Ok so i have this girl who is perfect for me. Some of you will know her, i posted threads about her and a few pics a while back. I love her to bits, but she lives all the way down south wales and long distance is seriously not my idea of a good relationship. To make it worse she really needs a guy who can be with her most of the time and take her out cos shes wheelchair bound. Im in a mess cos i dont know what to do. She loves me more than i love her and she'd do anything to have me. Its just me stopping it from happening.

Then I think you need us to tell you to pack your bags!

Whats keeping you in sheffield? If I remember you don't like your job so why stay? If you think this is really a chance for both of you to be happy then get your ass down to Wales, she seemed a lovely girl but no point in messing her about if you really are not prepaired to move. Do you want to stay in Sheffield? whats keeping you here? would you resent her if you moved to Wales? could you make a go of it if you moved there? would you want to? I think you need to take a step back, you obviously like this girl but the fact that she is really into you should not cloud your judgement. You need to be sure it's good for you as well. If you honestly want to be with her then f*****g do it, you only live once (unless you are one of them religious types) so make the most of it. You said you job was crap so you can get another job so sign up to some agencies and go for it :) just make sure its for the right reasons... You and her.. if it does not work out you can always come back..
p****d rant over!!

Honesty - meet her 1st. Thats going 2 be the litmus test - surley? additionally, does she know your legless? It never worked for me.

If memory serves me rightly you are 17 years old....Right?.
Just do it _Fate_. As the others have already said, you don't like your job. You have this lovely girl that adores you and you obviously feel for her too.
I say go give it a go!. If things go Pete Tong you can always come home safe in the knowledge you gave it a go. If you don't go, you will become a 'what if' man and for the rest of your life you'll be wondering if you made the single biggest mistake of your life at the tender age of 17!.

Ohh and make sure you keep us up to date on how things are going :thumbsup:

Originally posted by bigflesh
Honesty - meet her 1st. Thats going 2 be the litmus test - surley? additionally, does she know your legless? It never worked for me.

as in you must be drunk or insane not 2 sort this love out!!!! go for it.. and good luck!

Meet up.

See if you get on.

If you do, think about what to do next.

If you don't, problem sorted.

It's all baby steps, my man, baby steps.

Don't get panicked about leaving God's Own County before you've actually found whether or not you can tolerate each other in the same room for any length of time..... :)

On a serious note - be very aware of the fact that no matter what, in the imperfect world we live in you will be partially viewed as a 'carer' by people around you. That puts an additional 'angle' on any relationship. Just make sure that you're doing this for the right reasons and not because you feel you should.

I know that sounds harsh, but it's a big step - do it for teh right reasons and you'll be in roses. Do it for the wrong ones and you'll be in the stuff that makes the roses grow.

Hope it pans out for you both,

Joe

Joe

It's much better to do something and have a few regrets about doing it than spend a whole lifetime regretting no doing it.

I say go for it!!

All the best :thumbsup:

Would I not be correct to say that the young lady in question has frequented this forum in the past.

What will she think if she reads this thread?

Just a thought for you.

Originally posted by foo_fighter
Would I not be correct to say that the young lady in question has frequented this forum in the past.

What will she think if she reads this thread?

Just a thought for you.

Why dont you pm and ask her?

The guy is asking for advice, so far what he has received seems approprite.

I dont think he said anything bad did he ?

See if you can get a week or so off work.Leu days or something.Go and see this girl, see if u can stay with her for a few days without letting her know what you are there for.Then u can judge for yourself how you feel without building the girls hope up too much.then if it feels right you and this girl can start laying plans for the future.
If it goes pear shaped you can then talk about which way the relationship is going without hurting her feelings too much.

Joe is right, its not something you can rush into,slowly does it.And remember,emotions are very delicate things,try to do this without either of you getting hurt too much.

Good Luck to you both,hope it works out for you.
Gail.

I'm with Joe on this one. Baby steps are needed here.

I'm all for the romanticism of running away so you can be together, and I've got friends that have had really sucessful internet relationships, but if you've not met her yet, I would suggest doing that a couple of times before you up-sticks!

Good luck whatever you decide to do! :thumbsup:

K x

Originally posted by venger
Why dont you pm and ask her?

The guy is asking for advice, so far what he has received seems approprite.

I dont think he said anything bad did he ?
venger (and all others), I see no need to PM anyone.

The point I made was a general one, reminding *everyone* that the person you are talking about is just that, a real person, with thier own emotions, and who just might see this thread.

Think about that please before you post.



