in a population where there are more women then men, even if it is only a percent or two... why does there seem to be a LOT more single men than women?

I'm finding it really strange how so many women are spoken for when I know SO many single guys its unreal... why is this?

is it just that guys seem to make it more obvious that they're single? or that a lot of women just prefer being single and so don't go out so nobody meets them? or am I just missing some really important place where there are lots of single women out there for me to meet?

I wish it was just me that notices this, but I've spoke to other people, guys and girls, and they see it too... maybe its just because I'm kinda young and people are swapping r/ships left right and centre and I'm just missing out eachtime with the women? I dunno...

and what makes it worse is the fact when I do find a single woman, she turns out to be a selfish b**ch and messes me around :(

so come on... anyone else notice theres a lack of single women, or that there appears to be too many single men, are some of the men being greedy and taking two or three women? :o

come on, we all need a bit of love! (and no, I don't mean sex you guys with 1 track minds! :P)

I can tell you why there are more single men than single women, it is because everyone wants a V***** but no one wants a P****. Think about it!!!

Was discussing this with my cousin yesterday! I asked her if she knew any single woman in her circle of friends or at work, and her answer was ..... NO, but she knew plenty of single guys.

yeah, I have quite a few female friends 22 or younger, they've all got b/f's, all their friends have... one of my friends is even engaged... I know probably twice as many guys as girls... but I only know 2 in a r/ship... its just plain weird :?

Where are all these single men please? :smile:

Just a thought, maybe a lot of these 'unattached' blokes are only saying they're unattached in the hopes of pulling.:suspect:

Originally posted by mooples
Where are all these single men please? :smile:

look at the online users list, half that number, theres your single men... lol

here's one right here :) obviously, I wouldn't really be making a post like this if I was happy in love would I? haha

Originally posted by mooples
Where are all these single men please? :smile:

Another one here :D

I would'nt be agreeing with the poster if I was happy in love

Are you sure it's not just that you haven't found a single girl you fancy and are discounting the single girls you're not interested in? There are plenty of us single girls out there too and we're usually moaning that all the decent men are taken!

[QUOTE]Originally posted by xafier

and what makes it worse is the fact when I do find a single woman, she turns out to be a selfish b**ch and messes me around :(

Sorry you've had bad experiences, maybe your negativity towards women shows through and makes you harder to approach, therefore making it less likely to meet single girls?

Just a thought :smile:

So... all the decent men are taken and all the decent women are taken?

You saying some men (and women!) should lower thier standards?

That can't be the case, i've know guys and girls who aren't often in a relationship but thats because they prefer being single?

Maybe its the ones who think being attached will solve all their problems, but then only liek the perfect ones who that applies to, definiately not all single people.

Wilf

Noo I didn't mean that. Not likely to say all the decent women are taken when I'm single am I? ;)
All I meant was that you're just as likely to hear women moaning that there aren't any single men around when this post shows that there must be. So maybe it's not that there aren't enough single people to go round, it just seems like that when there isn't a single person around who's right for you.
Wasn't saying anyone should lower their standards, nothing wrong with being single :smile:

You need to check if the single men have got a groove on their left ring finger and a definate tan line before you consider them truly single! An un-ironed shirt is also a dead give away! You can always spot a single woman cos they look happy!

Originally posted by mooples
Are you sure it's not just that you haven't found a single girl you fancy and are discounting the single girls you're not interested in?

highly doubtful, I'm not pig ignorant I'm more interested in peoples personality than looks, they're not really all that important in making you happy at the end of the day, and I know myself I aint no Brad Pitt :hihi: but I do discount people who are out of my age range, I know a few women 40+ who are single, but I'm hardly likely to be interested in them when I'm like 20... lol

Originally posted by mooples
Sorry you've had bad experiences, maybe your negativity towards women shows through and makes you harder to approach, therefore making it less likely to meet single girls?

nah, I just have negativity towards these women, although, to be honest I think it's probably my own fault, I shouldn't really have decided that 17 year olds were on my maturity level, I'm sure there are some 17yr olds out there that are mature, so no I'm not insulting them all, but its obvious that the ones I've met still need to learn a little respect for others feelings.

