My boyfriend has just rang me at work and said...'I need to talk to you when you get home' and when i asked him what about he just repeated himself! Oh no! What do i do? Ive only got 45mins left at work but i cant think straight and it is dragging!

have you done anything to be dumped???

if not then dont worry about it,,, it will most probably(hopefully) be something really silly like can we go away somewhere!

oh god! i wouldnt like to be in ur shoes (sorry) ya gotta confront him bout this when u get home this is something 1 half of the couple says when they aint happy with the relationship, that or hes terminally ill, or cheating.. i speak from experience, hope this helps?

go home now if you can't concentrate. no point in staying at work.

i hate it when the other half says anything like that.
if you phoned up to tell me, then damn well tell me now, otherwise you could have just waited until i got home!:rant:

Last time I got the "I need to talk to you" it was to ask me how I felt about bondage, so don't worry too much.

Well i said has someone died and he said no then i said 'your not ill are you?' and he said no but nothing else!

We have been together over 2 years and we do have our odd arguments but we have always sorted them out. When reading your post Ryan i thought, oh no he wont have cheated, but now i just feel sick! He always said that if he did he would tell me because he would feel so guilty...what if thats it?

Originally posted by missrabbit
My boyfriend has just rang me at work and said...'I need to talk to you when you get home' and when i asked him what about he just repeated himself! Oh no! What do i do? Ive only got 45mins left at work but i cant think straight and it is dragging!

If you worry about it now and it turns out to be nothing serious then you have been worrying for nothing. If it turns out to be serious then you will have plenty of time to worry about it after he has spoken to you.

He might want to marry you.
He might want to go on his mates stag do to Benidorm.
He might have done the gay test on an earlier thread today, and discovered he is gay.

The only certainty is that you cannot do anything about it until he tells you.

Good luck.

Oh I really sympathise with you. Has he been acting really strange? Thats always a sign if they have ben acting strange. It probably isn't going to be what you think anyway!!! Just make sure you let us know how it goes tomorrow.
Be calm, thats the best thing for you to do.
Bye fro now chuck...and keep your chin up.;)

Sorry, correction, i did ring him to see if he fancied coming to the gym with me later and he said not to go cos he needed to talk to me and he already knows if i am into bondage or not! :heyhey:

Only 1/2 an hour to go...

it maybe the case, just dont think the worst 4 now.. jus give it time see what e says.. or phone hiim now and make sure he tells as i agree with cyclone!!

Perhaps he thinks you're having an affair ?

You could always ring him and dump him before he gets in first....:o

No seriously....I am sure it is just something trivial like 'can he go on holiday with his mates this year etc etc!!

Good Luck and keep us updated....20 mins to go!!

:thumbsup:

MissRabbit, what a position he's put you in! Do you not usually talk when you get home?

Get yourself off home and whatever he's got to say, get it over and done with. Don't forget - he's obviously worked up to this if he's phoned you at work to warn you. Whatever it is, sit and listen before doing or saying anything. He's probably dreading it more than you are?!

Fingers crossed it'll be something good! But, if it isn't, don't worry you've got all your forum mates to talk it over with.

If im not with him im on Sheffield Forum! Does that count as an affair? The last 10mins seem like an hour! I havnt done anything to be dumped for in my opinion! If it turns out to be something nice like he has made me tea or something then i will be fuming cos i am so worked up!

i think it will be something else or he would have let you go to the gym. telling someone its over is the kind of thing that can wait for another hour or two.

For this amount of worry don't settle for anything less than 2 carats :)

It can't be the holiday thing cos he kicked up a big fuss bout me going away with my mates this year instead of just us 2 going away so ive cancelled it and am waiting for us to book something! And i know he wont be asking me to marry him, cos he doesn't agree with marraige!

The forum clock is 8 minutes fast so its even longer than i thought! :rolleyes:

Well maybe he's changed his mind and you can go coz he wants to go with his...either way if he's does dump you - you can rebook with your pals..:thumbsup:

Maybe he's been fired at work today or something dreadful like that...or wants to leave Sheffield to study Elephants in Africa....:confused:

Oh, good luck!

But, as much as it is easy for me to say, if he's gonna dump you there's no point worrying about it, he'll do it anyway, and if he's not going to, then you'll have been worrying for nothing anyway!

What time does he really get back then? Is it five?
I'll be thinking of you!

If it's something really insignificant, make sure you get him with the tea towel and be angry, or, put him on a guilt trip about how he made you feel!

He gets back for around 4ish! Well i better go see what it is....i could be singlerabbit soon. Ill let you guys know what happened tomorrow morning when i get to work.

Thanks for helping to pass the time and keep your fingers crossed for me.....:( :( :( :(

I'm gonna bet *looks in wallet* ten pence ( :o wow) that he's gonna propose to her.

I bet it's about him going away somewhere like to work, study or hang out with the boys on holiday....10p your on....(shake hands...)!!

:thumbsup:

Originally posted by Shiesh
I bet it's about him going away somewhere like to work, study or hang out with the boys on holiday....10p your on....(shake hands...)!!

:thumbsup:

Won't be going to the forum meet for a bit though! :P

I'd go with the 10p bet, espec if he's a Liverpool fan like me!

Istanbul, Istanbul, we're the greatest team in Europe and we're off to Istanbul!!!

Surely he wont dump the lovely young thing.....:confused:

duff-duff, duff-duff-duff, duff-duff-duff

Don't forget to come back and keep us informed... and let us know whether or not you're into bondage :D

Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.

Cheers

Originally posted by slimsid2000
Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.

Cheers

My guess is you'll stay looking if this is one of your chat up techniques. What do you do for an encore, try and pick up at a funeral? :|

Originally posted by slimsid2000
Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.

