hi,
jst wanted to know if anybody has had aany problems with their health visitor and if you think tey talk a load of poo poo or not.
Im starting to think mine are a bit of a waste of space, been today to get logan weighed and hes 18lb 3 which they have said if he puts on more than a pound in thew next 2 weeks then he will av to see a doctor but only 2 months ago they were telling me that he wasnt putting enough weight on!!!:confused:
Now what do they expect me to do stop feeding him?!?!?!?! :loopy:
He doesnt have any stuff thats bad for him and he has a very healthy balanced diet so what the bloody hell am i supposed to do?!
Crazy women

I have heard from friends that some health visitors talk c**p. Your baby is a similar age to mine (but with a bigger birth weight and probably at a more advanced weaning stage) and my little one is beginning to get the lovely 'baby chubb' mainly due to him eating but not being able to crawl etc.

I wouldn't worry. You know what you are feeding him. I never even told my hv that I had began to wean him due to being only 21 weeks. Couldn't be bothered with the hassle - they thought he was fine so never mind!

Once he is crawling etc they will change their tune again. As long as he is healthy, happy and eating who cares! :)

ignore them! i would LOVE to know exactly what the training for a HV entails, cos I'm sure they arent supposed to do a module on 'how to upset a new parent' :loopy:
I've had sooooooo many issues with my hv's, cos my daughter weighs 20lb at 20m. They've practically accused me of starving her, but anyone who knows me has seen how much she can eat - the child never stops! They also forced me to wean her before she was ready. She's my third child to I'm no stranger to it but they still think I'm useless.
You see your son - you know what he eats and that he's happy and healthy, therefore what can they say?

gotta say love my health visitor, see her regularly as my wee girl is 3 years 3 months and weighs 20lb. shes always calm about small gains and inevitable losses. first health visitor was aful thou. in 2 and half years i saw her once when i reminded her she hadnt done any development checks on madam

I found mine bad. I ranted about that on another thread on here so won't drag it all up again. But I no longer see one because of the trouble they caused. My son's tiny and you'd think I locked him in a cupboard and refused to let him eat anything, the way they go on. When, in fact, he eats like a horse but is naturally small.

Unfortunately, HV's haven't got very good reputation's. They tend to stick to the text book and don't see that each child is different. I have had no positive experiences with HV's. I basically say what they want to hear and ignore them. If you do a search on here for HV or Health Visitor, I'm sure you will find lots of threads (including one I have started) on our experiences with them.

Meant to add, that I wouldn't worry too much, as children tend to level out. My DD's friend was a chubby lad, but now he's running and walking, it's dropped off of him and he's a not got much chubb left.

hi,
jst wanted to know if anybody has had aany problems with their health visitor and if you think tey talk a load of poo poo or not.
Im starting to think mine are a bit of a waste of space, been today to get logan weighed and hes 18lb 3 which they have said if he puts on more than a pound in thew next 2 weeks then he will av to see a doctor but only 2 months ago they were telling me that he wasnt putting enough weight on!!!:confused:
Now what do they expect me to do stop feeding him?!?!?!?! :loopy:
He doesnt have any stuff thats bad for him and he has a very healthy balanced diet so what the bloody hell am i supposed to do?!
Crazy women

Don't bother going again it sound like your baby is doing well. If you don't go to the way in if there anything like to ones I had they won't get off their fat backsides and come out to see you.

Just the word makes me shudder!! My advice - see them as little as possible.


Say no more......

well thought mine was great but today she told me we dont praise kids enough when they eat and i should go over the top with praise if my child eats anything at all. hmm this is a child with poss autism who goes mental when praised. yep great advice

My old health visitors were absoloute PANTS! there answer to everything was "persist, persist persist". I have recently moved to dronfield and my new health visitor is wonderful, I have learnt more from her in the last 3 weeks than i ever did with my old one. Big thumbs up to her!!!

