Who thinks it's fair that men have loads of one night stands and are considered "super stud of the year" for their 'conquests', but if a woman does the same she's called horrible names, labelled a sl*t and no decent man wants to touch her?

Is it a weakness in women because we revere the 'stud' men or... a weakness in men cos they can't stand the competition perhaps?

What do you think?

Difference is, women tend to wait until they are in a long term relationship until they do it...men stay single...

You women ask for equal bleedin rights...

TUFF you can't have em until you earn em... :hihi:

that might be the case but if u meet a guy n u find out he's slept with loadsa women what are the chances of u getting it on with him? u probably wont, so technically it also works againt him, he might be a stud to his mates but what are the chances of him actually finding a girlfriend when they find out how many people hes slept with??

I certainly wouldn't want him...

I'm no prude, but I value my health !!!

I agree with you louise.

Its also not nice knwoing they have risked so many STDs etc.

Just remember that most men would like to marry a virgin but would like to make sure no one else does !!!:D

Originally posted by BruciesBabe
I agree with you louise.

Its also not nice knwoing they have risked so many STDs etc.

exactly! so they may be a stud to their mates but they'll never be in a proper happy loving relationship if they carry on!

Originally posted by Jennie8
Who thinks it's fair that men have loads of one night stands and are considered "super stud of the year" for their 'conquests', but if a woman does the same she's called horrible

Aren't one night stands a mutual agreement between both parties :confused: By my reckoning both parties are as bad as each other :suspect:

With blokes its all an ego trip, with women its er.. I'll get back to you on that one..

The simple answer to this is that it is a damn sight easier for women to pull than men.

If a woman went into a bar, and casually chatted up 100 blokes, chances are, 80-90% would go home with her if asked.

If the roles were reversed, you would be looking at about 5%, if you were lucky.

Women are the selectors, men are the selectees.

On this basis, it is simply less of acheivment for a women to pull, and I guess thats maybe where a lot of it comes from.

That said, you have to look at the quality of the person you are pulling.

Trust me, one of our mates constantly pulls absolute mingers on a regaular basis, and he is a laughing stock.

it all depends on your attitude towards sex.

to me its just fun and i throughly enjoy it. i have no problem with one night stands and yes, i would be really upset if i got called names for it. I am ALWAYS careful and know exactly what i'm doing : thats the most important thing.

I have also had very loving relationships and the sex is fab there too!!

DISCUSTING !!!
How do you live with your yourself!
I personally would never do it...but i guess im old fashioned.

Good for you lee1979,as long as you are careful then why not.
Oh and if you cant be good be careful.:heyhey:

i just think that because of so many STD's underage pregnancies etc etc, there is a very old fashioned view on sex in this country and for good reason because of those things. But as long as people are responsible enough to know what they are doing and no-one gets hurt. wheres the problem ?

plus if its so bad why is it so good ?!

all bad things are good.

take chocolate for example, great for use in sex

Originally posted by 21steve
all bad things are good.

take chocolate for example, great for use in sex

Would you like to elaborate on this? the mind boggles.;)

if your both careful then there is no reason why one night stands shouldn't be socially acceptable for both sexes.

I personally don't usually go for them because i like to know the person im sleeping with a little but each to there own.

Call me old fashioned but I have a very low opinion of women AND men who sleep around. They are both sluts in my opinion!

From a female point of view I think women should wait and see if a man in genuinely interested in her, not just sex, before sleeping with him. Otherwise you really are nothing but a means to an orgasm!!! I suppose there may be some women out there who are happy to be this but it would make me feel so low if that was the only reason a man was sleeping with me. I guess I feel sex is like the icing on the cake in a very happy and loving relationship, not just about satisfaction.

And trust me, men who sleep around do get labeled. At uni the rugby team are renouned for being players and any self-respecting girl wouldn't go near them with a barge pole.

