do u find it hard to show or say how you feel wether it be anger hate or pain or happiness do u ever say things or agree to please other people?
i do sometimes i guess find it hard to express my feelings i guess im more worried about what the other persons reactions gonna be and i dont like to burden other people with the way i feel i was just reading somewhere on the net that more than 80% of people find it hard to show there true feelings i was wondering if it was true

Hmm, could be interesting this one.

I personally don't express emotions all that well, I do say things without thinking what other people think, the thinking comes about 4 seconds later usually.

My ex was the worst at this i feel... emotions were never his strong point...

He was more than happy to plod along each day as if love & affection didnt exist...

Makes me wonder now that we have split if he really did love me within the last few years we were together...

Why is it men find it so hard to let their true feelings show to the opposite sex... an let us women know what really is going on inside those heads...

Its always puzzled me... i guess us women are just too damn soft on men at times... :?

Never had too much of a problem - I do find it hard to accept thanks / gratitude and to let things go sometimes.

I think some of it with me is due to being an only child - didn't have the cut and thrust of growing up with siblings to develop my emotional behaviour.

Joe

I used to be really REALLY bad with bottling my emotions up, I went through a big state of depression during my teens which made me a bit zombie like with my emotions (and I mean real depression, not normal teen everyone hates me depression), but the last year or two I've changed a lot and I'm very open now with my feelings, good and bad...

I've got to the point now where to be honest, I don't care if people know I'm upset, or happy or whatever I'm feeling, your mood changes the mood of the people around you... and if you show somebody you really, and i mean REALLY care or love them then your bound to get a lot better response from them than saying "I love you" like its just something you say to your girlfriend...

another point, does anyone else feel the words "I love you" are REALLY overused? I'm sure lots of people just use it instead of saying what they feel which is more like "I sort of like you", I know it doesnt sound as nice, but its better than lying and there are better ways to say it, like just not saying anything like that till you mean it?

anyways, my personal oppinion is if you cant show your emotions and bottle them up it leads to disaster, in the case of being very upset, if you hide it for long periods of time it turns into depression... if you dont show your feelings to your lover... it will/may end up ruining your r/ship and ending it...

just remember...

DONT WORRY.... BE HAPPY :D

*mopes off back to his single life mumbling "I'll get a new g/f soon"* :P

Id be lying if I said I didn't...

I dunno, Some things I just find hard to explain/express etc :suspect:

Bah why are women so complicated!

I'll never understand them myself.

The problem I find is that if I can't get someone to understand me or what I'm trying to put across I get annoyed with myself and the person I'm explaining to and it can sometimes turn into a heated discussion. I just get frustrated easily and I'm a little short on patience.

Not good to be honest. :(

Yup, forgot about the frustration quotient!

I can get very frustrated on occasion and it then it used to boil over in to anger. I'm much better nowadays at dealing with that side of my personality - not perfect, just sort of human...:)

I guess I am the opposite to a lot of people in as much as I speak my mind when it comes to emotions. If I feel something, be it anger, love, frustration, boredom etc etc, I will always say.

This can be a problem for some people as I can be very direct at times. I just feel that if something needs to be said then you should say it. Bottling it up, be it positive or negative is bad for you and bad for a relationship.

One thing I can promise a partner is that I will always be honest. If they can't handle it then they are with the wrong person.

Sometimes you don't want 100% honesty though, sometimes a small lie is required.

Originally posted by nick2
Sometimes you don't want 100% honesty though, sometimes a small lie is required.

I agree and would do so depending on the circumstances.

If it was something serious and important then I couldn't lie. As they say, the truth will out in the end and often it will cause more trouble if it's known that you lied in the first place.

Can't express emotions very well. I always find when I try to express myself it'll come out wrong and then I'll get irritated and frustrated. Then I'll feel stupid and awkward.

I'll stick to monosybalic grunts - they work : )

Originally posted by xafier
I used to be really REALLY bad with bottling my emotions up, I went through a big state of depression during my teens which made me a bit zombie like with my emotions (and I mean real depression, not normal teen everyone hates me depression), but the last year or two I've changed a lot and I'm very open now with my feelings, good and bad...

I've got to the point now where to be honest, I don't care if people know I'm upset, or happy or whatever I'm feeling, your mood changes the mood of the people around you... and if you show somebody you really, and i mean REALLY care or love them then your bound to get a lot better response from them than saying "I love you" like its just something you say to your girlfriend...

another point, does anyone else feel the words "I love you" are REALLY overused? I'm sure lots of people just use it instead of saying what they feel which is more like "I sort of like you", I know it doesnt sound as nice, but its better than lying and there are better ways to say it, like just not saying anything like that till you mean it?

anyways, my personal oppinion is if you cant show your emotions and bottle them up it leads to disaster, in the case of being very upset, if you hide it for long periods of time it turns into depression... if you dont show your feelings to your lover... it will/may end up ruining your r/ship and ending it...

just remember...

DONT WORRY.... BE HAPPY :D

*mopes off back to his single life mumbling "I'll get a new g/f soon"* :P

Absolutely spot on post, Xafier.

If you bottle your emotions up, they'll just end up damaging you, through depression or whatever. It's easy to say, of course, but they should be expressed in an appropriate manner, at the right time, to the right person.

I've never been very good at expressing my emotions in the past, but have been trying very hard in the last couple of years to change this. I've felt a lot better for it, and feel people are getting to know the real me, rather than the sanitised, bland, 'nicey nicey' person they were possibly getting before.

Be true to yourself, that's the important thing - but try to be gentle with other people's feelings, and try to balance total honesty with common sense!

Just my musings ........

StarSparkle :)