just thought id ask if anyone else lost there ex or husband through this site as i did as he had affair with her where now divorced they ve now split up and shes moved onto someone else after splitting us up anyway just wondered let me no

Originally posted by den37
shes moved onto someone else after splitting us up Sorry to hear about your circumstances. I know somebody who's facing this situation without the help of friends reunited.

Surely it's the peron who is IN a relationship who should be the responsible party? (him, not you)

The problem with trapping a bloke who is already in a relationship is - you've just turned him into 'a man who leaves his wife'. Nobody can have a trusting relationship when it's created under these circumstances, and it will be doomed to failure.

I'm very sorry for the break up of you marriage, it must be very distressing.

I don't think it's really fair the assosiate the site with cheating husbands... I think people will always cheat, that site is just another way for people to hook up. I get the impression that a lot of people use that site with a view to maybe re-living lost loves... I'm not sure why any loving husband would be meeting a single woman from a website, it's asking for trouble.

I really don't mean to sound harsh, but I find it slightly frustrating when people blame friends reunited (not saying you're doing this, but given the title of the thread...) for things like this, there was even a tv show about it. There are only ever two people to blame for a breakdown in a relationship.

i think we d have split up anyway its just the way it was they new each other from years ago and it was a shock at time but not bothered now happend awhile ago and getting on with life though hes finding it hard on his own but still friends thanks for replying merry xmas

I think a lot of people look at Friends Reunited as a way of rekindling old friendships/relationships...

People have to realise that no one can really step back in time... It’s never the same... People are changing and moving on all the time... The girl/boy who you fell in love with is not going to be the same person that you met back in the 70's /80's… young love can be so different from adult love…

I watched the curse of Friends Reunited... How can a site be blamed... If 2 people decide to meet up… then they should be prepared for the consequences of what may lie ahead of them...

My heart goes out to those people that have lost loved ones via the internet... It can be a dangerous play area!

The past should be well an truly left where it belongs… In the past!

not had your experience (thank goodness) but have met one or two old school friends through Friends Reunited.
While it was interesting to see how people now were I did find that I didn't have too much in common with them now.
Like someone else said, you can't step back in time and you often find that someone you thought was great when you were 15 or 16 no longer seem that great when you're both now in your late 30's!

Can I just remind everyone that people's descriptions which they leave on friends reunited are rarely factual. Many of the people I know have put a right fantasy. I myself have put on a right load of cock and bull.

Originally posted by karenjane39
not had your experience (thank goodness) but have met one or two old school friends through Friends Reunited.
While it was interesting to see how people now were I did find that I didn't have too much in common with them now.
Like someone else said, you can't step back in time and you often find that someone you thought was great when you were 15 or 16 no longer seem that great when you're both now in your late 30's!

I met up with an old school friend a few years ago through FR and we went out for a drink. What I found was we didn't have anything in common not like when we were 13! We haven't been in contact since.

Originally posted by muddycoffee
Can I just remind everyone that people's descriptions which they leave on friends reunited are rarely factual. Many of the people I know have put a right fantasy. I myself have put on a right load of cock and bull.

What's the point in not being honest on your profile? I don't quite understand why people tell stories about themselves that aren't true. I guess you could say it's 'just for the laugh' but if you're too embarrassed to put down what you're actually doing then surely your life is going in the wrong direction.

Or am I just missing the point and taking this a little too seriously? Probably yes. :nod:

Originally posted by Pauly
What's the point in not being honest on your profile?

Well Pauly, for about 5 years I had a very lengthy and interesting resumé of my adult life, including numerous websites where anyone could find out more.
Earlier this year I reviewed it and compared with the other people who I was at school with. Everyone else's was a deeply boring list of a list of their children's names, the name of the place which they had worked at since leaving school, and nothing much else.
As mine was nothing like this, I decided to make it shorter and more ridiculous. What I have done in real life is far more worthy and impressive. But I have nothing in common with anyone I was at school with, and met much better friends at University, Priest School, Porno Industry, NASA, the outback and Prison. :thumbsup: :heyhey: ;) :cool:

Ah well I guess it's just a laugh then. I'll go and alter my profile accordingly. ;) :D :lol:

i'm sure a lot of people exaggerate or lie outright, but it's fairly pointless. My profile is factual, as are those of friends that i still know, so it's certainly not everyone that doesn't put the truth down.