Cheers

Dude, that is seriously inappropriate!

Missrabbit. I hope it's not what you expect. Don't get yourself worked up until you have reason to. Let us know how you get on. :(

MsR, I hope everything works out for you; good look hon! :thumbsup:

Originally posted by slimsid2000[/i]
Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.[QUOTE]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Andy78
Dude, that is seriously inappropriate!

Originally posted by Kristian
My guess is you'll stay looking if this is one of your chat up techniques. What do you do for an encore, try and pick up at a funeral?

sooo sorry but i can't help it... those few exchanges were some of the funniest I've read so far this week ... you guys have really made me giggle now ... :D

It's gone awfully quiet, hope everything's OK missrabbit. :suspect:

Originally posted by foo_fighter
It's gone awfully quiet, hope everything's OK missrabbit. :suspect:

shhhhhh! foofighter - they're TALKING :rolleyes:

Originally posted by foo_fighter
It's gone awfully quiet, hope everything's OK missrabbit. :suspect:

We have to wait until tommorow morning when MsR gets to work. Let us hope she is not too depressed to go to work. Can't wait for the next episode.

Originally posted by rubydazzler
shhhhhh! foofighter - they're TALKING :rolleyes:
Oh, OK, erm...

:blush:

...I'll be really quiet then, see you all tomorrow...


;)

Originally posted by slimsid2000
Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.

Cheers

HAHAHHAHAHA. :clap: :clap: :hihi:

That's a good one. You were joking, weren't you?

Oh this is better than Coronation Street I can't wait for tomorrow to find out what happened. Hope it's not bad news though. I did the we have to talk to my now ex husband!!

Hope everything goes well. I'll be thinking about you.

Not wishing to trivialise the issue, but how sound is your relationship missrabbit?

If your partner says he has something to tell you when you get home, why have you automatically assumed the worst, i.e., he may have been cheating on you? You appear insecure in your relationship to be speculating on these lines so quickly. Do you have grounds for your concerns?

Argh, I'm a late log in to this saga. I hope all went well. I did a similar thing myself once, my fella rang and said could we have a chat tonight. I replied yes and promptly took my best mate to the pub for some dutch courage. Several shots later I went to fellas house and we sat and chatted on the sofa rather than watching tv or whatever.
I felt such a wally!
I hope it was similarly painless for you too!

any1 know what happened to the post on dumping?

I was thinking the same thing! I asked on another thread.. but no reply yet!

probably been dumped.

(we ... well ... i ... certainly hope she is!).

Hope you are well dear.

Yours,
Mr cheekymonkey ;)

p.s. Not at all curious about what he so urgently wanted to talk to you about ...

The thread has vanished...:suspect:

Everyone wants to know!!
:|

with regards to above, how could this post just disappear, any answers from a moderator? i need to know..

Maybe this one will go the way of the dodo too neeeeeeeeeeek!?

If you're listening missrabbit ... really hope you're well and everything has gone ok ... and you can forgive our never ending lust for info and juicy details on this matter ...

Do spill the beans dear :P

I'm a bit concerned that your thread has vanished, I hope that isn't a bad omen, and things haven't gone as well as they might have.

Hope everything is fine :)

its right iritating when posts get pinched :suspect:
i came in here first thing when i got to work just to check the poor lass was ok.

anyone know why the thread got pinched?

Maybe she requested it be pulled :confused: I'm as curious as everyone else now - I hope she's ok :( If you're out there MissR - let us know you're alright!

I just posted on the other thread about this - I wonder if MissRabbit asked for it to be pulled? That's the only real reason I can think of :confused:

ive just posted on the other thread but ill do it on here too.

i hope you are ok love. let us know.

Hugs
Litha xxxx

Originally posted by Litha
ive just posted on the other thread but ill do it on here too.

Ohhhh ... where is the 'other thread' ... ?

MOD: Threads merged

We're all thinking about u MissR.

xx

Give the girl a chance everybody. I am just as anxious as the rest of you but I am sure when missrabbit feels ready to update us, she will.

any news.................?

Originally posted by drolnhoj
Give the girl a chance everybody. I am just as anxious as the rest of you but I am sure when missrabbit feels ready to update us, she will.

As long as she hasnt gone to mangle those trees on the snake pass......

i hope she's not been dumped she sounds so nice :(

I really felt for her last night, her heart must have been going ten to the dozen. I really hope she is alright. I should imagine that sh will let us know when she is ready.
Bless.

Thank you all for your kind words. I didn't know about this thread and dont know what happened to the original. I have asked the mods, but no reply.

Yes, i was dumped and i feel like my heart has been ripped out. I got the 'Its not you, its me' speech. :( :( :( :(

Sorry to hear it Missrabbit.

You must be heartbroken.

What are your plans now?

Maybe you should get yourself some breathing space, have a think about things. Dont let this setback ruin your life. Its a big old world out there, and Im sure you can rise to the challenge.

Originally posted by missrabbit
Thank you all for your kind words. I didn't know about this thread and dont know what happened to the original. I have asked the mods, but no reply.

Yes, i was dumped and i feel like my heart has been ripped out. I got the 'Its not you, its me' speech. :( :( :( :(
aww missrabbit what an ar*e he is, you deserve better than him..
get yourself out and have some fun at the weekend:thumbsup:

Originally posted by missrabbit
Thank you all for your kind words. I didn't know about this thread and dont know what happened to the original. I have asked the mods, but no reply.

Yes, i was dumped and i feel like my heart has been ripped out. I got the 'Its not you, its me' speech. :( :( :( :(
Sorry to hear about your news MissRabbit :(

Not what you want to hear right now but time heals all wounds as they say.

