Hi
I got a new kitten a few days ago and she's constantly meowing and following me around the house. She doesn't want cuddling or petting because we get clawed to death if we pick her up. We play with her and that keeps her quiet for a time but then she soon gets fed up. I wish i had have taken her little brother with me at the time because maybe she misses her family.
I love her so much but i cant get anything done ive had to shut her out of this room as i type and still she's meowing at the door! please help!!!:confused:

Can't you go back and get her brother? Maybe she misses playing with them...


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A play mate would probably be what she is after if possible. Does she have any of those little balls with a jingle bell inside? Our kitten stays etertained for hours with those, and he can play with them on his own. He used to follow us round all the time, but since he has befriended most of our cats, he prefers to cuddle up with them for a couple of hours.


Also it's not too late to introduce another cat from another litter - never is really!

I did ring the woman up for her little brother but he had gone already, i could kick myself now!...She also has loads and loads of little play things, she has a mad 2 mins then gets fed up.

does she have any toys that make a noise though? They often prefer these and get bored of the silent ones!

does she have any toys that make a noise though? They often prefer these and get bored of the silent ones!

yes she does, she has little balls with beads in them and also a little slipper with a bell attached to it but she doesn't like that all she wants to do is follow me arund meowing but doesn't want to be picked up or anything.

Definitely sounds like she wants another playmate :( Would you be able to get her one from another litter?

Hi love, I emailed you the other day to ask how you were going on but have been having probs with Outlook Express so perhaps you didn't get my message. I helped to handrear this cat and she was friendly and fun, approachable and I played with her and had her on my lap for half an hour at a time. I do agree with Helen - it sounds like the trauma of being taken away from mum and siblings in one fell swoop has taken its toll. She can always be returned as a temp measure to be reunited with her mum for a little while longer. We also have a black and white kit ready for rehoming but I don't want to add to your probs. She really does need handling and I'll PM you with advice. Meanwhile perhaps a box with a cuddy toy inside might help her as a temp measure. It's early days but not being able to handle her will only make matters worse. I do understand your dilemma - must be difficult for you. Knowing that the kit can be returned as a temp measure might be able to qualm your fears a little. Try the cardboard box approach in the meantime love and see how that pans out. Hopefully she will get comfort from the cuddly toy thinking it's her mum. Fingers crossed. Don't give up hope - am sure it can be sorted!! Best wishes, Maggie

Hi love, I emailed you the other day to ask how you were going on but have been having probs with Outlook Express so perhaps you didn't get my message. I helped to handrear this cat and she was friendly and fun, approachable and I played with her and had her on my lap for half an hour at a time. I do agree with Helen - it sounds like the trauma of being taken away from mum and siblings in one fell swoop has taken its toll. She can always be returned as a temp measure to be reunited with her mum for a little while longer. We also have a black and white kit ready for rehoming but I don't want to add to your probs. She really does need handling and I'll PM you with advice. Meanwhile perhaps a box with a cuddy toy inside might help her as a temp measure. It's early days but not being able to handle her will only make matters worse. I do understand your dilemma - must be difficult for you. Knowing that the kit can be returned as a temp measure might be able to qualm your fears a little. Try the cardboard box approach in the meantime love and see how that pans out. Hopefully she will get comfort from the cuddly toy thinking it's her mum. Fingers crossed. Don't give up hope - am sure it can be sorted!! Best wishes, Maggie

Hi Maggie thanks for your reply, I didn't get your e-mail but thanks anyway.
I have put a cuddly cat in her bed but she's doesn't seem that interested, i think i'll buy her a new bed with a roof on because the only time she sleeps is under the sofa.
I couldn't possibly return her because it would break my daughters heart (and mine) also wouldn't that just make things worse for when she came back??? i dont know.....I do wish i had taken both the kittens at the time but as you say this might double my problems instead of halving them.
I wouldn't give up on her but i were worried not knowing what was wrong. Maybe she will settle down as time goes on.
Thanks to everyone for the replies but if you can think of anything else let me know.
Rachael

