Is your Dad giving you away? If not, who is? is it a big deal for you?

Weddings always make me think........ if my Dad wasn't here to walk me down the aisle and give me away, i don't think i could do it, it'd make me too upset and something would be missing from the day. All my close uncles have already done it or have daughters to do it for so wouldn't want to ask them. The only other person i would think of asking would be my partners dad as me and OH are both only children and i think he'd find it really touching and emotional too.

I would cry buckets and buckets on my big day if my Wonderful Dad :love:wasn't here. Please, God willing, he will be when if and when it happens.x.

Yep my dad will be giving me away :D As i'm his only daughter he's only got 1 chance to do it but, like you wondertec, it just wouldn't be the same i don't think if it wasn't him.

However, when my brother got married last August, his missus had her own son give her away - i thought that was quite touching :)

I'm the only one too, so it has to be him. tho if i had an older son, i'd like to have em both!!
Always makes me tear up when i think of it, i'm such a softie. I'm not even getting married!

I'm the only one too, so it has to be him. tho if i had an older son, i'd like to have em both!!
Always makes me tear up when i think of it, i'm such a softie. I'm not even getting married!

Awww you may do soon ;)

I'm supposed to be getting married next year but we're not sure yet, it may be the year after instead.

I'm having my daddy :love: my friend is getting married next year and having her daughter (7) give her away and her son (5) is going to be her OH's best man. Its her 2nd wedding so she didnt want her dad to do it. I think its a lovely idea. So is the one I've heard about someones mum giving her away, she was a single mum and had raised her daughter alone all her life so it was only natural she did it.

My son will be giving me away, my dad died last month, he will be very much missed on the day (30th august) and i'm sure i will get upset but i know he will be there in spirit. I have got a absencse candle that i will be lighting and putting at the side of my cake.

My son will be giving me away, my dad died last month, he will be very much missed on the day (30th august) and i'm sure i will get upset but i know he will be there in spirit. I have got a absencse candle that i will be lighting and putting at the side of my cake.

That's a lovely idea! Didn't realise there was anything like that...
Hope the day goes well for you.x.

My dad died when I was 14 and since then my mum has said she wanted to walk me down the aisle, so she gave me away when we got married in March. I think it was the proudest moment of her life.

My Dad died from leukaemia nearly 2 yaers ago so my Mum will be giving me away, in 11 days!

I've had a very turbulent relationship with my dad over the years (more so when I was a bit of a tear away in my younger years!).

I do think about this a lot tho, I'd be gutted if he wasn't there to give me away, and I'm not saying 'I want to get married so he can do it' but it does mean a lot that I don't leave it too long....

I know he would be so happy and proud to do it.

I'm sure for all those who's are not here, they will be in some way.

I dont get along with my mum and dont want her at the wedding, so my dad has said that if she isnt going he wont be going, so my Grandad will be giving me away next year.

I am not on speaking terms with my Dad so wouldnt want him there. I think my Mum would be too shy to walk me down the aisle, would it be weird if I walked down by myself, with bridesmaids in front? I'm not even engaged lol, just daydreaming! :hihi:

Both my parents dies when I was 16 and 17, so my little brother will be giving me away next year.

Can you be "given away" at a register office ceremony?

Can you be "given away" at a register office ceremony?

yes, I'm going to be given away by my dad at my reg office wedding

My dad died when i was was 5 so he couldn't give me away when Dave and I married but the boys from the family I nannied for all gave me away which was lovely , the youngest one was 7 he was upset as he thought it was serious. I am so glad I chose them they were all fantastic on the day. Even now they are still here older and funnier they loved the giving me away aspect

Oh my god I am such a soppy idiot - I was just picturing how upset I would be if my Dad died, and whether I could go through with the wedding etc, and made myself cry! At work!! :rolleyes:
I am not on speaking terms with my Dad so wouldnt want him there. I think my Mum would be too shy to walk me down the aisle, would it be weird if I walked down by myself, with bridesmaids in front? I'm not even engaged lol, just daydreaming! :hihi:When my friend got married, her Dad was actually the vicar that married them, so she and her hubby-to-be walked down the aisle together, which was nice :)

I didn't want to be given away as such, but as a compromise I asked my dad to escort me into the venue and walk me up the aisle - he was very proud :D

This thread has really struck deep with me.

I always wanted my Dad to give me away, right from being young, I would day-dream about my wedding day and picture how my dad would be smiling proudly at me. At times, I would panic and upset myself thinking about if he died.

Then in spring 2005 my worst fear happened and my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. We were told he had 6 weeks to live. Dad knew he was seriously ill with cancer but didnt want to know how long he had to live. So me and my sister respected his wishes and tried to carry on as normally as we could and talked to him about how he would get better after his treatment, even though we knew he would not survive.