Originally posted by missrabbit
Thank you all for your kind words. I didn't know about this thread and dont know what happened to the original. I have asked the mods, but no reply.

Yes, i was dumped and i feel like my heart has been ripped out. I got the 'Its not you, its me' speech. :( :( :( :(

Sorry to hear that missrabbit. Hope you are not feeling too down. At least he did it face to face rather than by text message. Get yourself on holiday with those girlfriends of yours!:thumbsup:

Like DaB says, it's a million times harder at first! Whenever I've had a painful break-up I've just kept myself really busy (not allowing myself time to think) and after a few days it get's much easier.

Hey sweetie, I went through that 3 months ago - thought he was the man I was going to marry.

Being heartbroken sucks! get out with ya girlies and be around people that make u smile.

xx

Originally posted by missrabbit
Yes, i was dumped and i feel like my heart has been ripped out. I got the 'Its not you, its me' speech. :( :( :( :(

Oh no :( *sends big therapeutic hugs and chocolate*

From what we know of you on here though it sounds like it's his loss :)

Originally posted by spyro2000

What are your plans now?

Maybe you should get yourself some breathing space, have a think about things. Dont let this setback ruin your life. Its a big old world out there, and Im sure you can rise to the challenge.

My plans now are to find somewhere new to live as we were living together for the past 2 years.

I feel so stupid and he knows that for the past couple of months i have felt lower than i have ever felt with working in a job that i dispise. I feel like i have been kicked while i am down, then kicked some more.

Sorry to hear about the break up Miss R. If the speech was the 'it's me' speech then he was just looking for an easy way out. He doesn't deserve you in the first place.

You need to get your friends around you and try your best to keep smiling - don't give him the pleasure of seeing you miserable.:thumbsup:

You can't beat the Sheffield Forum for great friends either!:thumbsup: ;)

OK. Here goes. Sayings for the next 5 hours

2-1 Theres' plenty more fish in the sea
3-1 You're a good looking girl. You dont need him.
10-1 He's a total tw@t; his loss not yours
25-1 You don't need a man, us girls can stick together (quite like that one myself! Maybe just a male thing)
50-1 Have you seen the trees on the snake pass lately?
1,000-1 The guy from yesterday coming on and saying "Does that mean you're single now, what you doing tomorrow night"

Oh and another thing. Sorry if it sounds a bit crude...

but dont fall into the trap of "bonus nights"

i.e. dont have sex with him while you are not together. Not only will it make it harder on you, but It may be something that he will expect to happen on a regular bases (sex with no strings attached).

i agree with above, it tends to get a bit emotional

Originally posted by spyro2000
Oh and another thing. Sorry if it sounds a bit crude...

but dont fall into the trap of "bonus nights"

i.e. dont have sex with him while you are not together. Not only will it make it harder on you, but It may be something that he will expect to happen on a regular bases (sex with no strings attached)

Where on earth did that come from?

[MOD NOTE] Threads merged :)

Originally posted by MobileB
Where on earth did that come from?

Came from my mind, which I typed by using my keyboard keys to make a post on here which was read by you :D

Ryan laughs a lot at spyros comical genius, made my day by the comeback :)

oh no i've lost 10p then...:(

Aww MissR I am gutted for ya...get yourself down to Wetherspoons at Woodseats on Friday night and have a stonking good night with Forum friends at MsBehavin's FIRST ever Woodseats meet......

In the meantime pin his picture to the dartboard and enjoy whacking them darts into his mush...

PS make him move out.... he decided do dump you so he should walk away and find somewhere else to live...the nerve.!!

Get loadsa girlfriends to move in and have all night parties etc etc!!

Wash that man right outta hair and rebook that girlie holiday!!

rant over!!

:thumbsup:

Don't worry miss. I know how much you loved him from when we chat. If he can do this to you after everything that is going on then he is a jerk! Just promise me one thing....













.....you wont EVER go on a date with slimsid!

i really dont mean to sound insensitive..... but this really did make me laugh. sorry

I totally agree with what evryone else is saying. It must be awful for you as you have been together a long time so I can't imagin what you are going through. But i know you will get through it and come out the other end a much stronger person. There is always some good that comes out of bad.
Like I said last night...kepp your chin up. You obviously have a lot of friends so just enjoy your self now and deffinatly keep your self busy and occupied. You should have a night out in Town this w/end...go to the Crystal...it's really nice there.
Take care
:) :) :) :)

Awww ... sorry to hear your bad news missrabbit :(

My advice would be to take some time out for yaself ... take it easy for a while and surround yourself with supportive people (family and friends) who love you and care about you.

For what it's worth ... you do seem like a lovely young woman and a defo bit on the cute side too ... (and no ... i'm not doing a slimsid here).

Probably a also good idea to make a clean break of it (not have anything more to do with him) like the other poster said on here.

Time heals ... and I'm sure in no time at all you will be as right as rain ... and love will find you ...

What is this thing about trees in the snake pass?:confused: :confused:

Shiesh- I would make him move out but neither of us can afford our flat on our own so we both have to move out. How strange that he has decided to do this, the week our lease runs out. :suspect: :suspect: :suspect:

Alex- dont worry im not that desperate...yet!

I would make it to the meet on Friday but i got tickets to see Girls Aloud with my sister! Will defo make it to the one after...where and when is it?

Just as a suggestion for making yourself smile a little through all of this...

Start a game of breakup bingo... This is where you write down all the trite "oh god" phrases you expect to hear from friends, family, etc... and put them into a grid of say 5 x 5 squares...

