:( So many people have said they can't come to our wedding, we've gone from 50 guests to 30 - and ten of them are children!
I'm so upset, feels like we may as well have gone to Gretna Green like I initially wanted. I realise its a weekday, and that I didn't send the invites out until a month before as the venue went bust and I had to find another, so didn't send the invites out until I found a new venue.
Argh 2 weeks to go and I just want to hide till its all over now :(

hey! keep your chin up!

weddings are fraught with politics, and yeah, you're right, getting the invites out is a critical point in the organisation, but remember what this is all about :)

so long as there's you, your husband to be, and the person marrying you, what else really matters? it's all trappings

Enjoy your day with the people who WANT to be with you, and be gracious about those who say they can't make it ;) don't wasted time worrying about non-guests, look after those who are prepared to spend your day with you so close to Christmas :thumbsup:

I agree with what strix said, enjoy your day with your new husband and the people who would not miss it for the world and do not worry about the people who cannot make it.

I've just read this back and realised I sound like a right spoilt brat lol. Its just that its taken me ages to find a decent sized venue...and we don't need it! I could have had a really small intimate venue and it would have felt nice....now we're all going to be at opposite ends of the room :roll:
Ah well....roll on the honeymoon :heyhey:

I am sure that you will have a fantastic day anyway! at least you know that the people coming really really want to be there, and want to be there for you and your husband to be!

You don't sound like a spoiled brat at all hun, just someone who has had a lot of stress recently and is disappointed that there will not be as many people to share your day as you hoped.

Like you say though, there is always the honeymoon !!

I've just read this back and realised I sound like a right spoilt brat lol. Its just that its taken me ages to find a decent sized venue...and we don't need it! I could have had a really small intimate venue and it would have felt nice....now we're all going to be at opposite ends of the room :roll:
Ah well....roll on the honeymoon :heyhey:I've got the t-shirt if you want to borrow it :P

with a guest list of 120, and a cousin who's wedding was pandemonium the year before due to EVERYBODY turning up against ALL the stats and forumulae the powers that be suggest you should apply, we HAD to find a venue to accommodate everybody... and the dog HAD to come too, so that limited us too

most places in Scotland accommodate 90-100, so finding somewhere to host the whole wedding from stag/hen meal, through to the big party, and honeymoon, with guests arriving and staying for up to a week, was really a challenge

We'd considered that not everybody would want to stay in the hotel, so searched for places with alternative accommodation (hence the visit to Crieff Hydro with several options for accommodation on site), and wanted plenty of space for people to kick back and catch up having not seen each other for years in some cases

Whilst pretty much all of my family made it, our numbers did drop below the hundred mark. The hotel offered to move us into a smaller room as people can be intimidated by large open dance floors (not my family :D ), and when we refused they wanted to spread the tables out to take up floor space. We insisted the tables go at normal spacing, but floorspace be left at the back for the kids to play, as that's what ALWAYS happens at weddings :D (and we weren't wrong :P )

Everybody who went had a fantastic time, and although one group in particular moaned about how far they had to travel, on the morning after my uncle said 'You think you're being asked to just another wedding, but...'. He didn't finish that sentence, he just looked gobsmaked :D

Enjoy your day, and the people who have just shown you how important you are to them... and make sure everybody in the photo's looks so happy that anybody who didn't go regrets it :P

When we got married there was us and two witnesses - fair enough it was on the other side of the world, but people didn't matter to us. It doesnt matter how many people come along. It's not a popularity contest. It's a personal day with you and your partner. You need to enjoy the ceremony and make the hours which follow afterwards special to you both.

