I read a post that Kristian placed into the thread that I started and decided to give it a chance. I was mainly side-tracked by the comment that foo_fighter was so anxiously ready to make. Just because I am a new mother and 14, doesn't really change that much of who I was before, with the exception that I am a mother now, and the responsibilities carried on with that! Yes, people make mistakes, but the best way to get through that is to learn from them. Maybe I shouldn't be a mother, maybe I should, all I know is that a stupid person gives up, and smart person will see this as a sign and take the responsibility of caring for the children that were blessed upon that individual. I see my children as blessings from God, and through him all things are possible. I regret not being married or a bit more mature when I had the twins, but like I said in my previous post, no one is perfect.

Forgive me for saying this, but this topic is called "Pros and cons to teenage pregnancy". I don't see any pros.

I was expecting some sort of list, although I can't imagine what was going to go on pro's.

I also was expecting a list. I am unfamiliar with the previous thread you started. Perhaps you could change your title and give us a brief history. Thanks :thumbsup:

PROS-
You watch your children grow up, just like every other mother
You are able to grow with your children

There is one pro - you'll have the freedom of having your own life back....possibly at the time your mates are shopping at Mothercare (or wherever) and getting ready for their new arrivals!! If you were 14 when you had your twins (?), then by the time they're off out on their own, you'll only be about 30 and believe me, that's still young!

But possibly the best thing is that you'll have the knowledge and experience to tell your own children to 'be careful' when it comes to you-know-what.

I don't wish to sound patronising. You're brave posting the subject on this forum (if past experience is anything to go by) so be prepared for some frankly, nasty comments.

But I hope not. I wish you well in the knowledge that you're going to need all the luck in the world.

You're a mother: indeed, a blessing from God!

Originally posted by alex9005
PROS-
You watch your children grow up, just like every other mother
You are able to grow with your children
See it's subjective. I wouldn't say those points are good things.

A pro is that she has brought 2 lives into this world and she will care for them the best way she can. As Modesty said in the last post, she will be a very openminded parent and more in touch with her children when they are older. Can anyone name any REAL cons?

Firstly, apologies if I come over a bit harsh.

Originally posted by alexlad05
A pro is that she has brought 2 lives into this world and she will care for them the best way she can.
But will she be able to care for the children as well as a mother who has lived a little longer, is more mature and knows more about the world? I think not to be honest. I don't think this is a pro comment at all actually, in fact it's almost a negative comment. You say "she will care for them the best way she can" as though it can never be good enough.

Can anyone name any REAL cons?
I can think of at least 10.

Originally posted by alex9005
all I know is that a stupid person gives up, and smart person will see this as a sign and take the responsibility of caring for the children that were blessed upon that individual.

I'm not going to make any comment or pass judgement on your particular situation because i don't think it's my place to do so. But by this remark are you labelling people who decide that having an abortion/their children adopted because it is in the best interests of themselves and their child, stupid?

CONS-
You almost lose yourself in the process of being someone's mother
You are set back on school, freinds, and other activities
You can't "go" to the mall whenever you want to anymore
You have more responsibilities
Wherever you go, the babies have to go
and so on and so forth, you get the picture!

I wasn't going to make the title of this thread what I was originally thinking, beccause it woul be too long! The thread covers pros, cons, and whatever wlse needs to be known about teen pregnancy! I'm allowing everyone to contribute, with the exception that this is not made to slander anyone!

Originally posted by Twiglet
I'm not going to make any comment or pass judgement on your particular situation because i don't think it's my place to do so. But by this remark are you labelling people who decide that having an abortion/their children adopted because it is in the best interests of themselves and their child, stupid?
It is not my choice to make, if another person, let's say another teenage girl gets pregnant, and decides to have an abortion, that's her choice and her's alone, unless someone was making the decison with her. In my beliefs, I don't believe in abortion, but that is a totally different topic that I will not get into!!

Originally posted by Sidla

But will she be able to care for the children as well as a mother who has lived a little longer, is more mature and knows more about the world? I think not to be honest. I don't think this is a pro comment at all actually, in fact it's almost a negative comment. You say "she will care for them the best way she can" as though it can never be good enough.



What difference does it make? If someone has 'lived a little longer' does that mean they will be able to give them more love? Look after them better? What exactly? All new mothers are exactly that, new! It is a new experience no matter what age you are. How would a 40year old brand new mother of twins be a better mother than a 14 year old one?

Originally posted by alex9005
You can't "go" to the mall whenever you want to anymore

Are you english or even come from Sheffield? Who the 'eck talks about going to the 'maaallll'. Normal people say they are going to the shops, unless your american of course ;)

Originally posted by missrabbit
What difference does it make? If someone has 'lived a little longer' does that mean they will be able to give them more love? Look after them better? What exactly? All new mothers are exactly that, new! It is a new experience no matter what age you are. How would a 40year old brand new mother of twins be a better mother than a 14 year old one?
It was my opinion, not factual evidence.

IMO, a 14 year old still has growing up of their own to do, and is in no position to bring new life into the world.

Can I just say, I don't mean to come over judgemental because I am not a judgemental person. There's no reason to believe alex won't be a good mother.