... then as you sit through a lecture on how he was no good for you, and how "[I] never liked him anyway"... etc... you can start ticking them off.. then when you get a line jump up yell "bingo" and have a little chuckle...


But in all seriousness, whilst time will pass like mollasses for a while to come, it will get better eventually and in a few months time you'll be wondering what on earth you saw in the guy anyways...

There ya go, that's one you can cross off already.. ;)

Originally posted by missrabbit


I would make it to the meet on Friday but i got tickets to see Girls Aloud with my sister! Will defo make it to the one after...where and when is it?

Well there is the Dev Cat (Sundays) and Trippetts (Wednesdays) you would have to PM Misbehavin to see when she plans No2 meet at Woodseats...I suppose she'll decide once we see how well the 1st one goes!!

Enjoy Girls Aloud though...:thumbsup:

Originally posted by slimsid2000
Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.

Cheers


so funny :D

has anyone seen a pic of this guy? post a pic of yerself slim!

Originally posted by missrabbit
What is this thing about trees in the snake pass?:confused: :confused:

Shiesh- I would make him move out but neither of us can afford our flat on our own so we both have to move out. How strange that he has decided to do this, the week our lease runs out. :suspect: :suspect: :suspect:

Alex- dont worry im not that desperate...yet!

I would make it to the meet on Friday but i got tickets to see Girls Aloud with my sister! Will defo make it to the one after...where and when is it?

It's whenever you want it MissRabbit - PM me and we will organise a new one if you can't get to this. I am sure you will find lots of support there and no doubt a few drinks being bought! I feel a 'WISER' meet coming on just for you. Woodseats In Support (of) Emotional Rabbits.

In the meantime we will toast your health on Friday to a new, exciting future and will get dear Litha to make a special doll in the image of your ex which we can torture accordingly.

Looking forward to hearing from you kiddo.

Msb x

Quote:
Originally posted by slimsid2000
Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.

Cheers




slim, even that sounds like an offer i cant refuse

Originally posted by ryan123
Quote:
Originally posted by slimsid2000
Quite seriously, I am looking for a girlfriend. I know you don't know me but if you would like to please Pm me. we could just talk through Pm's if you like.

Cheers




slim, even that sounds like an offer i cant refuse

Desperation is always sooooo attractive in a man..... :rolleyes:

Originally posted by missrabbit
I feel so stupid and he knows that for the past couple of months i have felt lower than i have ever felt with working in a job that i dispise. I feel like i have been kicked while i am down, then kicked some more.

Men are b**tards.

Originally posted by Robbie_Lovin
i really dont mean to sound insensitive..... but this really did make me laugh. sorry

Why bother saying it? It did sound insensitive. :suspect:

missrabbit: If your ever in need to laugh at someone pm me and I can meet you for a frothy coffee on eccy road me and Msb will have you, turned round in no time! (not in a trinnie & suzanna way)

You can even have a trip down eccy road in my ickle sports car, music turned up, wind in your hair and we can shout **** all men as loud as possible in a Thelma and Louise style. Me and Msb do it regularly (well kinda!)

Its obvious that everyone thinks alot about you hun so dont get too down and really hes done you a favour your only young and should never settle for second best which hes not even close to. I can say this due to his 'lame speech - its not you its me cr*p!)

Come on huni..... give us a smile try and get rid of that horrid sick, heavy feeling in your tummy...... hes really really not worth it.

Come on give us a smile sweetie......

Originally posted by nick2
Men are b**tards.

Not all men nick. . . just those that women don't like.

I don't think many people on this thread making comments on the situation are really qualified to do so. Do they know the ins and outs of their relationship? If not then I think it's unfair to brand someone who they don't even know or know about as a "b*****d", etc.

Originally posted by t020
I don't think many people on this thread making comments on the situation are really qualified to do so. Do they know the ins and outs of their relationship? If not then I think it's unfair to brand someone who they don't even know or know about as a "b*****d", etc.
I don't know you and I think you're a b*****d ! :P

Originally posted by technophobe
missrabbit: If your ever in need to laugh at someone pm me and I can meet you for a frothy coffee on eccy road me and Msb will have you, turned round in no time! (not in a trinnie & suzanna way)

You can even have a trip down eccy road in my ickle sports car, music turned up, wind in your hair and we can shout **** all men as loud as possible in a Thelma and Louise style. Me and Msb do it regularly (well kinda!)




<-------still waiting for trip in sports car actually as last time didn't count as MsB wasn't looking her best. Thinks will book a trip tomorrow with Techno if weather is warm.....:thumbsup:

Originally posted by DaBouncer
I don't know you and I think you're a b*****d ! :P


Ohhhhh - Retort of the day DaBouncer! Gotta laugh! :clap:

I was, of course, just joking, I love men.

Originally posted by DaBouncer
I don't know you and I think you're a b*****d ! :P

:hihi: :hihi: Nice one.

Originally posted by DaBouncer
I don't know you and I think you're a b*****d ! :P

Absolutely ROFPMSL!!!!!!!!:P :P :P :P . . Nice reply! :P

Originally posted by t020
I don't think many people on this thread making comments on the situation are really qualified to do so. Do they know the ins and outs of their relationship? If not then I think it's unfair to brand someone who they don't even know or know about as a "b*****d", etc.

I think the phrase was 'all men are b******s wasn't it? Therefore not particularly directed at the ex under discussion.

