tracey1233
12-06-2008, 10:36
just wanting a little advice from anyone who has found themselves in the same boat.
firstly my husband has a child with his ex, she also has another son with another ex. thats 2 children with different fathers.
me and my husband went to court to gain parental responsability for the child and also a contact order, we were granted this after some time. the child is autistic and therefore has special needs. which my husband fully understands. the mother to the child in the past has not took him to school has has numerous other partners and marrying briefly.
the child has been on the "child in need" register with social services.
anyway my husband when getting his contact order used to go up to collect the child for over night visits at our home. sometimes his son would be standing behind the safety gate and his mother would say "you are not seeing daddy" which used to cause the child much distress, the mother used to laugh and slam the door in my husbands face. she also got her mum to phone us trying to change the time we picked him up, my husband told her he was working but she said she had to do shopping, eventhough the child was supposed to be at school durin the week and could have done her shopping then.
this went on for a while till the point came when my husband decided the mother was never going to change and made the heartbreaking decision of walking away till the child was old enough to understand what was happening.
that was 3 years ago, now the child is 9. i have been in contact with the other father who still sees his son and have asked him about my stepson who he sees briefly whilst picking up his son. he says he asks for his dad and gets very upset as the mother tells him "your dad dosnt want you" and "your dad dosnt love you" we have decided to go back to court and fight to see him,however i am told because he is autistic the cafcass officer will not interview him directly. and that the mother will just say he dosnt want to see his dad and that will be that.if we get contact we are wanting a penal ntice attached so this can never happen again. we have to start the whole process again, and also the mother has found out we have spoken to the other father and has now stopped him seeing his son aswell. so we are both in the same situation. we have a court date and the other father is taking her to court for his son,we just wondered if anyone else is having this trouble.
firstly my husband has a child with his ex, she also has another son with another ex. thats 2 children with different fathers.
me and my husband went to court to gain parental responsability for the child and also a contact order, we were granted this after some time. the child is autistic and therefore has special needs. which my husband fully understands. the mother to the child in the past has not took him to school has has numerous other partners and marrying briefly.
the child has been on the "child in need" register with social services.
anyway my husband when getting his contact order used to go up to collect the child for over night visits at our home. sometimes his son would be standing behind the safety gate and his mother would say "you are not seeing daddy" which used to cause the child much distress, the mother used to laugh and slam the door in my husbands face. she also got her mum to phone us trying to change the time we picked him up, my husband told her he was working but she said she had to do shopping, eventhough the child was supposed to be at school durin the week and could have done her shopping then.
this went on for a while till the point came when my husband decided the mother was never going to change and made the heartbreaking decision of walking away till the child was old enough to understand what was happening.
that was 3 years ago, now the child is 9. i have been in contact with the other father who still sees his son and have asked him about my stepson who he sees briefly whilst picking up his son. he says he asks for his dad and gets very upset as the mother tells him "your dad dosnt want you" and "your dad dosnt love you" we have decided to go back to court and fight to see him,however i am told because he is autistic the cafcass officer will not interview him directly. and that the mother will just say he dosnt want to see his dad and that will be that.if we get contact we are wanting a penal ntice attached so this can never happen again. we have to start the whole process again, and also the mother has found out we have spoken to the other father and has now stopped him seeing his son aswell. so we are both in the same situation. we have a court date and the other father is taking her to court for his son,we just wondered if anyone else is having this trouble.