can anyone suggest a good place to meet single ladies or singles nights in Sheffield??
Asian doctor, late thirties, uk born, very bored in sheffield!
my e-mail is khada50@hotmail.com

Depends on what type of girl your looking for really as to where you go looking for her. A couple f places that my friends tend to go in town are Takapuna, Vodka Revolution, Ha Ha Bar etc

Why not try an internet dating service??

thanks..hope i dnt sound too desperate!...

are u a gp or at one of the hospitals?

go out with colleagues, going out alone is quite daunting and probably the least likely time to meet a nice girl.

sounds good..i am working in Barnsley but live in sheffield..i'l take yr advice..thanks

Hey well that sounds a good place to start!!, thats where my dad met my mum, the old 'doctor + nurse' scenario!

Originally posted by leddi
Hey well that sounds a good place to start!!, thats where my dad met my mum, the old 'doctor + nurse' scenario!


damn...you mean im gonna have to pretend to be a doctor? grrrrr :rant: :hihi:

Well there must be plenty of single chicks on this site, come on girls, let's help him out, what kind of pubs do you go to to meet fella's? Me and my friends usually go along West Street and go to the late bars rather than clubs.

There really should be a singles forum on here because (like me) it's really hard to meet somewhere in this day and age.

I know what you mean about dating in Sheffield when you get to a certain age.

I have a couple of friends in Sheffield that are good looking, take care of themselves, good jobs etc, but really struggle to find someone decent to date?

I guess you get more choosy the older you get, but surely it's not much to ask to be treated nice and find someone who you can have a decent conversation with and have fun!

If you know of anyone, keep me posted.

I'm glad I found this post... I was beginning to think that there were no single men in Sheffield! Meeting people outside of work (both new friends and potential partners) is difficult when you are new to an area... if anyone figures out what to do let me know :)

Originally posted by TracieJC
I'm glad I found this post... I was beginning to think that there were no single men in Sheffield! Meeting people outside of work (both new friends and potential partners) is difficult when you are new to an area... if anyone figures out what to do let me know :)
You could always try the Blind date featured in Sheffields finest free listings magazine `Exposed`

Really nice bunch of guys who run it :)

Hiya
We usually go on West Street but whenever I do go out its usually with a group of girlies which is probably quite off-putting, but where does a single professional go on her own to meet someone? There doesn't seem to be anywhere really unless you want to look a complete saddo sat drinking on your own, freeze to death in the park walking the dog (but thats usually full of families) etc etc! Perhaps there's a need for a singles bar full of friendly people?!

Originally posted by redhotjo
Hiya
We usually go on West Street but whenever I do go out its usually with a group of girlies which is probably quite off-putting, but where does a single professional go on her own to meet someone? There doesn't seem to be anywhere really unless you want to look a complete saddo sat drinking on your own, freeze to death in the park walking the dog (but thats usually full of families) etc etc! Perhaps there's a need for a singles bar full of friendly people?!

join some clubs. we have quite a few working people at the university club and it's a veritable hotbed of jitsu incest.

Originally posted by redhotjo
...a complete saddo sat drinking on your own...

Ummm.....oh dear :roll: :suspect: :blush: :help: That explains everything :( :thumbsup:

Originally posted by TracieJC
I was beginning to think that there were no single men in Sheffield! Meeting people outside of work (both new friends and potential partners) is difficult when you are new to an area...

oOOOOOooOooo Pick Me Pick Me!!!! I can guide you round this fine city :D

Im Free, Single and er Easy too :clap:

Originally posted by Deejay
oOOOOOooOooo Pick Me Pick Me!!!! I can guide you round this fine city :D

Im Free, Single and er Easy too :clap:

I'll hold you to that Deejay... :P

(The, er, guiding me around the city bit, not the free and um, easy bit... :blush: )

Top tip:

Seek your 'other half' through shared interests - you'll have something in common to talk about right away.

If your main focus is just seeking a partner, you may seem "needy". The trick is to look :love:, but make it appear as if you're not 8) .

Anyone interested in drinks :nod: , friendship :lol: , planning activities :thumbsup:, trying something different :wow:?

Originally posted by spinac
Top tip:

Seek your 'other half' through shared interests - you'll have something in common to talk about right away.

If your main focus is just seeking a partner, you may seem "needy". The trick is to look :love:, but make it appear as if you're not 8) .

Anyone interested in drinks :nod: , friendship :lol: , planning activities :thumbsup:, trying something different :wow:?

I agree totally - the other danger really is that if you do meet someone romantically when you don't know many people locally, you still only have a friendship circle of er, one. I've PM'd you.

there's too many single ladies in sheffield, that's why the rest of us can't find a nice man :(

Originally posted by sheffield501
there's too many single ladies in sheffield, that's why the rest of us can't find a nice man :(

:D Its ok - we'll set up a support group. Then go out on the hunt :P :P :lol:

Originally posted by sheffield501
there's too many single ladies in sheffield, that's why the rest of us can't find a nice man :(

I do apologise but I have just been busy lately ;)

However, do not rusheth the crowd ;) Im going nowhere fast :heyhey:

Originally posted by Deejay
I do apologise but I have just been busy lately ;)

However, do not rusheth the crowd ;) Im going nowhere fast :heyhey:

We'll just have to fight for him ladies.... :P :P :P

Originally posted by redhotjo
Perhaps there's a need for a singles bar full of friendly people?!