It's a commonly used phrase in the English vernacular and a little selective 'Googling' might bring up tee-shirts, mugs and even car stickers with that very phrase emblazoned on...:hihi:

Originally posted by msbehavin
does T020 have a sense of humour??:confused:

Now that is a good idea for a poll :P

Wilf

Originally posted by TracieJC
:( :rant: I really do hate that 'It's not you, it's me' speech. I've been on the recieving end of this before too and I just wanted to scream 'Of course it's you, you mindless cretin! I was perfectly happy until you came along and started ruining stuff!' :mad:

Coffee just came out of my nose! This (and everyone elses posts) have really cheered me up! Feeling alot less sensitive already. We are meeting up at the house tonight to discuss moving and stuff like that which i am dreading! I will think of all your posts to stop me from filling up.

Not trying to be a 'self nominating' mod here but can we all stop our little tit for tat comments towards each other in such a sensitive thread?

Just my opinion take or leave it :D

Originally posted by DaBouncer
Not trying to be a 'self nominating' mod here but can we all stop our little tit for tat comments towards each other in such a sensitive thread?

OMG ... that's a bit rich fella ... I mean ... it's not like you started anything with your comments re: mr T020's parentage or anything is it !?

:P


p.s. missrabbit ... glad you're cheering up a bit angel ... have you considered taking a friend with you tonight for moral support ?

Originally posted by missrabbit
Coffee just came out of my nose! This (and everyone elses posts) have really cheered me up! Feeling alot less sensitive already. We are meeting up at the house tonight to discuss moving and stuff like that which i am dreading! I will think of all your posts to stop me from filling up.

I'm glad you're doing ok. Just to add my two pence worth to what everyone else has already said - if you are feeling very low and want to meet someone for a coffee or a rant or whatever, the offer is there! I also highly recommend MsB for cheering up purposes - she's ace ;)

Originally posted by DaBouncer
Not trying to be a 'self nominating' mod here but can we all stop our little tit for tat comments towards each other in such a sensitive thread?

I'll take it :P I agree 100%, and apologies for the brief hijacking.

Originally posted by Jamie
OMG ... that's a bit rich fella ... I mean ... it's not like you started anything with your comments re: mr T020's parentage or anything is it !?

:P

I said do as I say not as I do :P

Maybe you should take slimsid up on his kind offer. :clap:

Originally posted by Jamie

p.s. missrabbit ... glad you're cheering up a bit angel ... have you considered taking a friend with you tonight for moral support ?

My mates are all on holiday and my bestest mate has just had a baby so she is all wrapped up with him. I will be ok though. But thanks for the concern chick.

Just noticed its your bday next week aswell, i think lots of cards/flowers/chocolates from secrete admirers should help to make the lad a bit jealous and help you feel better! (even if they are from your friends) saying that i dont know you but id happily buy you a card just to p*ss him off!

Originally posted by missrabbit
My mates are all on holiday and my bestest mate has just had a baby so she is all wrapped up with him. I will be ok though. But thanks for the concern chick.

No worries angel ... you could always take slimsid instead ... just tell 'him' you were gonna dump him anyway ... for slimsid (oooowch that's gotta hurt !!!).

p.s. Hope I'm not being insensetive here missrabbit.

p.p.s. Appologies to slimsid also (maybe you should give more thought to the appropriateness of your posts dood?).

MissR......u sure to20 isnt ur ex?

I think there's a programme on Channel 5 tonight about getting even after you've been dumped.

My advice though is not to bother and just move on

Originally posted by LordChaverly
I think there's a programme on Channel 5 tonight about getting even after you've been dumped.

My advice though is not to bother and just move on

the best "revenge" is to get yourself out with your mates having fun and carrying on like you don't care.

Originally posted by missrabbit

Yes, i was dumped and i feel like my heart has been ripped out. I got the 'Its not you, its me' speech. :( :( :( :(

If I was you I would trust him on that as it WAS him! especially if he has no valid reason etc.

Originally posted by LordChaverly
I think there's a programme on Channel 5 tonight about getting even after you've been dumped.

My advice though is not to bother and just move on

LOL - telling you how to get even, or reporting cases where people did? ;)

There's a lot to be said for retaining your dignity after something like this - not only will it make the other party feel worse if you don't flip out but when the dust has settled and you start to move on you'll be able to look back and think, I handled that well. Nothing worse than looking back and cringing about things you said or did in the heat of the moment.

Originally posted by missrabbit
Coffee just came out of my nose! This (and everyone elses posts) have really cheered me up! Feeling alot less sensitive already. We are meeting up at the house tonight to discuss moving and stuff like that which i am dreading! I will think of all your posts to stop me from filling up.
Shall we all come round and line up behind you like in the Unison ad?

Originally posted by bonny
Shall we all come round and line up behind you like in the Unison ad?

Maybe she should apply for a job at starbucks !?

Originally posted by missrabbit
Coffee just came out of my nose!
Too much information :D..

We are meeting up at the house tonight to discuss moving and stuff like that which i am dreading! I will think of all your posts to stop me from filling up.
Just as a note for you on this... When it comes to splitting up stuff you've bought together, etc... This is the time to make him pay as he'll be looking to reduce the burden of guilt and more likely to let you have stuff that has potential quibble value...

So, work out what you want and get it...

Heartless I know but having been on both sides of the equation on that one I've lost stuff and gained stuff as a result of this little scenario...


But I'd definitely reiterate the "bonus days" advice from earlier.. Don't go there... it's just a huge minefield that one...

Keep smiling and erm... if coffee up the nose is a good thing... well keep on with it... :loopy:

If he is coming round to talk. Try and be detached from the situation, and think as though it was someone else.

What would you want for a friend, then go about getting the same for you, ie; fairness.

Msb: Promise to take you out so we can do Thelma & Louise but can I be Louise please cause shes younger and I am taller than you. lol! and then we can go drink cocktails and beat up some MoFo in a car park (mmmmm how bout Missrabbits Ex).

