My husband built us a wonderful house 20 years ago,we live at the top of a hill,so we actually live "upside" down, and we have wonderful views,the garden is on a steep slope, but it's terraced so looks nice, we have loved living here.My husband is now badly disabled now, so we have to do something, do we stay or do we go?The social services do know we have to have adaptations, but I'm not sure they'ed help us to change anything, so we have had the idea of turning everything upside down,making the top floor bedrooms which would be at street level, then moving all other rooms downstairs eg lounge, kitchen, my husbands bedroom, and a wet room,if we did this with perhaps a bit of help from social services,would we lose money with the changes? or should we move to a bungalow even though we don't want too?

Is this house your home or an investment? If it's your home and you've been happy there then I'd say keep it. If you move to a new house and you have problems there and aren't happy it's entirely possible your husband would consider it his fault that you had to move.

Stick around, take the financial hit and good luck.

Hi Applegrim
It's an awful lot of work to take on and it sounds quite expensive
.On one hand if you sell your dream home you would have the bugalow and a nest egg behind you and not so much work.
On the other hand it must be hard to rellinquish all you have worked hard to achieve in the past.
Cost the work involved first to alter your home .
Then price bungalows.
Then write down why it would be best to move and why best to stay. Sometimes it seems clearer written
Good Luck
Hazel

Hi , In my experience with any difficult decision, I tell everyone I know and love , get their reaction and it always seems to make sense .
Take your time, take away the urgency and you are in control.
You will know when the time is right what to do, we all sometimes get carried away with thinking we have no choice, but you do, are you happy now? what is it that you actually want?What would be the benefits of moving against staying somewhere you love?
A loved home is worth more than the unknown, a home is a huge part of your life, do you want to risk that, or do you feel you need to move?
I would not move unless it was for the best in every way and that you had no doubts at all.
If you love your house stay there, you can change it and still get the benefits a bungalow could bring, whilst keeping your home where your heart is .
Well thats my opinion any way, I know you will make the right decision, just take your time.

Good luck, I think you know in your heart what you want to do.xxx Caron

If I were you I would get as much info as I could on all options.

See if you kind find out exactly what financial contribution you would be entitled to for the changes you need. Also - get a builder to come and give you a free estimate.

I would also buy the Property Guide for a few weeks just to give you an idea on what kind of propertys are availble - you may see something that really appeals to you both.

I would also get your property valued now and ask what it would be worth if you had the changes done.

Armed with all the facts - you will then be able to make an informed decision.

Goodluck. :thumbsup:

I have had the benefit of meeting Apple and her husband. Its a lovely house, and if you need any advice on alterations, a good start would be a builder / contractor who could advise best on making the changes.

If I can be of any help, drop me a line and I will pass a few ideas your way.

1man& his BMW, thank you so much for those kind words, yes it is a lovely house, and we really would like to stay but we've tried every which way, to try to some conversions,It isn't a business as you know, but obviously we don't want to make changes that will prove unpopular, should we eventually have to move, as this house was built to make sure that my disabled son always has a home.The latest idea is the garage, but I'm not sure that if we convert it, it would be the best thing to do,I thank you so much for offering your advice,I will have to make my mind up soon as it's quite urgent now.Thanks again.