Let me know when you find it - I may well see you there!

:)

Originally posted by BigTone
There really should be a singles forum on here because (like me) it's really hard to meet somewhere in this day and age.

So here we all are, a whole load of single people, moaning about how hard it is to meet other single people....Hmmm, something missing here... meeting up perhaps?!

girls dont want a `nice guy' .... they say they do.. but its all a load of tosh.

if your nice and shy you get ignored because you seem hard work.

i personally hate clubs (where 99% of people seem to enjoy going, which makes me sound like a killjoy)...i just cant relax in them places. and standing drinking and communicating by nodding is not my idea of fun.

girls i chat to seem to think im funny...... so im nice, shy and have sense of humour?...well does me no favours i can tell you. I guess i must just look like the back end of a horse!:hihi:

my advice is be a git! seems to work for most lads i know.

p.s. ho hum!

... confidence counts for so much ... you see a git, a girl sees someone who likes himself despite his other characteristics ... it's not that girls don't respect niceness, consideration and a sense of humour, it's just that they respect self-assuredness, independance, masterfulness, power (and money) a little more.

carry on being nice, laughter is great (even at your own expense), just be more confident about it ... would that be right girls? :bigsmile:

PS anyone fancy 10 pin bowling on Tuesday 8th Feb, 8pm at Hollywood Bowl? 8 places booked, 6 still up for grabs. (more info at www.spinac.com)

Originally posted by spinac
... confidence counts for so much ... you see a git, a girl sees someone who likes himself despite his other characteristics ... it's not that girls don't respect niceness, consideration and a sense of humour, it's just that they respect self-assuredness, independance, masterfulness, power (and money) a little more.

carry on being nice, laughter is great (even at your own expense), just be more confident about it ... would that be right girls? :bigsmile:

Very well said Spinac! Self confidence is so sexy. If you are happy with yourself, then girls will see that and realise they might be missing out on something! There is, of course, a difference between being a bit of an arse who loves himself and being a decent, genuine, funny person, and if the girls you are after can't see that, then they are not the kind of girls that will appreciate you!

Remember that you have a lot to offer, you are not out there to "be chosen" you are the one doing the looking (hope that makes sense!)

Originally posted by beckyaa
There is, of course, a difference between being a bit of an arse who loves himself

Bang goes 98% of the potential boyfriend material :suspect:

This is only in part facetious. My brother said the other day: "if I was single, I'd borrow that dog of yours for a week. He's a total bird magnet." Once I'd established the little scamp hadn't been chasing chickens again I realised that my sibling had been fighting off the ladies in his local park while walking my pooch. Literally in some cases - they're a tad psychotic in Surbiton.

Alternatively, I have found that wandering around Tescos towards late evening with my newborn daughter attracts rather a lot of cooing women. Mostly looking at the baby but still, if you said you were just looking after the kiddie for a friend and it was something you got lumbered with a lot as a single bloke you'd look mighty caring. And available...

so i need a dog and a small child?

damn this is getting complicated :heyhey:

i love dogs (yes very funny!) but i love my leather sofa and dog.....ermmm 'produce' wouldnt go with the decor.

:D

i just read this and was reminded of this discussion ... thought I'd share it with you ...

... in a study ...

"Women preferred expensively dressed men to more attractive but apparently less successful men,
and men chose more attractive women regardless of their professional status."

(Review of What Women Want--What Men Want
Why the Sexes Still See Love and Commitment So Differently by John Marshall Townsend)

... the good news for guys being that an average looking bloke has just got to buy new threads (and act like he owns 'em)

a guys attractiveness to women is less about looks and more about signs of success (which can easily be bought) ... but you gotta be able to carry the act off ...

time to buy new clothes? surely this works for women too?

i never use buses because the drivers are all thick.

Originally posted by misterseven
i never use buses because the drivers are all thick.

Is it just me, but, eh?

i can understand how it feels to be single and not able to finds anyone i know its sad but i got chatting to someone on the net and we have been together for 4yrs now...

The reason i turned to the net was i have a son who is now 5yr old i was really hard to be there for my son and have a social life. to find a single lady to take on a single dad is a hard thing for them to accept i dont blame them for not doing it.

But be it a single mum blokes dont care, it seems to me that women have changed and all they want to do is go out..

i was lucky to find a girl who would accept me and my son i wouldnt give him up for the world i would rather be single than be without him...

Originally posted by misterseven
i never use buses because the drivers are all thick.
What connection has this ridiculous assertion got to do with this particular thread?

12 yrs ago when my dog was a cute little puppy I have never seen so many women of all shapes and sizes and ages come and have a chat.I do realise all they wanted was to stroke the dog,not me.

yep, for real, and if you were to use this ploy to meet women, you'd need a constant supply of cute puppies ... www.rentapup.com oh my god I thought this was joke ... it really exists !!! Check it out ....

Originally posted by matsalleh
12 yrs ago when my dog was a cute little puppy I have never seen so many women of all shapes and sizes and ages come and have a chat.I do realise all they wanted was to stroke the dog,not me.

