Hi list,
I am fairly new to the list but wanted to share this moment.
I have finally reached goal weight.<vbg>
I have lost nearly five stones since January.
Life is good again and i am sooooo happy.
I must be crazy for posting this but just wanted to share this.
Anybody else ever felt like that and what was your moment that changed your life?:thumbsup:

How did you do it!?
Chloé xx

Well done, but don't strive to hard to reach a 'goal weight' determined by anyone.

It's you and whats inside that counts and it doesn't matter if you're as thin as a rake or as fat as a house.

Is that you in your avatar?

the thing that changed my life so much was my mum and dad splitting up :(

i sort of became more independent and now have amazing amounts of wasted freedom!! :(

Hi
Yep I agree with you Alchresearch. It's what's on the inside that counts not what size you are. My weight made me unhappy for years.
I decided to go for it and gave myself a year to lose the weight. I just wish I had done it years ago. Only problem is I need a lottery win to go clothes shopping.Anyone know next weeks numbers<VBG>. Alchresearch yep that is me in the Avatar. It looks like I have a tattoo in fact that's a glass of Alco. I was celebrating my birthday:). Well That's my Excuse. The other thing that will change my life soon is I am going to see Meat Loaf in concert. This was a pressy I will be a few rows away from him, swoon:banana: Yep life is good and for the living. Chloe I go to weight watchers, brilliant. I eat more now than I ever did.I just ate the wrong things.Best moment was filling sacks with clothes for charity.Hence the empty wardrobe. :bigsmile:
Cher

Hi Fletch,
I tried to add this on my last posting. I went over the limit with my text. Hmmm what are we women like, I ask you, no stopping me when I start but Sheffield Forum did. :shocked:
I can not imagine anything more life changing than your parents splitting up.I don't know how you coped with such a big life
change.
Life sometimes throws allsorts at us but I like to think that everything is fated and has a reason.From me a big hug and very glad to know that under eighteens are amongst us. Mmmmmm now that's one thing I am envious of. Sixteen in my head though, hope that will do.:smile:
Cher

Most of my life changing experiences have occurred through thought on an event.

Like realising that my mother dumping me and my sister on a neighbours doorstep was the best thing she ever did for me.
Realising that allowing this women into mine and my families life was the worse mistake ever.

Finding the power within myself to get rid.

Completing my initiation.

Moon

Moon you must be very strong.

I have a bad relationship with my "mother". Unfortunatly for me she wouldn't give me up, my grandma tried to get my mum to give her custody but it didn't happen and as my grandparents were old the courts wouldn't have granted custody.

I wish I was strong enough to get my mother completely out of my life but for some mad reason I feel guilty for not wanting her and so I put up with the strained relationship we have.

I sort of avoid calling her, try not to go and see her etc..but then my guilt gets the better of me and I'll go and visit even though after 5 minutes of being in her company I want to throttle her.

She has never been a mother to me, well not in the way a mother should be. I view her simply as the woman who gave birth to me and who has been a constant source of upset and rejection in my life.

Maybe one day I'll find the strength to tell her where to go.

I know what you mean Steelblade, now your an adul you should move on in life and if that means without your Mother then so be it.
A bad Mother does not deserve your company just for the sake of you being her Son.

If you feel friction when she is in your company then you may never bond properly as most Mother and Son do because of the past.

You worry me when you say you feel like throttling her, i hope thats just an expression and not a threat.

Maybe you should not see her for about 6 months and by then she will realise what she has missed and you both will feel like seeing each other and have time for her.
Try it and see if you feel better for it,maybe your mum will not like it but if it improves your relationship then it is well worth it.

Cycle, I'm a girl! :D

I'm not really going to throttle her, she just makes me very angry.

I don't know about strong. :confused:
I let her into my life after sixteen years of not having a phonecall, birthday card or letter and she dumps on me again - on that occasion though it affected my son (see post on babies and post natal depression)

There is no way anyone will get away with hurting my family.

My grandparents are the only parents I have ever known and my technical parents just aren't worth my time or effort. :D Took a long time learning that but once I had it took all of two seconds to get rid of the pain in the rear!

Moon

I just meant strong to break all contact, perhaps it's just me being daft but I find it very difficult.

I sort of feel ashamed about the way I feel about her because other people think I'm being horrible and that surely she isn't that bad. I mean she hasn't beat me or not fed me for weeks on end or anything but I do feel that she hasn't always had my best interests at heart and has always been very selfish with her love.

She will do anything for the men in her life but nothing for me. She takes an interest in me when shes single or when she wants something.

I know what you mean about your grandparents, my grandma has always been there for me, as far as I'm concerned she is my mum because of the way she has looked after me. If I had a problem she would help me, if I needed a roof over my head she will take me in. My real mum probably would but we'd have to talk about rent money first!!! :D

I really need to get some b@lls and tell her to go away in the nicest possible way! :D

I gave up worrying about what other people think along time ago ;) .

Other people can influence your decisions but there is no guarantee that they will be around you if they go belly up - and it is you who has to live with your decisions - not them.

Moon