Originally posted by Lucy_Smith

From a female point of view I think women should wait and see if a man in genuinely interested in her, not just sex, before sleeping with him. Otherwise you really are nothing but a means to an orgasm!!!

Yeah, or you could look at it as being a means to your own sexual pleasure, too, if you dont want/dont have time for a relationship, but want to have sex, its the solution! As long as it is safe and both people know whats going on, then why not!

Shag away, thats what I say!

Originally posted by kathythebean
Yeah, or you could look at it as being a means to your own sexual pleasure, too, if you dont want/dont have time for a relationship, but want to have sex, its the solution! As long as it is safe and both people know whats going on, then why not!

Shag away, thats what I say!

Hmm...yes but the best sex isn't just about gratification, it's all about emotional connection. Even Cosmospolitan was going on about the "E-Spot" this month.

But yeah, I suppose as long as it's safe it's not really harming anybody so each to their own. Problem is at uni it's rarely safe, my boyfriend has a few friends on the rugby team and they've had their fair share of STDs. It really does make me cringe :gag:

I agree with you there, but sometimes, you just want a bit of fun, dont you! ANd the sex might not be as good, but thats still no reason to say other people shouldn't do it, if they want to

You can get an STD just as easily in a loving relationship, from someone who already has one, or someone who cheats on you. Safe sex = the only way!

I'm not for 1 night stands at all, I want to get to know people before I go having sex with them, or any other sexual related stuff...

I have a mate thats slept with like 5 or 6 women in the last couple of years at Uni, but thats it... he's had sex those 5 or 6 times... so really 1 night stands really aren't filling any sort of sexual need unless your going for a different woman every night...

whereas I've had 1 long term r/ship that last nearly 2 years, and I had an un-countable amount of sex with her... so dating someone I got more sexual ful-fillment and lots of love and fun...

so i guess I win... but each to their own eh? I don't plan to ever really sleep around, I guess I may have the odd 1 nighter sometime in the future, I'm only like 20 so I've got plenty of time yet... but i certainly wont make a habbit of going out to "score"

and I personally think guys are just as bad as girls... and I really worry about the number of peeps I know that have got drunk and had unprotected sex... its a lot easier to not be bothered when your drunk, which is how most people are when they're out getting a random person... so many abortions and STD's... its not good :?

Well said Xafier, I'm married now (3 years in June!) and have a loving relationship but had a few long termers before my hubby came along and 'swept me off my feet' - so to speak.

My first love was with me for 18 months and HE gave me an STD :evil: so I guess none of us are safe - even in long termers. I trusted him completely - needless to say we broke up when I found out (I may have been daft enough to trust him, but certainly wasn't dumb enough to stay with him) - but I felt so betrayed and it took a long, long time for me to trust a fella enough to further a relationship again.

p.s. STD was nothing serious - thankfully
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My hubby is wonderful. :love:

men get branded aswell, theres a nice looking guy i see out and chat to alot, but ive been told he is a tart, that puts me off straight away.

good for you f_g.

Wouldn't it be nice to meet a male virgin?

Are there any?

I'm beginning to think they are like Santa and the Tooth Fairy - i.e. don't exist. Apart from Gareth Gates that is... who was subsequently 'ruined' by Jordan... speaking of Jordan... nah! she's not worth even mentionning !

Then again neither is Gareth really...

Originally posted by scottf
if your both careful then there is no reason why one night stands shouldn't be socially acceptable for both sexes.

I personally don't usually go for them because i like to know the person im sleeping with a little but each to there own.
yes def each to their own. personally i agree here, i have always liked to know them a little more than a few hrs, b4 we shake it up and do the bad thing!

Originally posted by 21steve
all bad things are good.

take chocolate for example, great for use in sex

........especially if used with strawberries! (and sorry, royjames, if you're not in the know, I'm not telling you what to do! But, mmm, delicious!).

I don't see a problem with sleeping with someone you've just met, if thats what you both want to do.