I have to give the impresion having listend to many friends that if you are in a long term relationship the sex seems to become somewhat predictable and boring.
Do others feel that the longer you are with someone the less important the sex becomes,and it turnes into some thing deeper?

Sex made me be born, of that there is no doubt.

But I take your point: once you project yourself wholeheartedly into any kind of long-term relationship, the deterioration factor is is quick on your heels.

Keeping thing fresh and, dare I say, sexy is a difficult thing to do.

I think men have a better escape. They are good at DIY.

And I don't mean decorating and things.

Good point... I think that sometimes you can become so used to seeing each other in varies stages of undress that it can become less exciting as the years. I mean, if it didn't, you'd never get anything done!

When it comes to the act of doing "it", then because you've practiced so much you both know what the other one likes and how you like it so you concentrate on that.

It's a bit like your favourite meal, it would become boring if you have the same thing all the time, so you have to try different things too.

Then make it intresting again.

Go to a sex shop and go together and find something you both want to try. (Not the slezey ones)

Get a book from there or a game and have fun.

Sex in a long term relationship should be fun and exciting, so plan an evening of surprises.

Isn't that what I said, in a round about way?

Except I tried to use the analogy of food. Which I thought was quite good, as the two can be related...

Time for tiffin then :heyhey:

A lot of what has been said is right but if you are shall we say a little older the the thought of visiting a sex shop might be somewhat intimidating.

I've visited Pulse and Cocktails with my other half a couple of times now and we often see older couples in there browsing around. There's no need to be embarrassed about it. The people who work there have seen it all anyway and they're used to the unusual so go for it. They're there to help and will give all sorts of advice when asked. :D Couples who play together, stay together.

I dont work for P&C by the way. ;)

Originally posted by royjames
A lot of what has been said is right but if you are shall we say a little older the the thought of visiting a sex shop might be somewhat intimidating.

I don’t feel age has anything to do with it... I think times have changed alot an moving rapidly.... people are having children later in life these days that's produced via sex (obviously) so people know it goes on no matter what age...

I had never in my wildest dreams thought i would ever enter a sex shop... my god talk about embarrassment... My sister & her other half took me (for the experience)... what a nightmare! :help: lol anyway we all walked in... well i was really surprised... i had never felt so at ease even with all these sex mags/dvd's/toys/outfits etc around me... It was great just felt like walking into any shop... after all everyone that you see in there is after the same thing as you... 'excitement!'

Pauly & me have been on several occasions... honestly it's nothing to be ashamed of... Go wild... Be adventurous.. Be daring... :wink:

What age are you talking about anyway to be too old?

i like predictabilit, i think when you get to a certain age you know what you like

I went out with a psychic once... oooh, that was predictable sex. When you have the conversation...

ME: Wanna have sex?
HER: Ok, but it wasn't very good.

... it sort of takes the fun out of it.

Originally posted by royjames
A lot of what has been said is right but if you are shall we say a little older the the thought of visiting a sex shop might be somewhat intimidating.

Go the 'gash' shop (off west st) - tis lovely in there. They're give you a nice welcome and you shouldn't be intimidated...its not age that counts after all!

Sex predictable? If it gets predictable/boring its probably a sign about the relationship! Yes, a sweeping statement but if you can't talk about these things with your partner and you're bored - that tend's to signify something...IMO/experience anyway!

Originally posted by Snook
I went out with a psychic once... oooh, that was predictable sex. When you have the conversation...

ME: Wanna have sex?
HER: Ok, but it wasn't very good.



lol. like that one. very funny!!!!!!!

Communication is definately the way forward. :) If you can't talk about what you like, what you want to try out and what doesn't do anything for you then what's the point? :roll:

Originally posted by threecolours
Go the 'gash' shop (off west st) - tis lovely in there. They're give you a nice welcome and you shouldn't be intimidated...its not age that counts after all!

Sex predictable? If it gets predictable/boring its probably a sign about the relationship! Yes, a sweeping statement but if you can't talk about these things with your partner and you're bored - that tend's to signify something...IMO/experience anyway!

Pulse & Cocktails are very much like this too... they ask you if you have ever been before... if you havent then they tell you all about what they do etc... should you need any further help they'll be there for you... Its so friendly... I had no idea it would be like that... I guess i have always thought about the back street seedy places...

Can Sex become predictable?

I believe sex is what you make it... sex 'can' become predictable an unexciting... but that's where you have to work together as a partnership... Go to a sex shop experiment... If you dont like something dont do it again... move on try something different... thats the exciting part... work together... communicate...

'Have Fun' :wink:

Couples that Play together Stay together