hi im 32 and care for my husbands grandmother. shes 84, we moved in with her 2 years ago as her alzhimers took a turn for the worst and she was suffering so we offerd to look after her. i hav 2 children and now 1 on the way and im starting to worry about if i will cope or not. i dont really get any help from my husbands family her daughter has her for 3 hours on a saturday and visits every other day in the week. thats as much as i get from that side of the family.
she does go to daycare 4 days a week now which has been a god send because it had started to get me down very badly. it came to ahead a few months back as i just couldnt cope nomore. so this has taken some of the strain off but now im pregnant im begining to feel the pressure again.
is there any1 who cares for some1 with alzhimers here?

Hi,

I'm sure that there is someone on here who has cared for a dementia sufferer - but I can't remember who. I know this isn't exactly what you were looking for but perhaps you might get some support from these two links as well?

http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/BranchWebsites/Sheffield/infoandadvice.htm
http://www.sheffieldcarers.org.uk/site/index.php?page=info_sb_1

Best of luck, and I hope someone on here can be mroe practically helpful than I can! :)

As has been said on similar threads, the Sheffield Carers Centre is ace, as is the local branch of the Alzheimers Society. make them a priority port of call for some excellent advice.

hi im 32 and care for my husbands grandmother. shes 84, we moved in with her 2 years ago as her alzhimers took a turn for the worst and she was suffering so we offerd to look after her. i hav 2 children and now 1 on the way and im starting to worry about if i will cope or not. i dont really get any help from my husbands family her daughter has her for 3 hours on a saturday and visits every other day in the week. thats as much as i get from that side of the family.
she does go to daycare 4 days a week now which has been a god send because it had started to get me down very badly. it came to ahead a few months back as i just couldnt cope nomore. so this has taken some of the strain off but now im pregnant im begining to feel the pressure again.
is there any1 who cares for some1 with alzhimers here?

Poor you. My ma-in-law suddenly became very confused and disorientated on 20 November. I got to the stage of not being able to cope with her on New Year's Eve - and I haven't got children to contend with as well. If you've been doing it for 2 years, I take my hat off to you.

She's now in hospital, where they're trying to diagnose what's actually causing the problem and, while she's there, she's going to get a Social Worker so I can get some help with her. One of the things that's been mentioned to me is respite care, where she would go into a home for a week every few months so that I can get a proper break.

I can only suggest you contact whoever sorted out the Day Care for her and see what else you can be offered by way of support.

And, of course, the Carers Centre and Alzheimers as suggested by others.

hope your MIL is doing better, Dozy?

Mrs Bull, do, please contact the alzheimers society, and the carers centre, as they have a wealth of information and can be of immense support. you can be pointed in the right directions to get what you need. (everything from care, to benefits, social work support, care, respite, to adaptations, and for the carer,and they can even provide just a comapssionate, listening ear, when things are difficult)

hope your MIL is doing better, Dozy?

Mrs Bull, do, please contact the alzheimers society, and the carers centre, as they have a wealth of information and can be of immense support. you can be pointed in the right directions to get what you need. (everything from care, to benefits, social work support, care, respite, to adaptations, and for the carer,and they can even provide just a comapssionate, listening ear, when things are difficult)

Saw MIL's consultant today, she's got vascular dementia and he says she's unlikely to improve.:(

We discussed care options and I'm hoping that she'll be able to go into a day centre some of the week, with an occasional week's respite in a home, so I can have a decent break.

The consultant thinks this will prove difficult - there are few day centre places and the Council (bless them) have recently decided not to provide regular respite care! Brilliant decision, considering the increase in the number of elderly people in need of care, which will only get worst. I can feel a letter to David Blunkett coming on!!

Now it's wait and see a Social Worker and then probably wait again until something is sorted out. In the meantime, she might have to go into a home temporarily, once they've finished all the tests.

So it looks like I'll be in touch with the Alzheimer's Society, too.

sorry to hear the new on MIL is mixed. and not 100% positive, like we'd hoped, for you...

however, at least you now have a diagnosis, and you at least know what you are up against, I suppose... *hugs*

sorry to hear the new on MIL is mixed. and not 100% positive, like we'd hoped, for you...

however, at least you now have a diagnosis, and you at least know what you are up against, I suppose... *hugs*

Thanks for the hug PT. It's not what I wanted to hear, obviously, but that's life, all you can do is get on with it.

My Mum's sort of unofficial carer for the woman next door to them who's got Alzheimer's, poor old dear lost her husband last year and since then she's gone really downhill.

A few years ago I did a bit of voluntary work for the local branch of the Alzheimer's Society, so I'm pretty sympathetic to their plight.

I've discovered a great forum on the Alzheimer's Website Talking Point. Sorry, put in wrong link, this is right one http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/talkingpoint/site/index.php
Not only good for advice, but a great place to vent your frustrations because everybody
understands.