my normally well behaved son aged 9 as just deliberatly whilst in a temper smashed his fairly new gameboy advance,he is totally devasted ,and of course he was scolded at the time,but do you think i should leave it be now or punish him some other way,not violently of course.

Well it was his gameboy.Just dont buy him another .He will learn not to do it again.;)

Originally posted by deelightful3
my normally well behaved son aged 9 as just deliberatly whilst in a temper smashed his fairly new gameboy advance,he is totally devasted ,and of course he was scolded at the time,but do you think i should leave it be now or punish him some other way,not violently of course.

Well I certainly would not buy him another until he has done enough to earn one.

Ideas that spring to mind are:-
Pairing the socks up.
Washing the pots.
And tidying his bedroom up which of course would devastate a young boy even more.

If this doesn't work then sweeping the chimney or cleaning the toilet with a toothbrush seems to have a positive result.

:thumbsup:

Hi deelightful3,

Every action should have a consequence and his is that he's broken his gameboy advance so won't be able to play with it.
He's been told off, is upset about it so I'd suggest he starts saving up to buy a new one :hihi:

You say he's normally well behaved and we all have our ' paddies' from time to time and have to learn by them so he probably won't do that again in a hurry.

My daughter, also 9, has her fair share of tantrums, part of the learning process they say. :rolleyes:

Kids, don't ya just luv 'em?

You are a slave driver:rolleyes:

i think as long as you dont buy him a new one then no dont punish him,
btw-to everyone who looking for punishments,my mate took all the fuses out her kids tv/playstation/video and removed all batterys as punishment and made him earn them back by doing chores,,, worked a treat
:clap: :clap:

Cat o' nine tails and a night on the scullery floor should teach him.

Originally posted by msbehavin
Cat o' nine tails and a night on the scullery floor should teach him.

She's an evil mother....:twisted:

I wouldn't do anything...well maybe laugh and hope he doesn't grab my lladro next time...:D

Buy him a season ticket for Sheffield utd that will teach him not to do it again, but you must make him stay till the end of each match, to really make him suffer!

Originally posted by eguin
Buy him a season ticket for Sheffield utd that will teach him not to do it again, but you must make him stay till the end of each match, to really make him suffer!

But that would be Christmas in my house....:hihi:

up the blades...:thumbsup:

Nothing further need be done. You have expressed your displeasure at his actions, and he is now without a gameboy.

As soon as he starts asking for another one though.......make him earn it by doing chores. Put a price on each chore, and let him keep record of how much he has 'earned'. If he has stickability, you might want to 'top up' the amount to buy a replacement gameboy. If he doesn't show willingness, but moans about having another one - remind him that he smashed it up, and if he wants another one, either he buys it himself or shows willingness to earn the right to responsible ownership.

Originally posted by savbaby
btw-to everyone who looking for punishments,my mate took all the fuses out her kids tv/playstation/video and removed all batterys as punishment and made him earn them back by doing chores,,, worked a treat
:clap: :clap:

LOL I like that one I'll have to remember that for the next time my 15 year old son runs a bill up on something or flatly refuses to get off his bum and help on the few occasions when asked.

oh wow, he broke his gameboy on the day they announce the new 1 Info (
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/technology/4557443.stm
)
If he wasnt so young i'd have said he was up to something :hihi:

If I broke my DS I would be so gutted... I feel bad for the lad, I dont think anymore punishment is needed other than earning his new 1. I wouldnt kno what to do with myself without my games.

TBH you can get a lot of 2nd hand gameboys now cheap in every game store as ppl are trading them in for the new consoles.

BTW :partyhat: Happy Birthday!!! :partyhat:

Hope the tantrum didn't spoil it :wink:

Originally posted by Craigy
oh wow, he broke his gameboy on the day they announce the new 1 Info (
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/technology/4557443.stm
)
If he wasnt so young i'd have said he was up to something :hihi:

If I broke my DS I would be so gutted... I feel bad for the lad, I dont think anymore punishment is needed other than earning his new 1. I wouldnt kno what to do with myself without my games.

TBH you can get a lot of 2nd hand gameboys now cheap in every game store as ppl are trading them in for the new consoles.

Best advice found here IMO.

Horay for me! :clap: :clap: :clap:


cheers venger

Awww poor lad! But gotta agree with everyone else - he broke it, now he faces the consequence of his actions - I'm a strong believer (as those who know me will agree) in young people learning that every action has a consequence. I think him not having a game boy and realising that it's his own fault is punishment enough.

Just DO NOT relent and buy him another! Get him out in the garden and on some walks to tire him out rather than sat in front of a game boy - hate the damn things meself!

thanks for the advice the only thing is he does have enough money at the moment to buy another one himself,it was his birthday last month and he still as all his birthday money left about 100 pound so i know he will be nagging me too use this.

