I'm going to a speed dating event in a couple of week's time but am not really sure what sort of things to say or questions to ask the girls there.

Does anybody have any (serious) suggestions as to what sort of things would help make a good impression?

Cheers.

"on the first date do you f..........." nah actually ill scrub that one!!!

Ask them about themselfs- what do they do, what they like- do you have any common interests?? thats the kind of stuff that will make you like each other- not just the physical attraction.

Becareful not to come across like you are interrogating them by firing rapid questions.

Obvious questions are career and interests. It would be good to try to think of something original because they will probably have been asked that by every other bloke there. I'm sure someone will come up with suggestions.

Keep eye contact - don't be tempted to wander down to the cleavage.

Don't do toilet humour.

Look as though you are interested in what the lady is saying.

Be polite but not smarmy.

Above all relax - they are probably just as nervous as you.

Good Luck :thumbsup:

Try not to be to effeminate, you don't want to attract the wrong attention.

My girlfriend thinks it would be funny for her to go along as a joke with some of her friends... so please some suggestions to make sure nobody wants to steal her off me :heyhey:

Originally posted by dawny1
Look as though you are interested in what the lady is saying.


even better

BE interested in what they are saying!!!!

Originally posted by scottf
even better

BE interested in what they are saying!!!!

Not always possible though!!

I hope no-one does go to these things as a joke it seems cruel to poke fun of people who are just wanting to find someone.

If I wasn't lucky enough to have found someone I would go to something like this I think it's an excellent idea.

I should imagine your first question should be:

You don't smoke do you?

:)

the questions my mate used to look into other poeples minds were:
badgers or squirrels?
salt and vinegar or ready salted
and another i cant remember,

she carefully wrote down all the responses, but then couldnt remember who was who as she hadnt written anything else about the blokes (looks, job, characteristics...!)

good idea in principle, but may need some work....!

Whatever you do DON'T say you are a tax advisor. I went to one of these events once and I'd say about about half the guys were tax advisors! Made me think something funny was going on... :suspect:

Originally posted by dawny1
I hope no-one does go to these things as a joke it seems cruel to poke fun of people who are just wanting to find someone.

If I wasn't lucky enough to have found someone I would go to something like this I think it's an excellent idea.

I don't think anybody really goes as a joke. She was considering going with one of her friends who was too nervous to go on her own. Strange girl.

I suppose though, even if you're not going looking for a new partner, it's a great chance just to meet new friends and new people! You just need to hope that it doesn't turn into a scene from Hitch!

Or a scene from Fatal Attraction.

I have a friend who is single and won't go alone but all her friends are in relationships and the blokes would not be happy if they accompanied her.

Perhaps if there are any single females who would rather go to an event like this with another female they should enquire on the Forum.

Let us know how you go on slimsid2000. :thumbsup:

Originally posted by dawny1
Or a scene from Fatal Attraction.

I have a friend who is single and won't go alone but all her friends are in relationships and the blokes would not be happy if they accompanied her.

Perhaps if there are any single females who would rather go to an event like this with another female they should enquire on the Forum.

Let us know how you go on slimsid2000. :thumbsup:

I wouldn't mind my girlfriend going, but she's decided that she'd rather not go! I think her friend's now found some single friends to go with instead!

Thanks for the advice so far. Any further help would be appreachiated.:help:

Originally posted by slimsid2000
Thanks for the advice so far. Any further help would be appreachiated.:help:

Good luck Sid.

You're braver than me in some ways. I could go up and talk to someone on their own in a bar, but the thought of having to successively meet a load of women in such a short space of time......I could easily loose my bottle half way through and just wish I was somewhee else.

Originally posted by dawny1
Becareful not to come across like you are interrogating them by firing rapid questions.

Obvious questions are career and interests. It would be good to try to think of something original because they will probably have been asked that by every other bloke there. I'm sure someone will come up with suggestions.



This sounds like a good idea, but what sort of less obvious questions would people suggest?

Originally posted by slimsid2000
This sounds like a good idea, but what sort of less obvious questions would people suggest?

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You have got to make her laugh/smile it's the best way to a woman's heart. Nothing worse than being interrigated be interested don't talk about yourself much make her seem as though she's the only woman in the room. Always works with me. Best of luck.

