I'm wondering if there'd be a lot of emotional baggage. He has two teen-age kids, and was married for 22 years before his wife died two years ago.

So, would ya?

Surely most people past their 20s have some emotional baggage?

Whether it's because they've never managed to form a relationship, had previous, failed relationships or been widowed. It has to depend on what the individual is like and how they've coped with whatever it is that life has thrown at them.

Yeah, go for it, I mean, there has to be SOME baggage involved, but the poor sod couldn't help his wife dying, and it's gonna be really bad if he has to be lonely cos people are scared to give him a try, just see how it goes, and if it's too emotionally hampered you can get out early.

Assuming that he / she is ready to move forward from their loss, then yes, don't see why not.
In one way, the baggage might be less, as you won't have a possibly acrimonious ex hanging around in the background. :)

I thought you said 'Window' :huh:

Erm, dont know.. just go with the flow and see him a few times on friend basis and then take it from there.

I thought you said 'Window' :huh:

Erm, dont know.. just go with the flow and see him a few times on friend basis and then take it from there.

Of course HH wouldn't date a window - she'd be able to see straight through him!! :hihi:

Yeah I thought it said would you marry a window cleaner.

Of course HH wouldn't date a window - she'd be able to see straight through him!! :hihi:

Too big a pane in the glass.:D

What if he were a physically disabled, sociopathic widower?


Just kidding. Actually, I was thinking that his children (boy and girl) would still be grieving over their mother and hate my guts. I don't know if I even want to deal with something that heavy.

Then again, it's only one date. I always over-analyze.:rolleyes:

He`ll probably talk about her more than a little bit, but thats to be expected I suppose.

I moved in with my other half with loads of baggage and it does tend to sour things for us a little, but as you said, its only one date, but is there a chance that itll lead to more...?

Surely most people past their 20s have some emotional baggage?

Whether it's because they've never managed to form a relationship, had previous, failed relationships or been widowed. It has to depend on what the individual is like and how they've coped with whatever it is that life has thrown at them.

i agree go for it:)

What if he were a physically disabled, sociopathic widower?


Just kidding. Actually, I was thinking that his children (boy and girl) would still be grieving over their mother and hate my guts. I don't know if I even want to deal with something that heavy.

Then again, it's only one date. I always over-analyze.:rolleyes:

Yeh, it's one date... just see how it goes. Understandable you should be concerned, but just dont think about it yet. See how the first date goes and then cross that bridge as and when :)

Yeah... I suppose. He seemed nice when I was introduced to him and when we talked on the phone, and there's plenty of time to bail if he cries into his soup. And, at the very least, our mutual friend will stop bugging me.

You've convinced me! Maybe.

a) It's only one date and you can always say no afterwards

b) his children may genuinely love him and want to see him happy and not lonely any more, so hating your guts is not obligatory

c) if you meet someone who doesn't have any emotional baggage by the time they're in their 40s then I'd worry about them.