Hi luv, oh I am so you are going to persevere, it's early days yet. A soft igloo may certainly be a comfort to her. I'll speak to Jane when I see her later today but I think she'll say that handling is the best thing. I know it's difficult doing the handling thing at first, but I normally try and restrict their area of movement, get a soft towel and if someone can get her attention on one side, then scruff her at the back of her neck just as her mother would do. Don't pick her up from the front, she'll put all four paws out when the consequences of claws! You won't do any damage and then wrap the soft towel around her and they nearly always calm down and can be held on your knee and be stroked. I can hear you say 'oh yeah' but just think to yourself that she is a kitten and not a fully grown cat! If you're confident and don't think about it too much, it usually works! The main thing is to scruff her and she will dangle for a short while before you put the towel under her. She will then automatically put her paws inside the towel and you'll have her! She will respond to stroking and talking to. She will I'm sure!!! Give it a few days, then get back to me if you're still having problems. What's her name by the way - Fearless??!! x

Just thought, I'll PM a couple of other Forumers who took female kits from the same litter - have been in touch with them and they had them on their knee while speaking to me on their mobile. They might be able to come up with something if the igloo fails. Her mum is off to vets for spaying today. Along with 3 others from Tesco's! All go!! xx

Just thought, I'll PM a couple of other Forumers who took female kits from the same litter - have been in touch with them and they had them on their knee while speaking to me on their mobile. They might be able to come up with something if the igloo fails. Her mum is off to vets for spaying today. Along with 3 others from Tesco's! All go!! xx

Thanks for your trouble Maggie i really appreciate it. Although i'm a bit jealous that they get to cuddle theirs.:)

As you know I am socialising two white kits. And I usually leave food down all the time but they are still snarling. So today, I am giving them a spoonful at a time. Calling them, giving them just a little food and then walking away. For the first time today, they have called after me and then when I am feeding them I stroke them. The snarling from yesterday has turned into a little bit of a purr. I am confident love that your little one will be ok. Just give her a bit of time and I'll be there if not. Am sure that Becky who took one of the other kits and had it sat on her knee when I called will help out too. x

Thanks maggie, Dont think you've got it but I e-mailed you this morning before I put a post on here, her name is Tilly.
I'll do everything that you said and see how it goes. she is lovely though and i would never contemplate giving her up.
I appreciate the advice and the trouble you go to just to help:)
Rachael

Just wanted to add, my husband went to pick her up originally from jane's and he told me that she didn't want to leave the cage she was in, she were clinging on for dear life!

I have recently acquired a new puss who is now 8 weeks old! He's settled in very well with me, but one of the main reasons for this is that he has a 1 year old brother to terrorise (existing cat). I reckon that in time, she will be fine.... possibly with the addition of a new playmate? They are so cute together and have me in stitches as they play fight and the little one chases the big fella around the house, jumping on his back and biting his throat. I think Jnr thinks that he has a new Daddy, never mind a brother! I had to smile when I caught the older one licking Jnr the other day. I could have shed a happy tear I could.

ooh, persevere Rach.
My lil cat was 12 weeks when we got him and he followed me everywhere, didn't meow tho. He hated (and still does) being stroked on his body, but loves his head and whiskers being stroked. he's 2 now and still follows me round, he sleeps outside my bedroom door and even comes in when i'm on the loo. The cat behaviourist called him a dependant cat and told me he sees me as his mum!

try what magsie has suggested, give kitty something to snuggle upto/into and maybe she will feel a bit more secure....

Let us know how you get on....

Menat to add, i did have an exsisting cat.... but we did keep them separated for a few days....and all he did was bully her!

Can you keep on letting us know about Tilly .. ?

Rachylou - Bigflesh's boy is Tilly's bruds!! I have stroked white kits 8 times today - all with the offer of food. While they're eating I stroke them, then when they finish I am still stroking them but they just don't get it. They get better every day, in fact every half day!! Poor Tilly must be missing her mum who was done today and will make a wonderful cat. She is very attractive. x

Hi all, I got Tilly an igloo bed and she loves it, it was so sweet to actually watching her sleeping in it. She does like to jump on top of it as well though and play with the tassel that's attached to it.
I did what you said about the soft towel but used a soft blanket and it worked!!! we got to cuddle her for a couple of hours yesterday and she just lay there purring until she finally dropped off to sleep. She does still meow a lot but mainly in the morning when she's been on her own all night. Yesterday she was happy most when we were all in the living room around her, she were playing happily until she finally went in her igloo with her blanket and fell to sleep. Hopefully she will be more settled as the days go by, just glad that we get to calm her down by cuddling her.
I'll keep you informed, thanks for all your replies!
Rachael:)

Well done Rachylou, you are doing all the right things. A brilliant kit owner!!
Bigflesh sent me a photo of the kit (Frank) he got from me last week. Any more news from any of the other kits please? Would love to hear from you.
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