Thanks. That sound like good advice. I'll try to make the girls laugh. Lets just hope they are laughing for the right reasons:hihi:

I'd assume the best thing to do would be to ask them questions if you can. Seems like you are more interested in them than talking about yourself.

I'd like to go on a speed dating event, when's the next one?

This one is at Sheffield University. I don't think they will have another one until autumn and even then it may only be for registered students (although I don't know about this).

I suspect other places will have them before then.

I was listening to All In The Mind with Raj Persaud on Radio 4 yesterday & this thread sprang to mind. Part of the programme was related to speed dating & what makes some people more successful at it than others.

Here's the programme's website link Slimsid (the listen again link is just above Raj Persaud's pic) - hope you find it useful :)



All In The Mind (http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/science/allinthemind.shtml)

Many thanks sian. I'll have a look at the link.

I have just got the results back. I have no mutual results, ie non of the girls I said yes to said yes to me.:sad:

Hard look Sid, better luck next time.

Hard luck mate, what was the whole experience like if you dont mind me asking? how long do you get to talk to people and how many people were there? the only thing i know about it was what i saw on the vicar of dibley haha, not too sure about it

Thanks. I will try it again sometime.

You get 3 minutes to talk to each person, and there are 25 people of each sex.

I think it is a potentially useful way of meeting someone although it is hard to know what the success rate is. The main problem I found is that it gets hard on the voice after a while and sometime difficult to hear properly over all the noise of everyone talking at once. Also, most people tend to ask and say very similar things so by the end you can almost predict what a girl will say.

Just say yes to all of them next time :hihi:

Originally posted by Sidla
Just say yes to all of them next time :hihi:
Sounds like a plan! ;)

Seriously though - speed dating sounds like the ideal thing for people like me (shy single people who are hopeless at meeting people) but unfortunately I wouldn't ever dare go to one!

Unfortunately I can't imagine a worse nightmare for me than going to something like this... am sure it would be really good but the (annoyingly loud) voice in my head keeps saying "what if they all laugh at you" and such.

Congrats to you for going though slim - and more so for saying you'll go again. Good luck for next time!

Did anyone see EastEnders last night?

Alfie, Minty and the other bloke from the garage went speed dating.

It had me in creases. It was just so funny.

If you missed it try watching Sunday's omnibus. You won't be disappointed.

Originally posted by craigb
Sounds like a plan! ;)

Seriously though - speed dating sounds like the ideal thing for people like me (shy single people who are hopeless at meeting people) but unfortunately I wouldn't ever dare go to one!


To be frank, I'm not sure it is a good way for shy people to meet people.

I used to be very shy, and the thought of meeting 20 or so women all on one evening would have seemed horrendous to me.

I must admit I'm kinda curious about this whole thing.

You guys that have been - where there any lasses there you'd were genuinely attracted to? What type of people does such an event get?

I suppose what I'm getting it is would you recommend it as an alternative to stella artois, town and the Leadmill? Or would you leave it unless you ain't had much success elsewhere?

I not trying to say owt about people that go before anyone gets the wrong idea - like I say I am genuinely curious about it.

Originally posted by craigb

am sure it would be really good but the (annoyingly loud) voice in my head keeps saying "what if they all laugh at you" and such.



In a situation like speed dating everyone is in the same boat so i doubt anyone would be laughing, theyd all be worried about making a good impression themselves! If you went and did mess up the first time what is the worst that will happen? Someone youve never met before and probably never will again gets a laugh, the thought of it is worse than doing it imo

As a shy man myself I don't find it as daunting as the idea of going up to a girl in a bar. I suppose that is because it is more structured and the girls know you will be talking to them - thus no danger of them thinking 'what is HE doing approaching me?'

As for whether it is an alternative to clubs/bars I would say it is more of an addition than an alternative - another string to your bow as it were.

I would say that I could fancy about 50% of the girls there, which is not a bad average considering you only need one girl out of them to fancy you (although in this case it didn't happen). However, I have been to two different speed dating nights in two different places and in the first one I would say I fancied only about three out of 18 girls there. In other words, I would say, it depends very much on the venue and age group as to what percentage of fanciable girls there will be. Although, beauty is very much in the eye of the beholder so it is hard to say that other people would agree with this.

I was hoping some of you might be able to help me? I want to find out more about speed dating for a feature I'm writing (I'm a journalism student) and would really like to speak to somebody who has been in Sheffiled area?