Can anyone help with my rights when ex husband who is supposed to have his kids every other weekend keeps cancelling. I have custody but never went through courts to sort access and maintenance just had a once amicable agreement of set days he was to have them. If I sort this through the court does he have to definately stick to the agreement and will it cost me a small fortune. Kids need fathers too but they have to want to be there!

Hi Dawny
Ive been in the same situation - my ex has now cancelled seeing his daughter for the past 8 months or so. Like you we had an agreement which was also drawn up in court papers. He doesnt comply and I have taken legal advice. Apart from a solicitors letter there is nothing that can be done. Ive tried reasoning with me ex trying to explain that he is hurting his daughter but he thinks he is punishing me.
Sorry can't be the bearer of better news!

Thanks it seems the Dads that can see their kids when they want dont and the ones who can't are scaling high buildings! One day when our ex's want their bums wiping and shopping fetching they will wonder why their kids cancel them! What goes around, comes around.

Don't know the legal side of what to do but next time he wants to see them cancel him!!!!!

See how he likes it!!

I hope the kids haven't got upset about this (God bless 'em)!!

As much as I would love to do that it is punishing the kids more than him because they miss and love him and as much as I love my kids boy is it good to have a quiet house occasionally when he does have them. Thanks for your input its nice to know people sympathise with my situation.

have a word with their nan ( his mother ) they usually find a way to get the kids to visit

Youve got to be kiddin he hardly sees her either! I think I will just have to keep making excuses for him and hope one day before its too late he realises what he going to lose out on before its too late. His loss cos they are great kids.

My ex did a runner with my best mate and my 2 boys to Nottingham 6 years ago.

Ever since then I have been fighting just to see them - dads that get access and then cant be bothered to see their kids dont deserve the title "dad"

In my humble opinion anyway...........

Slightly off topic - Fathers for justice are doing a good thing - we are not all wife beating child abusing womanisers.

Originally posted by Dj_Shadowman
My ex did a runner with my best mate and my 2 boys to Nottingham 6 years ago.

Ever since then I have been fighting just to see them - dads that get access and then cant be bothered to see their kids dont deserve the title "dad"

In my humble opinion anyway...........

Slightly off topic - Fathers for justice are doing a good thing - we are not all wife beating child abusing womanisers.

im in total agreement with what you said:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

True its a shame he doesn't realise how lucky he is because no matter what i feel i never bad mouth him to the kids as tempting as it is! A male friend of mine was falsely accused of abusing his kids by the ex to make it difficult for him to see them she caused so much agro with false allegations he hasn't seen them for over 10yrs but keeps letters and birthday cards he never sends in a box so one day he can show them he never forgot them, he even puts money away for them one day when kids old enough he will get in touch and tell them the truth!

Originally posted by dawny1
Can anyone help with my rights when ex husband who is supposed to have his kids every other weekend keeps cancelling. I have custody but never went through courts to sort access and maintenance just had a once amicable agreement of set days he was to have them. If I sort this through the court does he have to definately stick to the agreement and will it cost me a small fortune. Kids need fathers too but they have to want to be there!

I doubt there is any way you can force him into seeing his children.

Hi Dawny, unfortunately you can`t force your ex to see his kids...

I once asked my solicitor something along these lines when my ex had once again let the kids down literally half an hour before they were going away over night and she told me that it was impossible to make anyone to see their kids if they didn`t want to.

Very sad but true !!!

it may not make any difference to him but whilst ever you cover up for his absences you maintain his dominance in the family unit. tell your children he's not coming but try not to justify his absence at least everyone knows the truth.
my dad didn't see me for 22 years then suddenly reappeared, he left with a verbal backlash never to be seen again.
there is no excuse for not taking responsibilty for his own children.