!"

means that they themselves are arrogant and pompous

Well I DO think hes arrogant and Pompous but Im not !

If I call a male a homosexual, I am one too? Even though I am female. :)

So if I call someone a pig, I am one too???

no hun :)

...if someone thinks they see traits in you that are hog-like....then they must possess hog-like traits :)

which i would disagree with :)

but indicates that sidbobs certainly is :D

:hihi::hihi: ah ha, so i did get it :thumbsup:
..jus checkin

Well I DO think hes arrogant and Pompous but Im not !

if you think he's arrogant and pompous.....

then my dear, with this theory....

you are too :)

(in order for you to recognise the behaviour, you must have it)

no hun :)

...if someone thinks they see traits in you that are hog-like....then they must possess hog-like traits :)

ok :)

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if you think he's arrogant and pompous.....

then my dear, with this theory....

you are too :)

(in order for you to recognise the behaviour, you must have it)

Therefor its a theory I dont go along with isnt it ?:hihi::hihi:

I think Solomon1 is intelligent, witty and very good looking! :thumbsup:

Therefor its a theory I dont go along with isnt it ?:hihi::hihi:

:)..........

I think Solomon1 is intelligent, witty and very good looking! :thumbsup:

:hihi:

Good one. :thumbsup:

I think Sol, is good looking, sexy and intelligent (thats got ya):hihi::hihi:

I think Solomon1 is intelligent, witty and very good looking! :thumbsup:

you are right of course :D

and the theory indeed works for all traits ms knee....

if you see qualities that you admire in someone else.....you possess them too or have the capabilities for them.

:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

You're clearly all delusional.


:D

I think Solomon1 is intelligent, witty and very good looking! :thumbsup:

should have gone to special school , had a sense of humour bypass and could get a job haunting houses .
you harmoknee , should have gone to specsavers .

should have gone to special school , had a sense of humour bypass and could get a job haunting houses .
you harmoknee , should have gone to specsavers .

Thats what Gordon Ramsey said to his son when he failed to score a goal in a football match that Ramsey was watching him play!

i think you're all amazing :D

PMSL @ This thread! :lol:

You're all full of nonsense.

Sados.

You're all full of nonsense.

Sados.

which makes you a saddo full of nonsense met :)

which makes you a saddo full of nonsense met :)

You don't have a clue what you're talking about. :)

You don't have a clue what you're talking about. :)

which indicates that you generally are clueless met :)

which indicates that you generally are clueless met :)

That's very perceptive of you. I bet you're a closet stunner.

That's very perceptive of you

thanks met :)

which means that you have the ability of perception also

thanks met :)

which means that you have the ability of perception also

Yes, but I'm not as clever as you.

I'm confused and I think I might go back to bed. :hihi:

I always thought "Wildcat" was a racist pig....:hihi::hihi:

Yes, but I'm not as clever as you.

but the fact that you have recognised my cleverness, means that you have the capability of cleverness

I always notice smelly people, I must REALLY stink!

I always notice smelly people, I must REALLY stink!

no hun, you notice smelly people because they smell :)

scent is not a character trait

I always thought "Wildcat" was a racist pig....:hihi::hihi:

Wildcat always likes to explain other people's posts to other people...so that they can see the other person's way of thinking, and not soley Wildcat's.

no hun, you notice smelly people because they smell :)

scent is not a character trait

God yer a smooth talker...:suspect:

God yer a smooth talker...:suspect:

you smooth talker you :D

you smooth talker you :D

Are we gonna bat this one back n fourth all day? :heyhey:

I seem to always see the good in people before the bad. What does this mean, because I don't so much see the good in myself?

I seem to always see the good in people before the bad

which would indicate that you're an optimist fff (well done)


What does this mean, because I don't so much see the good in myself?

this means that you are an optimist, but could do with boosting your confidence a bit.

do you do any exercise love? :)

ello ello :)

me and some friends were discussing a concept recently of character trait recognition in others.

apparently, we strongly react to qualities in others, that we ourselves possess...

ie 'if you spot it, you got it'.

its not the first time i've come across this theory.

indeed i've noticed it a lot in recent debates on the forum, in myself and in others.....

anyone else?

sol
:)

There is a theory that says that you things that you like and dislike others are the same things that you like and dislike with yourself.

It is a technique that is used in job interviews, when they ask you to identify people you admire and people you dislike; and then they get you to discus why you admire and dislike these people. In doing this the theory suggests that you are far more likely to reveal your go and bad points rather than just tell the interviewer what they want to hear.

There is a theory that says that you things that you like and dislike others are the same things that you like and dislike with yourself.

It is a technique that is used in job interviews, when they ask you to identify people you admire and people you dislike; and then they get you to discus why you admire and dislike these people. In doing this the theory suggests that you are far more likely to reveal your go and bad points rather than just tell the interviewer what they want to hear.

makes sense :)

bit sneaky though....

This is the underlying mechanism of scapegoating, whereby a person or group of people attribute negative traits on something Other, rather than acknowledge the existence of those traits within their own character/culture. This is why, when you strip away the superficial differences, opposing enemies often resemble each other.

The remedy for this tendency is to cultivate the ability to honestly look at your own faults. Everyone has blind spots, and it's those blind spots that end up directed outward. Everyone does it to a degree, but it's highly variable, and depends on the ability a person has to examine themselves honestly. In this country it is not considered a valued skill, more's the pity. The more you understand the dynamics of scapegoating, the more such impulses are defused, generally speaking.

To say that any comment about another person is self-description, though, is simplistic and unhelpful.

This is the underlying mechanism of scapegoating, whereby a person or group of people attribute negative traits on something Other, rather than acknowledge the existence of those traits within their own character/culture. This is why, when you strip away the superficial differences, opposing enemies often resemble each other.

The remedy for this tendency is to cultivate the ability to honestly look at your own faults. Everyone has blind spots, and it's those blind spots that end up directed outward. Everyone does it to a degree, but it's highly variable, and depends on the ability a person has to examine themselves honestly. In this country it is not considered a valued skill, more's the pity. The more you understand the dynamics of scapegoating, the more such impulses are defused, generally speaking.

To say that any comment about another person is self-description, though, is simplistic and unhelpful.

I remember you once said to another forummer, on a different subject (a long time ago) that 'the world only looks the way it does because it's been filtered through the prism of your own self-image.'

I don't know why but it stuck in my head. I find if someone does or says something that makes me angry, it's usually because they have hurt my feelings, but if I feel dislike for someone without rational explanation, it's because I'm afraid that I am like them.

I remember you once said to another forummer, on a different subject (a long time ago) that 'the world only looks the way it does because it's been filtered through the prism of your own self-image.'

I don't know why but it stuck in my head. I find if someone does or says something that makes me angry, it's usually because they have hurt my feelings, but if I feel dislike for someone without rational explanation, it's because I'm afraid that I am like them.

Probably because the phrase is both sheer poetry and is the absolute truth :)

StarSparkle

There's something very familiar about the last page in this thread. :suspect:

but the fact that you have recognised my cleverness, means that you have the capability of cleverness

My history of decision-making would indicate otherwise.

Good thread topic though anyway, I have to say.

My history of decision-making would indicate otherwise

i bet its in there somewhere...have a look :hihi:


Good thread topic though anyway, I have to say.

why thank you kind sir :)

i bet its in there somewhere...have a look :hihi:



why thank you kind sir :)

Thanks, but I'm a "miss"fit. :)

Thanks, but I'm a "miss"fit. :)

ok miss met :)