has anyone had experience of living with somone who drinks too much and dont listen to you when you try to reason with them?

if so i could do wit some advice.

Sounds like you have Sammie,withoout getting to personal it depends if its your parents or flat mate.
Also how much alcohol they are on and if violence occurs due to it.
Pm me if you prefer.

I have PM'd You Sammie

Going through the same actually, only it's a good friend of mine. Got 3 kids, being told if she doesn't stop drinking she'll not live to 40, she's 32 now. When she's told that she has to stop drinking, she does, for about a week, then she goes back on it slowly. I used to feel sad about it, now I just feel for the kids. If you want a chat sammie.. just PM.
Chloé

Same here... Nothing you can do except leave them to it, they have to hit bottom to come up again. Trying to help just gives them your permission to carry on. It's taken my ymum 20 years to work that one out.

thanks... he insists hell give up this time but iv heard all that before.........
ita prob best to leave him to it.
thanks for all your help.
Its great to know that there are complete strangers who will listen to you and give you advice!!

sammie

Originally posted by sammie

Its great to know that there are complete strangers who will listen to you and give you advice!!

sammie Strangers Sammie, but not complete strangers.

Leave them to their own devices, or they will destroy you!

Hi Sammie,not to sound to much of a downer,but if you've heard it all before then you probably will again.Giving up alcohol aint as easy as people like to make it sound,trust me on that,you need profesional help,lots of support,amd most importantly its something that the individual wants to do.
Maybe you should start thinking about yourself a bit more.
I really hope everything works out for you.

There's a guy who drinks in the pub. He drinks a lot, at least 6 - 10 pints a night and a few bacardis on top. He says he's not an alcoholic but is addicted to the social aspect of being in the pub and being around others in a pub environment. He says he can stop drinking and doesnt need it, he just enjoys it. Comments?

if they admit they have a problem then some people say thats half way to solving it.
if they won't listen to you and they are your partner, then think about leaving him/her or you'll look back sometime later and realise you looked like a hopeless guest on jerry springer. sometimes the wake up call is leaving.
same goes for bullying/violence etc - which often go alongside with the drinking.

Originally posted by Classic Rock
There's a guy who drinks in the pub. He drinks a lot, at least 6 - 10 pints a night and a few bacardis on top. He says he's not an alcoholic but is addicted to the social aspect of being in the pub and being around others in a pub environment. He says he can stop drinking and doesnt need it, he just enjoys it. Comments?
If he can come in and spend the evenings drinking low alcohol lager or coke, then he's not addicted.

People respond differently to mind altering substances. Some can develop powerful psychological addictions to non-addictive drugs, but others, such as alcohol, tranquilisers, opiates and betablockers actually engender a physical dependence with continued and regular use, so if someone drinks a lot, regularly, and tells you they are not addicted, they probably are.

Hi,

My husband is a self confessed alcholic and it drives me mad that he refuses to do anything about it. When I met my husband I did not pick up on it until I found myself following his pattern and I now am a alcoholic myself but unlike my husband I am not prepared to accept it as the norm and I have joined the AA and am determined to break the cycle but he refuses to do the same just says it's his life and he';ll do what he likes.

I am not happy with my situataion but feel the need to support him and keep trying as I truly love my husband but it is coming to a point of what next I am not a counsellor or a pyschologist and other than my own intincst and feelings don't know how to approach him.

He genuinely does not feel that it is a problem but it is because myself and my children have to put up with his mood swings I'm at the end of my tether.

Any advice would be appreciated

jane

Sorry to hear what you're going through.

EPA high fish oil concentrate capsules help from Holland & Barrett (or online stores). Your husband could take them without any intention of quitting but there might be an improvement plus it'll help you in your quest to quit. It's not just good for the brain it also helps the liver (mighty important with your affliction at the moment).

Not sure of the ethics but as it's only good you could squeeze the capsules of fish oil in your husbands dinner anyway without him knowing if he doesn't play ball and you might see an improvement.

Also there's a good general addiction hypnotherapy cd from Amazon from Glenn Harrold that works. Takes about 20 listens but it does change the subconscious. It's under a tenner.

Used both the EPA fish oil and the hypotherapy CD for an unrelated addiction and it's not only cheap but they work. They aren't miracles but they help along the way, so long as you keep up the determination to quit.

Post your affliction on addiction forums and get help and support that way, where people will be going through the same sorts of struggles you are and will give you the support you need. Quite a good one is :

http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewforum.php?f=10

Good luck in your struggles.

I have just walked out of a relationship with an alcohlic after years of thinking he would change---
Spending time in A & E both here and abroad when he has fallen when drunk Travelling, going to beautiful places abroad and realising that he couldn't remember them only through my eyes afterwards. Swearing on his childrens lives that he woudn't drink while he had a glass in his hand. Broken promises, Words spoken that couldn't be taken back that stayed with me and not him.
Finally realising that he would never be there for me when I needed him, as I was there for him. he was always drunk.

So really I have no advice as nothing I tried worked, in fact I now think that I did him no good in staying so long with him. I feel he can only stop drinking if he himself wants to and he doesn't think he has a prroblem.
hazel