I am being harrased at work by a cleaner. This person makes up storys about me then goes & tells the boss. Now this person is intending on making a complaint about me to the GM. This persons new story or complaint is along the lines that I am the one doing the harrasing. I have nothing to do with this person & ignore all the time. Boss knows about this situation but is not interested.
What can I do?

I would speak to the citizens advice bureau and see where you stand... I was bullied in the owrk place... its not a nice thing to go through... I wish you good luck

Thanks very much for your support. I dare not lose my temper at work. This person, I think, is mentaly deranged & is hell bent on getting me into trouble. It is making me ill

Tim,

Document everything that happens and ensure you're never left alone with this person.

If you have a Union Rep or HR department, speak with them and explain the situation.

Joe

I agree with Joe on this, everything should be put in writing, you might think you can remember times & dates etc, but if it's down on paper it could save you a lot of trouble. See your HR person asap, they will then at least be alerted to what this person is trying to do to you, and make a note of that meeting too.

totally agree, get things logged and recorded and try and get witnesses, even if it is of your good character. some people just like making others miserable, it gives them some sort of sick power. Its bullying and ur work needs to recognise it. good luck sweetie

Originally posted by JoePritchard
Tim,

Document everything that happens and ensure you're never left alone with this person.

If you have a Union Rep or HR department, speak with them and explain the situation.

Joe

This is what i did when i was having problems... i kept a diary of all her lies her nasty comments etc...

I even left my job for her... I was due to take things further when she handed in her notice a week i did myself... I asked for my job back but wouldnt as i didnt leave in the way i should have done... this was totally not my fault... long story...

yeah ive had similar problems at work and ended up leaving a really good job. i was young, immature and had no voice. everyone knew what was happening but were too scared as she was the boss. not good. have faith sweetie, theres always sneaky dictafones

Tim this is nothing but BULLYING - from whatever level,
be it a cleaner or MD.
Unions are big on bullying these days; contact your rep.
If you're not in one may I personally recommend the GMB?

I myself had to leave a very good post on an Intensive Care Unit last year due to nasty bitchy back-biting
sh@stirring women - 1 in particular!
A year on antidepressants :gag: was enough for me!

I could have sued for (?) constuctive dismissal - ie, that I was forced to leave as staying was out of the question.
My decision was that as I was now out of the NHS I was gonna leave all my woes there on the doorstep when I left.

12 months on & I've never looked back but my 15 yrs experience has been lost to NHS because of 1 nasty :rant: cow :loopy: .

DON'T LET THE ******* GRIND YOU DOWN!
:thumbsup: stick in there mate!

I myself have been and still am ( to a degree ) being bullied at work. It's two people really who just don't like me ( I suspect ) They are both older than me. It has come to the stage that I don't want to go to work and have taken quite a few odd days off sick. I have now started to give it back and that seems to have shut them up a bit. Women are very unpredictable ( I should know ) and tend to vent their anger/frustrations out on strangers or work colleagues. I know the two bullies I am subject to both have difficulties at home in different ways but that's not my problem, it's theirs. I'd rather work with men any day.

If you can't/won't/haven't invested in a dictaphone which you could then use to record them talking to you I have another idea.
Either tell them outright or unsubtley insinuate that there are security cameras or that you have a recording device and ask them if they would be happy to let others hear/see what they are saying/doing.
You could also say something like 'Look, I've done all I can because I didn't want you to lose your job, but I feel the time has come to tell someone what's going on. What do you think?'
My final idea would be to be bright and breezy with them in a completley psychotic manner, ie:

Wow, how absolutely terrific of you to say such things, I just can't get over your generosity of spirit, in fact our conversations really inspire me. You are truly amazing. How did you ever get to be so clever? Oh, how devastating, look at the time, I must go/work/crack on/go to the loo, I'm so sorry to bring your latest epistle to an end, please may we continue tomorrow?

Easier said than done. But don't let them beat you!

Originally posted by Zebra
My final idea would be to be bright and breezy with them in a completley psychotic manner, ie:

Wow, how absolutely terrific of you to say such things, I just can't get over your generosity of spirit, in fact our conversations really inspire me. You are truly amazing. How did you ever get to be so clever? Oh, how devastating, look at the time, I must go/work/crack on/go to the loo, I'm so sorry to bring your latest epistle to an end, please may we continue tomorrow?


That's all very well, but an epistle is, in fact, a letter. Perhaps you mean episode?

Hmm, I was doubtful when I wrote it and than thought 'no, I'm sure this is right'. Tch.
Episode isn't the word either. I mean like a preachers speech.
Actually, wouldn't epistle still work - if it was being read from?
AH well, never mind, you get the idea.

how about tirade, that'd fit quite nicely.

Thanks everybody. I feel stronger because of your advise.
The person in question has a husband that has been in gaol for unsavoury acts. This person takes it out on me. I have gad a miserable Xmass. Help

www.bullyonline.org/workbully/amibeing.htm

hope this link works - it's very helpfull :help: