Does anyone else know someone who seems to be in a permanently miserable mood.

Even when you try and chat to them they are still miserable?

It's like they don't know how to crack a smile and not because there is anything particularly bad going on in their lives either.

It seems like they are always moody for no reason and frown at everyone when someone else makes a joke or looks like they're having fun.

It's just saddens me that these people feel they can try and bring your mood down all the time by the stupid remarks they say and/or the way they look at you.

Argh! Just drives me insane! You just can't please some bloody people! :rant:

Stop being so miserable sparklesista!

Anyhow, its got nowt to do with you:mad:

:mad: :mad:

I'm not the one being miserable - I just get tired of having to make conversation to get even a smile out of someone!

It's always such an effort with these people! :mad:

I know it's not aimed at me personally though because they are like that with everyone!

I think Saxon was joking Sparkle :hihi:

How could I possibly accuse you of being miserable?;)

I find it easier to give up on them and think, 'Sod you!!':(

Lol, I'm so irrated that I didn't see that coming ;)

Yeah, I think that too sometimes but it's not always as easy as that when you have to spend time with them. :(

In general, I like this person but just wish they would lighten up once in a while!

Hmm, no comment....

Also some people are just unfortunate enough to have faces like "a bag of slabs" , "wet weekend" etc. I knew a girl, before I met her I thought for years she was such a hard faced, miserable looking, hard ass biatch! I ended up working beside her and she had the most awesome sense of humour!!! But to look at her you wouldnt even venture a "Hi".
I know what you mean about the people with miserable attitudes though!!!! :rant: Some people just can't bring themselves to acknowledge anything positive. Lol, they positively revel in their negativity!! Ahh well as long as their happy :confused:

Look , Sparkle sista , just 'cos I 've won on the Lottery and got an obedient wife and 2 kids , it doesn't mean I have to go round grinning and laughing all the time , does it ?
Seriously ----agree with you Sparklesista ; far too many miseries about with a sense of humour I.Q. of about 7.
To add to them , you've got all the Drama Queens who make mountains out of molehills and get hysterical if somebody drops a toffee paper.
I suppose we ought to feel sorry for them , really. Can't be much fun going through life looking like a wet dishcloth or constantly getting the screaming habjabs at every end and turn !

Well, they may have some emotional problems - depression, for example, or they may have an ongoing situation in their lives that makes them sad. Caring for an ill relative, whatever. And unless you follow them around day after day you don't know whether they're having a momentary aberration in an otherwise cheerful life.

Some years ago I was in a very glum mood and someone who I didn't know from Adam said 'Cheer up, it may never happen'. I gently pointed out that it already had - my mother had died a few days before and so the last thing I needed was a smart arse. :)

But yes, there are some folks who are total 'greys' who seem to exist purely to drain cheer and positiveness out of you. I try and keep these people at arms length, or engage with them to see if I can be helpful. Alternatively, I just don't let them near me!

But the main thing is I let them be themselves - I don't have to change them to what I want them to be to make me feel more comfortable. I've been there and failed!

Joe

I don't really think anyone is constantly miserable. A lot of people who might appear to be miserable may just be quiet or shy.

I am a quiet person and I understand why people might consider me miserable. It doesn't really bother me that people feel this way about me. It does bother me when people tell me to 'cheer up', when I'm already in a good mood, just that I don't generally show it. Ask me a question and I'll answer, but don't expect too much small talk. I can only small talk with friends and family.

By the same merit, there are some people who always seem to be in a jovial mood. You don't hear anyone moaning about that. Unless you count this as a moan, which it isn't, just an observation.

Unless you know the person it is difficult to make a judgement.
Asking yourself this question might make you understand better.

Has the person always been like this? If not, what made the person change?.

(1) Could be his/her personal health that is worrying him/her.
(2) Could be finances that is worrying him/her.
(3) Could be 1001 things that are worrying him/her.

My suggestion would be, that if he/she is a good friend then invite them out one to one, that way they may open up.

It could be that all they need is someone to talk to who wont belittle them, not forgetting that Depression can catch anyone anytime and can be a killer.

It's not a form of depression - it's a way of life for this person.

It seems the only time they seem to improve their mood is when they see someone else fail or manage to bring your mood down!

I know, I went to London the other day and nearly everyone was miserable and not smiling at all, I smiled at them to cheer em up but they just looked straight through me!

I thought Sheffield was bad but it seems like happyland here now lol!

x x x

Originally posted by sparklesista
Does anyone else know someone who seems to be in a permanently miserable mood.

Even when you try and chat to them they are still miserable?

It's like they don't know how to crack a smile and not because there is anything particularly bad going on in their lives either.

It seems like they are always moody for no reason and frown at everyone when someone else makes a joke or looks like they're having fun.