Aha! So i need to be alot hairier, and walk on all fours...interesting... :suspect: :hihi:

Originally posted by Edd
Aha! So i need to be alot hairier, and walk on all fours...interesting...

You have many qualities a woman can admire Edd... Who else can boast that they can eat Pizza with one hand and wipe their Cookies with the other :hihi:

Originally posted by Edd
Aha! So i need to be alot hairier, and walk on all fours...interesting... :suspect: :hihi:
Yes but you only have a shelf life of 6 months !

there's PLENTY of women in Sheffield! only have to go out on a saturday night! not sure how many are available mind but i'm working on it ;)

Why doesn't some proactive person set up a 'singles' night.
Emphasis on going out for a meal for example so people can chat, or perhaps bowling - as opposed to going out and getting hammered and seeing how many men/women you can pull!
It would be less intimidating. OR do some fundraising that only singles could attend lol..or do something other than just go out together 'on the hunt'
It would combine meeting people, with being yourself, with seeing more than face value and eliminating alcohol induced attraction and loud noise....

Just an idea

Originally posted by Lianndi
Why doesn't some proactive person set up a 'singles' night.
Emphasis on going out for a meal for example so people can chat, or perhaps bowling - as opposed to going out and getting hammered and seeing how many men/women you can pull!
It would be less intimidating. OR do some fundraising that only singles could attend lol..or do something other than just go out together 'on the hunt'
It would combine meeting people, with being yourself, with seeing more than face value and eliminating alcohol induced attraction and loud noise....

Just an idea

I'm happy to organise this... I'll put my thinking hat and try and think of a good venue for a couple of weeks time. I like the idea of going out for a nice meal, I'd be too nervous to go bowling (never been, but even without trying I imagine my bowling abilities to be Mr Burns'esque). Hmmm. I guess most people would be able to attend a weekday 'do rather than a weekend. If anyone is interested in a singles meal then PM me. I'll definitely set something up if enough people are interested :P

You see this kind of thing SOUNDS like exactly what I need... unfortunately these days I've pretty much become a hermit apart from going to work and strolling around the moor on Sat. (I decided at the weekend to try and stop this rut, so have joined a ikkle gym - going for the 1st time after work tonight :help: )

In practise though singles nights and the like are a nightmare for me as I'm unbelieveably shy and... well.... not much to look at :gag:

Originally posted by craigb

In practise though singles nights and the like are a nightmare for me as I'm unbelieveably shy and... well.... not much to look at :gag:

I am probably one of the shyest people you'll meet - it took me an hour or umming and ahhing in the chatroom last night until I decided to brave the last minute meet at Dev Cat, and even then I walked halfway across the green and seriously considered running back home and bolting myself in (although I suspect Sian would have come and hounded me out :suspect: :P ) As for looks... all in the eye of the beholder :) I do understand though, one of the reasons I was so shy about meeting anyone from the SF was because of how I look, I regularly have days where I literally don't go out because I look in the mirror and just think 'yuk' :gag: I hated the idea of people meeting me and thinking 'Next time love, stay at home with the curtains drawn' :P :P Lots of people will be feeling very nervous too and once you brave it you'll feel soooo much better :)

Don't worry Craig, think everyone one who goes will be terrified - but once you've been there half an hour I'm sure it will be fine. Try not to be so hard on yourself!
And even though it may be called a 'singles' night, I have female friends who went to singles nights and ended up meeting other girls who they are now really good friends with. So it's not just for meeting "Mr/Mrs Right", it's about getting together with people in a similar situation to yourself. It will just be a relaxed group of people going for a nice meal and couple of drinks or whatever.

Originally posted by TracieJC
I regularly have days where I literally don't go out because I look in the mirror and just think 'yuk' :gag:

I get that alot! ;)

Originally posted by TracieJC
'Next time love, stay at home with the curtains drawn'

..and that! :hihi:

im a hermit as well craig...and joined a gym bout 8 months ago...im still a hermit but im fitter haha.

mirrors are nasty things...everyday mine lies to me!

there are plenty of girls at clubs and such...but not every1 likes clubs... cinema, bowling or something like that is more relaxed and fun no matter who you are with.

im the most picky eater in the world...so going for a meal would make me seem the odd one out that i would feel like....

and yes im shy as well....but given time i can be a cheeky sod and quite strange :hihi:

:P Listen to you two! :P Looks like I'm going to have to sort out some sort of confidence building programme as well as a singles meet :D Mtheo, if you're worried about not having much choice, why don't you pick a place for us all to have a meal ... I'm not fussy at all ( :( If only that were true :P ) and I'm sure everyone will be happy just to get together :)

I'm with MTheo...

I'm stupidly picky about my food so going out for a meal is risky

I don't drink so find I get left out and bored at pubs/clubs etc (definately don't dance in public either!!)

And yeah - until you get to know me I'm unbeleivably shy and quiet (but once I know you then you'll never shut me up again!)

Originally posted by Bedhead
there's PLENTY of women in Sheffield! only have to go out on a saturday night! not sure how many are available mind but i'm working on it ;)

So are you working on making less women available by seeing several at once?

Or more women available by some other means?!

Originally posted by Yodameister
So are you working on making less women available by seeing several at once?