Originally posted by dawny1
You need to check if the single men have got a groove on their left ring finger and a definate tan line before you consider them truly single! An un-ironed shirt is also a dead give away!

I'd be worried if had a groovy on my ring finger :hihi: and the t-shirt thing doesn't prove anything, you find me any straight male student that owns an iron let alone uses it! lol

although, I do have to admit I iron my proper trousers and proper shirts... but jeans look silly ironed, and provided you dry your clothes properly you can easily get away without ironing t-shirts and fleeces :) but hey, at least I have one up on half the male population, I know how to do my own washing, and I actually do it, and I live with my parents still, unlike all my Uni mates that take it all home for their mums to do every couple of weeks :hihi:

Originally posted by dawny1
An un-ironed shirt is also a dead give away!
U must be thinking "single coz incompitent", im single and i iron my ware and cook and the rest. Oh well all the more resaon to organise "singles meet"!!!!

Originally posted by mooples
Where are all these single men please? :smile:

Another one here ... *tries to smile*

Trouble is, it always seems there's a lack of what you are looking for! You think there are no single women, I'm always moaning there are no single men!

Same applies to other things, for example shoes. Went shopping yesterday and my friend was moaning that all the nice shoes sold out first in her size, and I said that was completely wrong and that if there was a sale they always had the shoes I wanted in every size but mine...

I'm sure it's just that when you are looking for something you can't find it!

Originally posted by beckyaa
You think there are no single women, I'm always moaning there are no single men!
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I think the solution is obvious :)

I'm sure it's just that when you are looking for something you can't find it!

The flip side of that being: it's always when you aren't looking for it that you find things.

What I'm never sure of is if you tell yourself you aren't looking for something are you being honest (with yourself) or just saying it in the hope that what you are pretending not to look for will somehow sneak up on you - whether it be love or a pair of shoes...

your right Sian... you can tell yourself your not looking, but you are... my last g/f came along when I'd pretty much given up all hope of ever finding someone else... except she'd been under my nose as my friend for about 2yrs... lol... but for some reason we just suddenly clicked... it was rather weird to be honest :?

Originally posted by Siân
The flip side of that being: it's always when you aren't looking for it that you find things.

Exactly! When you go shopping it's always impossible to find what you went shopping for, and that applies to men as well!

And you are right that telling yourself you are not looking for something is often a sure sign that you actually are. It always just happens!

Try working in a bar which everyone seems to come on first dates. Very safe enviroment e.c.t. Bloody annoying when you are behind the bar with two gorgeous girls(who are taken and good mates) and your single!

Originally posted by LuckyR
Try working in a bar which everyone seems to come on first dates. Very safe enviroment e.c.t. Bloody annoying when you are behind the bar with two gorgeous girls(who are taken and good mates) and your single!

How can working with two gorgeous ladies ever be annoying !?

What does your .sig mean by the way LuckyR ? ...

Originally posted by saxon51
Just a thought, maybe a lot of these 'unattached' blokes are only saying they're unattached in the hopes of pulling.:suspect:

surely women are more likely to go for an attached bloke anyway?:loopy: I know people who WEAR wedding rings to pull...

thinking about this rationally we either have a large Lesbian community in Sheffield or a lot of men are 2-timing women

That must just be your perception there's far more single women than men but i'd say it was just about even upto about the age of 35. There's plenty of single women about but it's knowing where to go fo find them! gotta remember than quite a few may be single parents and have kids and so would be home on a saturday quite a bit of the time etc


'Further figures show a higher rate of both marriage and cohabitation by men. These show that :-

32 per cent of 22.31 million men are without partner (i.e. 7,139,200 approx)
39 per cent of 23.84 million women are without a partner ( i.e. 9,297,600 approx)
Giving a surplus of 2,158,400 women, or 9.05 per cent of the female population above marriageable age and 23.2 per cent of women who are old enough to have a partner but do not in fact have one'


got this from here;

http://www.samchapman.f2s.com/ppractic.htm

Firstly it is really impossible for there to be more taken women than there are men unless we have signifigantly more lesbian couples than gay ones and/or we have a large amount of serial bigamists which means something effect our perceptions.

Could it be time and the average amount of relationships someone has. Could it be that on average a sheffieldwoman has more relationships than a sheffield man thus she is single for less time. This would also mean that there are less permanent single women than there are women.....

I would like to point out that i am in no way calling all sheffield women slags! I aslo agree with a seperate post that there are many many gorgeous girls in sheffield!

The quotes is from kennedy and IMO hes saying that unless you risk failure on a large scale your never going to accomplish anything, "who dares win and all..."

I do love working with 4 gorgeous girls(depending on what night) but it can be frustrating. plus i have to put up with half the bar perving/tryining it on with them

riiiiiiiiight, lets stop talking and get down to business!
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matchmaking business that is :heyhey:

Originally posted by LuckyR


I do love working with 4 gorgeous girls(depending on what night) but it can be frustrating. plus i have to put up with half the bar perving/tryining it on with them

where do you work???!! :thumbsup:

Originally posted by mooples
Where are all these single men please? :smile:

Single chap here.. And I love it (well for the time being) :D

like im going to make it any worse than it already is

I know of a few men that have more than one girlfriend! how does that work?!

'cos their lucky!

It does seem hard to find a single female in Sheff. I'm 22 n Iv'e been single for about a year and still can't find any one. I aint no grad pit but no steptoe either!

Tell me ladies how do you tell when a bloke is single (faumous last words!)

"I aint no grad pit but no steptoe either!"

That shoud read - I aint no brad pit but no steptoe either!

Originally posted by leddi
I know of a few men that have more than one girlfriend! how does that work?!

they're being evil and taking women away from us single guys, thats how it works :P theres technically nothing wrong with having more than one g/f, its not like your married to them... but it is just a bit morally wrong, especially if you dont tell them your seeing other people too... grrr see, this is why there are less single women, darn guys taking more than one woman to themselves and leading the women to believe they are the only ones in their lives!

just goes to prove nice guys really do finish last, cus the arseholes get more than one girl :o

Originally posted by xafier
they're being evil and taking women away from us single guys, thats how it works :P theres technically nothing wrong with having more than one g/f, its not like your married to them... but it is just a bit morally wrong, especially if you dont tell them your seeing other people too... grrr see, this is why there are less single women, darn guys taking more than one woman to themselves and leading the women to believe they are the only ones in their lives!

just goes to prove nice guys really do finish last, cus the arseholes get more than one girl :o

Actually ...

It's really because I have them all enslaved in my secret underground laboratory ... for *coffs* 'experiments'.

;)

I used to work behind a bar and so would soon come to recognise the single ladies, I never had a problem chatting to them I just made sure they knew my name and I knew what they drank and made sure they didn't have to wait too long to be served.
I know a few single girls who are also single parents which can really crimp their socialising and older single women must socialise in places that I don't frequent, though I'm not sure where that is.
Maybe people on the forum could start blind dating, i.e. look for some-one on the forum who makes you laugh and then arrange to meet them somewhere. If any low lifes make out that they are single but aren't make sure you post their names so they can't fool anyone else.

maybe we should just have a post for single peeps, post your age, gender, sexual preference, age range, general interests and then people can reply or PM if they're interested :) gotta be better than those stupid sites where you have to pay and stuff :)

I'm willing if others are... lol... although I think most of the people are older than me :? but oh well

Yep sounds like a plan xaf!! im up for it

The only logical explanation if the theory is true (and discounting that attached men might be lying) is that there is a high proportion of attached lesbians.

personally I would make the assumption that attached lesbian couples and attached gay couples probably cancel eachother out, I haven't really noticed that there are more gay than lesbian couples, and if there are I would have actually thought there's more gay couples? which would mean the odds are in favour of single guys?

it's all rather confusing, I think the real answer is simply, everyone's looking in the wrong places... there's single people everywhere and we're all looking for eachother and missing eachother... lol

I think there are just as many single girls as there are guys.

A couple of posts on this thread lead me to a certain conclusion...

All the people you set your sights on (and everybody punches above their weight somewhat don't they - that's the nature of attraction, surely) are taken.

If you consider yourself average in the looks department, you dont want to settle for someone you consider 'average'. You want someone who is attractive - moreso than yourself.
Except all the good people are taken. Taen by other people better looking than yourself.

All the ugly people, or boring people, or timid quiet people that you never notice - it doesnt matter if they're single or not - you're not interested anyway.
The chances of being attracted to someone who is on a par with yourself looks wise, who also fancies you, and who's personality matches yours, who's single - is rare.

I know loads of singles of both sexes. Loads of single girls.
All the attractive cool ones are taken.
The less-attractive and less-cool ones are single, but you probably wouldn't care.

PS dont women outnumber men at the minute in the UK? Sure I read this somewhere.

Originally posted by jackthedog
I know loads of singles of both sexes. Loads of single girls.
All the attractive cool ones are taken.
The less-attractive and less-cool ones are single, but you probably wouldn't care.[/size]

looks arent everything y'know mate? I'm average, I'd be happy with average looks, or even slightly less looking than myself, as long as they was nice to get on with, I love a good natter and to share my interests and share the other persons interests... after all, aint that what relationships are all about?

unless I'm getting the whole thing wrong and really it is all about finding the hottest woman you can get and having non-stop sex till she ditches you? :?

nah, pretty sure it's about finding someone you can have a laugh with and share your time with and enjoy eachother... thats all I'm trying to find, although some sex would be a definite good bonus ;)

Originally posted by xafier
looks arent everything y'know mate?

Not once did I say they were.

Looks play a much bigger part than people let on though, I will say that.

I know some great girls, awesome people, but I'm not physically attracted to them. So I'm not interested in being anything other than good friends. Hence I still share my time with them and enjoy their company, but I have no desire to take it further.

For anything to move beyond good friends - to form a sexual relationship as well as close friendship - attraction plays a big part.
For me at least.
For most others too, I would have thought.

But its kind of off-topic I think.


Originally posted by xafier
unless I'm getting the whole thing wrong and really it is all about finding the hottest woman you can get and having non-stop sex till she ditches you? :?

You don't have it wrong. That would be a pathetic excuse of a relationship.

Originally posted by LuckyR
Try working in a bar which everyone seems to come on first dates. Very safe enviroment e.c.t. Bloody annoying when you are behind the bar with two gorgeous girls(who are taken and good mates) and your single!

On the flip side, try being behind a bar with two gorgeous girls who are single, and you're spoken for! :|

(When the lady reads this, I didn't mean it :heyhey: )

Originally posted by jackthedog
For anything to move beyond good friends - to form a sexual relationship as well as close friendship - attraction plays a big part.
For me at least.
For most others too, I would have thought.


yeah attraction plays a key, but a woman doesnt have to be a super model to be attractive to me, I find women who have more of the cute thing going on more attractive than "hot" women, to be honest I'm often put off by a lot of the really "hot" women I talk, especially if they KNOW they're hot, most of they're time they open their mouths and its like "right ok, I'll just leave you for the idiots to perv over" because they have the personality of a dead warthog, and/or they're rather umm... thick :?

although I'm not saying all hot women are like that, hell I know some VERY hot women that are intelligent and funny and everything a guy could ever want all rolled into one... but they're definitly the women that don't stay single for long, and plus I find, you get to a certain point where you would never dream of ruining a friendship with someone to risk a r/ship

Originally posted by Hook
On the flip side, try being behind a bar with two gorgeous girls who are single, and you're spoken for! :|

(When the lady reads this, I didn't mean it :heyhey: )

so what bar do you work at where these 2 hot SINGLE chicks are!! :)

I have known over time quite a few hot girls who are single because most guys think that their are either; taken for/out of their league. These girls complained that no one used to come up to them. Thats why sometimes I think you see hot a hot lady with an average bloke! because he had the balls to go and chat her up! (not meaning all by the way)

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
so what bar do you work at where these 2 hot SINGLE chicks are!! :)

Hey I'm not telling you that... just in case :suspect:

Originally posted by robbie
surely women are more likely to go for an attached bloke anyway?:loopy: I know people who WEAR wedding rings to pull...