It's just saddens me that these people feel they can try and bring your mood down all the time by the stupid remarks they say and/or the way they look at you.

Argh! Just drives me insane! You just can't please some bloody people! :rant:

maybe they are only happy when they are miserable? Most people only seem to be happy when they have something to complain about so logically that could follow on.

Originally posted by helenem2004
I know, I went to London the other day and nearly everyone was miserable and not smiling at all, I smiled at them to cheer em up but they just looked straight through me!

I thought Sheffield was bad but it seems like happyland here now lol!

x x x
I found that when I left Sheffield, people round here just blanked you in the street, even the new neighbours. Shopkeepers would think you were going to clobber them or something if you tried to strike up a conversation. Very clicky.

I found that as well in a different way. I spent a week walking through the West Highlands of Scotland and everyone there seems to say hi to each other or smile etc. When I came back to Sheffield I was still in cheery mode and I felt like I'd hit a brick wall when I was walking through town and my eyes happened to meet the occasional person. About 1 in 3 people will smile back if you make eye contact and smile. :( It's a shame because if I make eye contact with anyone I like to give them a nod or a smile or both.

I guess you can't expect it from everyone as there's always people who are naturally suspicious when you smile in their direction. It's all a bit morbid IMO but it depends how you've been brought up/dragged up and whether you're a naturally happy person or more of an overly cautious person due to bad experiences or being let down alot in the past.

Having spent a little time in London myself I came to the conclusion that it was the epicentre of doom and gloom as far as friendliness goes. Try making eye contact with someone on the underground. You don't even get the chance to smile at them because the glance they give you is quick as a flash and by the time your mouth has moved they're staring at the floor again. It's like they're scared of being hypnotised. :loopy:

Everybody is born miserable. Then slowly we cheer up.

Originally posted by Deavon
Everybody is born miserable. Then slowly we cheer up.

How did you come up with that analogy? :loopy:

I'm with JoeP on this one. I'm going through a really rough patch at the moment, but I hope none of you guys would know that as a result of my attitude on here.

We never know what goes on in other people's minds, and as such I find it hard to judge others on their outward appearance. Oh dear, I've gone all 'social worker' on you all.

Tara!

K x

Originally posted by robbie
maybe they are only happy when they are miserable? Most people only seem to be happy when they have something to complain about so logically that could follow on.

I remember one person I worked with who was not happy unless he was making other peoples day miserable or complaining about something :confused:

Originally posted by helenem2004
I know, I went to London the other day and nearly everyone was miserable and not smiling at all, I smiled at them to cheer em up but they just looked straight through me!


What did you expect them to do, cheer up and shake your hand simply because a complete stranger was grinning at them like a loon?

They must have thought the village idiot had come to town!

Originally posted by mojoworking
What did you expect them to do, cheer up and shake your hand simply because a complete stranger was grinning at them like a loon?

They must have thought the village idiot had come to town!

That's the kind of morbid attitude I was talking about earlier. Thanks for the insight into your grumpy mindset and good morning to you too. ;)

Originally posted by Pauly
That's the kind of morbid attitude I was talking about earlier. Thanks for the insight into your grumpy mindset and good morning to you too. ;)

Well, you have to make allowances for us grumpy old men. We simply hate complete strangers smiling at us.

I used to live near Middlewood hospital and we used to get a lot of that around there ;)

Seriously, there is a big difference between being genuinely miserable and simply being wary of unwelcome advances from strangers.

Sparklesista you must know my friend!!!!!!!!

Originally posted by Pauly
Having spent a little time in London myself I came to the conclusion that it was the epicentre of doom and gloom as far as friendliness goes. Try making eye contact with someone on the underground. You don't even get the chance to smile at them because the glance they give you is quick as a flash and by the time your mouth has moved they're staring at the floor again. It's like they're scared of being hypnotised. :loopy:

They could also simply be wary of being "befriended" by a Born Again Christian or other religious nutter, or perhaps a druggie, drunk, cosmic hippy, mad person etc, etc.

You just never know who you're dealing with in London, especially on the tube and I find it's better to be safe than sorry.

You shouldn't be offended if not everyone you meet wants to be your friend.

My dad was born miserable the old git

Originally posted by sparklesista
In general, I like this person but just wish they would lighten up once in a while!

I don't understand people who have friends but say "i wish they would do this", or "I wish they would wear this", friends are friends, you take them as they are, or not.

Some people just arn't "the life and soul of the party", it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them, or they secretly wish they were dancing on the table every night if only they could be coaxed out of their shell.
People often think I'm misserable, but I'm perfectly happy, and I have good time when I'm out, I just don't run round like a deranged disco bunny on acid all the time.

