Scenario:

Its your first date or even just getting chatted up in a bar/nightclub or you have been seeing the guy for a while....

What would you like to hear be said to you/works for you to.....well to put it bluntly, have sex with the guy for the FIRST TIME!

Please vote.

NOTE: The rude one has been included as some people (both sexes) like this sort of thing.

Is this for personal use?!!
I think it depends on the scenario...

Originally posted by creep
Is this for personal use?!!
I think it depends on the scenario...

Nope as I have a girlfriend. We were talking about this last night, so I thought it would make a good poll on here!

...also depends on amount of alcohol consumed...!

I assume it is just for the girls cos most guys would say 'hell yeah' to any type of come on?!

...and how long it had been..! (no pun intended)

All lines are a complete turn off. If you can't just start a conversation in the same way you would with another bloke at the bar - forget it.

And nobody has had the audacity to ask if they can sleep with me. They value their lives too much :nono: I always call the shots (see fetishfairy's avatar in leui of a smiley here)

I quite like..." Come back to my cave...UGG!...for a loin cloth inspection..UGG!...."

.....Hmmm you know who you are...(?)

Originally posted by Strix
All lines are a complete turn off. If you can't just start a conversation in the same way you would with another bloke at the bar - forget it.

Strix,

I think you have missed the point here. Its not about starting a conversation up like guys do with another bloke at a bar. Its about asking THE question for the first time. Most times it has to be asked or either it just happens, alcohol or not!

Originally posted by Strix
And nobody has had the ordassity to ask if they can sleep with me. They value their lives too much :nono: I always call the shots (see fetishfairy's avatar in leui of a smiley here)

This is in no way derogatory towards women or men!

I personally would be horrified to be asked outright...
Things are better left to nature..if its gonna happen it will..without any hurrying up..and if you have to do that then its not the right connection between you. After all who wants a relationship that is solely based on sex.?..well some people might ..but...

Words are not always necessary as when you've been seeing/dating (hate that word)/courting (even worse!) someone for a while you just know when it's the right time.

However, I once asked a bloke (that I'd been seeing for a while) if he fancied coming back to mine for a sh*g and a pizza (not sure which one first) - that was nine years ago and we are still together!

One, two, three - ahhhhhhhhhh!

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
Strix,

I think you have missed the point here. :confused:
I never undersood what all the fuss was ever about. I led, they followed. I find 'talking about it' throws up too many questions and decisions, causes panic, and people chicken out. Just let things take their course. If you get a 'erm, hold it right there!', don't push it.

Admittedly, I used to use a visual question/answer: Just when a bloke has that 'am I on here or not?' expression on his face, conjuring up a condom is the best confirmation. Funnily enough, I've not had a 'no' from this approach.

Can't say it would work the other way round though :D

for me, it would depend on how the guy is! If he is a good guy, he will get a good-night kiss and I'll go inside my house(without him)! but if he is a bad boy, then I have a whole different response to that.................

Originally posted by Lily04
for me, it would depend on how the guy is! If he is a good guy, he will get a good-night kiss and I'll go inside my house(without him)! but if he is a bad boy, then I have a whole different response to that.................

Go on and your bad boy response is....................

Also how do you differentiate between good and bad boys!??

I hate the use of crude words as I think it cheapens the moment and makes the woman feel like a 'woman of the night'.
Sometimes words aren't needed and you can learn a lot from body language but I prefer the simple 'Would you like to go to bed', and then rising from the sofa I'd walk off and say, 'yeah - goodnight'.

Originally posted by Strix

And nobody has had the ordassity to ask if they can sleep with me.

:lol: *Slightly* off-topic but I have to thank you for giving me a good chuckle with your attempt to spell the word "audacity".:hihi:

Originally posted by t020
:lol: *Slightly* off-topic but I have to thank you for giving me a good chuckle with your attempt to spell the word "audacity".:hihi:

:rolleyes: Oh dear, and me being one of the 'spelling police' on here too :blush:

Originally posted by t020
:lol: *Slightly* off-topic but I have to thank you for giving me a good chuckle with your attempt to spell the word "audacity".:hihi:

This would have been a perfectly balanced sentence had you placed a comma between 'topic and 'but'.

Ah, well - no-one's perfect.

Wheres the Romance these days :confused:

I prefer nature to take its course :heyhey: Theres no excitement if you know 100% its going to happen.. Be spontaneous* :D

* feel free to correct if spelt wrong

Originally posted by Sam Miguel
This would have been a perfectly balanced sentence had you placed a comma between 'topic and 'but'.

Ah, well - no-one's perfect.

"Under certain circumstances, the comma between independent clauses in a compound sentence can be left out, and sometimes even should be left out."