Only kidding Missrabbit revenge is not sweet.

by the way Missrabbit I lurve you new avatar very apt!!!

Chin up huni and go for all the goodies tonight!

Be strong and he'll wonder whats happened expecting you to be in bits. Tell him he'll have to be quick as youve arranged to go out. And dont ask him why just leave long silences as though expecting an explanation which make him feel unconfortable and guilty which he SHOULD BE!

Actually me and my sister have just been on the phone moaning about blokes and she said they are all ba*****s they just come in different shapes and forms (soz fellas maybe your not all like that but it seems so some times!).

Just remember, your young, youve got dignity and boy have you got attitude. Come on brush yourself down and he'll wonder why the hell hes let you go.

:D

seriously MsRabbit - he's not worth it - if he can do that to you, doesn't believe in marriage etc etc you're better off rid of him. Is he gay?

Take him for every penny you can - give him nothing...

uhjhgjkgjhfgjkf

Ok, chipping in with my two-penn'orth", here.

To sort of paraphrase nick2's comments a page or two earlier, on here...

"the best revenge is to live well!"

(I think it's an Oscar Wilde Quote)

At 21 you have the world ahead of you. (ok, makes mental note to check THAT one wan't on the"break-up bingo list!)

I wish I were 21, again , and knew what i knew now. I tell you!

There'd be a shedload of men-mistakes I made, which I would not have done. plenty who would have been shown the door (Or, better yet, the business end of a twelve-bore!) in double-quick time!!

I dumped the loser I was with, four months ago, after putting up with his garbage for five years. I had simply had enough.

This last four months have been fantastic; I haven't looked back.

My social life has improved, ohh, I'd say, at least 1,000%.

I am my own- woman; no-one to answer to, no-one to dicatate to me, I am happier than I have been in a long time.

PT

Damn. No plenty more fishes in the sea since my last post. There were a couple of "men are b*****ds" and "he's not worth it." And even one, "now you're single fancy a night out. "

My odds werent that bad!

Originally posted by MobileB
Damn. No plenty more fishes in the sea since my last post. There were a couple of "men are b*****ds" and "he's not worth it." And even one, "now you're single fancy a night out. "

My odds werent that bad!

hey Mob - you know where I am if you ever get 'dumpedl lol

PS - you gonna bobby along to MsB's Woodseats Meet tomorrow?

Originally posted by msbehavin
hey Mob - you know where I am if you ever get 'dumpedl lol

PS - you gonna bobby along to MsB's Woodseats Meet tomorrow?

Which category do you fall into though:
- more fish
- not worth it
- what a t***

Not sure bout tomorrow yet. I may have a children issue!

Originally posted by MobileB
Which category do you fall into though:
- more fish
- not worth it
- what a t***

Not sure bout tomorrow yet. I may have a children issue!

I fall into the category of

-well worth it

Miss R - Sorry to hear about your split. I agree with what someone else said on the thread - indifference (or at least acting indifferent) is the best revenge.

Keep your chin up, get yourself out and about and you'll be feeling better before long.

It seems like there's plenty of fellas ready to step into his shoes already!

:) ;) :)

The indifference thing is right ... don't do revenge (revenge is for out of control morons who don't know any better).

Your time and energies should be focused on making your own life better ... not wasted on making someone else's life worse.

J x

Originally posted by t020
I don't think many people on this thread making comments on the situation are really qualified to do so. Do they know the ins and outs of their relationship? If not then I think it's unfair to brand someone who they don't even know or know about as a "b*****d", etc.

A thoughtful, sensitive, apt, considered post.

Originally posted by t020

Maybe you should take slimsid up on his kind offer.

A thougthless, insensitive, inept, ill considered post. Also immature. Is it any wonder that sometimes you may indeed be able to brand someone you don't know as a b*****d.

Time will heal the hurt missrabbit. (NB. Surprised that wasn't on the bingo list*). Surround yourselves with friends (*ditto) - but you will survive (*ditto). We're all rooting for you sunshine
(well, with one or two notable exceptions, alas).

Originally posted by redrobbo
A thougthless, insensitive, inept, ill considered post. Also immature. Is it any wonder that sometimes you may indeed be able to brand someone you don't know as a b*****d.


It was an OBVIOUS joke, although you conveniently removed the smilie from my post.

Originally posted by t020
It was an OBVIOUS joke, although you conveniently removed the smilie from my post.

Jokes.....at a time like this! Just confirms your insensitivity.

Originally posted by redrobbo

Time will heal the hurt missrabbit.

Lol, I read this as "TIMO will heal the hurt missrabbit" :D
I always enjoy reading timo's posts and was just thinking is there no end to this mans talents.

Originally posted by redrobbo
Jokes.....at a time like this! Just confirms your insensitivity.

Get a grip. :rolleyes: Either that or go and find another forum member to pester.

Originally posted by cobaltblue
Lol, I read this as "TIMO will heal the hurt missrabbit" :D
*snip*

lor luv ya cobaltblue, hasn't the lass got enough trouble right now :P

missrabbit, hope you soon find a really nice new place to live too ... I saw you have to move out in the next week or so? very best of luck finding somewhere.

Thankyou Cobalt Blue, but I have my hands, ahem, full with my lovely, lissom, pouting wife.

Ruby,
How very nice it is to read a humorous quip from a dear elderly lady like yourself. Not content with darning socks, reading Peoples' Friend and drinking your nice cups of tea, you make the effort to join in with the rest of us. A round of applause here for Ruby! It would be so very tempting for you, I know, to simply sleep through the afternoons in your Shackleton's 'Original' Highchair, dreaming of when Zeppelins flew over Woodseats, and plagues of diptheria and typhoid raged amidst the back-to-back houses. But you make the effort, and delight us all with your warm and homely advice/ comments. I'll pop round later dear, with your tablets.