I would say this of Men more so then women...

I once went on a Hen night along with engaged an married women... Me being the only single person within the crowd :(

So the question is... who pulled? the answer being everyone except me... I think that proves it right that people are only interested in a challenge!... Why go for someone who is so readily available... also could be a question of why is this person single!? :?

If there is a Hen party in a bar/club... guaranteed some guy is out to pull the Hen (maybe for a bet?)... She'll be seen as the main 'Challenge'

Originally posted by Hook
Hey I'm not telling you that... just in case :suspect:

Thats so unfair to the 2 ladies in question, if it would of happend it would of happend by now mate :), give all us single lads a chance! your not their dad!!!!!

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
Thats so unfair to the 2 ladies in question, if it would of happend it would of happend by now mate :), give all us single lads a chance! your not their dad!!!!!

I didn't mean it like that ;) I meant if I suddenly become single I'd kick myself ;) The only reason is, I don't like talking about where I work. I keep as much personal information off the forums that I can :)

Originally posted by xafier
I find women who have more of the cute thing going on more attractive than "hot" women, to be honest I'm often put off by a lot of the really "hot" women I talk,

Dont think that you're any different to most blokes in the world with that idea - the girls with the whole cute thing going on are in just as much demand as the 6ft blondes. You might think you have different tastes to most men by not instantly going for the supermodelesque girls. But you're actually in the most difficult market I reckon.

The girls with accessible looks - the cool, funny, cute ones, the ones who dont mind drinking pints as opposed to wine, the ones who dont mind acting daft and having a laugh - they are the ones in most demand. They are approachable and friendly and can talk to anyone because they are so cool.

Hence the competition in that sector is extemely fierce.

As somebody above has just said, many of the super attractive ubermodels are single, as no man dare try their luck with them.

Originally posted by xafier

just goes to prove nice guys really do finish last, cus the arseholes get more than one girl :o

so true. Whenever I have seen two men courtingthe same woman she almost always goes for the guy that treats her like crap! I have never figured out why this is though.

Originally posted by Angel05
I once went on a Hen night along with engaged an married women... Me being the only single person within the crowd :(

So the question is... who pulled? the answer being everyone except me..

they sound like lucky blokes...her fiancee and her husband.... and women complain about blokes being too possessive?...its no wonder with this kinda behaviour going on. if a married friend of mine `pulled' i would feel disgusted by him and struggle to face his partner knowing what he had done.

seen as the singles thread I started got closed due to people being stupid and hi-jacking it, I've started my own little singles forum, if anyones interested the links in my signature :)

Originally posted by MTheo
they sound like lucky blokes...her fiancee and her husband.... and women complain about blokes being too possessive?...its no wonder with this kinda behaviour going on. if a married friend of mine `pulled' i would feel disgusted by him and struggle to face his partner knowing what he had done.

Can i correct this statement... :?

I would have found it hard too... should this kinda behaviour have happened...

The women were paid attention by men (as in pulled) no one was actually on 'The Pull' so nothing what so ever happened as the women i was with were truly loyal to their partners...

Sorry for the confusion...

its ok Angel :) its not like we knew who the women were anyways ;) and I think I've proven my point about their being more single guys than gals, check out my new Sheffield Singles forum, the number of guys compared with women on there is rather bad :P

women are sorted for finding guys... lol

Originally posted by xafier
its ok Angel :) its not like we knew who the women were anyways ;) and I think I've proven my point about their being more single guys than gals, check out my new Sheffield Singles forum, the number of guys compared with women on there is rather bad :P

women are sorted for finding guys... lol

i think you'll find that there are probably more men than women (over 20) using the t'internet hence the gender balance of such sites