Babycamrat is fast approaching the big 1 year old. Just recently though he's becomed really clingy when it comes to Mrscamrat. She cant even leave a room for a few seconds without crawling after her crying his little heart out. No matter how much I try to distract him it just doesn't work (makes me feel really wanted.... not). I know kids go through seperation anxiety, but that happended earlier in life.

He's ok with dropping him off at nursery etc, it's just in the house when it happens.

Is this all normal? :help:

I think there are two sides to this. Im from the clingy is normal camp and believe that abies learn to be independant by knowing you are there. My son was extremely clingy and had to be with me all the time. Everybody moaned saying i was making a rod for my own back for not forcing him to be away from me. Now he is nearly 5 and although still a mummys boy is fine if he stays at my mums or whatever. My brothers were also the same and just gradually got less clingly knowing that my mum always had a cuddle for them. I think it is more commen with boys and gets better with time.

I'm sure I read that there's a phase anyway, between 10 and 14 months being the norm IIRC. It's just a phase though.
There would be variations on how attached he is to mummy anyway, perhaps you could take him on a mummy hunt, one which means he doesn't always find her or does after a certain amount of time to give her a few mins to do whatever she's left the room for.
He'll get over it at some point though :)

It's something to do with the child starting to become aware of himself and other people as seperate entities (according to the developmentalists/ psychologists) which happens at about that age, zebra, camrat.

He'll come through it, though, don't worry.

It's something to do with the child starting to become aware of himself and other people as seperate entities (according to the developmentalists/ psychologists) which happens at about that age, zebra, camrat.


Yeah, that rings bells for accuracy :)

Plain talker is quite right. This is a developmental phase which most children come through and coincides with development of object permanence, and realisation that their mother is separate from them and not part of them. In early life what they can see is all that exists, but then the begin to be able to recall people and objects outside of what they can see. So if you hide a bottle or toy underneath something they will move it to find it and if mum leaves the room they will look for her for fear she has vanished completely.
This typically happens at around 8months hence lots of babies develop sep anx around this time but is also often later. The most important thing is to reassure and maintain trust so they pass through it well by saying goodbye when you go out (so they dont think you are going when you leave the room even though its tempting to sneak off if they get upset) and not to react with anxiety of your own, as this exacerbates it. Be calm and sensitive and it should soon be over :)

Awww! poor Camrat, though. I can see how it would make you feel less than wanted when it happens but unfortunately, all babies seem to go through that stage when only mummy will do.

He doesn't mean anything by it ... imagine if you'd been inside someone for nine months, listening to their heartbeat and feeling every movement and mood, and then suddenly you're separate and then you keep losing sight of your rock, you'd cry for it too. In fact, I bet you did!

He'll grow out of it in a few months when he realises that he's actually another person with his own autonomy and he'll be just as keen on your company as he is on mummys when that happens. *hugs* Camrat