Originally posted by t020
Maybe you should take slimsid up on his kind offer. :clap:

Thank you t020. It is a genuine offer. Still, it is a long shot.

Missrabbit,
To be serious, the best advice on here is that offered by the wise Lord Chaverly- 'move on'. Put it all down to bad experience, and do not be tempted to demean yourself with revenge. Retain your dignity and pride, and find a better man. Life is much too short to waste on second-raters. Good luck, I hope you find someone as lovely as I did. No, I don't mean Ruby...

[.................................................. .

Odds on that this thread wouldn't be nearly as long if MissRabbit wasn't a young (attractive??!?! - never met her, know nothing) lady. Shameful lads, really.... lol.

No offence intended to the lady in question.

Plenty more fish in the sea!!
Your way to good for him anyway!!


Bingo!!!!!!!!!!!

;)

Originally posted by babycakes8
Plenty more fish in the sea!!
Your way to good for him anyway!!


Bingo!!!!!!!!!!!

;)

i think we have " house!" called in this game!

(or is it a false call?)


P * checks babycakes' card...*T

If you just been dumped play Ben Folds "Song for the dumped" the piano version is the best it will cheer you up.

Thank you all for your encouragment! I had friday off and work so only just been able to read all your posts! It has been such a long weekend by myself. One minute i feel really strong then the next i feel so weak and sad. Have spoke to him and the same, one minute we are talking fine then the next i am crying and asking him why. I know i shouldn't but i cant hold it in when im with him cos he wasnt only my boyfriend but my best friend and i feel like i have lost the only person i can talk to.

I have started packing though which is very hard as most things have a memory behind them that involves him. Tommorrow will be a bad day as it is his birthday and i had such a nice day planned for him so i will be thinking of that, but i have a shopping list of the Paul McKenna book and the Ben Folds song recomended to me by other forumers so they should keep me ocuppied!

Thanks for everyones posts, they have cheered me up no end! Hopefully ill see some of you at the next meet!

I feel really sorry for you, it's horrible dealing with painful break-ups.. More so when you have to see the person afterwards :(

The worst part was when he started packing infront of me! It was like rubbing salt in the wound.

If I was you, I wouldn't keep anything that brings back memories because they'll just make it much worse for you.

Don't drown your sorrows.. Alcohol acts as a depressant!

Originally posted by GazB
If I was you, I wouldn't keep anything that brings back memories because they'll just make it much worse for you.

Don't drown your sorrows.. Alcohol acts as a depressant!

in that it depresses parts of your central nervous system, mainly dealing with balance and inhibitions. It doesn't depress you in the way that is meant if you are described as depressed.

Originally posted by missrabbit
i have a shopping list of the Paul McKenna book and the Ben Folds song recomended to me by other forumers so they should keep me ocuppied!


Ben Folds *ROCKS*

The song in question will cheer you up no end. And if your first name happens to be Kate*, so will the song Kate.

*It's probably a longer shot than you moving into Slimsid's but you never know.

Also, Mr Folds is playing the Uni on June 13 - get there if you can.

:)

Wow. thats a lot of opinions people have of me, thank god your all made of electricity and i'll never actually meet you. I only came on cause jess said someone had pm'd me about some prints but now that i'm the most hated man in sheffield I feel even better about myself. I would tell you my side of the story but i'll let jess fill you all in. And yes everyone I do feel like a complete c**t for hurting jess. Thanks again for your most valued opinions

Sam x

I won't hold no grudges mate.. Having broken things off with my ex and everyone thinking I was the ar$ehole! Not something I want to talk about on here, my reasons were more than justified but women always decide to blame the male.. It's easier for them!

Originally posted by snatchbane
Wow. thats a lot of opinions people have of me, thank god your all made of electricity and i'll never actually meet you. I only came on cause jess said someone had pm'd me about some prints but now that i'm the most hated man in sheffield I feel even better about myself. I would tell you my side of the story but i'll let jess fill you all in. And yes everyone I do feel like a complete c**t for hurting jess. Thanks again for your most valued opinions

Sam x

Maybe you should go for a beer with Slimsid.

It might Cheer you up.

<sorry, couldn't resist!>

A big hug for Miss Rabit from all at Sheffield Forum.

:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

I know how you feel when you break-up with someone special.

It's the worst feeling in the world. You feel bad all the time.
Your thoughts are always about them.

My advice is to pamper yourself as much as you can. Keep thinking this feeling will get better and in time it will.

I hope you feel better soon.

Originally posted by OBOne
I know how you feel when you break-up with someone special.

It's the worst feeling in the world. You feel bad all the time.
Your thoughts are always about them.

My advice is to pamper yourself as much as you can. Keep thinking this feeling will get better and in time it will.

I hope you feel better soon.

definately!! i once once broke up with a gf, then spent 110 pound in burtons, makes u 4get bout things, along with forcing yourself to go out..

Originally posted by OBOne
I know how you feel when you break-up with someone special.

It's the worst feeling in the world. You feel bad all the time.
Your thoughts are always about them.

My advice is to pamper yourself as much as you can. Keep thinking this feeling will get better and in time it will.

I hope you feel better soon.

Thanks i plan to go out round chesterfield for my birthday on friday and spend the whole evening dressed up with my closest mates including my bestest friend...Mr Jack Daniels!