Or more women available by some other means?!

was tongue in cheek suggesting i was going to get out there and chat some up, subsequently (unintentionally or incidentally) giving me an idea on how many are actually available - i'd only ever be in a relationship with one woman

don't get the 'or more women available by some other means'? what does that mean?

Originally posted by craigb

I'm stupidly picky about my food so going out for a meal is risky


yeah right you chocolate fiend!

I am probably one of the shyest people you'll meet - it took me an hour or umming and ahhing in the chatroom last night until I decided to brave the last minute meet at Dev Cat, and even then I walked halfway across the green and seriously considered running back home and bolting myself in

Ah but you did a good job of hiding your nerves & that's the trick I think. Tell yourself often enough that you're brave, fearless & invincible & it becomes true ;)

The more you do something the easier it gets - we all get nerves just some people hide it better that's all. Plus the older I get the more embarrassing situations I've been in only to discover my world hasn't actually ended... (despite wishing it would after one or two toe curlingly embarrassing misshaps)

(although I suspect Sian would have come and hounded me out )

Not hounded exactly - but Deej, Edd, PT & I may have been forced to re-enact the balcony scene from Romeo & Juliet if you'd not come out to play :P

Originally posted by Siân
Not hounded exactly - but Deej, Edd, PT & I may have been forced to re-enact the balcony scene from Romeo & Juliet if you'd not come out to play :P

Don't you think the poor girl suffered enough last night :suspect:

Who's organising the singles night btw ? :heyhey:

Originally posted by NatalieSheff
yeah right you chocolate fiend!

Oh! good idea! :clap:

Let's all have a meet at Thorntons :hihi: :heyhey: :thumbsup:

Originally posted by Deejay

Who's organising the singles night btw ? :heyhey:

Meeeeeee! :D Yes people... be prepared for a rough ride :P <rubs hands in glee>

Hmmmm Thorntons meet? I'm liking the sound of that! :P Or better still, we could hire a coach and go to Cadbury World! Mmmmmmm... :D



or Deejay could drive :P :heyhey:

or Deejay could drive us all up the wall :D :heyhey: :hihi: :P

So this is Cadbury World via the seaside (complete with cow seats with little horn headrests) where do we sign up :hihi: ?

Originally posted by Siân

So this is Cadbury World via the seaside (complete with cow seats with little horn headrests) where do we sign up :hihi: ?

:P Cadbury World via Cleethorpes.... sounds like my ideal day! :D Some travel company somewhere must organise coach trips of that kind :P Why don't you get a list of names together Sian, I'm off down to Argos to inspect their selection of novelty animal print seat covers... :P We could fashion empty toilet roll inner tubes into cow horns, Blue Peter style! :P

Originally posted by TracieJC
Yes people... be prepared for a rough ride :P <rubs hands in glee>

Didnt you learn anything last night... Be careful what you say :roll: :hihi:

But do hurry up and get it organised :heyhey:

Originally posted by Siân
where do we sign up :hihi: ?

Right on my a$$ after you kiss it :P ( I ain't no Chauffeur :suspect: )

Originally posted by TracieJC
it took me an hour or umming and ahhing in the chatroom last night until I decided to brave the last minute meet at Dev Cat, and even then I walked halfway across the green and seriously considered running back home and bolting myself in (although I suspect Sian would have come and hounded me out )

Yay...well done :clap: We'd have found a way to tempt you out. I had twixes in my pocket :P

Originally posted by TracieJC
one of the reasons I was so shy about meeting anyone from the SF was because of how I look, I regularly have days where I literally don't go out because I look in the mirror and just think 'yuk' :shocked: :huh:

Originally posted by Deejay
Don't you think the poor girl suffered enough last night

Dont be so hard on yourself mate ;) :suspect:

Anyway, sign me up - fish and chips on the front at cleethorpes in february sounds like the perfect recipie for :love: :hihi:

Originally posted by Edd
Yay...well done :clap: We'd have found a way to tempt you out. I had twixes in my pocket :P

:o :o and no one told me! :P

argh craigb must be myself posting under another name!

i dont drink either and will NEVER dance!!!!! (tried few times...bad bad results)

freakyness!


how bout a trip to willy wonkers chocolate factory! all the girls love wil......err chocolates! :heyhey:

Originally posted by Deejay
Didnt you learn anything last night... Be careful what you say :roll: :hihi:

What can I say? I'm one of lifes innocents Deejay :blush:

Originally posted by Deejay
But do hurry up and get it organised :heyhey:


Hurrah! Another taker! Hmmm so far that makes two girls, one guy and one hanger-on-for-fish-and-chips :P :D

Be especially careful when DJ is about Trace. He's fast!

Of course, me, and totally and blissfully unaware of what you are going on about!!!!

Originally posted by MobileB
Be especially careful when DJ is about Trace. He's fast!