I just think they talk a load of poo logan is a very tall little boy and he is nearly as tall as my friends littlew boy who is 11months he doesnt even look chubby hes just a generally big boy, i just dont think i can win with them, hes such a happy little man and it makes me soangry because they actualy make you feel like you are doing wrong to make them put weight on why the suspicion?

ignore them! i would LOVE to know exactly what the training for a HV entails, cos I'm sure they arent supposed to do a module on 'how to upset a new parent' :loopy:
I've had sooooooo many issues with my hv's, cos my daughter weighs 20lb at 20m. They've practically accused me of starving her, but anyone who knows me has seen how much she can eat - the child never stops! They also forced me to wean her before she was ready. She's my third child to I'm no stranger to it but they still think I'm useless.
You see your son - you know what he eats and that he's happy and healthy, therefore what can they say?

i havent got kids YET and i no only to well that HV talk b**l c**p and honeyb i no how much little ratty eats she isnt happy unless she is munching on something well if the HV starts on me i will have something to say and i am sure dfishy will back me up they are there to help not scare the hell out of you

u ask have i had problems omg where to begin, went ma lil girl came home we had the health visitor (the old old one) saying i was a bad parent for having her in a moses basket at the side of me she was like 4 days hold and was asleep i may add hey play mat was on the floor and all her soft toys. i kept taking her up every week regliously as if i said can i not bring her this week as i have to do something i got threaten and told i would have the Socail services on ma case. so i kept going when that one left we got another one who just didnt listen and completely man handled ma child (sorry men whoa re reading this) picked her up and check for bruises i ended up leaving this midwife refusing to take her there ever again and i put in the biggest complaint you can imagine, i then gets a phone call saying that this midwife has now felt and there is another in her place, she was just as bad, because i had started weening ma girl at 4 months and hadnt even tried her on the sma whiter stuff or what ever it is called because in my family every baby that has had has needed hospital treatment. i then a couple of months ago have 2 ladies from Socail Services knocking at my door telling me they need to check ma lil girl bcause i hadnt taken her to the HV, i said come in its a lil messy tho as i had just come back from been away visiting friends (suitcases still in living room and sorting out which hadnt been worn etc) so they start kicking off saying my house was a tip it was not a good environment for her etc, i still have the SS and i have been told that the NEW hv has to see her 1 a month i said no because she is a healthy child which every HV has said etc. they are making me take her to groups, i have someone at my house 2 a week to check on us. it is making me ill oh and not to say they have split me and my ex up gone know how many times. anyone know how to get rid of them.

but no i dont think the HV's are good i think they just rule your life well they have mine

Apart from the weaning part - saying I shouldn't be giving Lewis 3 meals a day at 25 weeks then changing their mind once he has been weighed then saying to carry on as he was so active he needed the calories I haven't had any real problems.

To be honest I have only ever had the health visitor to my house once and then after that the only appointments I have had are the ones where he was weighed before his jabs.

I have taken him to the drop in centre every four weeks to be weighed after 16 weeks old and I doubt they would even bother me if I didn't take him. I am back at work after the new year so I will only be taking him once more and then he probably won't see anyone until his 12 month jabs.

Just the word makes me shudder!! My advice - see them as little as possible.


Say no more......

I have to no choice but to see them as little as possible - I met mine for the first and last time 3 and 1/2 years ago after the birth of my 2nd child. She came to visit me, asked me a few quick questions and said "right everything seems fine, you are obviously an expert having done it all before so you probably wont see me again"

What a load of rubbish! An expert! What she meant was I use my common sense and yes, I'd had a child before but no-one's an expert! Each child is different, each set of circumstances are different. I cant even remember where she was based! Still, I've survived without her - waste of space.

13 years ago after the my first baby my health visitor Jill was fantastic! And any queries I have had with my 2nd baby, I've given her a quick call or seen my doctor. Don't know whether the system as changed or whats happened but things were certainly different this time round.

My d-i-law has had HVs visit with both our grandchildren (oldest nearly 2) and hasn't had a problem. The oldest child had some birth problems and didn't eat very well when she first came home. The HV was supportive, and offered suggestions - perhaps she did it in a way that didn't appear critical? Or perhaps some people are more sensitive, and don't like being questioned or being offered ideas that are different to their own.

Surely its worth putting up with visits from a HV, they are well placed to spot if things are going wrong. If they didn't check children, they'd be criticised for not doing their job!

