Would you change anything in your life or are you happy with the way it is, is there anything you would or shold have changed previously, do you like change - or do you find it unsettling?

After 70+ years, on the whole, NO!
Yet maybe:
if I'd eaten less and exercised more........
if I'd nagged my sister into giving up smoking......
if I'd learnt to play the piano.......

i should change the way i perceive certain situations.

If I could change anything, it would definitely be the fact that I'm disabled. Then I wouldn't have had to go to a "special" School, and I'd be able to get a job! :rant:

And no, I am not using the disability as an excuse to not work, if I could get anything other than a voluntary job, I would.

Should have, could have, but I did what I did and so I live wth today....my god this cabernet sauvignon is good

I would have liked to play the piano, and mastered ice skating or even roller skating - it was a case of not getting enough practise with the latter two

If I could change anything, it would definitely be the fact that I'm disabled. Then I wouldn't have had to go to a "special" School, and I'd be able to get a job! :rant:

And no, I am not using the disability as an excuse to not work, if I could get anything other than a voluntary job, I would.
Rich I sincerely hope your luck changes and you get the job you deserve, you are bright enough :)

The obvious; I'd not smoke, drink or eat the near continual smorgasboard of crap which I seem to shovel down my gaping trap. I'd be a better son and brother. I'd not hate as readily as I do, I'd have patience, I'd show compassion, I'd not be so sharp of tongue and I'd be a nicer guy.

You know the guy who you discuss with a third party and describe "A really nice guy, never has a bad word to say about anyone"? That's who I like to be ...... As it is I have to stay being an absolute arsehole :)

I would have liked to play the piano, and mastered ice skating or even roller skating - it was a case of not getting enough practise with the latter two

......been a porn star, mastered french kniting, collected stamps from the outposts of the commonwealth, found a picture of the queen mother sharpening a pencil...goes back to dream

The obvious; I'd not smoke, drink or eat the near continual smorgasboard of crap which I seem to shovel down my gaping trap. I'd be a better son and brother. I'd not hate as readily as I do, I'd have patience, I'd show compassion, I'd not be so sharp of tongue and I'd be a nicer guy.

You know the guy who you discuss with a third party and describe "A really nice guy, never has a bad word to say about anyone"? That's who I like to be ...... As it is I have to stay being an absolute arsehole :)

I've never noticed you being anything other than being honest and forthright in your views, you judge yourself too harshly

If I could change anything, it would definitely be the fact that I'm disabled. Then I wouldn't have had to go to a "special" School, and I'd be able to get a job! :rant:

And no, I am not using the disability as an excuse to not work, if I could get anything other than a voluntary job, I would.

The only thing disabled about you is your frame of mind. You are as able as anyone else but suffer from a poverty of expectation. Get over it and you will find others will respond accordingly.

I've never noticed you neing anything other than being honest and forthright in your views, you judge yourself too harshly

Possibly. Muchas gracias Patricia :)

Possibly. Muchas gracias Patricia :)

pleeas edit that last word:hihi:

The only thing disabled about you is your frame of mind. You are as able as anyone else but suffer from a poverty of expectation. Get over it and you will find others will respond accordingly.

Fair comment, but when the likes of my Parents and other professionals keep telling me to remember I'm disabled and tailor my job searching accordingly, it gets a bit disheartening that I do what they ask, and still get virtually told to go away when I apply for anything beyond volunteer work.

pleeas edit that last word:hihi:

Good Lord - Apologies! I'm flicking between two tabs and also watching Dogma ......... I'm male - I can't multitask :hihi:

where were we.....written a best selling novel, appeared on Sunday Night at the London Palladium, represented England at nude leapfrog...awwww the dreams we had

Fair comment, but when the likes of my Parents and other professionals keep telling me to remember I'm disabled and tailor my job searching accordingly, it gets a bit disheartening that I do what they ask, and still get virtually told to go away when I apply for anything beyond volunteer work.

Make tomorrow a new day for yourself Rich. You are able and just ensure everyone else is aware of it.

I wish I'd have met R-lass 10 years earlier & had more kids cos the one we have got is turning out fantastic.