All our guests came to the day except two [chicken pox]but I was dissapointed before the wedding when some of the evening guests said they weren't coming because it was a bit out of the way [lame excuse]so about 16 guests didn't come . Our guests filled the venue but you don't care on the day you are having such a great time with the people there you dont notice, infact a couple of friends brought along a friend of theirs and an aunt brought her brother and sister in law which we didnt mind we catered for loads anyway .Your day will be fab it goes really quickly and the people who mean the most to you both will be there :)

don't worry, i think 20 adults and 10 kids sounds like enough people for a really amazing celebration. Usually at weddings there isn't an opportunity for the bride and groom to welcome,talk, and party with all their guests. And you can all bust some moves on the dancefloor if you have more space.
you will have a lovely day

Thanks everyone! I've had MORE people cancel on me today (:mad:) but I've had a good long discussion with my wedding planner and caterer and we've managed to sort something out that is going to be AMAZING, and its only possible because there are fewer guests! So all is good!! :D

sounds like it'll all come right in the wash then :D

I suppose the thing with december weddings is to warn everybody plenty in advance, and get the invites out early (I still recon the reason we had so few people from one group turn up is coz we didn't spend time 'priming' them with the concept of travelling all that way and what they'd be doing when they got there, so when the invite arrived it was too much and something of a shock!)

Hi,

I know just how you feel, wev'e had a few guests for the day say they cant make it and we sent them out in october but what has upset me the most is that out of about 17 people from work only one is coming!! I've just decidied that if they cant come i'll still be happy and probabaly wont even miss them!!

Not long now for either of us til the big day, you got everything else sorted? I had my first dress fitting last week and it was too big!!! Think they measured me wrong to start with!

Hope your not too stressed and take care

I think 'most' things are sorted :hihi:
The invites were late going out, but that was because I had to wait until I found a new reception venue, nothing I could do about it really. Oh well.

I've just read this back and realised I sound like a right spoilt brat lol. Its just that its taken me ages to find a decent sized venue...and we don't need it! I could have had a really small intimate venue and it would have felt nice....now we're all going to be at opposite ends of the room :roll:
Ah well....roll on the honeymoon :heyhey:

Don't you dare feel lke a spoilt brat! This is supposed to be the best day of your life. You have invested a lot of time, energy and cash to make sure it is the best day. I'm sure that you deserve the perfect day and I hope that it is.

I am intrigued as to what the new plan is.....!

Don't you dare feel lke a spoilt brat! This is supposed to be the best day of your life. You have invested a lot of time, energy and cash to make sure it is the best day. I'm sure that you deserve the perfect day and I hope that it is.

I am intrigued as to what the new plan is.....!

lol the reception is at the same place but we're using a smaller room for the meal, its a stunning room. We're then having the evening do in the bigger room.

To be honest as long as your family is there forget the rest.

We invited 120 people to our wedding reception, 109 replied they were coming and 30 people turned up that was just my close family.

So it doesn matter who's there the people who matter will be

lol the reception is at the same place but we're using a smaller room for the meal, its a stunning room. We're then having the evening do in the bigger room.That sounds lovely more intimate for your day guests.Where is the venue Honeyb35? I loved every minuite of my wedding day everything was perfect and so laid back we forgot to give flowers to moms [they were still in the back room the day after lol],send the guest book around, and cut the cake.You will have a lovely day and all the things that you are worrying over will be forgotten:)

I can't believe people not turning up. We went to a reception on Satruday,it was a large marquee catering for about 80.40 turned up. We were rattling around int the marquee,the DJ had a hell of a job to get 40 cold people to add some atmosphere.
I was a great night but so disappointing for the Bride and Groom.

btw you could always invite us forummers along.

btw you could always invite us forummers along.Cheeky ,I love weddings I always go when invited.

That sounds lovely more intimate for your day guests.Where is the venue Honeyb35? I loved every minuite of my wedding day everything was perfect and so laid back we forgot to give flowers to moms [they were still in the back room the day after lol],send the guest book around, and cut the cake.You will have a lovely day and all the things that you are worrying over will be forgotten:)

Its at the Sheffield Cathedral, the gallery room for the meal (stained glass window backdrop!) and the domino hall for the evening do.

