This is a serious post as I was out with lads on Fri night and a serious!, yes thats SERIOUS discussion was held on how long you look/eye up a girl before making a move to chat her up?.

Do the girls like to be looked:

up and down or straight into the eye?, or both but which one mainly?

and for how long for before they wonder if he is going to make an approach or get ****** off?

or maybe not at all?

Please vote and comment, it may help us lads!!! and you ladies!!

2min to 5min looked at all over

Make the girl know your on to her if she does the same then you know either she wants a free drink or your in there

Originally posted by malton_s5
2min to 5min looked at all over

Make the girl know your on to her if she does the same then you know she wants a free drink

at least your honest!

**********ATTENTION MODERATORS*************

I have just realised that you cant see the results without voting!, as this is a vote for the girls but the results will help the guys!, is there a way that the results can be shown without voting to enable the guys to see the IMPORTANT results???

Cheers

ZED

The contact us page is suprisingly the most appropriate way of contacting the site admin team...

PS. Moving to Gen Chat.

Surely anything over a few seconds constitutes staring? If I was female and some guy was in a fixated stare towards my eyes or elsewhere for the times listed in your poll, I'd probably call the police.

Do the girls like to be looked: up and down or straight into the eye?, or both but which one mainly?


So tempted to say: in a morse code of eye crossing & uncrossing :P

You could just try a normal eye meet held just a bit longer (with a smile if you feel brave enough) t020 is right - staring for minutes at a time is likely to make you look like a stalker at best & quite possibly demented at worst.

Looking someone up & down comes across as either extremely slimey or a put down, I'd say.

2 Minz eyes only definately. Make sure their not with a girl and go straight over and talk :cool:

Originally posted by Siân
staring for minutes at a time is likely to make you look like a stalker at best & quite possibly demented at worst.


Damn! Thats why they keep running away :loopy: :rolleyes:

maybe some flash shades would work :cool:

Originally posted by J-Blaze
2 Minz eyes only definately. Make sure their not with a girl and go straight over and talk :cool:

So you'd sit there in, say, a bar, and stare at them in the eyes for TWO MINUTES SOLIDLY and then go over to talk to them? I just can't imagine any girl would enjoy being stared at for 2 minutes like that, they'd just think it was weird/scary.

Originally posted by t020
So you'd sit there in, say, a bar, and stare at them in the eyes for TWO MINUTES SOLIDLY and then go over to talk to them? I just can't imagine any girl would enjoy being stared at for 2 minutes like that, they'd just think it was weird/scary.

I think he means more of glancing for a couple of minutes..

Originally posted by GazB
I think he means more of glancing for a couple of minutes..

I see. I guess I took it too literally. :D

Originally posted by J-Blaze
2 Minz eyes only definately. Make sure their not with a girl and go straight over and talk :cool:

Straight in there eh JB? :rolleyes:

Originally posted by t020
I see. I guess I took it too literally. :D

Yeah, point blank staring would be a tad creepy :wink:

Originally posted by msbehavin
Straight in there eh JB? :rolleyes:

Why not? I know I would be.. I normally don't even wait 2 minutes, one cheeky smile or "interested" look and I'm in :D

Originally posted by GazB
Why not? I know I would be.. I normally don't even wait 2 minutes, one cheeky smile or "interested" look and I'm in :D


:rolleyes: and they say romance is dead!

Originally posted by msbehavin
:rolleyes: and they say romance is dead!

C'mon! It's not like I go over and start quoting cheesy lines! If I see a sign of interest from my prey *ahem*, from the lady I just talk naturally! I ask her how her day has been, I ask her if she is enjoying her night, I ask what she does for a living, I show interest in getting to know her that's all!

A little confidence to initiate a conversation and the social skills to keep it interesting is all you need :thumbsup:

I have to say, as a single girly, GazB has it right - from my point of view anyway.

Have a look, hold the gaze, cheeky smile, repeat it to make sure they are interested and then come over and chat!

Originally posted by BruciesBabe
I have to say, as a single girly, GazB has it right - from my point of view anyway.


To quote Alan Partridge:

"Back of the net" :D

I am in total agreement with Sian - Definately 'a look' and upon eye contact a nice smile (not leer!). And funnily enough if a blush is to arise it can be deemed as cute... We prefer the modest than to 'go getter' approach.

A few pointers for the boys....

a) Never look a girl up and down really obviously. It's slimey and crass - no self respecting woman will come anywhere near you!

b) Do not stare at a girl for any of the suggested times on this poll. You big bunch of freaks.

The best way to get chatting to a girl in a pub or club is to glance in her direction, make eye contact, smile and then look away. Repeat this move once or twice over the space of five or 10 mins. Do not stare. And keep your adoring gaze on her face, for god's sake.

If the object of your desire is interested, she will mirror your moves and start trying to catch your eye, smile back, possibly touch her hair, dance more provocatively or begin to look a bit self conscious.

If she does not do these things it means she is not interested. It does NOT mean try harder, rub your groin suggestively into her back, put your hands on her waist, or stare.

She has either got a boyfriend, doesn't want a boyfriend, or (more often than not) finds you physically repulsive and wouldn't sleep with you if you were the last man on earth.

Get over it, buy another beer and try your luck with someone less attractive once the alcohol kicks in.