Meaning what exactly ? :suspect:

Im just your average bloke looking for a lady.. or something similar :heyhey:

Originally posted by Deejay
Meaning what exactly ? :suspect:

Im just your average bloke looking for a lady.. or something similar :heyhey:

"average". Hmm

Originally posted by MobileB
"average". Hmm

Know something we don't MobileB? :P :P

Deejay - slightly concerned by the 'or something similar' comment... :confused: :? :razz:

Originally posted by TracieJC
Deejay - slightly concerned by the 'or something similar' comment... :confused: :? :razz:

Doesn't have to be a lady, a common tart will do :D

Any takers :hihi:

come on dj...lets be honest

ANY tart will do :heyhey:

haha

Originally posted by MTheo
come on dj...lets be honest

ANY tart will do :heyhey:

haha

:o Get you two...lowering the tone :mad: Tut. Well, I'm hardly going to get any nice girls signing up now am I? :P

Originally posted by TracieJC
:o Get you two...lowering the tone :mad: Tut. Well, I'm hardly going to get any nice girls signing up now am I? :P

LOL - oh well in that case... count me out ;)

I needs me a nice girl :help: (lol)

Originally posted by TracieJC
Well, I'm hardly going to get any nice girls signing up now am I? :P

I promise to behave :roll: (but deej is such a bad influence :P)

Also although nice boys like me (someone back me up here!?!) prefer nice girls, naughty girls shouldnt be discouraged from coming along ;) :blush: :help:

Originally posted by Edd

Also although nice boys like me (someone back me up here!?!) prefer nice girls, naughty girls shouldnt be discouraged from coming along ;) :blush: :help:

:P I was planning on showing up :P :D :razz:

Originally posted by Edd
I promise to behave :roll: (but deej is such a bad influence :P)

Also although nice boys like me (someone back me up here!?!) prefer nice girls, naughty girls shouldnt be discouraged from coming along ;) :blush: :help:

Can nice girls not be naughty as well?! :wink:

Originally posted by beckyaa
Can nice girls not be naughty as well?! :wink:

Of course you can sweetie :wow: :twisted: :banana: :heyhey:

Originally posted by beckyaa
Can nice girls not be naughty as well?! :wink:

Nice girls can be naughty but naughty girls are nicest.:heyhey:

Originally posted by jonsastar
Nice girls can be naughty but naughty girls are nicest.:heyhey:

so we need a nice girl for Craig and a naughty girl for jonsastar...

Originally posted by beckyaa
so we need a nice girl for Craig and a naughty girl for jonsastar...

No, we need a nice blind/sadistic/desperate/all girl for Craig

Originally posted by craigb
No, we need a nice blind/sadistic/desperate/all girl for Craig

:nono: now Craig, what have you been told about being so hard on yourself?! Now you are the one being naughty! :razz:

Originally posted by beckyaa
:nono: now Craig, what have you been told about being so hard on yourself?! Now you are the one being naughty! :razz:
LOL

You call it being hard on myself... I call it being realistic :P

i didnt realise there was a tone for this thread ;)

im seen as too quiet and 'nice'....then when i relax im too daft and cheeky haha....


p.s. people sometimes say im negative....but what i say usually happens so doesnt that mean im realistic?

Originally posted by MTheo
i didnt realise there was a tone for this thread ;)

im seen as too quiet and 'nice'....then when i relax im too daft and cheeky haha....


p.s. people sometimes say im negative....but what i say usually happens so doesnt that mean im realistic?

On a serious note, by being negative and expecting the worse to happen all the time you set up a self fulfilling prophecy - you think you're rubbish, and that bad things happen to you and unintentionally you make things go that way. I know it sounds weird but it is true. Remember its hard work loving someone who doesn't love themselves. Took years for me to realise that! I do still get down days and my situation makes me sad too (homesick etc) but ultimately most days I've learnt to look in the mirror and think, 'ahhh you're alright lass' :P learning to take compliments is hard too ( something I still struggle with) but listen to them. People generally don't say what they don't mean in that respect :)

Well said tracie :) ill pick ya up on the 14th hehe

Originally posted by pearl rocker
Well said tracie :) ill pick ya up on the 14th hehe

Your missus will be wanting words with you :P Meanwhile, MTheo and Craig - I'm taking ya both for a drink and a Tracie pep talk, lets see if we can sort out this negativity nonsense :P :D

Ha! If only it were that easy :blush:

i see negativity as a snowball effect. things pile up....the snowball gets bigger....keeps rolling and gets harder to stop!

i welcome positive things....just been waiting a while now lol.

postive......i have own house (just b4 fings got silly price wise), parents, sister, couple of close mates, and im having 2 holidays abroad this year and hopefully quitting job. so im quite positive that this year will be best so far... so nur nur theres some positives :)

i wont list negatives...this thing only allows a certain amount of typing :heyhey:

hey....lets go wild.....make my orange juice a double dammit! haha

Anyone still up for a singles night?

Trippets on Trippet lane

Thursday 10 Feb.

PM me if you want to come along (so I can get an idea of numbers) or just turn up.

Originally posted by Hels
Anyone still up for a singles night?

Trippets on Trippet lane

Thursday 10 Feb.

PM me if you want to come along (so I can get an idea of numbers) or just turn up.

I'll come along Hels... I was thinking about organising a singles meal but no one seems very enthusastic :shakes: Maybe a bar would be less intimidating? (and before I hear those cries of protest, I don't drink either so no excuse :P ) :D

Edit : PS... what time on Thursday?

