hi sorry if i havent worded the title right
I have a son with asperges and autism and when he either cant get his own way or he gets angry he lashes out at the moment he is in a main stream school but the headteacher is finding it hard with him because he has only been there 3 weeks and he has hit his teachers 3 he has now been suspended from school for 4 days because of this can anyone give me advice on how to help him control his anger in a different way

HE HS ONLY HUST BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH THIS BUT U AM NEW TO ALL OF THIS EVEN THOUGH HE IS 7

Talk to your Doctor about tablets called Flupentixol, they work great for me, takes the edge off my own constant rage.

I don't recommend high doseage of them though as they can make the person drowsy.

hi sorry if i havent worded the title right
I have a son with asperges and autism and when he either cant get his own way or he gets angry he lashes out at the moment he is in a main stream school but the headteacher is finding it hard with him because he has only been there 3 weeks and he has hit his teachers 3 he has now been suspended from school for 4 days because of this can anyone give me advice on how to help him control his anger in a different way

HE HS ONLY HUST BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH THIS BUT U AM NEW TO ALL OF THIS EVEN THOUGH HE IS 7

Hi Marie

What an awful situation for you :(. Is your son on any medication at the moment?

hi sorry if i havent worded the title right
I have a son with asperges and autism and when he either cant get his own way or he gets angry he lashes out at the moment he is in a main stream school but the headteacher is finding it hard with him because he has only been there 3 weeks and he has hit his teachers 3 he has now been suspended from school for 4 days because of this can anyone give me advice on how to help him control his anger in a different way

HE HS ONLY HUST BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH THIS BUT U AM NEW TO ALL OF THIS EVEN THOUGH HE IS 7
I think this is disgraceful that he should be suspended due to a behaviour that is realted to his disabilty. This is setting a pattern for life .This is what happened to my son, though he did not actually get excluded permanetly. The schools need to wake up to ther fact that they do not always understand autism and aspergers as they usually do not have any intensive training to deal with this misunderstood condition. Sadly, as they do not understand it, there is usually little money set aside in their budget for this.
I dont know if you know about the changes to special needs support that has been implemented without parental consultation from 1st September, but I suggest that you find out as soon as possible as it is to affect all children.s

no hes not on any med for the autism or asperges but we have had to put him on sleep medication to try and make him sleep. The only prob is it doesnt knock him out like it should and then he gets up in the morning really crabby so i can't win.
thanks for the response i fell as though its something i have done wrong trying my best to help him but i have 3 other children as well to deal with.

It is an awful situation for you. You need to get as much support as possible from as many people as possible. You need to go back to his medical team and discuss all options available, ranging from medication to anger management/ family therapy,they should also be able to advise on accessing respite as you must be exhausted dealing with all of this.

It is important that you seek as much help as possible whilst he is still young, as the situation in school may well deteriorate and lead to permanent exclusion with no help given to your son. If you have not already done so you should apply for a Statement of Educational need as this will help your son access the specialist education he needs.

None of these things are easy and some are quite scary as you will find yourself up against those whose main interest is to save money, resources and reputation. Remember that it isn't your fault and don't let them make you feel it is, the very fact that you're asking for advice is proof of this. I would strongly advise that you find your local support groups who will be made up of people who have been through or going through all of this and will be able to help.

It is an awful situation for you. You need to get as much support as possible from as many people as possible. You need to go back to his medical team and discuss all options available, ranging from medication to anger management/ family therapy,they should also be able to advise on accessing respite as you must be exhausted dealing with all of this.

It is important that you seek as much help as possible whilst he is still young, as the situation in school may well deteriorate and lead to permanent exclusion with no help given to your son. If you have not already done so you should apply for a Statement of Educational need as this will help your son access the specialist education he needs.

None of these things are easy and some are quite scary as you will find yourself up against those whose main interest is to save money, resources and reputation. Remember that it isn't your fault and don't let them make you feel it is, the very fact that you're asking for advice is proof of this. I would strongly advise that you find your local support groups who will be made up of people who have been through or going through all of this and will be able to help.
SAPAG( Sheffield Asperger Parents Action Group) meet on the 3rd Wednesday of every month at The Carers Centre.Trippet Lane. PM me if any one wants more info

no hes not on any med for the autism or asperges but we have had to put him on sleep medication to try and make him sleep. The only prob is it doesnt knock him out like it should and then he gets up in the morning really crabby so i can't win.
thanks for the response i fell as though its something i have done wrong trying my best to help him but i have 3 other children as well to deal with.

Most children with Asperger Syndrome find it hard to sleep.This is just the way that it is and something that I have had to come to terms with. Now my son is a teenager though, we cant get him out of bed!

they have applied for special educational needs but did not get anywhere when he was in infants but he is now in juniors and they are documenting more info to try for it again hopefully we will get him the help he needs sooner than later.

i think i find it hard because i have 3 other children who are 12,11 and 8 years of age so they are still young them selves my oldest has dyslexia so he needs help with homework and things he also has a slight attention seeking disorder so between my youngest and oldest its rather funny when you think of it i must have strong shoulders lol

The National Autistic society holds seminars for parents on managing anger in young people with Autism. They have one in Barnsley in November, but it may be fully booked. There are some good books on the topic if you have the time to read them. We found Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions for Tantrums, Rage and Meltdowns by Brenda Smith Myles and Jack Southwick very useful. As for school, they need to work out what is causing your son so much stress. Many people with Autism have sensory issues (for instance my son dislikes glare from white paper under strip lights at school). If school can start to work out ways of reducing your son's stress and appropriate ways to deal with him when he feels stressed (e.g. a quiet space to calm down) this should reduce the lashing out. The special needs team's autism specialists should be able to help and Parent Partnership are good for advice. Good luck!

he doesnt like peolpe looking at him and he also doesnt like loud noises
the other thing is as well is if he doenst get his own way or if you change the routeen he gets angry and these are where i am trying to help him out
the part of where he doesnt get his own way cant work out if it is to do with his autism and aspereges or wether its just him

he doesnt like peolpe looking at him and he also doesnt like loud noises
the other thing is as well is if he doenst get his own way or if you change the routeen he gets angry and these are where i am trying to help him out
the part of where he doesnt get his own way cant work out if it is to do with his autism and aspereges or wether its just him
I will do what I can to help.I suggest that he does not take any mediaction until you explore lots of other avenues.

I am awaiting several replies at the moment from different people so I will update on this when I can.

thanks for all your help