It was so hard to believe that our dad was going to die, no matter how many times I told myself I still couldnt take in what was happening. I was depserate for dad to be at my wedding so me and my other half began to plan quickly and got everything booked within a week. It was booked for 21 May 2005. Then dad said he would prefer for us to have the wedding in a year or so after he got better. He didnt want people seeing him whilst he was so ill. So we agreed to postpone the wedding "until after he got better" but I knew he was never going to get better, it was so heart breaking having to come to terms with losing dad and facing up to the fact he wont ever be at my wedding.

So we cancelled everything and I spent all my time with dad, talking about what the wedding will be like when he's better in a copule of years, he was really looking foward to it and it was so difficult talking that way when I knew he wouldnt make it. But that is what he wanted, he didnt want to know if it was terminal or not, he just wanted to get better.

Then Dad got worse with every passing day but he still didnt know he was dying, we told him it was the radiotherapy making him feel bad.

My dad died 1 May 2005, four weeks after we were told he was dying. My world ended that day and I felt sure I would never get married without him. I'm still getting over losing him, I miss him every day my heart actually aches for him, I feel the sorrow in my chest so hard it takes my breath away sometimes. I really regret many things from that time, I wish I hadnt been selfish and tried to push my dad into our wedding without thinking how he may be feeling about it. I wish we'd got married before my dad had fallen ill, so many regrets.

It's taken until now for me to be able to start thinking about our wedding again and we've got a date booked for spring next year. It's going to be a small ceremony as I'm still getting over it.

This was never supposed to be a long reply but I'd like to say a big thank you to the person that suggested having an absence candle, I never knew they exsisted and I will deffinatley have one at the wedding. Thank you so much for suggesting it, it will make my day special. Thank you.

Bodgerbadger, my heart went out to you reading your post and cried for you. As i said before i lost my dad 2 months before my wedding and had my hen weekend the day after we buried him, it had been booked for ages and felt i couldn't cancel or people would lose money. I got through my wedding day knowing my dad was there in spirit looking down on me, yes i did get upset at times but overall we had a great day Glad you like the absence candle it was a lovely touch to our wedding and so many people said what a lovely idea it was. I now have it (a little burnt and smaller) in my display cabinet at the side of my dad's photo.
You will have a great day, you won't forget your dad is not there with you, but you will have so many memories of the good times to carry with you down tha isle and know that in spirit he will be walking down with you. Wishing you a lovely day Jayne x

Oh just to add, on our order of service books on the back we put the names of the people who could not be with us for our day, then at the bottom put:

We wish you could be standing here with us today, but we know you are here in spirit
You are in our hearts always, we love and miss you.

Many people said how touched they were with them x

when I told my parents we were getting married, my father instigated the row we expected him to. He continued not to speak to me right up to the wedding, preventing my mum from carrying out the usual role of 'mother of the bride' and leaving me to make all the arrangements with Mr Strix instead - when both of us were working away from home and the wedding was in Scotland too :(

Right up to the practice 2 days before we still didn't know if he was actually coming, or if he'd be giving me away

our plan B was that Mr Strix and I would walk up the aisle together (having ditched the idea of asking an uncle at this stage). The fact that we were marrying in a hotel made this decision easier, as it had a slightly more casual feel to it than a church wedding, so people's 'expectations' would already be different

As it was, he did turn up for the practice, but on the day he expected my mum to be looking after him rather than me :roll:

He's not getting an invite to any christenings that may happen :suspect:

Thanks for your kind words Jayne, I dont know how you managed to get through your big day so soon after losing you dad. Thanks again for the idea about the absence candles, I've been trying to find one but not really found anything yet - can I ask where you got your from?

He's not getting an invite to any christenings that may happen :suspect:

Is a christening likely??:wow::wow:

Hi yes sorry for delay. I used these and they were much better than in photo, i also used my own wording.
http://stores.ebay.co.uk/IN-THE-PINK-CANDLE-FAVORS_Absence-Candles_W0QQcolZ4QQdirZ1QQfsubZ10068858QQftidZ2QQt Zkm
hope this works, if not pm me
thanks jayne

Is a christening likely??:wow::wow:At the rate we're going - no :P

My dad gave me away for my first wedding, and my brother gave me away for my second. Mum was down as standby as we were not absolutely sure that my brother (who was in the RAF) would not be posted overseas to whatever conflict was going on at the time (I forget which). In my brother's speech, he said that he had been dying for a chance to give me away for years!

I am now contemplating marriage number 3 and we have not yet decided what to do for that (or even when)!

I am now contemplating marriage number 3 and we have not yet decided what to do for that (or even when)!Are you Ulrika Johnsson?! :suspect: :|