Originally posted by missrabbit
? Look after them better? What exactly? All new mothers are exactly that, new! It is a new experience no matter what age you are. How would a 40year old brand new mother of twins be a better mother than a 14 year old one?

Yes it does!

More mature, more 'life' experience. Probably able to provide with out living off the state.

Originally posted by Skatiechik
Are you english or even come from Sheffield? Who the 'eck talks about going to the 'maaallll'. Normal people say they are going to the shops, unless your american of course ;)

I do believe she is living in America.

Originally posted by Sidla
Firstly, apologies if I come over a bit harsh.


But will she be able to care for the children as well as a mother who has lived a little longer, is more mature and knows more about the world? I think not to be honest. I don't think this is a pro comment at all actually, in fact it's almost a negative comment. You say "she will care for them the best way she can" as though it can never be good enough.


I can think of at least 10.

I was a teenage mother! I was 14 when I got pregnant and 15 when I delivered. I will be turning 30 in July, does that fact make me less of a mother at all, or even a less mature mother? Me and Alex were just fine , when she came into the world. What's pretty ironic about all of this is everyone told me that I wouldn't make it being a teen mother and all. To find the outcome was the opposite of what they thought. I now have 2 children, Alex, and her 10 year old brother Isaac. I was 19 by the time I had my second child. To some teen mother's it can be a struggle if they choose for it to be.

keep your head up sweetie, you will make a fantastic mom!!

Originally posted by Lily04
keep your head up sweetie, you will make a fantastic mom!!
thanks mom!

Originally posted by Ousetunes
But possibly the best thing is that you'll have the knowledge and experience to tell your own children to 'be careful' when it comes to you-know-what.
Originally posted by Lily04
I was a teenage mother! I was 14 when I got pregnant and 15 when I delivered.
Lily04 is alex9005s mother (in case you didn't know).

Guess that theory has just been blown out of the water then Ousetunes.

Originally posted by Skatiechik
Yes it does!

More mature, more 'life' experience. Probably able to provide with out living off the state.

Ask anyone who knows me, I raised my kids very well! I didn't have to live off the state or anything like that. I moved to America after my daughter was born, cuz it was called the "land of opportunity," and plus that was where my parents moved to. After settling in here, I got a job, and began to pay a babysitter every week to watch my daughter, and the rest is history!

Originally posted by Skatiechik
Yes it does!

More mature, more 'life' experience. Probably able to provide with out living off the state.

That makes no difference what so ever! 'Life' experience? This is 'her' life experience! Everything in life is different to different people! Some of the younger mothers are a damn site better at caring for their children than some of the older mothers.

Why do you presume that she will be living off the state and if she is then id love to see you work a full time job and look after 2 brand new premature babies on your own!

Originally posted by foo_fighter
Lily04 is alex9005s mother (in case you didn't know).

Guess that theory has just been blown out of the water then Ousetunes.
Mark this in the history books, but thanks for pointing that out foo!

I am just glad your not another teenage mum in Sheffield, we seem to have enough. It was good of god to bless you with twins, lets hope he blesses you with the sense to use some protection next time.

foo_fighter - maybe you're right. This thread's beginning to look like some kind of set-up.

Now with the knowledge that mum and daughter were both teenage mums, my advice would be:

why don't you just talk to each other? Go have a coffee in some 'Mall' and discuss?

Oh no! Why has your congratulations thread been removed!? Do you not deserve to be congratulated or something?

Originally posted by neeeeeeeeeek
I am just glad your not another teenage mum in Sheffield, we seem to have enough. It was good of god to bless you with twins, lets hope he blesses you with the sense to use some protection next time.

:O please tell me that I am reading this correctly? Funny how little people know though. Sorry to inform you neeeeeeeeeek, but I am moving there, with my children, my mother, and my brother.

Originally posted by missrabbit
Oh no! Why has your congratulations thread been removed!? Do you not deserve to be congratulated or something?
too much of something, not sure! Ousetunes, what, I can't be allowed to ask other about this topic now?

Originally posted by missrabbit
Oh no! Why has your congratulations thread been removed!? Do you not deserve to be congratulated or something?
It's not. (http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=36639)

Originally posted by Sidla
It's not. (http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=36639)

That isn't the thread! That is Sataninheels baby! Not Alex's babies! Her thread has been removed and i just wondered why?

Originally posted by neeeeeeeeeek
I am just glad your not another teenage mum in Sheffield, we seem to have enough. It was good of god to bless you with twins, lets hope he blesses you with the sense to use some protection next time.

:clap: :thumbsup:



Originally posted by missrabbit
Why do you presume that she will be living off the state

You need to be 16 to legally work in the country, and as Alex is 14 how else would she be providing the baby? I just hope to god they aren't moving to Sheffield to claim benefits because America doesn't offer them.

Very cruel of me to say and it will offend I know, but the cynical part of me has come out :suspect:

Originally posted by missrabbit
That isn't the thread! That is Sataninheels baby! Not Alex's babies! Her thread has been removed and i just wondered why?
Sorry, I meant this one (http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=37188).

Anyway, closing this by request of the topic starter.