Why is it that if I am on a bus, or tram or waiting at a bus/tram stop, I always get the wierdo talking to me? I seem to have "Freak Magnet" written on my forehead, in ink that is only visable to weirdos, alchoholics, smelly people and old men with no teeth and their trousers up round their armpits!

Yesterday on the bus home from town, I had to move my bag off the seat next to me so a really smelly guy could sit down right next to me. There were lots of empty seats but he chose to sit next to me. He then proceeded to tell me that I wasn't perfect, no-one is and why do people have the right to criticise others for what they have in their shoping bags?!!! WTF????

This is no just a one off incident either. It happens all the time.

One possible explaination is that people say I have an 'open' face, approachable and friendly. I look people in the eye and smile a lot too. I don't want to walk around looking like a stuck up, miserable so-n-so but I don't want to end up with the worlds weirdos at my door either!

Does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?

I assume you're not wering a name badge at these times then, Fetishfairy :D

(sorry) :(

Originally posted by FetishFairy

One possible explaination is that people say I have an 'open' face, approachable and friendly. I look people in the eye and smile a lot too. I don't want to walk around looking like a stuck up, miserable so-n-so but I don't want to end up with the worlds weirdos at my door either!


Well yes, thats your answer.
I guess you also attract quite a lot of normal people as well, but you don't have cause to mention them.

And also freaks on the bus are much more likely to talk to you than "normal" people, because "normal" people are conditioned to ignore other people on the bus.

I also seem to get at least one person a week with Tourett's syndrome sitting next to me on the bus. Its quite funny if its only for 5 minutes, but half an hour and it becomes a bit of a drag.

Yes, I also suffer with this problem. It has been happening for most of my adult life. Put a oddbod on a bus or a train and they are drawn straight to me.

Originally posted by Andy78
Yes, I also suffer with this problem. It has been happening for most of my adult life. Put a oddbod on a bus or a train and they are drawn straight to me.
That's coz you're a Scouser. We're naturally communicative, so people like to talk to us :rolleyes:

Try and cultivate an air of aloof, 'superior' hostility. Look people in the eye, but let a sardonic, half-smirk play about your lips. This usually works for me, on the rare occasion that I am forced to endure public transport.

Some cities contain larger 'wierdo' populations than others. Sheffield [my original home town] is not so bad. Try working in Liverpool as I do. There, practically EVERYBODY is a 'wierdo', including bus drivers and railway ticket collectors. The only effective way to repel them is to kick them extremely hard in the testicles, as I was once forced to do at Bootle Oriel Rd Station. In Liverpool, one can board a bus travelling through the city centre, only to find oneself the ONLY person not twitching uncontrollably, declaring a penchant for sponge cake, smelling of a heady mixture of tobacco and urine, and claiming to be Bishop Tutu.

Good luck, dear heart.

Originally posted by Strix
I assume you're not wering a name badge at these times then, Fetishfairy :D

(sorry) :(

Lmao!! No!! Although some people can just 'tell', but that's another story!!

Originally posted by Yodameister
I also seem to get at least one person a week with Tourett's syndrome sitting next to me on the bus. Its quite funny if its only for 5 minutes, but half an hour and it becomes a bit of a drag.

Hey you should try living with someone with Tourettes!!!

PS Tourettes is *not* just people swearing all the time either as seems to be a popular misconception. My son screams, shakes his head and touches people. [/end lecture!]

Originally posted by FetishFairy
Hey you should try living with someone with Tourettes!!!

PS Tourettes is *not* just people swearing all the time either as seems to be a popular misconception. My son screams, shakes his head and touches people. [/end lecture!]

Yes I know that it is not exactly as the popular conception has it.


But it is public transport and I wouldn't want to disclude anyone from using a bus, but sometimes at the end of a hard days work it really is the last thing you need....