Originally posted by Edd
Anyway, sign me up - fish and chips on the front at cleethorpes in february sounds like the perfect recipie for :love: :hihi:

And today i find this:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/kent/4226965.stm

:heyhey: :hihi: :love:


Nowthen - Craigb, Mtheo - I hope youre both comign along to trippets tonight - all the hermits are going to be there! If youre nervous (in a manly way of course) drop me a PM and I can meet you somewhere beforehand. :thumbsup:

:EDIT:
OK, I see MTheo got his excuse in early ;) Craig?

Originally posted by Edd
And today i find this:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/kent/4226965.stm

:heyhey: :hihi: :love:


:love: :P LOL - How great is that? I might get one for my house, it can replace the sofa :D :thumbsup: In fact... if I chuck some sand down on the floor and capture some seagulls, the scene would be complete! :P :D :clap:

Originally posted by TracieJC
if I chuck some sand down on the floor and capture some seagulls, the scene would be complete! :P :D :clap:

I'll get me bucket and spade :clap: and call in the devonshire chippy on me way round ;)

Originally posted by Edd
I'll get me bucket and spade :clap: and call in the devonshire chippy on me way round ;)

:P Give me half an hours notice and I'll start flooding the bathroom for paddling :clap: :thumbsup:

Originally posted by beckyaa
so we need a nice girl for Craig and a naughty girl for jonsastar...

A naughty girl for jon or even a very naughty woman.:heyhey:

But nice girls are good, and she doesnt have to be blind, but blind drunk somtimes helps:hihi:

Originally posted by Edd
OK, I see MTheo got his excuse in early ;) Craig?
HA! I think not somehow.

Nothing personal, it's just I've long since given up on a life of loneliness (a sad state to be in at 22, let me let you!) :help:

Having said that, paddling around and playing in the sand sounds kinda fun! :clap:

I must say that I've become quite used to being single. It used to really depress me, but now I really like having just me to keep happy (selfish I know). Maybe I'm in denial. It's got to the point that I'm not even sure how to initiate things and usually end up becoming a really good friend instead of anything else.

Sounds kinda like how I am now Andy, except it still depresses me :(

Even if I did find someone I liked who seemed to be blind/dumb/desperate enough to like me back - I wouldn't have a clue where to start anymore anyway - I'd just take it as read that she'd laugh in my face, then decide not to bother.

Originally posted by craigb
HA! I think not somehow.

Nothing personal, it's just I've long since given up on a life of loneliness (a sad state to be in at 22, let me let you!) :help:

Having said that, paddling around and playing in the sand sounds kinda fun! :clap:

Don't worry - i wouldnt take it personally anyway. I just know how difficult it is to get out and meet new people so I thought Id make the offer - there'll be plenty of other chances!

So are you guys still planning to do this single night out? It sounds like fun and I'd be up for it! I'm 23 and think it's really difficult to meet new people especially when all your mates are settled down with someone and don't like going out in town anymore on Friday nights or to places where "single people are"!!

So Craig why would someone need to be deaf n blind to go out with you? Maybe if you were a little more positive things would go further than just friend x

Originally posted by craigb
Sounds kinda like how I am now Andy, except it still depresses me :(

Even if I did find someone I liked who seemed to be blind/dumb/desperate enough to like me back - I wouldn't have a clue where to start anymore anyway - I'd just take it as read that she'd laugh in my face, then decide not to bother.

I think the first thing is to appreciate yourself. It's taken me a long time to realise that if the people who I care about the most (my friends) think I'm alright, then I must be. As long as those people still respect who I am then I can hold my head high and be confident in who I am. Having said that, I'm still a shy mouse when it comes to new people. Usually I end up drinking to calm the nerves and end up being drunk, which is followed by paranoia and falling over. I'd quite like to come along to any meet ups that are planned. Unfortunately I can't make the one tonight as I've run out of money. Payday is next Monday, so anything after that would be good.

Originally posted by HoneyGirl
So Craig why would someone need to be deaf n blind to go out with you?
I have that effect on people.

Me: "Hi, how are you"
Her: :gag:

Originally posted by HoneyGirl
Maybe if you were a little more positive things would go further than just friend
Probably so yes... if only it were that easy huh :(

Haha I like the green face!
Maybe instead of hi you could try hum..... a new word?
It's simple if you put yourself in situations to meet new people its just getting in those situations which is the hard bit! (or so I find)

True - and I am (at least I would hope I am) an easy person to get on with (have always been told I'm a good listener etc).

Unfortunately I have turned into a shy hermit... you wouldn't believe the effort it has taken to finally force myself to join a gym and start going.. so as you say the problem is getting into those situations where meeting new people can happen.

Yeah one of my n . yr's resolutions to join a gym but haven't done it yet! Good luck with it and just think even if you don't meet no-one least you will be getting fit! (well thats my thinking on it anyway)

I didn't join it to meet someone - as you've probably noticed I'm not that optimistic! (if that was the case I would have joined a bigger gym with more people in!)

If I'm honest the main reasons I joined were a) to get me out the house for a bit, and b) because I've got sick of hating the way I look.