Originally posted by Cyclone
i'm sure a lot of people exaggerate or lie outright, but it's fairly pointless. My profile is factual, as are those of friends that i still know, so it's certainly not everyone that doesn't put the truth down.

Mine too is all factual... I dont see the point in lying in what my life after School is all about... Some people out there like myself are very interested in knowing what people from past school years are up to... Familes jobs etc...

If i found out someone had lied i would put that person down to a person not worth knowing... Maybe that's the point...?

I have met up with a few friends from school after 14 years...
2 of them i am still in contact with the other 2 didnt really work out... had a nice time whie together... but nothing really there worth keeping hold of other than our memories at school...

As i said before time is moving all the time... no one stays the same...

Originally posted by Angel05
I dont see the point in lying in what my life after School is all about... Some people out there like myself are very interested in knowing what people from past school years are up to... Familes jobs etc...
If i found out someone had lied i would put that person down to a person not worth knowing... Maybe that's the point...?


It's not lying. It's entertainment.
Most people aren't worth knowing. Just the few people who you have the most in common with. And when you have been out of school for 10 years, then you already know who those people are, and you are already in contact with them.

I have met several people (long before FR) who I was in school with and they were exactly as I expected them to turn out. And while nice to chat, and even exchange e-mail, never really wanted to see them or contact them again. Same is true with FR, I have had a couple of women who I have met, who I had no recollection of whatever, from school, in both occasions lots of kids and divorced and in a rebound looking for a quick resolution to their problems, and I'm sorry but that's what FR is all about. Despirate lonely divorcees.

Originally posted by muddycoffee
...I'm sorry but that's what FR is all about. Despirate lonely divorcees (sp).

Well that's one way to look at it but IMO you're being very cynical. I've caught up with one or two people on FR and although it was only a short 'hi, how you doing, that's nice, take it easy' kind of thing it was still nice to be back in touch for a short time. Thanks to FR I am back in touch with a good mate I knew from junior school and it's nice to catch up with her for a cuppa and a chat every once in a while as she still lives locally to me. :)

If you're looking for sad lonely divorcees, and I know you didn't say you were looking for them before you start, then you might find one or two on the dating side of FR but as far as the rest go it's mostly just people looking for a reminder of who they went to school with and perhaps remember the fun times. ;)

Personally I reckon that if you haven't seen a person for 20 years then theres a reason why lol.
I keep an eye on FR and my profile is truthful and ambigious, the happy medium me thinks :-)

I'm not a full member on FR and don't know whether it's worth forking out the cash. If a lot of people are telling porkies with their info then that probably explains why a friend of mine had so few replies when she tried to contact old friends, rather difficult to keep a lie going if you meet up.
My profile is accurate though not too personal!

I have been in contact with an old friend- female.
from 35 years ago.
She is very keen to still keep in touch.
But a lot of people dont even answer your emails whats the point of them joining.

i don't know many people that have paid.
But when I registered it was only a few years since leaving uni. People start to loose touch, but still have relatively recent memories, so it's easier to get back in touch at that point.

I watched the curse of Friends Reunited.. very good program as well!

I dont think the site should be blamed at all for relationship difficulties and my reason is this.

If your partner has it in them to cheat then there is something obviously wrong in the relationship for them to do it-- otherwise they are complete idiots and you should not be with them in the first place.

Simple as that- If you find out your partner is cheating on you-
Have some self respect and dump them ASAP.

I'm very grateful to FR

We had a reunion of the class of 88 about 4 years ago, and we all meet every 6 months now. OK, you don't have as much in common but its a great night out.

Originally posted by Angel05
I think a lot of people look at Friends Reunited as a way of rekindling old friendships/relationships...

People have to realise that no one can really step back in time... It’s never the same... People are changing and moving on all the time... The girl/boy who you fell in love with is not going to be the same person that you met back in the 70's /80's… young love can be so different from adult love…

I watched the curse of Friends Reunited... How can a site be blamed... If 2 people decide to meet up… then they should be prepared for the consequences of what may lie ahead of them...

My heart goes out to those people that have lost loved ones via the internet... It can be a dangerous play area!

The past should be well an truly left where it belongs… In the past!

well said...plus the sites full of spyware too :)

Originally posted by screamingwit
well said...plus the sites full of spyware too :)

in what way?

Originally posted by Cyclone
in what way?

run adaware after youve been on the site and find out :)