I have the answer to your problem Fetishfairy :)

Put earphones in your ears and make sure the wires are visable... whether you play music through them is upto you... but it deters almost anyone from sitting next to you or attempting to talk to you :)

If it wasn't for earphones and music I'd go nuts travelling to and from town every day... kids screaming, men and women talking about the stupidest things so loud that everyone can hear... old men and women whinging about this and that...

but ahhh... If i've remember to pack my MP3 player I can relax and ignore it all... BLISS! :D

Close your eyes and pretend to be asleep, they never waken you up, but keep your bag fastened and make sure you have the handles grasped firmly just in case some low life thinks they can have it away. ;)

I have varying methods of dealing with your average weirdo, If i'm in a good mood then I'll nod politely until they have made their random point and invariably they'll potter off content that someone else in the world shares their skewed viewpoint.

However, should one of the unhinged catch me in a slightly less than favourable mood then I'll explain that I don't want to have a conversation and then proceed to ignore them.

The ones that really freak me out are exceptionally drunk people whose mood turns on a sixpence, I always try to avoid them like the plague as they're just plain dangerous.

Hi Fetishfairy,
are you sure that you are not staring at the weird people just a heartbeat too long, And involuntarily offering sympathy, and inviting dialogue?

Maybe you should just stare out of the window instead.

I think this may be a conversation you should have with someone who knows you well in the flesh, and is familiar with your ways, rather than forum people who may not be able to point to the real answer by just guessing from your few clues.

Tsk, weirdos! Tell me about it!

Everyday when i'm on my way to work some bloke always insists on telling me about traffic problems here, there and everywhere!

If its not him i have to put up with its that woman who thinks i want to know what the weathers going to be like at the weekend, Is she phsycic?

And thats all before some nutter starts telling me all about the state of the world, who's been murdered or what various politicians are scheming.

Think i might have to stop driving to work, or at least put a CD on instead.

Originally posted by FetishFairy
Does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?

No ... it's certainly not only you who has a problems keeping the 'undersirables' at bay !!

It's probably your open, warm, genuine, caring disposition that's to blame.

That really is NOT THE WAY TO BE Fetish Fairy !!

I know cos I have simular issues re: keeping people who **** me off out of my space ...

So how best to keep them away !?

Confront them about their behaviour.

Just say ... "look, you're ******* me off, I don't like you, why don't you f**k off" (you can say this in a pleasant way ... but do look them in the eye as you say it).

I really can understand your problem.

There is nothing worse than having your personal space invaded by some nut-case on a bus - I'll sit somewhere else next time FF.

Originally posted by FetishFairy
One possible explaination is that people say I have an 'open' face, approachable and friendly. I look people in the eye and smile a lot too. I don't want to walk around looking like a stuck up, miserable so-n-so but I don't want to end up with the worlds weirdos at my door either!


Theres yer problem right there. Instead of having an open and approachable expression, try scowling, or glaring (if you must make any eye contact at all!). Meanwhile, with your inner voice, recite the following mantra : "I will kill again, I will kill again..." People are generally very perceptive, and will respect your personal space ;)

Originally posted by FetishFairy
Why is it that if I am on a bus, or tram or waiting at a bus/tram stop, I always get the wierdo talking to me? I seem to have "Freak Magnet" written on my forehead, in ink that is only visable to weirdos, alchoholics, smelly people and old men with no teeth and their trousers up round their armpits!

Yesterday on the bus home from town, I had to move my bag off the seat next to me so a really smelly guy could sit down right next to me. There were lots of empty seats but he chose to sit next to me. He then proceeded to tell me that I wasn't perfect, no-one is and why do people have the right to criticise others for what they have in their shoping bags?!!! WTF????

This is no just a one off incident either. It happens all the time.

One possible explaination is that people say I have an 'open' face, approachable and friendly. I look people in the eye and smile a lot too. I don't want to walk around looking like a stuck up, miserable so-n-so but I don't want to end up with the worlds weirdos at my door either!

Does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?


I bet they all just fancy you babes...
Try looking more hag like and they may stop he he

Mate there are a number of ways to avoid this:

1/ Don't wash, ever.

2/ Learn one line from a sound of music song and sing it over and over and over again in a barely audilbe voice.

3/ Get an ANTICHRIST tattoo on your forehead.

4/ Carry a machete.

