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i'm just a bit down at the min because i just broke up with my girlfriend, the reason was that i only saw her once or twice a week if i was lucky, and for 2 hours max on each occasion. This really wasn't enough for me and i didnt see the point. Some may say i was wrong but i feel it was what i had to do rather than carry on. I also had a big problem with when i said to her i love you, i could say it but i couldnt mean it. That was the big problem, do you agree with me or should i have done something different?

Are you feeling low because you think you did the wrong thing, or because it just feels sad? If it's the first get on the phone and put things right.

You didn't say how long you were together, but two hours twice a week is more than some people get in the early stages. Give us some more info, and I'll try to help :thumbsup:

K x

I'm just sad because I upset her and that wasnt what i intended to do, i just wanted to say, its not going to work as a love relationship but i would still like to be friends. But i dont think she feels the same :(

We were together for about 3 months so not the longest of relationships

Sorry to hear you're feeling low Viper. It's not a nice feeling knowing that you've had to hurt someone but it's usually the case in breakups that either one or both parties will suffer hurt of some kind.

As you say you weren't happy with the way your relationship was going and 2 hours twice a week isn't very much for something that's already lasted 3 months. I personally like to have my own space but I couldn't be happy only seeing my other half for that amount of time per week. If the girl wasn't able or prepared to give you more of her time then I think it was right to end things at this early stage because it would only have got worse as your feelings developed further. You'd have both been hurt more as a result.

In my opinion you made the right choice. Chin up, you'll feel better soon enough. :wave:

Thanks, i'm hoping so, well atleast we've come to a mutual understanding so far, we've decided rather than never see each other again we will just be good friends which helped a bit, but hey s*** happens!

Hopefuly go and have a good time with my mates this weekend help get my mind over things :)

Originally posted by Viper_GTSR
well atleast we've come to a mutual understanding so far, we've decided rather than never see each other again we will just be good friends

Well that's a positive move anyway Viper. Hope you're feeling better soon!

K x

A good Puss up cures all known ills :clap: apart from hangovers :confused:

If you can't believe that you love the person you're with, then you shouldn't be with that person just for the sake of it.

Is it just me or is there a lot of splitting up on this forum at the minute. There also seems to be quite a revolt by the singletons of Sheffield forum against the whole valentine's thing. More so than last year I would say.

It's good to see everyone supporting each other.

Originally posted by Viper_GTSR
Hopefuly go and have a good time with my mates this weekend help get my mind over things :)

That's the best thing to do Viper and I'm sure you will find someone who wants to be with you more than a couple of hours each week - go enjoy yourself again and keep that chin up :P

St John Wort is good if your feeling a bit down.

Originally posted by nick2
St John Wort is good if your feeling a bit down.

Completely Agree! :clap: I live on it during the winter months!

K x

O.K - I'll bite the bullet....

Viper - Pull yourself together ffs - it was only 3 months! You'll be eyeing up the bar-maid in a week.

What?!
That's what I'd tell any of my mates.

Originally posted by kilauea
O.K - I'll bite the bullet....

Viper - Pull yourself together ffs - it was only 3 months! You'll be eyeing up the bar-maid in a week.

What?!
That's what I'd tell any of my mates.

Then I'm surprised you have any mates left!

The time they were together is not relevant; the feelings he's experiencing are!

Write her a letter explaining how you feel. Phoning her or visiting her will give her the wrong idea. The letter may help bring you together as friends after some coolong off time has passed.

Go out with friends this weekend, not to go 'on the pull' but to get back in the swing of things. It will probably be a rubbish night, but it will make it easier for the good night you have a few weeks on.

I hope it all works out for the 2 of you.

Originally posted by Kristian
Then I'm surprised you have any mates left!

The time they were together is not relevant; the feelings he's experiencing are!

Well I'd expect them to do the same for me - and one thankfully did last year and it did me the power of good.
I'm not trying to be cruel, Sometimes you need a kick in butt to snap out of being maudlin about things and get on with it.
Put some happy tunes on and think about the future!

Viper,

For what it's worth here's my views:

Make yourself a list of all the things that really make you feel good and do everyone of them - indulge yourself, I'm sure your mates'll be more than happy to be dragged out to help you.- That's the short term fix.

Long term is more tricky - expect to feel down and low but be aware of how you are coping with it. It's easy to let such feelings get to you and important not to get dragged down. Slowly but surely you'll feel a bit better as time passes.

Chin up, don't dwell and keep smiling

Regards


SV

Originally posted by kilauea
Well I'd expect them to do the same for me - and one thankfully did last year and it did me the power of good.
I'm not trying to be cruel, Sometimes you need a kick in butt to snap out of being maudlin about things and get on with it.
Put some happy tunes on and think about the future!

Yeah, I take your point. Sometimes it does take a friend to point that out.

K x

Well thanks to everyone who replied, even reading the stuff has made me feal a bit better!

I understand what you all said and i will try to do what you recomended.

Cheerz :D