How old was your baby the first time you left her/him to go to the cinema or something?

My first was 13 days old when we went out for 2 hours for our anniversary meal, leaving him with my mum and dad who we were living with at the time. I rang three times during the two hours, apparently waking him up with the phone ringing each time :)

With the second we just didn't bother leaving her at all, until she was old enough to choose to stay with grandma and grandad rather than come with us - at around 2 years old, it was much easier on the nerves.

Baby number one- 4 months
Baby number two- 5 months
Baby number three- 4 months
Baby number 4- 9 months

Each time was just after i finished breast feeding and i NEEDED some me time!

I left mini sav when she was about 12 days old for an evening with my gran, i had a concert to go to and as she was premature( she should have been born 2 weeks after the gig!) and i had a friend coming all way from down south i decided i should still go. I did not call all night and felt felt relaxed the whole time.

i first left her for overnight stays about a week later with my mum. People said at the time it made me a bad mother because i could just leave her and not worry but i knew she was safe :)

I left my daughter at 6 weeks to stay overnight with my parents when we went to pick her up my mum made a lovely sunday lunch:love:

Noah is nearly 9 weeks now and I wont leave him. Saying that I left him for 10 mins with my mum last night and had to go back to him.

I'm getting grief from my own mum and from the out laws saying I should go out with the hubby and have some "me" time but I don't think I should leave him at such a young age.

I think it's because when we were kids things were done so much differently and I'm sure our mums our more than capable of looking after him but I fret too much. It's my birthday and wedding annv in the same weekend soon and I think I'm gonna let my mum watch Noah for the day whilst we go to Alton Towers. (I'm dreading leaving him) :(

DD1 I left at 1 week, just for a few hours while we went to a wedding reception. Id spent all day expressing milk to leave her some and the little madam slept all the time we were out.

I couldnt wait to get back though.

dd1 was about 10 days and and dd2 still hasn't been left at 13 weeks. This is due to having nobody to leave her with rather than me.

I can't remember to be honest, but it isn't something I'm particularly precious about. I don't think it makes you a bad mother to be able to leave them for a while early on - in fact it helps get it out of the way...otherwise it becomes such a big thing that (I think) it gets silly. Saying that, of course you worry, but presumably you've left them with someone responsible and capable, so I reckon you should fight the urge to call every few minutes, and break another bad habit before it starts.

IF, that is, you are lucky enough to have someone you feel happy leaving them with. I realise I'm very lucky, with great family and friends around me who are happy to help.
(I'm getting the feeling that getting this baby back from Zebra once he's born may be a whole lot harder than convincing her to look after him in the first place:hihi:)

I can't remember to be honest, but it isn't something I'm particularly precious about. I don't think it makes you a bad mother to be able to leave them for a while early on - in fact it helps get it out of the way...otherwise it becomes such a big thing that (I think) it gets silly. Saying that, of course you worry, but presumably you've left them with someone responsible and capable, so I reckon you should fight the urge to call every few minutes, and break another bad habit before it starts.

IF, that is, you are lucky enough to have someone you feel happy leaving them with. I realise I'm very lucky, with great family and friends around me who are happy to help.
(I'm getting the feeling that getting this baby back from Zebra once he's born may be a whole lot harder than convincing her to look after him in the first place:hihi:)

so are we set for sunday then olliekitten? ;)

x

my eldest was a couple of weeks - i was ill and my mum took her overnight so I could rest. My son was 4 weeks - I went back to college but he was left with his dad and a bottle of expressed milk for 2 hours. My youngest, she was actually in hossie at 2 weeks old and I had to leave her there on her own for an hour while i nipped to tesco for some bits and bobs (clean knickers and toothpaste :hihi: ) but when she came home I was ultra paranoid for a looooong while. She's 17 m now and I've never left her overnight yet, although I have had the odd evening out while daddy is with her

so are we set for sunday then olliekitten? ;)

x

I already did Annie's first babysitting session the day she was born. It was only half an hour and she slept straight through it, but there are precious few things that I get to claim the firsts of and this is one of them.

I already did Annie's first babysitting session the day she was born. It was only half an hour and she slept straight through it, but there are precious few things that I get to claim the firsts of and this is one of them.

Meds, that makes me sound awful :) In my defence I was just going for a shower and you did a great job.

Sophie, it is looking more likely that I will be able to leave her to go the cinema although I did cry when I left her for half an hour today to have a massage. Its much harder than I imagined :(

But I am going to try for Harrison ;)

Meds, that makes me sound awful :) In my defence I was just going for a shower and you did a great job.

Sophie, it is looking more likely that I will be able to leave her to go the cinema although I did cry when I left her for half an hour today to have a massage. Its much harder than I imagined :(

But I am going to try for Harrison ;)

You will leave her when you feel like you can, if thats not now then you will not enjoy the night and come home early fearing the next plans you might make.

xxx

Meds, that makes me sound awful :) In my defence I was just going for a shower and you did a great job.

Sophie, it is looking more likely that I will be able to leave her to go the cinema although I did cry when I left her for half an hour today to have a massage. Its much harder than I imagined :(

But I am going to try for Harrison ;)

I wasn't trying to make you sound awful at all honey. I also think that going for a shower after giving birth is a basic human right ;)

I wasn't trying to make you sound awful at all honey. I also think that going for a shower after giving birth is a basic human right ;)

You're right, and I really did appreciate it :love:

I can't remember to be honest, but it isn't something I'm particularly precious about. I don't think it makes you a bad mother to be able to leave them for a while early on - in fact it helps get it out of the way...otherwise it becomes such a big thing that (I think) it gets silly. Saying that, of course you worry, but presumably you've left them with someone responsible and capable, so I reckon you should fight the urge to call every few minutes, and break another bad habit before it starts.