Welcome to the forum by the way!:thumbsup:

On the pull eh! look out chesterfield

Hey babe only just found out. Keep your chin up and don't worry if he didn't want you then he isn't worth a single tear. I hope that u do pull in chesterfield on friday and have a good birthday. He is probably trying to ruin your birthday so don't let him. Look good, feel good and maybe have a good feel of someone else. lol

Originally posted by marcuss
Hey babe only just found out. Keep your chin up and don't worry if he didn't want you then he isn't worth a single tear. I hope that u do pull in chesterfield on friday and have a good birthday. He is probably trying to ruin your birthday so don't let him. Look good, feel good and maybe have a good feel of someone else. lol

the guy has a point. His only crime is to break up with missrabbit. If he decided it wasn't working then that's fair enough, why accuse him of trying to ruin her birthday. He probably feels pretty bad about it even if he has decided to move on, so I doubt he is intentionally doing anything to make the situation harder.

Originally posted by Cyclone
the guy has a point. His only crime is to break up with missrabbit. If he decided it wasn't working then that's fair enough, why accuse him of trying to ruin her birthday. He probably feels pretty bad about it even if he has decided to move on, so I doubt he is intentionally doing anything to make the situation harder.

Completely agree - and he is a forumer, so likely to read this.

:o

Originally posted by liencam
Completely agree - and he is a forumer, so likely to read this.
:o

If he's snatchbane - he's already read it ... and he thinks he's the most hated man in Sheffield right now ....

I don't hate you snatchbane ... we feel sorry for missrabbit cos she was the first to post ... if you'd started another thread saying how bad you felt cos you jiust couldn't go on in a relationship - just as many people would have posted sympathising with you ...

You both have to get on with your separate lives now - best of luck to you both ...

Originally posted by snatchbane
I would tell you my side of the story but i'll let jess fill you all in.
Sam x

Why is there another side? Not having a go at you just don't know why you would say that unless there was another side. Don't want to pry but you put it so im asking.

Originally posted by alexlad05
Why is there another side? Not having a go at you just don't know why you would say that unless there was another side. Don't want to pry but you put it so im asking.
Two sides to a story? :wow:

Who'd have thought such a thing could happen. :suspect:

:roll:

Originally posted by Cyclone
the guy has a point. His only crime is to break up with missrabbit. If he decided it wasn't working then that's fair enough, why accuse him of trying to ruin her birthday. He probably feels pretty bad about it even if he has decided to move on, so I doubt he is intentionally doing anything to make the situation harder.

i said something similar to this and on the theme of two sides to every story and my post got deleted for some reason - never did get an explanation as to why though

this guy has been made out to be a b*****d! by people that don't know anything about what went on!! some very narrow minded, judgemental people on here, maybe he just wanted other things out of life etc etc etc and just 'maybe' he wouldn't be feeling too good about the whole thing either :roll:

that sucks.

hope you have good friends to rely on and not flick you with elastic bands when you are down!

Since you mention it i do have on 'friend' who flicks me with elastic bands but i am only his friend out of pity.

:P Cheeky:P
:heyhey: :heyhey: :heyhey:

all i can say chicken fillets:)

I know this bloke and hes cut up about it, but in his mind its for the best, miss rabbit will think so eventually!

Originally posted by Boops
I know this bloke and hes cut up about it, but in his mind its for the best, miss rabbit will think so eventually!

Don't know how you know him. I just hope that his mind is right cos this is the last time. He makes me happy and i want to make him happy but its just one sided. The only way that i will eventually think it is for the best is if he is happy and when i see him he doesn't seem it. I know it is a bit soon but if he misses me as much as i miss him then how can it be for the best? If you have ever done anything because you thought it was for the best and then regreted it then you will understand.

Not wanting to sound rude, just a bit fed up of people deciding what is best for me without me having a say.

Welcome to the Forum by the way!:thumbsup:

Originally posted by Mr_Ed
all i can say chicken fillets:)

Oh it on...
It's on like Donkey Kong.....

Originally posted by missrabbit
Don't know how you know him. I just hope that his mind is right cos this is the last time. He makes me happy and i want to make him happy but its just one sided. The only way that i will eventually think it is for the best is if he is happy and when i see him he doesn't seem it. I know it is a bit soon but if he misses me as much as i miss him then how can it be for the best? If you have ever done anything because you thought it was for the best and then regreted it then you will understand.

Not wanting to sound rude, just a bit fed up of people deciding what is best for me without me having a say.

Welcome to the Forum by the way!:thumbsup:

presumably he thinks it's best for himself rather than for you.

Originally posted by missrabbit
Oh it on...
It's on like Donkey Kong.....


oh, so you think you are strong enough to take me on my young padawan!

Just been nosey - does anyone know if our MissR has recovered from her ordeal ???

Last I heard she was still very upset and was having to move out of the home she shared with her Ex!

:)

Hello everyone! Yes i am fine and am moving on quite well. I am moving out of the house we shared in the next few weeks and am now moving to Chesterfield for a great job offer! Everything is really starting to look up. I left my office job that i hated, which also means i dont have regular access to the net and all you guys! Will be getting the tinternet when i move to my new place and get settled in so dont worry i will still be on the forum (how could i survive with out sheff forum?).

Thanks to everyone who posted kind words to cheer me up and give me something to read instead of feeling blue. I do feel that this has helped a little bit in mending my broken heart! And all you boys better watch out cos Miss Rabbits about! (and she's randy!) :heyhey: :heyhey: :heyhey: :heyhey:

Originally posted by missrabbit
... boys better watch out cos Miss Rabbits about! (and she's randy!) :heyhey: :heyhey: :heyhey: :heyhey:

... oooh ... Randy as a Rabbit !?

:P

im going to post a reply so she knows i exist!