My friend is getting married this sunday and i know she is making a big mistake. The bloke she is marrying is a complete knob and has already hurt her so many times. I just know she wont be happy for ever. Im really struggling to go to the wedding, but, because she doesnt know my true feelings i feel i have to go. To top it all off she is pregnant! I just dont want her to be hurt again. Do any of you reccomend anything that i can do or say? I know if i mention it to her thats our friendship up the spout. Im inbetween a rock and a hard place!!

HELP :(

I know if i mention it to her thats our friendship up the spout.

I think that's your answer!
It's really none of your business who she chooses to marry if he makes her happy (I'm sure we've all disliked our friends' choice of partner at one point or another) - what are you hoping to achieve by telling her this?
The best thing you can do is support her (AND him) and be there if things do go wrong (hopefully you'll be proven wrong and they'll live happily ever after).
Talk about waiting until the 11th hour if you do decide to talk to her..........

I agree.

It's WAY too late now to pipe up - all you will ever do is drive a wedge between you and your friend.

The only thing you can do now at this late stage is be there for your friend if she ever needs your support. Let her know she can always confide in you and trust you... but until she says she is having doubts, it is not your place to point out her fiance's faults.

sorry I also agree,

I know its hard when friends make bad choices, I am in a similar position, all you can do is hope that your wrong, and if it does go badly, then be her friend, hold her hand and just support her, because she will need you

People have to be able to make their own mistakes Sarah

Good friends are always there to share the box of tissues when needed

If your friend is happy, then be happy for her

If in actual fact she's having doubts, be there for her, and help her decide how best to sort this mess out - but you can't instigate the proceedings!

Just watch for any warning signs, and make sure you're armed with a back up plan for if she turns up on your doorstep at ten o'clock the night before declaring she can't go through with it - so at least you can stay calm and look after her!

She already reads his texts and emails behind his back. He has hurt her twice and i know that wont be the last. she knows it to, she is just scared to be on her own. I live 100 miles away so its difficult. I would have spoke to her before but she bought the wedding forward by 4 months due to the pregnancy. Thanks for advice, I have no intention of 'piping up' at the 11th hour but i just wanted to see what people thought was best. I will always be there for her she knows that.

Its great that she has such a good friend

I hope it all turns out for the best

Good luck is all i can say.

there is nothing worse than seing a friend go in to a battle that all you can think is that it will end in tears... be strong and be her rock...

i know i have said nothing different to what anyone else has said but perhaps thats all you really needed to hear.

It is evident she has confided in you, judging on what you said about the texts etc. so let her go with her own judgement for now, then when hers fails her thats your time to step in.

take care, and during all of this do not forget to look after yourself!

Amanda