Originally posted by nick2
I don't understand people who have friends but say "i wish they would do this", or "I wish they would wear this", friends are friends, you take them as they are, or not.

Some people just arn't "the life and soul of the party", it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them, or they secretly wish they were dancing on the table every night if only they could be coaxed out of their shell.
People often think I'm misserable, but I'm perfectly happy, and I have good time when I'm out, I just don't run round like a deranged disco bunny on acid all the time.

I hope you don't take this to heart, Nick, but I have found the majority of your posts to be very pessimistic.. You seem very angry with life!

Going back to the miserys in London - My bloke is from Kent and since moving up here he has said how us Northern Folk are a lot more friendly and willing to help!

It is true that Londoners are more wary of appearing too friendly to strangers and it took some time for my bloke to get use to the more friendly Northerners.

He was concerned about how people would take to him in his business as a builder and was worried that people would be put off by his accent. But I am pleased to say he has found us a lot more accepting of him than SOME Southerners seem to be of us.

The North Rules.
:clap:

It's precisely because of the people-types that Sparklesister describes that I gave up my 16yr career in the NHS.

Miserable, nasty, back stabbing, professional-fun-police :mad:


:D <= Me now! =>:clap:

Originally posted by GazB
I hope you don't take this to heart, Nick, but I have found the majority of your posts to be very pessimistic.. You seem very angry with life!

I am very pessimistic and cynical, I don't appologise for that, I can't stand blind optimism.

I'm not angry with life, just certain bits of it.

One of my favourite quotes is by Jean-Paul Sartre - "Hell is other people".

I agree some are born miserable. Quite a few of my family are still miserable and they think life owes them. They love it when I make mistakes it makes them right about me and more miserable about themselves.

I have miserable days, being a mum of older children could have something to do with it.

I go to work feeling a bit off and then as soon as I talk to customers the feeling of misery lifts and by the end of the night I am happy again.

I agree nick2 friends are friends no matter how they act or dress, I love my friends at work without them my life would be miserable.

I don't think that there are that many miserable people about, it's just that we remember those sad gits long after we forget all the happy ones.

I remember working with one man who only laughed whenever someone was in trouble.
So one day just before he went home (a walk of around three miles) a block of steel "accidentally" fell into the bag in which he used to bring his lunch, this block weighed around 15 to 20 lbs yet he carried it back to work the day after just to report it to the boss (who was nearly wetting himself when he phoned to say he knew it was me but would never have the heart to try and prove it) I of course only got to know about this second hand :hihi: :hihi: :hihi:

Just a quick point:-
I don't think Sparklesista was having goes at people who are occasionally down in the dumps [as some people have implied]. She was having a dig [and quite right too] at those miserable sods who seem to make a profession of bringing other people down.

Originally posted by GazB
I hope you don't take this to heart, Nick, but I have found the majority of your posts to be very pessimistic.. You seem very angry with life!

I'm going to have to second that I'm afraid :(

Originally posted by sparklesista
I'm going to have to second that I'm afraid :(

Like I care what you think, my mates are happy with me as I am, thats all that matters.

Born miserable, Bah, Humbug, not I

No offence intended Mojo. :) Understood about people not wanting to be befriended by the nutter,psycho, born-again-christian type as that'd be a nightmare for me too. I was just talking about people who don't smile back when you walk past them on the street. If a person sat next to me on a bus and started chatting away I'd be a little wary too. ;)

Don't fret, it's not like I wander the streets looking for random people to be my new best buddy. :lol: I just like a smile back if I give one out. :)

Originally posted by nick2
Like I care what you think, my mates are happy with me as I am, thats all that matters.

I didn't say you care what I think - just voicing my opinion that's all! :D

(...miserable bugger :rolleyes: )

Everybody is born miserable. Then slowly we cheer up.

Originally posted by sparklesista
How did you come up with that analogy? :loopy:

In what way is that an analogy? We are all born in a painful, bloody expulsion from our Mother's womb. We scream and scream and cry until we are too tired to carry on. Then, slowly things start to improve.

Why Are Some People Just Born Miserable?

someone as to drive our buses:)

Originally posted by kirky
someone as to drive our buses:)

most bus drivers ive seen look really happy maybe its the bosses of the bus company who are all victor meldrews

Originally posted by Deavon
Everybody is born miserable. Then slowly we cheer up.



In what way is that an analogy? We are all born in a painful, bloody expulsion from our Mother's womb. We scream and scream and cry until we are too tired to carry on. Then, slowly things start to improve.

Good comeback! :D

My ex husband was miserable.
His glass was always half empty never half full.
He was naturally pessamistic, always waiting for calamity to happen and jumping on it with a sort of perverse pleasure, sort of saying I told you life would get us in the end.
Sad way to go through life.
hazel