IF, that is, you are lucky enough to have someone you feel happy leaving them with. I realise I'm very lucky, with great family and friends around me who are happy to help.
(I'm getting the feeling that getting this baby back from Zebra once he's born may be a whole lot harder than convincing her to look after him in the first place:hihi:)

I agree with what you say. It doesn't make you a bad person if you have a few hours off.

Not sure when I left Emma for the first time but I do know it was with daddy and I went out with the girls - didn't feel guilty but phoned home about a 100 times. To be honest I couldn't wait for a girly chat and a drink - lol.

I think our girls were almost 4 months when we left them with my parents to go to the cinema, then we didn't leave them again for almost another 8 months.
They've never ever stayed with anyone other that us over night and I think I've actually had about 8 nights out in the last 2.5 years, we don't have much in terms of sitters.
Having said that, we've managed our birthdays, Cosywolf's, Redrobbo's, A gig in London I couldn't bear to miss and a West End show so they've all been well worth it :)

My youngest was 4 months old.Me and hubby took our eldest to Turkey for 2 weeks and my parents in law had my baby for us.I suffered post natal depression with number 2 so I needed a break.

Sophie, it is looking more likely that I will be able to leave her to go the cinema although I did cry when I left her for half an hour today to have a massage. Its much harder than I imagined :(

But I am going to try for Harrison ;)

poppet, if you dont feel like you can tomorrow....he's always on dvd, with the added bonus of stop, pause and rewind! :P

i hope you enjoyed your massage and ill see you tomorrow, with bickies. :love:


x

:(

I've decided that I really cant leave her to go the cinema with lovely Sophie. I know that Little Bug will be fine and I have left her with people twice before for half an hour but I'm just not ready yet and would miss her far too much x

Sorry Soph x x

There was a thread about baby and parent cinema clubs- might be worth digging up to see if there's one in Sheffield
I seem to think The SHowroom does it.
Odeon have it on the website but not sure if they actually manage it in Sheff.

Not for every one I know but I have taken Littleboo to the cinema since he was 3 weeks old,now 20 months and we go to kids club at the Odeon at least once a fortnight I dont think i would take him at night though, he just feeds and goes to sleep this was started as I have older children and the cinema is a regular family treat i didnt think it was fair for the others to miss out also my mum will not babysit.

Not for every one I know but I have taken Littleboo to the cinema since he was 3 weeks old,now 20 months and we go to kids club at the Odeon at least once a fortnight I dont think i would take him at night though, he just feeds and goes to sleep this was started as I have older children and the cinema is a regular family treat i didnt think it was fair for the others to miss out also my mum will not babysit.

does he not cry with the loud noise or has he totally adapted to it?

:)

I dont find the kids club as loud as other films they only show PG as well obviously wouldnt take him to anything else, also for parents with other sibs for every 2 children 1 adult is free and the children only cost £2.50,they show top films too, we have seen films there that were top of the bill only and full price only the week before,its not usually too busy either.

does the odeon in sheffield city centre do this?

Yes, thats the one I go to.

Do you have details of the Kids Club? That would be super x

http://www.odeon.co.uk/fanatic/kids/s125

http://www.showroom.org.uk/cinema/educationfilmsforchildren.html

This one is suited to kids with autism and families, what a great idea http://www.showroom.org.uk/cinema/KICSTART.htm

No Newbies club in Sheffield sadly but we could get in touch with the Odeon http://www.odeon.co.uk/fanatic/newbies/
I'd love to take the girls but I don't know if they'd sit.

Cineworld have a 'movies for juniors' at just £1 on a sat morning but I can't find details on the website.
Time to get in touch with the cinemas and sort out a parent and child club.

EDIT: PM'd Beakerzoid to ask if he knows or can help, apparently he works for Cineworld :)

Hi all,

Cineworld indeed do run a Movies For Juniors every Saturday morning at 10am. We run 3 films each week, with one film being changed each week. They tend to be family films from the past year or so. All tickets are £1 each (be it for an adult or a child) and they are ideal for taking a few young 'uns along to (my good wife occasionally takes our little darlings, along with a few neighbours and their kids).

Now I may need some prompting each week to remind me, but as it is my good self who sorts out the films and times with our booking department each week i can try my hardest to remember to pop on here and let you all know the selection available. Now please bear in mind that I have a memory like a sieve at times, and always forget things...but I will try.

Just in case I forget, bookmark the following link http://www.cineworld.co.uk/Headinglist.jgi?CATEGORIE_FPCTG=MJ

We did, at one time, trial run some early morning family shows on a weekday, where each week an appropriate rated film was run early (10am) for normal early bird prices, so that mothers with babes can come along to see the film with the child with them. We kept the house lights on at a low level so that they could see to tend to their little ones, and it was fine for chatter etc to take place as the screenings were just for mother and baby. After a few weeks of great success, they rapidly dropped off to nought, and so we stopped running them.

Thanks for the reply Beakerzoid.
Shame about the mother and baby sessions :(
How many do you need to make it worth while and what about doing a more rare, say once a month thing or one offs? Just curious about the practicalities, I've missed vast amounts of films in the last two years and of course we have lots of parents at Jellys who might be interested in one off or rare occurances... food for thought perhaps.

Having an update on parenting would be wonderful :)