Cheeky ,I love weddings I always go when invited.

:hihi: a forum meet! LOL

It sounds gorgeous Honeyb35.Your day will be fab enjoy.:)

I got married in August. I had 75-80 there in the day for the sit down meal. It would have been 85ish but a few people cancelled with work commitments etc. I also invited some people to bring a guest and they said Oh thanks yeah we will but didn't and so the day before I got 2 extra people to go rather than the money we'd paid for the meal and drinks go to waste.
Also for the evening reception I arranged for a coach to pick about 40 people up at our local pub to fetch them to the reception as it was quite a way away. And guess what 15 people got on it! Would have been cheaper to pay for a mini bus but no one had the decency to let us know they wern't coming. I felt a bit mad to be honest as we'd been good enough to pay for the coach for everyone and they said they were definatley coming then on the night they let us down. But I couldn't let it spoil our day.

OMG you're getting me stressed with these stories! :o
I would go ballistic if people did that to me on our wedding! :rant: how unbelieveably rude!
Fair enough if people can't go, (like in Honeyb35's case - on a Friday and with less than a month's notice, it would be difficult for many people to get the time off work) - but to say you're going then drop out - ooh I would be so mad! How rude, I would never dream of doing that to anyone else.
We are having enough of a stress trying to whittle our guestlist for they daytime down, as we are 12 people over capacity, and everyone we try to cross off leads to a big discussion and guilt about offending them... so if it comes to the day and there are empty seats that would be so annoying :(

God reading this i am so glad at the last minute we cancelled our wedding in england and did it in jamaica (which we had initially just booked for the honeymoon). There was just me, my husband, my dad and stepmum (they only stayed the first week though) it was fabulous!

Its at the Sheffield Cathedral, the gallery room for the meal (stained glass window backdrop!) and the domino hall for the evening do.

That sounds great - certainly different!

Hope all goes well!

this was another reason for us travelling as far away as Scotland - anybody who said they were going couldn't just say they were, they had to book hotels and stuff, so there was more commitment from first off

Of course we had one of my cousins try to book herself and boyfriend in under a 'married' name when she's not, so she nearly didn't get our hard negotiated wedding rate :rolleyes:

Oooooh this time next week......:D

just to say i'm thinking about you and hope it all runs smoothly on saturday. Have a wonderful day!! Mine soon!!

just to say i'm thinking about you and hope it all runs smoothly on saturday. Have a wonderful day!! Mine soon!!

Its Friday, but thanks!!

:o heavy snow expected Thursday - I'm doomed I tell ya, doomed!!

Do you have insurance for this event honeyb?

If the worst happens, can you change the date?

:o heavy snow expected Thursday - I'm doomed I tell ya, doomed!!
It will look great for photo's so christmassy.Good luck I will be thinking of you:)

Can we all have standby tickets? :D

:hihi: yay I'd love a forum wedding!
We have insurance - but I'm NOT cancelling! Even if its just me and Steve, in our wellies, travelling in his 4x4 over the snow lol.

Now those pics would be worth seeing!!

It'd certainly be an event to remember!!

I ordered snow for my wedding, but the form obviously got lost in the post!

Good luck honeyb- I'm sure it will be a lovely day, no matter whether everyone makes it or it becomes a cute and bijou miniature wedding ;)

:o heavy snow expected Thursday - I'm doomed I tell ya, doomed!!I don't think you need to worry - the so-called "blizzard" has been a bit of an anti climax! I've come to work all togged up in enough gear to suvive the arctic, just incase I had to walk home, and its just been drizzling rain all day! :roll:
Lets hope you get a little bit of snow tomorrow just for photographic effect... after the guests have all arrived safely! :hihi:

Good luck tomorrow! xxx

Good luck have a fab day xxx

Have an amazing day honeyb, good luck xx

Have a super time!

Hi,
so how did it all go? To plan i hope. Hope you had an amazing day.
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