Maybe they cheated with your girlfirend/wife/boyfriend/husband?

Maybe they wormed their way in to your life, infiltrated your group of friends, bad-mouthed you and stole them off you?

Maybe they turned out to be addicted to something you didn't agree with and you realised your friendship wasn't meant to be?

I've experienced all of the above. Anyone else realised friends that just weren't meant to be? Perhaps the reasons above resonate, or maybe there are more out there?

(P.S. For the linguists out there, I'm aware I am ending five imperative sentences with a question mark, and therefore being grammatically incorrect...)

Originally posted by Pilon
Maybe they cheated with your girlfirend/wife/boyfriend/husband?

Maybe they wormed their way in to your life, infiltrated your group of friends, bad-mouthed you and stole them off you?

Maybe they turned out to be addicted to something you didn't agree with and you realised your friendship wasn't meant to be?

I've experienced all of the above. Anyone else realised friends that just weren't meant to be?

I believe that your friends are a reflection of yourself.

Think about the language you have used here... 'wormed their way', 'infiltrated', 'stole'. Do you really believe that you meet people who are motivated to behave in such ways? Or are you simplifying much more complex behaviours and relationships?

Perhaps we would do better to look at our own failings first before choosing to condem the behaviour of those we know.



(Perhaps I should be in bed)!

I guess I am extremely fortunate in that I have some of the most wonderful friends anyone could ever have.

Friends are people that come into our lives, some stay for just a short while, others for longer and some are here for the duration.

I've had some people who I thought were friends who I later found out were not really what I would call friends. Sometimes you find this out sooner rather than later.

I think in order to have really good friends then you also need to be a good friend. Me and my group of friends would (and have done) anything for each other. We know we each have our strengths and weaknesses and accept that. To be a good friend you accept the strengths and weaknesses and build a strong and trusting relationship.

Interesting Deavon.

When you've been hurt it's very easy to build the person up in your head to be somekind of evil genious who plotted to destroy you from the start. I think most people just mess relationships up because they have their own insecurities that they are trying to compensate for.

I took a friend in, as a lodger, and they repaid me by stealing my Access Card, and racking up thousands of pounds in debt!

PT

a wise man (on the demotivational poster site) quoth:


The only consistent feature in all your failed relationships is you

Originally posted by Phanerothyme
a wise man (on the demotivational poster site) quoth: Quote: The only consistent feature in all your failed relationships is you


Thanks a bunch!

Actually, I was a little bit drunk last night and had an argument with one of my mates. I was just venting a little steam, that's all.

Originally posted by Deavon
I believe that your friends are a reflection of yourself

Can't agree 100% on that score..

I've never sunk to the level that some of my so called 'friends' have over the years, things that happened is stuff I didn't want to be a part of and as usual if you don't follow a trend you get ridiculed for it. So the people I called friends back in those days are no where near a reflection of me :)

Up until a couple of weeks back I had a friend I'd do anything for, sadly I think she took advantage of that and I was just there as a matter of convinience, a :nono: in my book.

Originally posted by Pilon
Thanks a bunch!

Actually, I was a little bit drunk last night and had an argument with one of my mates. I was just venting a little steam, that's all.

I hope I didn't offend you with my 4.30 am (too much vodka, not enough sleep) posting!

Maybe they cheated with your girlfirend/wife/boyfriend/husband?

Maybe they wormed their way in to your life, infiltrated your group of friends, bad-mouthed you and stole them off you?

Maybe they turned out to be addicted to something you didn't agree with and you realised your friendship wasn't meant to be?

I've experienced all of the above. Anyone else realised friends that just weren't meant to be? Perhaps the reasons above resonate, or maybe there are more out there?

(P.S. For the linguists out there, I'm aware I am ending five imperative sentences with a question mark, and therefore being grammatically incorrect...)

I must say I've been fortunate never to have had friends like that.

I've always had good friends and when I've needed them these past few months, they've really been there for me.

remember to keep your enemies close, that way you can keep an eye on them. sometimes you have to get along with people you don't like.

I'm fortunate in having a small number of very good friends...

I think there is sometimes a danger of perceving friendship where none exists...amongst the wider circle of aquantences etc.