I'm joining to get me out of the house too and get more fit, need one which does martial arts classes tho as they are really fun to do! Maybe we'll be at the same one haha

You'll know if we are... I'll be the ugly looking one on the rowing machine not talking to anyone :hihi:

I'll be the blonde one attempting to do kick-boxing like a charlies angel :hihi:

Get yourself down to soulphisticated on a friday at tequila theres really sexy ladies in there..

good luck

Originally posted by HoneyGirl
I'll be the blonde one attempting to do kick-boxing like a charlies angel :hihi:
ha ha! (starts hearing Prodigy - Smach my b**h up! ;) )

You go girl! ;) :hihi:

Originally posted by craigb
I have that effect on people.

Me: "Hi, how are you"
Her: :gag:


Probably so yes... if only it were that easy huh :( its all down to self confidence, if you stumble,stutter,shake,talk bull shxt of course your going to get no where

maybe you aim to high,try the shy onbe ,the one who probably feels the same as you and cant wait till the nights over and she can get home to her horlix

at the end of the night there is always a few people left,the ones who failed to score,its always the way,they are probably thinking the exact same thing as you, " here i am left alone again,billy no mates "

what do YOU do ? do you drift past and say hi ,or just sit at the bar with your head in your hands,hoping that someone might take pity on you and at least ask you for a light.

be yourself.give them a nod or at least a bit of encouragement rto let them know your interested.

youre not one of these john travollta types are you? no body likes a big head show off. be your self,change your venues if your not meeting people.

you only get out what you put in.but dont try to hard,one day it will all fall into place and you will wonder what you ever worried about.....

Don't get me wrong - it's not that I don't know the theory, it's just the putting it into practise that I struggle with.

Originally posted by craigb
You'll know if we are... I'll be the ugly looking one on the rowing machine not talking to anyone :hihi: theres your own answer...lack of confidence, get out there and be yourself,like you do when you are with your mates or how about an advert

shy guy seeks similar lady...... etc, you dont put your age or what you like to do,are you working? if people knew a little bit more about you they could point out the good points about you and how to project them

well craig im not bothering with the advice...coz i pretty much say all the same things about me that you say about you!

ive heard all the friendly advice and what you should / shouldnt do. fact is some people are PAINFULLY shy and depressed about their looks and their life in general.

theories are good. but no matter how many times you think `ok 2night im just not gonna care and let loose' actually doing it is very very hard. a lifetime of being like this makes it nearly impossible.

people do judge on appearances and 1st impressions a hell of a lot. and i for one know that im not my true self until ive relaxed and the other people actually talk to you and give you a chance.

and its funny when people try to sympathise and say `i'm shy too' well maybe they are...but to the extent that they dont go to clubs, pubs, talk to girls or say a word to anyone?? nah i think not!

belive it or not craig...your not the only 1 !! oh and sod the rowing machine...it kills!! haha

(p.s. i have talked to a total of 0 girls at gym since i joined 8months ago, and 1 lad for about 2minutes....wow...will i never shut up?)

Originally posted by MTheo
well craig im not bothering with the advice...coz i pretty much say all the same things about me that you say about you!

ive heard all the friendly advice and what you should / shouldnt do. fact is some people are PAINFULLY shy and depressed about their looks and their life in general.

theories are good. but no matter how many times you think `ok 2night im just not gonna care and let loose' actually doing it is very very hard. a lifetime of being like this makes it nearly impossible.

people do judge on appearances and 1st impressions a hell of a lot. and i for one know that im not my true self until ive relaxed and the other people actually talk to you and give you a chance.

The trouble is that we want to talk yo you so please give us the chance by coming to a meet up?!

Although I probably can not understand quite what you are going through, I do know that it can be very scary but that once you do it you feel a whole lot better about yourself.

i may pop along but it wont be a wednesday as thats only day im always busy.

dunno....depends where and when and how i feel on that day i suppose.

i went on a meet up a while ago and i thought i was useless.

i have been trying to push myself to do more..but the results have been pretty rubbish so far.

dunno...i just feel odd one out whenever there are more than 3 people!

It's sorted then, Trippets - Thursday 10 Feb, 7pm (free entry before 9.00) live jazz night so entry is £2.00 after 9.00.

Please don't let me down guys (and gals) I don't want to be sat there all on my own! Now that would be depressing!

Tracie, pm me if you want to meet up earlier?

Dating sites are good on the internet - why not try Loopylove - you get so many days free to start with. If you then go to cancel they will probably offer you further membership at half price!

Ive used that in the past and Ive my fiancee off there and we are getting married this year ... so its definately works!

Go for it !

Originally posted by Loops
Dating sites are good on the internet - why not try Loopylove!


Thats a new un' on me..

I still prefer 'perfectpsycho.com' :heyhey:

Originally posted by MTheo
well craig im not bothering with the advice...coz i pretty much say all the same things about me that you say about you!

I've heard all the friendly advice and what you should / shouldnt do. fact is some people are PAINFULLY shy and depressed about their looks and their life in general.

For example, see ME!

Originally posted by MTheo
theories are good. but no matter how many times you think `ok 2night im just not gonna care and let loose' actually doing it is very very hard. a lifetime of being like this makes it nearly impossible.

I agree - it's all well and good people saying "you need to get out there and meet people", but actually doing that when you feel like I do is very tough.

Originally posted by MTheo
people do judge on appearances and 1st impressions a hell of a lot. and i for one know that im not my true self until ive relaxed and the other people actually talk to you and give you a chance.

