Do you know anyone you can rely on 100%?
I had a situation tonight with an e-mail, a 'friend' letting me down in a really huge way. Something we've had agreed and negotiated for months and now she says she can only do it if I pay her £800+ for her 'professional' time.
I'm furious.
What made me think though is when did being unreliable become a habit for so many people?
I remember when a friend said they would do something, they did do it, come hell or high water.
Now I feel people are becoming more self centred or just less generous with their time.
I don't understand.
All my life I've tried to be the most reliable person I can and never let anyone down unless I absolutely HAVE to. If I can't do it, I don't agree to it in the first place.
What's changed in the last.. say 20 years.. that makes people this way and has anyone else noticed it?
Oddly I had a strange sense of relief after I came to the conclusion I don't need her, because I know I can rely on myself 100%.
Surely a sad state for the world to be in?

Sorry to hear about your situation tonight!
Just rely on yourself.. its the best way unfortunately.

I dont depend on anyone or anything in this world- because as a fantastic now dead comedian said 'Life is just a ride' - sometimes life goes up and you feel great and on top of the world when all of a sudden the ride goes down again and you feel like crap.

Just trust yourself 100%
Hope the situation gets better for you.

Thanks for your kind words.
I used to only rely on myself but then some people got frustrated with me for not letting them help so I opened up.
Now, repeatedly, people let me down.
I really feel something has changed.

Like everyone else, I have also been let down by close friends in the past. However, I still have a few friends that have never let me down. The further through life you go, the more you start to realise who your real friends are. It's sad that that group of real friends seems to get smaller the further you go. I still have faith in the few that I consider close though, and I still have faith in my small family (there's only 4 of us). Yes people let you down, but you have to use that bad experience to appreciate your real friends more.

The trick is never to expect them to follow through with thier promises, this way you don't get let down and if everything does go right it's a bonus.

Hazel

Never trust or rely on anyone 100%.

Unfortunately, this is a lesson my kids have already learnt with my ex - their father who is constantly letting them down!

Sometimes, someone does surprise you and comes through for you and that is great - but never expect it cos then you will never feel let down but may sometimes be pleasantly surprised!

I am not perfect so I never make promises, you never know what may happen to make you have to break that promise, the best thing is to say 'I will try my best'.

Most of the time you will do what you say you will but with children I don't think you should ever say 'I Promise' because they really do take being let down hard and will never forget.

Unfortunatley people are very self centred these days. Its a sign of the times as they say. Personally i have integrity, and therfore if i say i will do something then i will try my damndest to get it done. Obviously if something major happens and i cant do it thats different, but say my Church asks me to cover for a Sound Engineer whos off sick, i say yes, and then tell them im gonna charge them for my professional time!? Thats just wrong, plain and simple. However, if they ask me to do something

I think you have every right to be furious at this person for what they did.

I think that morals in society have changed.
there are few today who think of others over themselves.
Everone always wants to talk and not listen and always think of what is in it for them.Even my Son will have to be persuaded to go and see his Grandparents and will only go if it suits hi.( However, he is a teenager!)

You have to be thick skinned to survive but I still try to see anothers point of view and help where I can.
I agree that if you promise to do something,it should be carried out and not go back on ones word

Nobody is perfect, and nobody can be relied upon 100%. Not even yourself. To think that there is somebody who is 100% trustworthy is foolish and set up for disaster.

I don't mean that everyone is a bad person. I'm sure than most people who let others down either don't mean to or only do so in dire circumstances, but the fact is that nobody can possibly be 100% reliable when they have their own lives to lead, and they rely on others too!

Originally posted by Zebra
What's changed in the last.. say 20 years.. that makes people this way and has anyone else noticed it?

Hilda 79, perhaps :|

Originally posted by Zebra
Do you know anyone you can rely on 100%?
I had a situation tonight with an e-mail, a 'friend' letting me down in a really huge way. Something we've had agreed and negotiated for months and now she says she can only do it if I pay her £800+ for her 'professional' time.
I'm furious.
What made me think though is when did being unreliable become a habit for so many people?
I remember when a friend said they would do something, they did do it, come hell or high water.
Now I feel people are becoming more self centred or just less generous with their time.
I don't understand.
All my life I've tried to be the most reliable person I can and never let anyone down unless I absolutely HAVE to. If I can't do it, I don't agree to it in the first place.
What's changed in the last.. say 20 years.. that makes people this way and has anyone else noticed it?
Oddly I had a strange sense of relief after I came to the conclusion I don't need her, because I know I can rely on myself 100%.
Surely a sad state for the world to be in?

People, I'm afraid, are notoriously unreliable. Sorry I can't help more. I could, perhaps, meet you for a chat, but then again, I might not turn up.

I trust my wife 200% and my son and daughter 100%, I know I can trust my life to them. I dont trust anyone else at all , 56 years experience of life teaches you a hard lesson!

It's interesting to read your replies.
After a lot of thought today I came to a few conclusions.
Part of the job involves a group of kids and some work they've done. Every single one of them will be there when it happens. I'm certain, unless a major problem occurs.
How she can let down all the kids too... that just shows me how heartless and worthless she is.
I was upset at potentially having to cancel the event but realised I don't have to.
Someone on the forum, whom I've never met, has given help and support and it really restored a little faith today.
One way or another, the event will go on and I suspect it will be better than anticipated because those involved will be the die hards and those who came forward with something nice in them to help out in an emergency.
:) Chin up huh?
(I'll rant and rave in a defamatory way later :evil: )