Financially I wish I'd have gone with my gut - feeling speculation & took out a loan for £30k & invested the lot in Premium Bonds 10 years ago.

The winnings WOULD have paid the interest off and I'd have had 10 years head start on being a millionaire.

Rich, learn to play a musical instrument and join a band. It's totally brilliant to be with musicians, even if they are far more talented than yourself. Get yourself some recording software, a drum machine and blast away for hours, improvising naff tunes with friends. I've spent years doing just that, and I never became any good at all musically. But it didn't matter. I was with good friends and loved every minute of it. We recorded everything we did on a four-track recorder, and played it back at the end of the session. In twenty years we never produced a single piece of music that was worth a damn. Wonderful times.

Rich, get a musical instrument and get out amongst friends.

I wish I could change the past, but that isn't a choice in reality. I am happy with what I have today and wouldn't change any aspect of my life. :)

Good Lord - Apologies! I'm flicking between two tabs and also watching Dogma ......... I'm male - I can't multitask :hihi:


you are so naughty:P

I would have made a point of getting up every morning at 6am to go swimming training - I could have been really good. I would still have given up ballet at 5 (I hated it...I still don't get it) but I would have found some other forms of dance that worked for me and would have stuck with it. I wouldn't have let my parents buy that s*****g clarinet. I would have dumped the poodle-a-like manipulative poo of a boyfriend after I'd had sex with him, which is why I picked him up in the first place, rather than wait 2 years before he did anything bad enough to actually merit a reasoned logically dump. I'd be less bitter, talk less and think more, know when to leave an argument, have less arguments, move to Canada before I had a child, and what's more, I should have bought that house in Broomhill that I thought about in 1997 (65k, sold on for 275 in 2004, damnit) and used the proceeds to do something fantastic. Oh, I should have been a dentist or an engineer too, rather than what I currently am.

I wish I'd have met R-lass 10 years earlier & had more kids cos the one we have got is turning out fantastic.


Financially I wish I'd have gone with my gut - feeling speculation & took out a loan for £30k & invested the lot in Premium Bonds 10 years ago.

The winnings WOULD have paid the interest off and I'd have had 10 years head start on being a millionaire.
I've got that amount in Premium Bonds now, but I'm still waiting, I'm hoping to get a really big win, have won £350 this year

I wish I could change the past, but that isn't a choice in reality. I am happy with what I have today and wouldn't change any aspect of my life. :)

Well said. Whats the point in worrying about what could have been. As we get older the the challenge is to deal with now. The older we get the more choices we have had in life and we made those choices so we have to live with them

Well said. Whats the point in worrying about what could have been. As we get older the the challenge is to deal with now. The older we get the more choices we have had in life and we made those choices so we have to live with them

I use to dwell on the the past and it was clearly destroying the future...however, the future I had the option to change. :)

I would have liked to have met my Oh sooner, but then I would have missed out on my kids from my previous relationship so no, Id say things were pretty much perfect as they are for me.

I would have liked to have gone to University, if only for the camaraderie experience, studying Greek Mythology, English Language and English Literature

I would normally say no but I have learnt a lot in the last few years.

I would change:

The fact I spent more time worrying about how clean my home was rather then spending time with my kids.

I would change the way I used to constantly help people and sort their problems out. As all the time I spent waisting on them ,I could of used that time in a more resourceful way. Like enjoying what time I had on me feet ,as am now in a wheelchair.

I would change who I spent my time with as friends as I spent what time I had on my feet with people that had treat me bad and did many a things I just don't see as nice or normal. (but then again I am ever so greatful to them for showing me some/learning me some great lessons) :)

I would change the way I dealt with people that upset and hurt me. As I did not deal with things great depression or no depression. Cos although they really bothered me and hurt me I was really mean to them. Wich then made me as bad as them bringing myself down to their level.

I would not change anything else other then these few things. Im happy otherwise and although my situation has been rubbish I am the happiest I have ever been

I wouldn't change a thing!

I've had some black times in my life, but I wouldn't be who I am now without them and I certainly wouldn't be in the very happy situation I'm in now without them.

I wish that I had stayed single, and thin.