Here's some information about health visiting - it shows how much work it takes to become one. http://careersadvice.direct.gov.uk/helpwithyourcareer/jobprofiles/profiles/profile429/

My health visitor saw me every week for 6 weeks and then said just to give her a call if i needed her. She is actually ok, the one i had for minis booking in appointment early in the year was very critical and after telling her mini drinks loads milk and eats loads cheese insisted on telling me how to get more dairy in her diet!!
But the one i have with nathan is nice, she is older and listens. She does not force info on me and basically said as i have done it all before i dont need to see her as much. I still avoid them like the plague though, if i have any concerns i go to the doctor not them.

After hearing all about the poor experiences people have had with their HV it makes me even more appreciative of my HV who has been consistently fantastic and hugely supportive.

I'm glad my HV said the only time she will see me again (before babywiggles 6month check) is if i happen to go to baby clinic when she is on. She seems like a really nice person but perhaps jumps to conclusions a bit to quick. When asked if my fmily were close by i said no (they aren't - both sets live over 3 hours drive away) she then gave a very disaproving look and asked if i had some close friends (i don't - only moved to sheffield 3 years ago) - this was met by even more disaproval. she then proveeded to give me a number to ring incase i needed someone and to look on certain sites online to find out about baby groups - generally made me feel like a useless person for daring to be independent and that the friends i do have should not work 9-5 becuase then i cannot give them baby for the day if i am 'stressed and need a break'.

After sitting thro this critiscism and not getting a word in edgeways i pointed out that:
- i do have some friends and would not expect them to have babywiggle just becuase i was having a bad day.

- i have a close group of mates who i have chatted with and moaned at throughout my pregnancy and whose babies who were born within 2 weeks of mine that i have met online and formed good friendships with. Just becuase they do not live in Sheffield they are probably better friends then the ones I have in Sheffield.

- I had already looked into baby groups and made plans with people to go to Jellytots that week.

- I know all about childrens centres and their work having worked in childcare and have already looked into my local one and the courses they offer.

- I use 'netmums' regulary and am joint admin on a facebook 'mummies' group.

I KNOW there are people in Sheffield who are pleased of the info HVs can give them and that they need pointing in the right direction of resources and support. But some of us need to be credited with a bit of common sense!

Well My views are slightly different. i have to say my HV at the moment is lovely but after my childs check up thing (that check between 9months and a year) then she is transvering me over to my local Hv's (because I have moved house) I am dreading it because I know i wont be lucky enough to get another HV as nice as the 1 ive got. She did say I could still take baby giggles upto see her at sure start if I wanted too but i want her to stay my HV shes nice and we got a good bond. I met her before I had little baby giggles and shes bin great all the time.

If you ask me health visitors are a total waste of resources. And I do NOT understand the obsession with all this weighing and insisting babies stick rigidly to little lines on graphs, derived in artificial settings. All children are different. Some will gain weight faster than others. Sometimes they will gain weight faster, some times slower. You are much better off watching your own child. You will know if they are not getting enough. Weight gain is actually a poor indication, and so RARELY is an indicator that something is wrong. Wet, dirty napies, the childs behaviour and developmant are all much better indicators. All regular weighing does is reinforce paranoia, teach parents not to trust their instincts, and often undermine attempts at breastfeeding.
I had my first son weighed for a few months. After that I never bothered. My other 5 kids all seem to have grown well despite this LOL:hihi: I am sure at times they have gained more weight, at times less, depending on any number of things such as weaning, development ( crawling, walking, running etc..) , food fads, picky eating, illness, growth spurts etc...But at the end of it they are all perfectly healthy kids all with different body shapes, but all within perfect weight range for their age.
The information from health visistors is so useless it is unbeleivable. I can not imagine the ammount of damage they must cause to first time parents:o. I refuse all health screning, development checks and contact with health visistors. It is your right to do that. You do NOT have to see the health visitor you know. I say to trust your instincts. You know your child. if you have concerns see your GP. Otherwise relax and enjoy parenting!

I have to admit my health visitors have been really helpfull, especially when I was getting rehoused they wrote letters on my behalf that certainly seemed to help.

Will give my HV a big hug when I see her. She is really down to earth and sensible.

She knows every baby does it's stuff in it's own way and it's own time. I did have a problem with my eldest and she was so helpful and calming and right! You can ask her any daft question and she doesn't assume you are a loon who shouldn't be near a baby..

I am deffo lucky to have my HV..