Just wondering if any one has any good pulling techniques when you aint drunk.

Since I stopped drinking I have found it hard to meet with single women, and if I did I probably wouldnt find out she was single.

So how do you spot a single chick, and then whats the best moves,

and I mean when your sobre, not when your wrecked.

There isnt a problem with pulling when I am drunk, but I tend to wake up with people I dont want to have a relationship with if you know what I mean.

All ideas welcome

jon

Originally posted by jonsastar
There isnt a problem with pulling when I am drunk, but I tend to wake up with people I dont want to have a relationship with if you know what I mean.

I think a lot of us suffer with this syndrome :hihi:

Originally posted by jonsastar

I tend to wake up with people I dont want to have a relationship with if you know what I mean.


ya know i have never had this problem...okay perhaps once but it was more hysterical than anything

Saying that though, i didn't used to have any problem talking to guys...not sure how i would fair now like. *eeek* I would probably be one of the beer goggle goons :p

Moon

Originally posted by Deejay
I think a lot of us suffer with this syndrome :hihi:

Good to know, but I dont want a women who only likes pub life, theres a big world out there and I think the four walls of a pub only limit you to a certain life, and so do the women I have met there.

Pub every weekend , and every other night, and thats there life.

But that aint my thing any more, I need more from life, and more from the person I am goonna share life with.

If you know what I mean.

Talk to them- simple as that - your much more likely to pull a girl you actually like if you are sober and confident!!

Me thinks in order to get off the ground with this, all you fellas out there need to change the way you think. I mean i'm not saying it's all men but there appears to be a common theme here, that being that y'all end up in bed with mingers, leading me to believe that y'all think with your d***s!:mrgreen:

Originally posted by jonsastar
Just wondering if any one has any good pulling techniques when you aint drunk.

Since I stopped drinking I have found it hard to meet with single women, and if I did I probably wouldnt find out she was single.

So how do you spot a single chick, and then whats the best moves,

and I mean when your sobre, not when your wrecked.


flash the cash mate!:hihi: kidding. congrats on no drink - very impressed.
have you tried gym or classes or night school? the single chick or the posibility one - is the one without the ring!! i have a single friend and she is the shy one, so maybe look out for the quiet ones?

Originally posted by missnorks
leading me to believe that y'all think with your d***s!:mrgreen:

Afraid to that the majority probably do! Not all.. the 'Majority'!

Talk, be yourself, don't pretend to be anything your not :thumbsup:

Originally posted by Moon Maiden
ya know i have never had this problem...okay perhaps once but it was more hysterical than anything

Saying that though, i didn't used to have any problem talking to guys...not sure how i would fair now like. *eeek* I would probably be one of the beer goggle goons :p

Moon

From my point of view moonmaiden, it is not the womens prerogative to take the first step, as there are more men to women ratio and men are always randy it kind of makes it easy for women to pull, although they may still wake up with some one they dont want to see again.

I think as a man I got more offers whilst with some one than when single, I guess some women like to have somthing there friend has got.

I have to say that I find it very flattering if a guy approaches me but the only time that ever happened I was actually seeing someone at the time...It was awful he was a loverly lad aswell I felt rotten turning him down he seemed so nervous.


Moon

Originally posted by NatalieSheff
flash the cash mate!:hihi: kidding. congrats on no drink - very impressed.
have you tried gym or classes or night school? the single chick or the posibility one - is the one without the ring!! i have a single friend and she is the shy one, so maybe look out for the quiet ones?

I do the gym, I climb at the edge to, only recently though, and I think Im gonna join my local jiu jitsu club.

This puts me in contact with women, but as soon as I spot some one I like and think she may be the one, thats when it happens, boom boom boom, heart starts to pound, I feel myself go bright red and then I kinda bolt, or my mouth wont work or I do somthing foolish,

Its embarissing but thats what happens, and I cant control it, it used to happen when I was a kid to, but I over came the feer with beer and now the beers gone the feers back.

I aint ugly before any one says it, and have pulled some hot chix before, but I was blindo and so where they:hihi:

Originally posted by jonsastar

I aint ugly before any one says it, and have pulled some hot chix before, but I was blindo and so where they:hihi:

i think we need a picture :D

Dont worry - sometimes a period of readjustment will take place when your life changes in certain ways - its ok to be single for a while and its ok not to be searching.
But one day you will meet someone at work or on here who you know is different and you connect with. I don't know if its written in the stars but may be there will be a spark. But you will know.
And its ok if that person isn't the one - just that you have made a connection and you know that there is someone who cares about you and could be a good friend.
Look for the friends- waking up next to strangers is not good and slightly unsafe - so you are in the best position of your life to make the correct choice.
But you don't need to rush it - good things come to those that wait and other cliches.
But there is an element of truth in that - so hold on and wait to see what the stars will bring......................................

I'm going soft or something:) :love:

Originally posted by Moon Maiden
i think we need a picture :D

No comment.

I cant work the avatatar thing any way.

If I suss it then may be youl get one, but it will not be on hot or not.

Reckon Id get a few votes from the laydees though.

Originally posted by miniminch
Dont worry - sometimes a period of readjustment will take place when your life changes in certain ways - its ok to be single for a while and its ok not to be searching.
But one day you will meet someone at work or on here who you know is different and you connect with. I don't know if its written in the stars but may be there will be a spark. But you will know.
And its ok if that person isn't the one - just that you have made a connection and you know that there is someone who cares about you and could be a good friend.
Look for the friends- waking up next to strangers is not good and slightly unsafe - so you are in the best position of your life to make the correct choice.
But you don't need to rush it - good things come to those that wait and other cliches.
But there is an element of truth in that - so hold on and wait to see what the stars will bring......................................

I'm going soft or something:) :love:

Thanks miniminch, what you say makes good sense, and eases my anxietys a bit , thanx

Originally posted by Moon Maiden
I have to say that I find it very flattering if a guy approaches me but the only time that ever happened I was actually seeing someone at the time...It was awful he was a loverly lad aswell I felt rotten turning him down he seemed so nervous.


Moon Would ya still find it flattering if he was a total minger?!!

I was never any good at this sort of thing as a single bloke. However, looking back now, I think I used to try to hard which must be a real off-putter.

I now know that women enjoy attention, a good laugh and a natural, casual approach. My wife has taught me that.

Originally posted by miniminch

And its ok if that person isn't the one - just that you have made a connection and you know that there is someone who cares about you and could be a good friend.
Look for the friends- waking up next to strangers is not good and slightly unsafe - so you are in the best position of your life to make the correct choice.


Just wanted to say I agree with the above (well...most of the time anyway..). Miniminchs' point about viewing people as 'friends' is a v good. I tend to say I dont go on 'dates' - not only does it sound v old fashioned but adds to any pressure or 'nerves' (bless!) you may feel. Just treat it as meeting a new potential friend and see how you go...you could try that when talking to women you see out and about too (before you get bladdered!). It may result in what you later call a 'date'..but if it doesn't you can still have a good time and she may have other single friends anyway...

Originally posted by gazelle
Would ya still find it flattering if he was a total minger?!!

yeah actually...probably would...i am not that shallow :D

Jonastar you are a flippin spoilsport..get yersel on hot or not :D

Moon
who hass some need to talk not showing her pic up there LOL