Originally posted by deelightful3
thanks for the advice the only thing is he does have enough money at the moment to buy another one himself,it was his birthday last month and he still as all his birthday money left about 100 pound so i know he will be nagging me too use this.

I would say that's fine. If he has the money then let him buy himself a new one. If he hadn't broken it he could have bought new games for it or something else with his birthday money. Instead, he has to spend it to replace something he already had. Serves the same purpose, and still points out the consequence.

Originally posted by deelightful3
my normally well behaved son aged 9 as just deliberatly whilst in a temper smashed his fairly new gameboy advance,he is totally devasted ,and of course he was scolded at the time,but do you think i should leave it be now or punish him some other way,not violently of course.

You need to ask, Why he threw a tantrum in the first place.
Was it because he could not have his own way?

Let us know the scenario.

Originally posted by savbaby
i think as long as you dont buy him a new one then no dont punish him,
btw-to everyone who looking for punishments,my mate took all the fuses out her kids tv/playstation/video and removed all batterys as punishment and made him earn them back by doing chores,,, worked a treat
:clap: :clap:

this is all very well in theory..... but kids should not be sat in house all time anyways.... FOOTBAL is the way forward

promote the game to the youngsters and we could win the world cup :heyhey:

a game boy is a portable player for those who don't know. So it doesn't require you to sit in the living room in front of the tv.
And the new one that was announced won't be out until 06, so a bit premature if that was his plan (and it's not a handheld). The Gameboy DS was announced a little while ago and is out already, that's the latest handheld model from nintendo.

viking the reason he lost his temper in the 1st place was because he became frustrated with a game he was playing on,it froze or something halfway through a game,thats all,and my son gets plenty of exercise he plays for a local football team so therefore he is always training with them or with his dad.

Originally posted by deelightful3
viking the reason he lost his temper in the 1st place was because he became frustrated with a game he was playing on,it froze or something halfway through a game,thats all,and my son gets plenty of exercise he plays for a local football team so therefore he is always training with them or with his dad.

Poor lad - he must be heartbroken. Bet this is one of those incidents he will learn big lessons from without you having to do much punishment. Think a discussion about what happened and why he did it might be enough as you say he's not a disruptive kid and usually good. He'll never forgot this and it will be one of those stories you refer to when he's 30.

If he really wants to buy another with his money then let him have another chance - it could be discussed what a waste of money it is when he could have bought other toys.

fetched my son from school this evening and he is sooo sorry,cleaned his bedroom and
helped me with the washing up,not asked to go on the ps2 or anything,so i think enough as been said now and i will just wait and see how long it is b4 he mentions buying a new one again.

Originally posted by deelightful3
fetched my son from school this evening and he is sooo sorry,cleaned his bedroom and
helped me with the washing up,not asked to go on the ps2 or anything,so i think enough as been said now and i will just wait and see how long it is b4 he mentions buying a new one again.

Excellent. Minor victory to you I think.

Originally posted by deelightful3
fetched my son from school this evening and he is sooo sorry,cleaned his bedroom and
helped me with the washing up,not asked to go on the ps2 or anything,so i think enough as been said now and i will just wait and see how long it is b4 he mentions buying a new one again.

Awww bless him - I think you have got a top kid there deelightful3.

Our sprogg number 2 used to tantrum regularly when he coudlnt cope with all the stuff going on. WE let him do it, but made rules and everything he broke was not replaced.

He learnt to control himself enough to think before the went off the deep end and smashed up something important. We gave him stuff to take it out on, like old newspapers to tear up and a kickboxing thingy to wallop.

His best ever tantrum was in our bathroom when he was 4, he suddently leapt up and drew amazing ocean creatures all over the walls in thick black pencil. He hid from me expecting trouble, but they were so good, we painted them in and had under the ocean all over one wall. Not sure what that was about but it was more constructive than a proper paddywack.

We've been thru about 4 PS1's i'm sure and he has to either mend them himself (hes quite good at that stuff now) or save up for a new one, or wait for his birthday for a second hand one. He used to go wappy with the driving games, fall off his horse and break his PS and then cry cos he'd done it again.

Be patient and consistent and firm, he'll soon learn from his mistake and they all do it with PS's they really are infuriating. IF he makes his own mind up to try and avoid doing it again, and works it out for himself its the best lesson he can ever learn in self responsibility.

See it as an opportunity for him, rather than something you must punish him for. Anyway if you punish it should be right at the time and appropriate, leave it till later and it just doesnt connect and starts off a great big battle you will probably lose. And its unfair.

Our lad is really placid, quiet and laid back nowadays, hes just grown into a great big bear, and we know he knows how to keep his temper in check and chill out.