I am chasing RSVP's from quite a lot of people. We have given people several options of how to reply, but still some people just do not reply. Failing calling everyone, which is very time consuming and would really like it in writing or e-mail. I do not know what to do.

Anyone else had nightmare's with replies? We also sent out save the dates over a year ago. Do you just assume they are not coming if they have not got back to you by the return date?

I have text those I can to kindly give the a shove. I don't think people really appreciate how much goes into planning a wedding. :help:

I think it is ignorant especially when given a lot of notice.I have sent mine this last week and I don't get married til october!Already 2 of my brothers have sent me lovely cards and a cousin sent a letter declining as she is going away. Most have phoned to say they will be coming but I do like getting cards:)I would give them another nudge and if they don't reply take it as they are not coming.

We advised everyone - no RSVP by date no meal. 2 were late but that was due to personal circumstances. Once the final meals had been booked they would have been stuffed.

I put stamped addressed envelopes in everyones with rsvp card and i am still waiting for 20, cut off is next week i'll be so cross ithey don't get back to me.

This drives me insane!! I have guests who assume that I know that they are coming and guests who fail to rsvp even tho I remember them moaning re hassle of rsvp's at their own wedding. Wouldn't mind, but like cazbar79 I gave the option of email too!

Some have been really nice and sent cards, one friend made an RSVP which is really sweet. Now I know how nice it is to receive a proper RSVP, I will always make sure that I send one in future!

It is annoying, but i think that the only way round it is to call everyone and ask them. I don't think i coud just assume someone wasn't coming, coz then I'd feel awful if they turned up and there was no where for them to sit - even tho it would be their own fault!

We are having this nightmare right now, and the wedding is in 2 weeks!!!!. three people only text me last week after endless texts and phone calls. We basically said that unless we hear from them we assume that they aren't coming!. But this hasnt stopped some people still umming and arring!.

agree with all comments, work out how many are overdue then give the responsibility to a best man or bridesmaid thats what we finally did. It seems to be a common theme and makes you feel disgruntled as you are paying for these people as well. I am also having people moan that they have to travel to Scotland to see us get married, My response is Dont come then!!!!!.

We sent out our invites last month and put an RSVP date of the end of this week... and we are still waiting for 11 replies (invites not number of people!). Most of them (9) are from OH's side so it's not up to me to chase them. I put RSVP cards in and also put email addy and tel for them to RSVP to as well, so they have no excuse. I want to order the table favours but can't until I have an exact number! Sounds like this is a common problem tho, do people not realise the hassle it causes us?!

We sent out our invites last month and put an RSVP date of the end of this week... and we are still waiting for 11 replies (invites not number of people!). Most of them (9) are from OH's side so it's not up to me to chase them. I put RSVP cards in and also put email addy and tel for them to RSVP to as well, so they have no excuse. I want to order the table favours but can't until I have an exact number! Sounds like this is a common problem tho, do people not realise the hassle it causes us?!

It's CRAZY!!! Most people's budget revolves around numbers attending the reception. For the sake of two seconds, I'm sure that we would all really appreciate it if people took time out to check their diaries and send a quick email/text message to confirm. Ok a nice fancy card would be nice, but when you need to organise the wedding like NOW, any old text will do!!