Phew! What do you reackon girls, do you think they've got the message this time?!!!!! Tee hee!!!

JBee: that is soooo funny. (does not mean try harder!)


Males take note of these comments they are spot on!!

Thank-you technophone. Sometimes these things just need spelling out!

This is an interesting topic to me as it touches on something that could well be important to my succes (or rather lack of it) with women.

Firstly when I am in a bar I tend to be alone (rather than with other males) which I suspect may in itself put many girls off). I also find it quite difficult to make eye contact with girls but do manage to do so. Then it tends to be for only a second or two and accompanied by a rather weak smile.

As I never seem to get any very positive responce (girls tend to either laugh or look disgusted) I don't progress to actually going up to them and talking.

What would people suggest. How can I improve my 'eye contact' technique?

Any suggestions would be welcome.:help:

Originally posted by JBee
A few pointers for the boys....

a) Never look a girl up and down really obviously. It's slimey and crass - no self respecting woman will come anywhere near you!



If he wanted a self respecting girl, he would hardly be looking in a pub would he.
<<<<<<<Puts tin hat on and waits for abuse :hihi:

Originally posted by viking
If he wanted a self respecting girl, he would hardly be looking in a pub would he.
<<<<<<<Puts tin hat on and waits for abuse :hihi:

Because self respecting women never go into pubs, obviously.

We all sit at home in 1950s pinafores, darning out father's socks and praying to god that a dashing young man snaps us up soon, before we become an old spinster with a hairy top lip and five cats like Auntie Mabel.

WTF Vicking???

slimsid2000: ahhhhh thats really sweet. Maybe the girls out there are a little thick skinned. Persevere the right girl will be worth the wait.


VIKING: GET THAT BLOOMIN HAT ON YOU PIGGGGGGG!!!! lol

Originally posted by slimsid2000
Firstly when I am in a bar I tend to be alone (rather than with other males) which I suspect may in itself put many girls off. [/B]

Think you've answered your own question their Slimsid2000. Why on earth are you going to bars on your own? That reeks of desperation. I'm sorry to be blunt, but if a lone bloke a a bar smiled at me I'd.... Well, without putting too fine a point on it I'd wouldn't be assuming good things about him.

How about suggesting a night out with your mates? Or joining a club or society a bit to widen your social circle? You could try an activity like salsa dancing or a group sport to make a wider group of friends and make more female friends too....

Originally posted by JBee
We all sit at home in 1950s pinafores, darning out father's socks and praying to god that a dashing young man snaps us up soon, before we become an old spinster with a hairy top lip and five cats like Auntie Mabel.

WTF!! I best get rid of my pinafores.... :surprised

Hotgal: yes didnt like to say....... pinafores are out hun!

(maybe save for the dressing up box - ooops my secrets out) lol

:blush:

What am i gonna wear now....??

Technophobe: your secret is safe with me :wink: no one else on the forum will ever know...

slimsid2000: Maybe you are just trying too hard, just be yourself.

People often say when you are looking for someone, you never do, its when you're not looking that they come along... did that make any sense??? :confused:

Being stared at is creepy, it makes me feel that I have something wrong with me.... like remains of my dinner on my top lip or somethng.

If I get chatted up it is normally at the bar when I'm waiting to be served, I'm too busy enjoying myself to look out if blokes are staring at me and to tell the truth if I did notice I would think they are a tad werid if they stared at me for more than a minute!

A freindly joke/chat is much better than being stared at!

To get away from this 'creepy' thing thats being mentioned. When I mentioned eyes, I did not mean a fixed stare for 2 min for example just a few eye contacts over that time. Same with looking at her body, some girls I know like an admiring glance at their bodies, again not a fixed stare!

Its good to hear the tips from the girls to the boys, it may help both parties in the near future :)

Men are from Mars,
And women are from Venus,
Perhaps due to this thread,
They'll now meet on Uranus.

(My poetry really is diabolical, I apologise :rolleyes: )

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
**********ATTENTION MODERATORS*************

I have just realised that you cant see the results without voting!, as this is a vote for the girls but the results will help the guys!, is there a way that the results can be shown without voting to enable the guys to see the IMPORTANT results???

Cheers

ZED
Added an "I'm a man" option. Hope this helps.

P.S. Good advice JBee!

Originally posted by Sidla
Added an "I'm a man" option. Hope this helps.

P.S. Good advice JBee!

although u see the numbers it mucks up the percentages!

any other way??

I can periodically reset the 'I'm a man' numbers, which should make the percentages correct. This is the only way to do it at present.

I recomend staring at the prospective lover for 6 hours while saying the word 'cress' in a low and barely audible voice. Its always worked like a charm for me!

For the braver amoungst you ,go over and ask if you can borrow her 'Toffee hammer.' This will get one of two reactions, twenty days for being a public menace or hot lovin'

Mini, what if she hasn't got her toffee hammer with her... maybe you would have to settle for an alternative gadget (possibly a bradawl or pair of wire snips). You shouldn't rule anything out at such an early stage.

I think she'd be more worried about the bad use of English - she'd probably turn around and correct the "can I lend" to "can I borrow".

Hmmm, 2min to 5min eyes ONLY 7 votes 14% ????

Are we going for the Staring Championship or something?

:o