They do, I agree. Whether people admit it or not is a mute point (and in my opinion a little niave). The only difference is some point put much more importance on the person's looks than others.

Originally posted by MTheo
and its funny when people try to sympathise and say `i'm shy too' well maybe they are...but to the extent that they dont go to clubs, pubs, talk to girls or say a word to anyone?? nah i think not!

It always amuses me too, as they are inevitably not nearly as shy as you are, and so have no clue about what it is you feel.

Originally posted by MTheo
belive it or not craig...your not the only 1 !! oh and sod the rowing machine...it kills!! haha

No I know I'm not the only one, and I definately know what you mean about the rowing machine! ;)

Originally posted by MTheo
(p.s. i have talked to a total of 0 girls at gym since i joined 8months ago, and 1 lad for about 2minutes....wow...will i never shut up?)

I'm the same - I started on Monday and as yet haven't spoken to anyone apart from the guy who works there. I was power-walking on the treadmills for about 10 minutes next to a pretty cute woman yesterday... couldn't bring myself to even say hi :(

Urm, just a thought, but Craigb, and MTheo, you seem to have a lot in common, so why don't the two of you meet up? Maybe if you knew each other then coming to a meet up with everyone else would be ok? You both seem to be on the same wavelength, that's all.

I am starting to feel like I am almost bullying you now into making you meet people, so I will try and shut up now. sorry!

Originally posted by beckyaa
I am starting to feel like I am almost bullying you now into making you meet people, so I will try and shut up now. sorry!
No not at all - it's nice that someone cares. Most people just laugh at people like us then go get drunk.

dont shut up beckyaa....girls and small children always playfully bully me :D coz they know im a push over haha.

i will consider going at some point but i have to be feeling at my best, looking best i can, have some money, wind in the right direction, shoe laces equall lengths...etc..etc...

Originally posted by MTheo
i will consider going at some point but i have to be feeling at my best, looking best i can, have some money, wind in the right direction, shoe laces equall lengths...etc..etc...

...and the date has to be 31st Feb :hihi: :heyhey: :P

did i join this thread too late :(

Originally posted by bob_shamrock
did i join this thread too late :(
Never too late to join a thread.. just have a read and join in mate.

Just to let you know though... there's a queue once the nice single women turn up... and it starts with me and MTHeo :thumbsup: :P

Originally posted by craigb
there's a queue once the nice single women turn up... and it starts with me and MTHeo

There were lots there at the meet on wednesday - you two shoulda been there :) But i got bad news for you - the queue starts with me if you and Mtheo arent there!! :P

I think you and MTheo both need to get along to some meets - asap. You dont need to meet girls...you just need to meet people and the more the better - just concentrate on widening your circle of friends and the rest will come in time!

The more people you meet, the less shy you'll be - and everyone at the meets is nervous, and wants to be friendly - you really couldn't ask for an easier way to meet new people.

Now...10th of feb is probably the next good chance to meet up with some folks. I can meet you beforehand and wander down with you if you like - drop me a PM!

I was joking mate - I wouldn't dare stand in a queue anyway, I'd just assume they'd all reject me (rightly so, trust me) and not bother....

...hence not wasting my time on meets.

hmm.. its a bit far for me during the week.. i get home at 6pm...need food, shower (45mins)....a bus (45mins to town)....a reasonable walk.....(20mins)....all a bit of a rush i think.

i'll think bout it thou. ive been to grapes before but never trippets..(wine bar?) well i dont drink wine and dont go to bars and dont listen to jazz.. haha

sum1 did suggest i just turn up, say nothing, moon the group then leave :D hmm i'll leave that to sum1 with a more substantial ass than me.

:suspect: not that im pointing any fingers ;)

Originally posted by craigb
I was joking mate - I wouldn't dare stand in a queue anyway, I'd just assume they'd all reject me (rightly so, trust me) and not bother....

...hence not wasting my time on meets.

What about coming along to a meet just to make some friends? As opposed to coming along to find a girlfriend?

I'd like to make friends, and maybe more.

make that two people!

lol

crank

Any Christian ladies on the forum?

Advice to all: Preparation, Practice, Persistence.

What's the best way to learn polo? :confused: Start playing polo! What's the best way to meet new people? Go out and start meeting new people!

Did you know 80% of redback spiders never even meet a potential mate in their lives? But you won't find them staying in the house watching TV (or at least I hope you won't). They're busy preparing for that possible opportunity and are persistent in their search. :love: The only downside for them is that success may mean passing on their genes and then getting eaten! :gag: The mating game is not so dangerous for us! Attraction isn't always fatal :suspect:

Make sure you don't let anyone catch you in your mission though. You've got to pretend to be doing something else. A direct approach rarely works. Follow your own interests, build your confidence, have a good laugh and you'll become more attractive without realising it.

"You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try." (Beverly Sills)

isnt shy just a week? after that im fine anyway.

Oh Arse, I'm same as rest on here, Shy and a minger, And i thought i was an individual.
Just when one thing seems ok something comes along to spoil it, Really need to meet women, Got lots of friends so i got that covered just need a nice single lass now, Anyone want to apply for the position, No experience needed.LOL