- http://www.grammartips.homestead.com/compoundsentences.html

It wouldn't matter what a guy said to me on a first date...I have never had a one night stand and never intend to so if I ever had the idea a guy was merely after sex then I would make my excuses.

But when you've been seeing each other for a while I think it just happens naturally. I think the subtle approach is best though, saying "do you fancy staying at mine tonight" isn't explicit, but both parties know what might happen

To be honest, none of those lines would work for me. Back in the day, if I fancied a bloke enough to sleep with him then it would be blatantly obvious and I wouldn't leave it so long that he actually had to do any asking! :)

After our second meeting, I asked Mr Pussycat if he would like to come in for a cup of tea or "something", but was politely refused because he was playing it cool (that's what he reckons now anyway). I thought I'd frightened him away by being so forward.

Lots of blokes still seem to think that they always have to make the first move, which I think puts them under more pressure in situations like these. I would have thought that there are plenty of attractive ladies out there who like to take the lead.

I sincerely apologise for any grammatical errors in this post.

Yes, I know all this To20, and don't have to read upon the matter as I am well educated on the subject, but in this case - for stylistic effect - my suggestion of a comma would have been a better option.

Please consider this in future posts.

Actually, I don't really care to be honest. I just thought you ought to 'have it up you' for a change, instead of making others have it.



Originally posted by t020
"Under certain circumstances, the comma between independent clauses in a compound sentence can be left out, and sometimes even should be left out."

- http://www.grammartips.homestead.com/compoundsentences.html

Originally posted by Sam Miguel
Yes, I know all this To20, and don't have to read upon the matter as I am well educated on the subject, but in this case - for stylistic effect - my suggestion of a comma would have been a better option.


Well it was my post so the style was up to me - I thought it worked very nicely. ;)


Originally posted by Sam Miguel

Actually, I don't really care to be honest. I just thought you ought to 'have it up you' for a change, instead of making others have it.

How thoughtful of you, I'm touched. However, my first post was actually meant in jest (as 'subtly' implied by the smilies) and I think Strix realised this without the need for a knight in shining armour.

Sorry what was this thread about ?

It seems to have gone a bit off (AGAIN).

Originally posted by fuzzy
Sorry what was this thread about ?

It seems to have gone a bit off (AGAIN).

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So let's all start replying, pointing out how off-topic it's gone, that'll help things! :rolleyes:

Back on topic, my now boyfriend, came up to me in a club and said "fancy a snog?" and we have been together for 2years since then, so cheesy chat up lines can work, it just depends on who is using them.

i think it would all come down to the chemistry between the 2 people, if 2 people meet i think they know very soon if they want to sleep together

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
Go on and your bad boy response is....................

Also how do you differentiate between good and bad boys!??
I can always tell when I go out with a guy, just by the way he acts, whether he is going to be a good guy or a bad guy! I only tell what I do with them in private!! sorry Zedex!

For the most part, I am a risk-taker!! Except when the situation begins to get out of control!! Depending on how the night goes, is how I judge whether or not it goes further or just ends with a kiss on the cheek!!

My single friends tried the various lines in town on Fri night had had mixed results!!

Originally posted by ZEDEX48K
My single friends tried the various lines in town on Fri night had had mixed results!!

Would you like to expand on that a little ZEDEX !? ...

(in the interest of being scientific of course)

Would you like to come back to mine for a cup of tea?
Work for me in 1998.
Married him 2004 :bigsmile:

hm....bars do close early in England, and I'm always still up for a drink when they do, I think something along the lines of "do u fancy another drink? we could still go to mine for some more" is a good start, especially if he doesn't sound like he's "expecting" anything, I like to do all the "expecting" myself u see ;)

Maybe t020 should say to the girl.

Do you know how to spell audacity?
Do you know how to spell sex?
Good, lets go.


Notice well placed comma on last line.:clap:

Originally posted by Pete1024
Maybe t020 should say to the girl.

Do you know how to spell audacity?
Do you know how to spell sex?
Good, lets go.


Notice well placed comma on last line.:clap:
or maybe he wont have to say anything ans the girl just might jump on top of him, h*ll, that is what I would do in that situation!! If the guy gets nervous, let's just hope it doesn't interrupt his performance!!:heyhey: :heyhey: :D :D

Originally posted by Deejay
I prefer nature to take its course :heyhey: Theres no excitement if you know 100% its going to happen.. Be spontaneous* :D


That is why a girl has to be sneaky to pin it on him, when he least expects!! It has always worked for me, and the guy never knows it's coming!!:heyhey: :heyhey:

I know this isn't strictly what the topic was about ie. the big question, but my fella first came up to me in a club and said
"can I play guitar on your leg" 1 divorce (mine) and 4 years later we're still going strong