Oh, and while I'm on (since you asked), would you want to read this from someone you loved,

Originally posted by _Fate_
She loves me more than i love her

We have already met. She is my ex's best friend and she came to visit for a weekend last year. We'v already been a couple before now and i ended it because i didnt see the point in long distance/net relationships. But now im starting to wish i hadnt ended it, balanced by the thought of wanting someone closer to home. Im not ready to move country cos i feel perfectly settled here. If i went to visit, i know for definate something would happen even if i didnt plan it. She is waiting for me to ask her out again. Sometimes i feel like the things i say on the net are just feelings i have at the time and then i might regret saying them after and wonder if i even meant them.
All ive ever wanted is something like i girl down the road who i could go visit any time i wanted. Someone who would be there to talk to in person, or hug every night. This kind of relationship isnt right for me, but the girl is. Its so unfair. She is everything i want in a girl and she has to live in another f***in country!

Originally posted by foo_fighter
venger (and all others), I see no need to PM anyone.

The point I made was a general one, reminding *everyone* that the person you are talking about is just that, a real person, with thier own emotions, and who just might see this thread.

Think about that please before you post.



Oh, and while I'm on (since you asked), would you want to read this from someone you loved,

Just sounds pretty confused to me.

We are only human after all.

i know this girl and she is really nice if u do love her and u do wanna be with her then y dont u just come for a vacation. i am in her college in her classs and all she talks about is u plzzzzzzz do me a favour and come and see her she really does love u

hi again guys hope every1 ok i wonder wot _fate_ will say wen he relises i read this thread lol
thanks for the advice im sure uve all helped him a load

yeah you have, thats why we'r seein eachother (again), and i dont have any holidays left at work otherwise i would have been down there already lol. But as soon as i get sum im catchin the coach down there for a week! :P

Originally posted by _Fate_
yeah you have, thats why we'r seein eachother (again), and i dont have any holidays left at work otherwise i would have been down there already lol. But as soon as i get sum im catchin the coach down there for a week! :P

Just call in sick! True love shouldn't wait! :clap:

K x

Cant. Ive already had a week off sick not long ago and im often late cos of the bus service. If i pull a sicky my department will NOT be happy and i might lose my job before they even find me another one.

Well good luck with it anyway _Fate_! If I were you, I'd cut my losses, and take the sick time... :thumbsup:

K x

ill c him again soon enough XxX

I cant afford to be without a job. Im only 17 for gods sake. Id be a complete bum if i lost this job at the moment. Id have nuthin! Lol. Ill get a refill of hol's in april i think. So it'l have to wait! :D

Save up enough money to last you about a month, then get yer ass down there.
F**k the job, you'll find another - you might not find another girl like her though. Make a move before someone else does.

I think Lestat is correct on this one! Get your skates on! :clap: :thumbsup:

K x

Originally posted by Kristian
I think Lestat is correct on this one! Get your skates on! :clap: :thumbsup:

K x
Looking out of the window, shouldn't that be

"! Get your skis on! :clap: :thumbsup: "

Originally posted by foo_fighter
Looking out of the window, shouldn't that be

"! Get your skis on! :clap: :thumbsup: "

Skates might be useful later though if it freezes! :thumbsup:

K x

Take a chance on life.....nothing is irreversable. Dont sit back and in 10 years say..."If only...".................
Go for it!

Originally posted by _Fate_
I cant afford to be without a job. Im only 17 for gods sake. Id be a complete bum if i lost this job at the moment. Id have nuthin! Lol. Ill get a refill of hol's in april i think. So it'l have to wait! :D call me a sucker but its nice to see young love grow, so im giving you my poem for free,just to keep the fire alight "my wish "
if i could have just one wish,iwould wish to wake each day with the warmth of your breath on my neck.
the softness of your lips on my cheek,the feel of your heart,beating next to mine.
to lay in your arms and watch you sleep,and to see that first smile of a new day as you wake,
to steal the first kiss of each morning, this would be my wish,

but who am i ? just a dreamer who loves to be near you,
to see your smile,hear your soft voice,like a warm breeze that gently kisses the heather as it passes,

to see the love in your eyes as they smile at me,
all of this would i wish, if i could have a wish.......
now send it,then follow it ok?

Nice Depoix, Thanks to you lot, we'r back together. I just thought to myself, "what have i got to lose by going back out with her?" :D

I guess i was just worried about hurting her again. Long distance things are such a sucker for cheating, and i didnt kno if i'd be able to push a girl away if i was approached while being down here.
I have hols at work now for the new year so i guess ill take a week off and spend some quality time with the love of my life :)

thanks again you lot! :thumbsup:

Yea his gonna make me watch a load of horror films (tha i hate) but it gives me an excuse to cuddle up LOL

Haven't been able to et back to this one until just now. Have you two young lovers managed to sort something out with a happy ending?

I do hope so,you sound such a lovley couple,be happy folks!:bigsmile:

Originally posted by bigflesh
Honesty - meet her 1st. Thats going 2 be the litmus test - surley? additionally, does she know your legless? It never worked for me. Are you right in saying he has never actually met her......Wow, certainly risky packing your bags if you have not actually met.
I am aware of this girl but nobodys worth leaving there home and job until a relationship has been made.