I'm at a loss of what to do.
Someone I deal with has few social skills and is immature in personal development but has obsessive tendencies regarding people.

If anyone has any advice about how to tackle this I'd really appreciate it.

* I know this is now very brief but I don't want to cause any upset if anyone should read this.

tread very carefully, she just sounds young, immature and vulnerable. are there not other groups for her to join? does she have hobbies? try not to get too close as she may cling to you. it is a lonely world sometimes and tough being a a young adult. good luck xx

I've known her seven years and the obsessive thing is very recent.
She doesn't really have hobbies, she stays in with her family and watches tv a lot. I was trying to think of a 18 - 25 group or something but I haven't come up with anything.
Although maybe there's a gap in the market?

Hi Zebra,

Got to back up Nataliesheff on this one. Be very, very careful. It may be that your friend has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or she may be depressed, or suffering from agoraphobia - there are a number of conditions that manifest themselves in behaviours that we might describe as obsessive.

Having had depression myself, and had close contact with people with OCD, your friend might need a chat with a doctor or a counsellor. Medication can sometimes help as well.

Your friend may need professional help / advice - the only problem is that it's not necessarily something you should be advocating, as they may take it badly. What do her family think? When you say obsessive, is it genuine obsessive bahaviour? Sometimes people say that soemone is obsessing about something when they just may have a temporary 'passionate interest' in something.

Good Luck.

Joe

I am careful, honestly. She's not a friend as such, I see her a lot though and I'm responsible in the setting.
Her family don't/can't recognise what's going on and by obsessive I mean developing stalker type behaviour.
It's hard to explain without too much detail, I'm not the focus of her current interest so she has little value of me, my opinion etc.
I know her quite well, I doubt OCD although depression could be possible. If I was to suggest any sort of help she would totally dismiss it.
My concern is also for the person who is currently the focus of attention, she also needs to be very careful about her actions but is a little naive despite my warnings.
I agree that I must be very careful and I know I'm not there to solve the problem but I have to protect others to some degree from her fanaticism.

It sounds like you may need some advice in how to deal with this. Bit difficult to comment as you (probably quite rightly) don't want to post too many details here. I'd try this link

http://www.sheffieldmind.co.uk/

Its a local organisation for people (and those supporting them) in 'mental distress' and has a phone number/email contact where you could ask for more advice in confidence. They cover depression, compulsion disorders, panic attacks etc. I hope they can provide some advice and if not should be able to point you in the right direction.