5/ Whenever you get on a bus/train announce proudly to the rest of the passengers "I am the vindicator of the damned, Give me your weapons or I will destroy you" (goes well with number 3)

6/ Do try looking like a hag (or a hog?) its a great suggestion

Good luck!!

or you could get a job in looking after these people, he he
I get it sometimes get weirdo's too, I find hissing at them like a cat helps meowwww

So far everyone (apart from Miguel) has been normal and attracted the wierdo's.

Does this mean that all the other forum members are wierdo's :hihi:

Originally posted by Squeaker
I bet they all just fancy you babes...

Now I doubt that very much!! They probably see me as 'one of them'!! Strange really as when I had mad, multi-coloured hair, no-one ever came near me except to laugh!!!

Me too - see pm - for surpport group!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wierdo's / Sweary Marys are 1 reason I now walk the 6 miles to &/or from work.
Other reasons are:
Arsey drivers
Astronomical prices
bus timetable lottery- will it or won't it?

Originally posted by FetishFairy - thread question
Why do I attract weirdos?

Originally posted by FetishFairy - in Signature
My usual self is a very unusual self and don't you forget that!

I tend to have the same problem myself. Just the other day, I was at an office supply store, I was looking at a chair, and felt the presence of someone next to me.

I looked up, and some man was standing about 6 inches behind me. He didn't say anything, he wasn't even pretending to look at the office furniture. He just stood there without saying a word.

Needless to say, I hastily got up and walked away, leaving him to stand there and stare at only he knew what. What made it even creepier was that we were the only two people in the store, all the employees were in the back.

Even if I was out with a group, it was always me who was singled out by some homeless/mentally unbalanced person who "just wanted to talk."

I've no idea why some people behave like this.

:) Sierra

Yep im also what I call a nutter magnet.

for example on the train back from Newcastle lots of empty seats including the one next to me.
Im pretending to be asleep so the nutter thats coming up the train will bug someone else. but no he has to sit next to me, he then proceeds nudging me saying are you really asleep ahhhhh!
He then proceeds to tell me that he is the fat controller on the this line, which he find enormously funny, the only one in the carriage that did! of cause he has to talk really loud as well.

The worst part was there was a nice looking chap facing me across the table that I wouldnt of minded talking to at all, all he could do was chuckle at me having to put up with the nutter.

He sat and droned on about how great trains were for three hours, if I had an ounce of impolitness in me I would of got up and run away. But no my nutter magnet strikes again.
Nutter 1 Tracy 0

Originally posted by Sam Miguel
I really can understand your problem.

There is nothing worse than having your personal space invaded by some nut-case on a bus - I'll sit somewhere else next time FF.

Its not just buses its any where, if your a real nutter magnet it dos'nt matter where you are, if there's one about they will pick out you everytime.

Even in a crowded night club hundreds of people for him to choose from but no I get the nutter, who is the spitting image of Bob Monkhouse in red shirt white tie and trousers, who dances like he is having a grand mal fit. ahhhh

I have a defense mechanism now its called runaway. Just grab my mate and shout Runaway! she knows it means nutter alert and time to leave.

Originally posted by Sierra
..... I looked up, and some man was standing about 6 inches behind me. He didn't say anything, he wasn't even pretending to look at the office furniture. He just stood there without saying a word....
Not only was he too close, but he was the sort who enjoyed dressing up.....

He was wearing a peaked cap....

With 'SECURITY' written on it :hihi:

Throughout my life I have attracted people whp needed help, Like owdlad says perhaps it is a gift
Hazel


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This is addressed to everyone who has been the magnet for the so called "nutters" you are different, yes you do attract those slightly less able to communicate in a "normal way" (whatever that is) and do you know why?

The answer is that those who are less able to communicate with everyone, as we "normal" people do, feel that you and I are not going to ridicule them for not conforming to the norm.

They feel safe sitting alongside you, that is why you attract them.

We should feel priveliged that these unfortunate people are able to see us as safe havens. So in future do just what you have been doing and smile at them and remember, there but for the grace of God go I.

Originally posted by t020 Quote:

Originally posted by FetishFairy - thread question
Why do I attract weirdos?


Quote:
Originally posted by FetishFairy - in Signature
My usual self is a very unusual self and don't you forget that!



