i just can't seem to pick the right moment to tell her....any advice would be most appreciated

You just need to be honest with her and yourself. Dont do as I did and take a load of films for her to watch. It was very hard to do and her reaction was the best I could have wished for. My dad was a different story. I have been lucky with my familey. If she is anything like my mother she will already know. I hope you pluck up the courage to do it as I have never looked back since. Good luck and let me know how you get on.

As a mum of teenagers Ive always told them that it doesnt matter to me who they bring home as long as that person is right for them and good to them - better to have a gay partner than one who beats them up or abuses them. Maybe if your mum has never say known you have a girlfriend she may suspect anyway so it might not be the shock you think.

She is your mum she loves you.

The films I took were Bird cage and queen of the desert, despite that she still loves me.

Tommy, do you think that she might have an inkling of your orientation already? It may not be a shock for her at all.

Tommy, mum's just know. She most likely will already have some idea that you are gay, just pick a time when you can be alone with her and gently explain how you feel and I am sure she will still love you.

She wont care I wouldnt think. I wouldnt care if one of my kids was gay. Why would anyone? As long as theyre happy, thats all that matters.

2 words.........

RENT BOY

ha ha..... on a serious note though, im sure she will know fella!!

Thats abit harsh

I think gay people have more hang-ups about people knowing than straight people have about knowing. They mainly say, "Oh, really" and then get on with their lives. OK, so with parents it's a bit different, bit as the others have written here, mothers know these things. She might not understand at first and might blame herself, but you have to make it clear by being proud of yourself (not proud of being gay, but being proud of being a person who is gay) that there is no blame to be apportioned because there is nothing wrong. And thanks to legal changes you'll still be able to get married ("partnered") (and adopt kids), so you're mum's missing out on nothing.

You could write her a little note, tell your mum how much you love her and gently break the news. This will give her time to absorb the news (or maybe like everyone elses is saying she already knows, so you are just confirming it)

You may prefer to do it face to face but whatever you choose, do it now..you will feel much happier once this load is off your shoulders.

my friend phoned me in tears,i asked what was wrong,she said her son was gay,i said is that all,they both spoke,and have never been closer,be honest with your mum,she will allways love you no matter what,good luck:)

your Mum is probably waiting and wondering when you are ever going to talk to her about it! She wont want to hurt your feelings or choose the wrong time. Make it easy for her, don't let her feel she's the last person you talked to.

She's your mum and YOU are the most important person in the world to her.

Do it today and stop torturing yourself.

love Sally

All those Shirley Bassey and Barbra Streisand CDs in your bedroom might have given her a clue already :)

Originally posted by mojoworking
All those Shirley Bassey and Barbra Streisand CDs in your bedroom might have given her a clue already :)
and the missing lipstick and eye liner:hihi: :hihi: :hihi: :hihi:

Like most people have said your Mum may already know... Its amazing how Mother's have this 'Child sense' about them...

I always kept it from my Mum that i smoked when i was younger... She already knew :o (uh!... what?.... how...? :? lol)

If your Mum 'is' in the know then she is probably waiting until you feel the time is right to tell her...

Should the worst happen... (which i doubt) in time your Mum will be on your side... :) I'm sure you'll always have your partner?/friends around you to support you no matter what happens... :thumbsup:

You'll feel so much better when its all out in the open and you can go back to being yourself again... No more pretence :)

Good Luck

having not gone thru it myself i can only give advice from knowing friends who have done this, from a 16 yr old to a guy in his 40s.
you will know when the time is right
your mum prob knows anyway
dont feel rushed or pressured into saying anything
talk to trusted friends about your fears
take it slow and understand things may take time, but everything will turn out ok

good luck

Originally posted by Tommy21
i just can't seem to pick the right moment to tell her....any advice would be most appreciated

have you told her yet? do you still work at ant marketing?

why the hells this in the computer and chat section?

she,s your mam she loves you now go and enjoy life

Originally posted by msbehavin
As a mum of teenagers Ive always told them that it doesnt matter to me who they bring home as long as that person is right for them and good to them - better to have a gay partner than one who beats them up or abuses them. Maybe if your mum has never say known you have a girlfriend she may suspect anyway so it might not be the shock you think.

What a lovely answer )

Ive got two sons,who arent gay,but I can honestly say that it wouldnt matter to me if they were. The gay people I have known have been some of the most friendly and caring people,you could ever come across.You will eventually become her best friend.