:clap: :clap:

I used too, but not any more :)

Maybe I am one of those nutters now :suspect:

This is all very reminisent of the famous Jasper Carrot sketch : 'The Nutter On the Bus'.

"Has anyone seen my camel?"

"I've got an atom bomb in my bag you know"

Nomme

Originally posted by t020


Nice one t020!!

I guess I look ordinary these days, long dark curly hair, ordinary clothes ets. There are many 'less than ordinary' things about me but these are not visable things.

It seems you all already know me.:D :D :D


Not true. I am sane, i think:suspect: Yep, they do it to me too.

Originally posted by owdlad
This is addressed to everyone who has been the magnet for the so called "nutters" you are different, yes you do attract those slightly less able to communicate in a "normal way" (whatever that is) and do you know why?

The answer is that those who are less able to communicate with everyone, as we "normal" people do, feel that you and I are not going to ridicule them for not conforming to the norm.

They feel safe sitting alongside you, that is why you attract them.

We should feel priveliged that these unfortunate people are able to see us as safe havens. So in future do just what you have been doing and smile at them and remember, there but for the grace of God go I.

Good point, owldad.

I've had children approach me in public and start talking up a storm, or ask me for help. Which I really don't mind, because it's a child. I figured maybe I looked approachable because I'm a parent?

But you are right, there but for the grace of God go you or I. In the future, I'll try and be more understanding of these unfortunate souls.

:) Sierra

Originally posted by nomme
This is all very reminisent of the famous Jasper Carrot sketch : 'The Nutter On the Bus'.

"Has anyone seen my camel?"

"I've got an atom bomb in my bag you know"

Nomme


yeh its a can of corned beef:D :D :D


the old ones are the best

i get the weird ones on the bus they sit next to me all the time even when the bus is empty im thinking to myself what have i done to deserve this:heyhey:

They come and sit next to you and everyone else breathes a sigh of relief.

I generally find that if you walk around with a face like a bulldog sucking on a wasp, wackos stay away from you.

A few years ago I used to attract 'weirdos' on buses all the time. This was before I learnt to drive and now alas I don't have the pleasure any more. To combat the 'problem' always sit on the aisle seat, never make eye contact and never engage in chit chat - how I miss those days......:hihi:

[QUOTE]Originally posted by kathythebean
[B]Mate there are a number of ways to avoid this:

1/ Don't wash, ever.

2/ Learn one line from a sound of music song and sing it over and over and over again in a barely audilbe voice.

3/ Get an ANTICHRIST tattoo on your forehead.

4/ Carry a machete.

5/ Whenever you get on a bus/train announce proudly to the rest of the passengers "I am the vindicator of the damned, Give me your weapons or I will destroy you" (goes well with number 3)

Hilarious!!

I have been a nutter magnet from a very early age and it's great to read other peoples' experiences and suggestions.
I'm abroad a lot at the moment and my talent for attracting weirdos turns out to be international. If you think it's hard to understand the ramblings/get rid in english, try it in a foreign language!

Lucky u lot who just get them on the bus i say :mad: i'v lost count of the times they have approached me in town, on the bus, in the shops, on the streets (and the oh so unforgetable public toilets)...
my fav 1s have to be the old guy with the harmonica who wanted my help lifting a concrete seat firmly cemented to the floor while i was sat on it and the drunk who was convinced i wasnt wearing any trousers :confused: quite funny as he tried to warn me that the people wont allow me in the shops unless i put some on.
And before the smart comments arrive yes i was wearing some:P
ah but life wouldnt b the same without the nutters and their amusing rants.

I drive a car so I dont get that problem.

Originally posted by foxy27
I drive a car so I dont get that problem.

like i was saying even if i drove a car the nutters would still find me :loopy:

Originally posted by nomme
This is all very reminisent of the famous Jasper Carrot sketch : 'The Nutter On the Bus'.

"Has anyone seen my camel?"

"I've got an atom bomb in my bag you know"

Nomme

Worryingly these days, they probably will HAVE an atom bomb in their bag :suspect: :loopy: :thumbsup:

I only attract mongy wierdos. Why aren't any of them fit?